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Friday, June 05, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.....

Hmmmmm na wah!!!!








STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
UNGRATEFUL HUMAN BEING


Good day Madam Stella,


I appreciate how you touch lives through your platform and I pray God will continually uphold your ministry.


There's this young lady who used to be my neighbour in my former area on the mainland as far back as 2010. She would always come around to assist with chores, we grew so close that she soon became a family friend. Later in 2012, my family and I moved to the island, she comes visiting and stays for a few days before going back. I'm about 4yrs older than her so I took her as my younger sister. I would usually give her clothes, shoes and money whenever she comes around.


Fast forward to early 2017, she was around when I started my new business that fetched me daily income. She then requested for my support towards her upcoming tailoring school graduation, I promised to send her 10k but unfortunately things turned sour that period. My mum was so sick, I was robbed at axe point on my way home from work, I lost over a hundred thousand naira cash POS sales that I just recovered from the lounge after 2 days, my phones, workers phone and even sustained mild cuts from the axe.



 It was a nightmare for Me, the fear of what happened couldn't make me work for almost a week, I was in so much shock. I couldn't get a new staff so the lounge continued without Me, I lost that opportunity. This girl on the other hand kept calling and I told her I'm sorry I won't be meeting up as promised but I'll let her know as soon as I'm back on my feet. She got angry and started posting funny stuffs on WhatsApp, "stay away from people that can't help You, bla!!!" I kuku caught my sub and stayed away from her, we never talked again until August last year.


She reached out, apologised and I told her it's ok but gave her a piece of my mind. In September she gave me a distress call that her mum was down with stroke and they needed help badly, I was also going to pay for something important so i asked of her siblings, she badmouthed them that everyone is saying they don't have money yet.


 I squeezed 5k out of my savings and sent to her, I was always calling to check on them till the mum got better. 2weeks later I invited her to come around and take some of my stuffs since I cleared my wardrobe and enough to give out. She came and I simply just moved on from everything that happened in the past and we got along real quick. I asked how's business and she said it was so challenging that she now cooks noodles opp a factory in her area. I felt pity for her and encouraged her to stay strong, gave her tfare and she left same day.


We were always in touch, my hubby travelled to the UK in December so I didn't decline when she asked to come around for Xmas, my younger cousins were also around, It was all fun. She left early January but before then she made me realize her business isn't doing so well that she wouldn't mind if i can help her get a job around. I called to discuss it with my mum who declined her staying with me even if she gets a job, my mum offered her stay at her own place instead. So she left to pick her stuffs and came back to stay with my mum.


sometimes she comes to help me out since I'm pregnant. My elder sis directed her to a mall around where she dropped her CV and luckily got the job to be paid 30k and resume in March. Her boss requested her she brings a written and signed guarantors letter before resumption which I gladly did.


For the times she's at my place this girl wakes up 9am, I would've done the chores n finished making breakfast so all she does is package food and leave for work at 10am since she resumes 11am. Except for her off days which is Wednesday when she take out time to help me wash because I do not have a washing machine yet. Whenever she wants to wash, I pick out I and my husband's undies to wash myself but I still help out in rinsing other clothes with her. On resumption, hubby had given me money for monthly housekeep so I gave her 10k to sustain her for tfare, my elder sister also sent her 4k. We stay in a 3bedroom so she practically owns a room to herself. I checked for some work clothes that were no longer my size for her and also took her for medical when she complained of constant chest pain.



One day we washed late in the afternoon so the clothes only drained water and we packed it all inside, I woke up feeling sick the next morning and asked that she help me hang the clothes before I leave for the clinic. We both left home together, I stopped at the market on my home so I was a bit late. Went to the back yard pack out clothes only to find my hubby's undies inside a bucket still wet. She didn't spread them, I was shocked. I was done making dinner and decided to call my mum to ask for her opinion and be sure I wasn't blowing things out of proportion. 


My mum said no vex but let her return from work then you can ask her why. Sister came back, showered and ate then I called her ask why and also brought other doings to her notice, she said she doesn't know how to touch someone else's husband's undies, that even when she visits her own blood sister's it's same. I said Ok, no wahala.


The next morning my husband was traveling, he suggested I go to my mum's so I agreed. When I got to my mum's place, my ears were full. She complained about how this girl only fetches the water she uses because their pumping machine is bad so the fetch from the next compound. She goes to work with food flask of continental food and small plate of soup then wrap Eba inside nylon, she still comes back for already made dinner and because she wakes up late, my mum would've done the dishes including her 2office plates tied in a nylon before she wakes up. I asked my mum why she allowed her, even at my place she only takes a meal to work. She's lived with my mum for like 2months but never washed a single wrapper for her but the other day I rushed out to get eggs for breakfast, this same girl went to knock hubby's room asking for his laundry basket but he declined til i was back home. So she only fetches water to bath and wash her clothes with mama's soap and can't wash for her. I felt so bad like giving her a second chance was a total mistake.


So the week of Lagos lockdown before the Federal announcement, she woke up so early and was doing chores, I was up and asked her why she's up so early, she said she's going out to see her mum at her elder sis place around LASU, shes not feeling well. When she was ready to leave I gave her 1k to add up her tfare but immediately after she left, I was going through my phone and after listening to that WHO guy's audio on COVID-19 I got scared and called her to please come back knowing fully well that she wouldn't have gone far. I told her she's likely to get contact with lots of people and coming back here might not be safe for us, promised I'll get airtime so we can call to check on the mum and send whatever we can to her. 


