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Saturday, July 18, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

This is serious oh!!!








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DELIVERANCE FROM JEALOUSY NEEDED:



Good afternoon bvs

There is this my friend am jealous of, she's 19 while am 21 both in our 200l. I'm jealous of her cos she's so intelligent, brilliant and smart.


 I don't know how she does it, she can watch movies for Africa even during exams periods yet if our results came out she will be having As, B's, C's she has never gotten D in her results. While me will have plenty carryover only on case i sat beside her i will manage to see B or C in my results. 


She helps me in my assignments, gives me guidelines on how to do presentation and i know she does that cos i come from a very wealthy and connected family while her own family stay in the village, she's hoping i will help connect her after we graduate, poor thing.


 I have tried to distract her on many occasions during exams, I will ask her to come to my lodge so we will study together, I will just be disturbing her with gist so she won't concentrate, on two occasions i did it she still have A & B while i manage to have C cos i sat beside her. She has a very good heart, there was a time i delayed the submission of our assignment on exam day cos she was writing mine, the course rep refused to collect it again, as i was begging the course rep, she just said babe let's go so long we read even if is C we get we go manage am, lastly she got B and me C all thanks to her. 

But that jealous is still there burning, I always feel intimidated by her, right now our 1st & 2nd semester yr1 Gp hers is 3.95 while mine is not up to 1 point. 

Pls how can i stop this jealousy inside me,I  help me.




I think it is a good thing that you realised that you are jealous and need help....The first step is to have a heart to heart talk with her and tell her everything about how her Intelligence makes you feel......
Infact i dont know what else to say.........

I pray you get advice that will help you out so you know how to curb your jealousy as regards everything in life....

All the best!

114 comments:

  1. No be only when person fly for night dem dey call am witch. Wise sayings.

    It has different types.. this is one it.

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    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Absolutely interesting a post and i pray that