She reluctantly answered, "I dey lekki" i said please make your decision and get bacn to me, this was about 10:35am in the morning. I also explained to my mum and every half an hour she'd ask me if she has called I said NO. Till 4pm I got angry and told my mum that it's obvious we're housing a full grown adult who doesn't regard anyone here, even if she wasn't gonna come back she would've at least called back. I sent her a message on WhatsApp at 7pm stating how disappointed I was and letting her know i won't put my family on the line for her. She responded immediately, asking if it's just the pandemic issue or she did something else. I told her no hard feelings, she should kindly stay with her family until after the lockdown. She responded that she would love to come pick some of her things and would ask her boss to allow her sleep in the office. I just laughed and told her to let me know when she's coming. She called my mum the next day and my mum told her she doesnt have a business in this matter since I was the one that brought her here, besides why didn't you call all through yesterday?


 She came later in the evening, I gave her soap to wash her hands outside and also sanitizer. She entered picked some clothes n left. I asked where she's going and she said her friends place, I said ok. I never heard from her, my mum got worried and asked me to reach her n be sure she's safe. 2 days later I was leaving back home since hubby called that he's home, I called her and she said she's fine. Because I had started seeing her funny WhatsApp posts as usual, I requested for her elder sis digit, the one her mum was with. 


Till today Stella the number is always switched off. Lol


So this morning I got out of the bathroom and saw her sms saying that she's resuming work in Monday and would love to pick her remaining things from my mum's. She already called my mum but was told to call me as I've instructed. I also saw 2 missed calls from her. So I had less than 20naira on my phone and decided to text her back, "I was in the shower when u called kindly call back" it's been over 6hrs and I haven't seen her call. My own is, I've completely lost trust in her, I feel the need to revoke the guarantors letter I wrote and signed with my full address since she's no longer staying with Me, then I can let her pick herr belongings. In that letter i said she's my cousin and i would bear responsibility for any misconduct, even my husband doesn't know she's not a relation. I'm just scared but my mum says I should let go which I refuse.


Stella please your red pen is needed, am I overreacting or? Sorry for the long epistle.





*You said she is your cousin?Well if she does anything or steals you will bear the brunt.....
She is old enough so let her be,let her go without grudges,just revoke the leter and move on!

119 comments:

  1. Hmmmmmmm
    Please dey your dey, make she dey her dey simple.
    Your happiness is Paramount.

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    1. You and your family have really tried for her and posterity will judge you kindly. She appears to be very lazy and entitled. However, I don't see the need to revoke the letter. You didn't complain that she stole from you or was dishonest in any way.

      I also get the vibe that you appear to be a bit controlling too. You should realize that this is an adult woman and she should have a social life. You didn't employ her as a housemaid, so I don't really understand some of the complaints.

      Regardless, let her go. You've done your best

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    2. I feel a bit different. Sometimes adults don’t know how to behave, you should have called out her bs immediately Nd told her she can’t b waking up late after u v done d work etc. I also think u might v been a little too harsh on her. If ur mum is sick wont u do everything in ur power to see her as u don’t stay together? . Aunty loosen up a bit. Next time if someone does something u don’t like correct them immediately Nd don’t let offense pile up Nd don’t tight d world to ur chest. D girl might say something else if she writes in. Just let her go in peace I don’t know y I feel somehow for d girl.

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    3. I support the idea of you Withdrawing your guarantors because you can no longer vouch for her and hope she get another credible person or else she will loose the job and blame you for it but it will be too late. Alai mo rแบน ni.

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    4. Madam pls let her go with her wahala. Housing a full grown adult is tedious. No matter what you do for them,they will always take you for granted. Even housing one's blood sister is not easy leg alone an outsider. Abeeeg free her sharply with her rudeness and laziness.

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    5. @unusual Amy how do you explain the funny WhatsApp statuses? Apart from that how do you live in a house and do practically nothing? Even in my mother's house I do house chores. My mom is almost sixty, when she visits her own mother, she helps with some chores like going to the market, cooking etc even when my grandma has a maid. They have done enough for this girl. And the girl seems like she has entitlement mentality. Since the girl is no more living with them, I don't see any reason why the poster should continue to be her guarantor. It is best if she goes to revoke the guarantor's letter that she signed, after all like Stella said, she is a full grown adult. I don't see why someone else outside her family or close associates should sign a guarantors letter for her. Poster, since you have completely lost trust in her, listen to your gut feeling and revoke the letter.

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    6. Africans whenever they have small money, they feel like semi gods...very proud beings. So she should wash your husband under wears, you lazy woman! You wanted to start problem because she did rinse all the clothes except your husband dirty undies. YOU HAVE A HUGE PROBLEM

      Second of all, agreed she has some little problems here and there of not helping and taking things for granted but for God's sake! What is wrong with you? She left to her parents, just for a visit and she probably knew she won't have the opportunity until the lockdown is over and besides, it was not so rampant that time. Why do you think she should just abandon everything and dance to your tune just because you are helping her? She is not your maid, and if you really wanted to help, you won't be worried about her not calling after 6 hours, you that have money couldn't even give her a call but sent her a text and what if she was not able to reach you? You are overdoing this thing, you were the one who asked her to stay where she is and now complaining that she is doing exactly what you asked? You want to revoke the letter really? How many people you hear get arrested for misconduct? Let her be please, allow her at least keep the job and move on if you want to but don't be a saboteur! Eish... you nag a lot, just reading through your chronicles, i could image how this young girl coped with a nagging demanding woman like you. Please as you put yourself in the position of her god just like many Nigerians do, leave her alone and mind your family but please let her work.

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    7. Thank you Anonymous 16:19.

      I still don’t understand the issue here. Trying to create issue where there is none.

      She called, didn’t get a response and de used to send a text message to relay her reason for the call. Why then do you expect another call when she has communicated the reason for calling in a text.

      If she had rinsed your hubby’s boxers, gobe go enter. She minds her business, and now she is at fault?

      Was your mum not washing her clothes before she accepted to accommodate the lady? Why expect favour in return for favour when you did not sign an agreement or have a memorandum of understanding? Please buy your mum a washing machine and employ a lady for your mum if you believe your mum deserves To be treated like a queen that she is.

      From your narration, She had no interest in your hubby FYI, so stop instigating rubbish into the minds of the readers.

      I am not saying she is innocent but this isn’t a chronicle that deserves the judgement you are melting. You appear too myopic please.

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    8. my dear i so much agreed with your wright up, u have spoken my mine.

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    9. @ 16.19 well said, nothing left to add.

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    10. @16:19 she isn't nagging please ...sometimes we shouldn't be ungrateful ,the way she is treating her is just like she is her younger sister ..
      there is notting in being humble and grateful .
      .Her own sisters are there why didn't she go to them? helping a stranger isn't easy abeg
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    11. Poster is a user pretending to help. I know your type poster. Make she help you dry ur husband pant?? Abeg have some respect for yourself madam helper. Don’t help people if you are the type who seeks payback.

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    12. Poster kilode? You talk too much!! You are a user and a terrible nag. Why should she rinse your hubby' underwears? Is this a chronicle? You actually sat down to write this long epistle? You are the embodiment of the word NAG.

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  2. I know you have tried. Let her go. No hard feelings.

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    1. She needs to grow the hell up, entitled shit.

      Melancholy

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    2. to long to read... let those with similiar experience advice you

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    3. What entitlement did she show here? Because she doesn't slave enough? She works probably 9 hours a day, yet she is supposed to wash and clean, especially her husband dirty undies. She never stole, disrespected her or her husband, mother , ask more than she expect, except when the woman give her some extra out of her own volition but she is entitled because she didn't do her mother laundry, and decided to go see her sick mother. Mtseww

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    4. Please here are obviously dumb. The fact that the poster is the one narrating her story doesn’t make her right. Let’s learn to be open minded.

      Expecting slavery in return.

      God please bless your own!
      Hear the voice of the poor and supply unto them abundant riches.
      Heal their sick and bless their home, and May people never take them for granted.

      Amen!!!

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  3. Let her be and don't bother taking her back to your home but don't revoked the guarantor's letter since she did not steal from you.

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    1. Exactly thank you Don. Please dont revoke the guarantor's letter..

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    2. If she steals at work, the poster will be held liable!!!

      She needs to revoke the guarantor's letter with no hard feelings

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    3. ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ

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    4. @Cookie, this poster didn't complained anywhere about stealing or missing items in her house, let's not assume for her.
      Unless there's another thing behind all this, no point in revoking her guarantor's letter.
      That will amount to nothing but wickedness.

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    5. She has sisters let her go thete abeg let her go ,mind your family

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    6. If she doesn't revoke the letter, how will she provide the lady to pay should the case arise? Go and watch if you can't pay, we'll take it away show on YouTube to understand why you should never be a guarantor to someone you cannot vouch for. Even children deny their parents who signed for them. If that lady gets into any trouble and is asked to pay, the guarantor must pay it if she doesn't. Let her go get another guarantor. Her sister can sign for her. Withdraw yours ASAP if you like yourself because you won't even know where to find her when the chips are down.

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  4. Wow, poster what are you still waiting for.... Wash your hands off her already!

    Some people are so ungrateful, that is the reason they have refused to count their blessings.

    Like, you and your family are literally taking care of a grown adult.

    Please, let her go and make sure she stay far away from you and your family and also, go back and tell them she's not your cousin.

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    1. Please revoke the letter. Because if she is to commit any crime or get entangled, don’t forget it’s your contact details that are on the letter and it’s Nigerian police knocking on your door. Let her know your intention so she can go in search of a guarantor. Why didn’t she involve her parents or siblings to be her guarantor?

      Kindly stay away from her. Be Woke in this recent times as people are not who they claim to be. Don’t be so quick to friend or family or anyone. Be slow to your judgement before exposing your family.

      Good luck!

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  5. My motto is help people from far. The day they dey begin to share your roof is the day you call for problems. It is well.

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  6. Please revoke the letter to avoid stories that touches the heart

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    1. True, because the girl may purposely commit havoc to put her ina mess.

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  7. You see people that post awful things about you due to misunderstanding are petty as f***,thank God i'm not that way.Once you do such to me i'll walk away,when you come back to your senses i'll say "hello" from afar. One word for the poster,"A leopard never changes it's spots "

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    1. ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ

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    2. We are all humans, we can say something and changes it afterward. She should have helped her mum to fetch water atleast, since she gives her food.
      try get her sis number and clear your name. Its necessary.
      Keep assisting her in your own little way but don't let her stay with you again.

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  8. Don't let what you did for her bring pains to you.

    Let her go and don't let her come and stay with you or your mum.

    These days, people don't allow people live with them.

    Also if you want anyone to stay with you, don't let them wash your hubby pants and yours.

    It is not good to do that

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  9. Even heaven does not like an ungrateful heart. She has alternative in where to put up and should not be allowed back into your home even if she falls out with her new squatter. You have tried for her and can not go and kill yourself trying to please an ungrateful person.

    If only you know what she says about you and your family behind your back.

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  10. You have tried enough
    Maintain social distance in pidgin it means dey your dey make I dey my dey
    Inugo

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  11. One of the reasons you are mad is cos she didn't dry your husband's undies? What she said is correct. She can't be doing your husband's undies now.
    And again, you are not happy cos she doesn't do your mums Lundry or fetch water. For the aspect of not fetching water, she didn't do well. As for doing your mums laundry, I don't think that's her duty. But doing it once in a while isn't bad though.
    She is an adult. If she decides to stay with her family, it's okay. That reduces the burden on you and your mum.
    She's an adult, stop trying to control her. I hate thst part where she shades you on her status. I don't get how some people even behave, it's childish. It shows you are not as important to her as she is to you. But it's all good
    Do what you have decided to do and move on. For some of us that don't keep friends, this is what we are trying to avoid.

    Sluttychic.

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    1. I thought she warned her not to touch her husband's undie?. Poster you have tried for her but make sure she is not working in a financial institution or where she sees money otherwise revoke the guarantors letter asap

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    2. Your first paragraph is the truth! I was shocked when I read that part and seeing how the poster felt it was nothing at all, beats me.

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    3. This is what happens when you try to control an adult. You might be doing it from the place of love and sincerity but they will not see it that way.
      I don't think she is a bad person, I don't think you should revoke the guarantee you signed. Allow her make her choices and try not to be too emotional. She is human. She isn't perfect. She just makes bad choices.

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    4. But she can live in her mother's house free of charge ehn?

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    5. Thank you very few sensible people here. You and Shooter girl saw through her slave mentality trait. They girl should kukuma worship her na, controlling an adult like she own her. The rest is inconsequential, we have people who express themselves through whatsapp stories like that, why even bother unless she said something very bad and disrespectful.

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    6. @sluttychic the very least she could do for a free accommodation and free food is to help in her own little ways. Helping the old Lady fetch water wouldn't have killed her.

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    7. Thank for pointing that out!!! I shuddered as o read it.
      That she saw nothing wrong with it is still very surprising.
      They both have their share of blame.

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    8. Poster the babe may not be all that but you too should check yourself, because you first stated she was not to wash you and your oga's underwear, next you dey vex say she no rinse your oga's underwear. It seems what you really need is a maid. Don't let her come back because I doubt anything she does will please you, then get a maid.

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  12. Nawaooo people are ungrateful. You have tried for her. Let her go and stay else where and compare. She will come back for apology. Forgive her but never allow her stay with you or your mum. For the guarantor, tell her you are coming to revoke it and that she should look for someone to stand in for her. God will reward you for helping her

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  13. Why are you upset that she didn’t hang your husband’s undies? That’s just gross, I wouldn’t want to touch another adult’s undies either.

    It is not easy to house another adult let her go.

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    1. Right, absolutely disgusting and i raised my eyebrows at that. No matter how indisposed i am, i would never make someone else handle me or my husband's undies. Very disrespectful.

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    2. Likewise me mehn, stopped reading when I got to that point...
      It just irritates the shit out of me why people leave their undies to people to handle..
      Just too gross, like are you that lazy that you cannot handle your undies by yourself?
      Chizzy J

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    3. Very shocking.
      Why should she rinse the husband's briefs.
      That's quite intimate.

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  14. You are overreacting abeg. So because you assist her every now and then means she should be enslaved by you? Is she a kid?? You're extremely annoying! Gtfoh!

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    1. I almost died at "she just fetches water to bath and wash her clothes" Like they have seen water tank that'd be fetching water for the entire household. The girl was entitled at the beginning quite alright but the writer and her family are also entitled for expecting the girl to literally become a housemaid because they are housing her for free. It's almost as if Nigerians cannot render help selflessly, they must expect something in return.

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    2. Must you be abusive?

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    3. No be small thing shooter.she wants the girl to be worshiping her. Also asked her not to go and see her sick mom. nawa o.

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    4. Food is scarce but she gets it free.
      Some people can do whole house chores for you just to have a MEAL.
      The lady sees them as family but atleast she should have helped in fetching water.

      Some years back,I stayed with a friend and her husband, ate their food, fetched water whenever the need arise. At times, I will meet upto 20 bags of water outside the house as soon as I got home frm work, will quickly bring them in.

      If you're living with someone help out with the house chores before they wake up to avoid 'side talks'. Also Cook when necessary.

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    5. Mao akuh don't mind the girl. She only sees them as family when she needs help but when it comes to this same gurl treating them as her family that is when she knows the woman isn't her mother. And she can't wash clothes. But is she the woman's daughter that she meets cooked food before going to work and take some to work and still meet food in the evening?
      If it was her mother she won't do house work before going to work? Don't tell me she is not the lady's mother because the girl too isn't their daughter and should have rejected every assistant she got to prove they aren't family. She can eat food for free from someone who isn't her mother, she can live int he house for free but can't help out because the woman ain't her mother? How interesting.

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    6. Anon 19:33 you hit the nail on the head. It seems like morals is now something of the old. When I go to visit my mom, I do house chores. My mom is almost 60 and when she visits her own mom, she does chores like going to the market and cooking. I don't understand how someone can live rent free, with meals available and they can't do little house chores. When I went to write post utme and eventually clearance at the university, I went to stay at the family house of my sister's friend's ex boyfriend. I met them for the first time when I got to their home. They had a daughter that was going to write post utme too and I slept in her room. Now, this family is a Muslim family and the daughter wakes up at 5am for morning prayers. I'm always aware when she is up and immediately after her prayers, I will join to do the house chores. Her family will beg me that it is too early and I'm a guest, I shouldn't be doing house chores. I will refuse cos I find it weird that they provided accommodation for me, feed me and guide me with my post utme and clearance procedures for free (she has elder ones who's passed out from the school) and in the end, I won't offer anything in return. In our 100 level, her elder sister was getting married. Already my own elder sister is a caterer so I know a lot about cooking and catering for occasions. I really worked so hard at her wedding eh, I helped them cut cost. They were so grateful. Eventually, the two families became family friends. My point of saying this long story is that I wasn't just on the receiving end and I was grateful for everything they did for me. And they too were very grateful to me for my services. I was just a teenager then but my mom had instilled morals in me. The very least the girl in this story could have done to repay these people for everything they have done, the free accommodation and free food is to help out with some house chores.

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    7. People like unnecessary issues in this life!! Rinse you husbands brief because of? I myself, I’m not an early riser! I don’t ever and I hate sleeping during the day, I sleep late too no matter how hard I try, it’s by Gods grace I wake up early via alarm if I have to go to work and I put it as late as possible just enough time for me to bath n got to work on time. I will never ever wake up very early to please anyone during my free days! If you like be my mother. Any house work can wait till I’ve had enough sleep hopefully by 9am. If you like call me lazy, that’s your business. And I do what I can leave the rest. I try not to leave my living space dirty that would make me do tedious work. I hate doing laundry. I rather use washing machine or pay for someone to wash. I can’t even wash another person’s cloth. As I am, I don’t ever do more than myself, and everyone around me knows me and don’t complain. Don’t think because you accommodate me, I will change all of a sudden to please you. I will only try my best and assist in the way I can and the way that suits me. Work according to my pace but surely get the job done. That’s why bosses in Nigeria wants to control someone’s life forgetting that people have their personal lives too. Allow humans to breathe as long as they get the job done and aren’t lazy!!! Poster you expected too much, she’s an adult and not your maid

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  15. i'm all for helping people from a distance. Most times,bringing people too close to you causes petty issues and you begin to worry yourself over things than can be avoided. She's an adult and would want to do things her own way,allow her go while you settle amicably. The girl too has entittlement mentality if you wish to further help her,do it from far and put her in her place while at it

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    1. Posted I got upset with you when u got mad she could not touch your husband’s underwear! Even me would not spread a man’s u see wear except he is my man! The girl own de her body but poster u seem like someone who has wahala! She isn’t your slave! U help someone doesn’t mean they must do all your house chores! She works long hours and might want to have enough sleep ! Nawa oo.. no point revoking anything concerning her job

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  16. Okay so your major grudge with the girl is that she doesn't do house chores? I mean i know it's Nigeria and it's sort of expected of a guest but if you knew that that was going to be a deal breaker, you should have told her from the start na.
    All these long and avoidable stories sef, oya stop housing her, you can help her from afar if you like but it's not like she did anything egregious.

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  17. Poster there's already too much drama involved, please go to the store/office where she works and revoke the guarantor form you signed, then wish her well and focus on your self and your pregnancy.
    You took a lot of risk letting her into you & your mom's home but anyway it's not to late to start afresh, just revoke the guarantor form, wish her well and move on.

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  18. Just let her go, there are many people like that, ungrateful people

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  19. You feel you can play god in her life cos you signed as a guarantor for her abi? Pls revoke the shit and watch her get a better job right before your very eyes.

    You said you exclude you and your husband's under garments from the laundry yet you got mad she left them wet in the bucket. Are you fucking alright?

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    1. My darling, calm down small.

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    2. Very lousy woman and that is how many Nigerian women are. A man will never revoke the letter, women and godlike attitude. Because you help her, she got a job because she was qualified, your sister just directed her to. And the way you are busy calling the small changes, you gave to her, 1000 her, 10k there,you think your are her god. This chronicle will show you how Nigerian women are and think, everyone living under them is a slave they have to control. Her mother is sick, even if there is fire falling from the sky, i will go see her. You are not a nice person and you only helped because you needed a maid. Imagine wanting her to wash her husband undies? Mtsewwww your husband will fart, poo and urinate and leave left over, it is another person who is not fucking him that have to wash it and you were upset? Eishhhh, God sorry o

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    3. Babe that's another angle and i get your point,the lady in question has entitled mentality. If it were easy,she ought to have helped herself without reaching out to the poster. If someone gives you free accommodation in this Lagos,the least you can do is to be fucking humble!!! Or go secure your own apartment.

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  20. Pls revoke the letter of guarantor immediately. This same scenario played out with a friend of mine. Revoke the letter, she can still keep her job and look for another guarantor.

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    1. Jock, why should she do that? Did she complain that the lady stole from her ?

      Cant you sign a guarantor's form for someone who doesn't live under the same roof wit you?

      You guys should stop sounding heartless abeg

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    2. She them, thinking if she revoke the letter, she will die. You people like playing God in the lives of others just because of small change. Wicked people! What did she do that is so bad? She never disrespected her, stole from her, seduced her husband just little chores is that why she should play God over life? Because she is accommodating her? She should have just tell her that she wants a maid, most of you Nigerian women don't like having anyone living with you if they don't slave themselves enough. That is why you lot go for under aged girls that you can easily manipulate, enslaved and do your wish like no man business. Wicked people!

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  21. Dear poster,
    Kindly revoke the letter and move on. She's an adult.

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  22. I could be wrong but I "read" you as one who is concerned if people like them or not. You should not have allowed her stay with you in the first place, and what's with you checking her status, and getting annoyed by it. Anyone can post anything on their status, that's their own cup of kunu. As for drying your hubby's underwear, she is not supposed to touch them, even if it to help you dry them. My own opinion.

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    1. Yep, that is another thing, why should you be judging people based on the status they post? Poster whatever she puts on her status is none of your business, why not mind your business? Remember assumption can be the biggest fuckup. You are being petty, abi you want to control what she will post?

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  23. She used to be a neighbour and you promoted her to the status of a cousin just like that.
    This shows the extent some ladies go just to play big sister.
    Some women adopt people they don’t know their background who will later harm them or rub them.

    Op.. please close that chapter and leave the girl alone.

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    1. It didnt happen just like that. They've known eachother right from childhood. Didn't you read the same story i read?

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    2. You are mad, some she know for 7 years, they were close and piratically live together. You are just a very selfish and wicked person who think helping people is a right to play God. Nigerian mentality.

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    3. Anon 15:44,calm down,life is not that serious.

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  24. How would your hubby not know she's not your relative?

    Revoke your letter and let her move on

    If you can add up money for a place for her to rent,if you can't then just let her be

    The friendship between you two is very toxic

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  25. Poster, I'm proud of ur heart of gold, but I'd advice that u take all those misconduct as a way of God warning you, she has done it once, twice.. What more do u need to see.. Let's her go pls..

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  26. I heard of case of a trusted guy,he attendant the same church with a woman and when he got a job,the woman signed for him.Eventually,guy man stole from his work place,madam was located and guyman no wasn't connecting,she was arrested and paid in full the money guyman stole

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  27. Sometimes I think helping people from far or not trying is better.
    Human being eeh. Most are ungrateful

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  28. There was a case of a trusted church guy whom one woman assumed she knew very well,she signed for him when he got a job,not long after his resumption,oga stole from his work place and couldnt be reached.Madam was located ,paid in full after been arrested,till today no one has seen him

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  29. Well, I think u should let her be. However, why will you guarantee someone you don't "know to the house"? I think not having her mom and sisters number is a red flag. Pls revoke that letter because someone that doesn't respect you isn't worth the risk. Be kind to her but don't go out of your way and if you ever decide to take her back into your lives her parents and sister must come see u. Accountability is important.

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  30. You've honestly tried. It's understandable you would want to stop being her guarantor considering you want to keep your distance from her for your sanity. At this point, your friendship has reached its expiry date and it wouldn't be wise to stand in for someone you aren't close to anymore. Don't feel bad. I also believe in the law of reciprocity but sadly not everyone feels indebted when helped. Many feel it's their birthright and you owe them what they desire as long as you have it at your disposal. I have helped a lot of people by letting them stay under the same roof with me and it didn't turn out well either. The last one broke the camel's back and I said enough! A particular lady paid me with evil when I couldn't cope with her anymore I asked her to leave after she almost ruined me. We went for shopping and I bought her winter wears up to a thousand euros same as myself, then on our way home, I sighted an ankle boot at the new store a few metres to our house. We both went in and I bought it. she said she wanted one too, to which I laughed, and said: "come on"! I told her we had already spent too much and I didn't have any money left on me, besides she knew this. She got upset, her facial muscles were tensed and she kept malice with me for three days. The day I wore the boot she looked me in the eye, shook her head and kept mute throughout the day while taking glances army feet every now and then. I got tired sent to her room and told her to kindly leave but I would always support her if she needed anything. I got her, her own place outside so it wouldn't be like I sent her out of my house to suffer and I was still giving her money once in a while at the time till she was on her feet. This was someone I didn't know from Adam. But I felt compassion on her because she told me her story. While she stayed with me, during winter she would put the heater on non-stop for months. She wasn't paying house rent and feeding was on me yet during summer she would put on the air-conditioner. If you try to make her see reasons she would keep malice with you for as long she felt it was necessary. I have written it here before. I did a lot for her that I can't pin down but what did I get in return? Slander, gossips behind my backs. Random people would walk up to me to tell me to be wary of her. She almost ruined my reputation with lies. Since then I only help people from afar. If you are close to me you would think I am tight-fisted but I have peace in helping people who don't know me and I don't know either. At least they can't harm me.
    So poster you are free to do whatever you feel its best for you. Whoever faults you should kindly take her in and have a taste of what you went through.

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    1. @Whoever faults you should kindly take her in and have a taste of what you went through๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. Sabella have vex.๐Ÿ˜‚

      It's true most people blaming her can never take that nonsense. How can she be in someone house and not be useful?

      Yet she eats the food they cook and take out of it to work when she wakes up but she cannot cook. Who is her chef book

      If the woman was her mother won't she fetch water for her and wash her cloth but she can live In a free house eat free food collect transport, have a good job without being useful to the people she live with ba

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    2. So true helping people anonymously is the best but most don't even know this.

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    3. @ sabella ....i remember your story about the lady you gave accomodation and pay her school fees while you were a student and you bought her text books sef. You have said it here before ...your type Is rare but dont let dat experience change who you are. God will reward you.
      Your story is different from this chronicle. You weren't entitled like this poster. D lady you helped didn't became a slave for you yet This poster on d other hand is too entitled. She feels because she did a favour they must worship her. Imagine expecting the girl to wash her husband pant and boxers I just stopped reading after that.
      Only God knows other things she expected from the poor girl that she didnt write๐Ÿ™„.
      It is easy to tell the favour she did was a greek gift. She was actually looking for a maid for her mother and was disappointed when it did work as planned๐Ÿ™„.

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  31. My dear revoke the letter ASAP.

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  32. Poster you tried oo, if you see how I like this social distancing ehennn. All the people trying to come and stay in my house for some time are on hold till further notice.

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  33. Help her from afar, don’t bring her to live with you or your mom again
    Do not let anyone touch you or your Hubby’s underwear, I consider it sacred
    Revoking that letter might dent her image at her work place and affect her job. Please don’t do it if she’s not a thief
    You can always reach out to her once in a while to be sure she’s okay if you care

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  34. poster sorry
    But I think you are over reacting. Truth is when you are tired of someone living with you, subconsciously you start finding fault in anything they do.
    Ever since she messed up the first time, you don’t trust her anymore. This second time you helped her was just you doing the right thing a good person would.
    I know this cause I’ve been in your shoes before. I just had to tell the girl to give me a break for a while. And told her to come back in 2 weeks time so I can clear my head. She did and till today we are cool.
    Stop carrying face for her or do any local champion fight with her. Be the matured one. You can delete her from your wtsapp. Cease communication with her for months. Most importantly, if you don’t feel good with her vibe anymore, let her go for good.
    I don’t know what you can do about the guarantor stuff tho.
    Goodluck.

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  35. Poster wat u did for this geh even her own blood fit no dey am. So madam just let her go n go to her working n explain yourself before she will go n do something that they will come n carry u

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  36. Why do we ladies always bicker. My dad always told me that if you keep two ladies under same roof, expect the roof to have holes.
    Female kids will be playing together cheerfully while growing, once they reach puberty, turn ladies, they begin to throw mud everywhere and
    bicker. Shuoorrrrr.๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️

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  37. I wouldn't want anyone touching my husband's undies o. I don't allow her wash them why would I let her dry them for me? Your approach in asking her to come back from going to see her mum was a bit harsh and she didn't handle the situation wisely either

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  38. Please thread with caution. She is not supposed to touch your hubby's underwears sef

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  39. Don't revoke the letter poster,you did what you did out of goodness and it is only God that can reward you! You've done your own and I think you shouldn't be so worried since she has never stolen from you. .

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  40. Honestly, poster really tried for this lady,she's just ungrateful, how many of ones family member can condone such? You treated her well. Leave her, street will teach her

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  41. Poster do not revoke it. Wish her well and move on. God will repay your help.

    Also not everybody will wash the undies of another's spouse. That was a bit too far if you ask me. Be mindful in future.

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  42. Please revoke the letter oh. I am a HR person and I know the trouble some good people have been through just because they guaranteed persons with questionable character. It's better to be safe than sorry.

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  43. To me pregnancy hormone is at play here. Yes she is not behaving maturely but you seem to be taking things too serious without correcting her wrongs and giving her a chance to make amends.

    She is just too free and happy to be loved and has obviously overlooked who she really is to you.

    Please don't forget you are acting like a big sis to her, shun her wrongs and watch to see if she will retrace her step. Abeg don't abandon her at this stage because 'tomorrow is pregnant and no one knows what is going to birth'.

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    1. I do not support this your second paragraph. Who is she really to the poster in the poster's eye? If not a younger sister. Now if posters blood sister doesn't help her mother to wash cloth and fetch water won't we all agree that she did wrong? She isn't a stranger to poster in posters eye but a sister that is why she went through so much for her even though they aren't related.


      So saying the lady overlooked who she really is to the poster and became free is wrong. You can't be free only when it profits you. You are free to accept all the love they gave you and at that point you overlook who you are...a mere stranger, but when it comes to showing love and care in return which you received freely you suddenly remember you are a stranger and you aren't related to the people you stay with, so they shouldn't kill you. But you expect them to kill themselves for you and go to extreme length to help you because you are who by the way?

      I have met people like these they call you their sister when they want help and you end up doing everything in your power a sister would but when it comes to them carrying the duty of a sister they start showing attitude and suddenly remember you aren't related.

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  44. Biko it's too long a read ,but did you say you don't have. Washing machine with a dryer,as a woman I don't even let my househelp wash my pants how much more my husband, nne tell her to go thank God you did not give her your kidney

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  45. I don't think alot of nigerians know what 'help' is. everytime they see a younger person, especially an unmarried girl, they immediately translate to 'househelp'. You offered her hospitality and she WAS helping around, but somehow you expect her to be your maid because you housed her. If you want a maid, pay for one. Afterall if you had a nanny or maid you would pay her for the chores while also offering free accomodation and feeding. Please stop using nieces younger female friends as free help. They have lives too

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  46. WITHDRAWAL YOUR GUARANTOR LETTER.
    It is not WICKEDNESS, it is WISDOM.

    You don't know how to trace this girl and police will hold you if anything. Legal liability for someone you actually don't know... I laugh in EFCC

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  47. Pray for her to get another job. That would automatically revoke the "guarantor's letter" you wrote to her current employer.

    Ordinarily revoking the letter would be the educated act to do, but not the wisest in the present circumstance for several reasons. The woman and or her family who are clearly dependent on her would see it as a vindictive act and backlash in ways unimaginable by you - the heart of man is desperately wicked says the Bible.

    Since she has stopped or will soon stop living with you or your Mum, ask for and verify her new address. Further, ask her to give you verifiable addresses and telephone numbers of her family members. These information would make it easy for you or her employers to reach her if necessary.

    I know it is easier to give advice when you are not the hurting person. So if you really want to revoke your guaranty, tell her and give her reasonable time to look for another guarantor. If and when you do revoke your guaranty, please write softly - better not give any reason to avoid libel suit - or give reason of relocation from your address, which you can justify.

    Above all, pray for guidance from the almighty God.

    Best wishes for you and your baby.

    S.I.M

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  48. Too long to read,the poster is lazy,a nag and entitle helper while the girl too is lazy.Poster she is not your house help.Since i was born up to this stage Iam, my sibliing and i have never wash our mum's clothes not that we don't want to,she is the type that like to do her laundry hereslef.i find it odd doing laundry to whoever.


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  49. I am sorry to say this but you are a lazy woman. You are an entitled person. You have assisted doesn't mean she should slave for you. I know lekki well. Those people that do those small small jobs and earn 30k work a lot. They work more than the amount they are being paid. She goes through the work stress and gets back home to do yours. Madam fear God. Get a maid to assist u. Leave the young woman alone. You are not the first person to help someone don't drain her with emotional blackmail of "I helped you". Donot house her anymore either at yours or your mom's since you have a petty monitoring spirit. Let her figure out herself. She is a human being. Not your monkey.

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  50. Accommodation is very expensive in Lagos

    If someone gives you free accommodation and meals
    It is only kind of you to return the favour by helping out in the house
    Where is our conscience?

    We expect someone to break our back for us and we can't do the slightest things for them knowing this woman is pregnant and probably needs her.

    Some of you are so "me, me, me
    Do you ever think about the other person?
    Gratitude is a must
    Some people who do so much for you still expect to be loved.

    Women are funny
    They would prefer to shag a man for 5000 Naira than to clean a house for 5000 Naira
    They aren't even afraid of diseases
    Humility pays
    There is a time for learning and time to grow
    This lady also helped her to get a job but trust ingrates,they will say "is it because you did all that I should worship you?"
    No one said you should but help out a little.

    As she gets her own accommodation and pays rents, buys foodstuff, she will understand.
    I am sure someone like her won't even accomodate another person.

    Poster, don't revoke the guarantors letter but keep an eye out too on her and the job too.
    She needs the job and salary
    Please call her and maintain that relationship from afar if that suits you or reconcile
    But I'd prefer she stays with your mom than you
    Also, understand that the nature of her job may make her exhausted
    And sometimes, communication is important
    Both of you didn't communicate effectively
    She needs a social life And needs to marry too
    And you shouldn't let her touch your husband's undies...
    Get a washer woman


    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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  51. Lollll. You had better revoke that guarantors letter.
    If she steals or is involved in any misconduct.

    YOU WILL BE JAILED.

    Know who you guarantee.

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  52. We have so many ungrateful people everywhere, I even have one in my house right now. I kukuma ignore her VCS I knew that even if she is not here with me, I will do everything myself.

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  53. This is a chronicle of complaints. Gosh! You seem like a nit picker to me. This lady isn't a bad person like you painted her to be, a bit entitled and immature yes but not a bad person. You've done a lot for her and that shows your kindheartedness but you seem to have expectations for all you do for her. If she's not meeting your expectations please just let her go peacefully.

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  54. Please let her go and mo need to revoke the guarantor letyer and cost her the job. I won't spread your hubby's underwear too if I was in her shoes. She can help you do a lot but not wash for your hubby or cook for him. She is not tour housegirl. From your narration she had her faults but you also did not set clear boj daries b4 taking her in. From the onset let her know what is expected and it is her choice to agree.....you seem to have assuned a lot based on your own upbringing. She may not be doing all this in her house you know. Just letbher go and donot be vindictive to revoke the letter unless you are claiming she steals

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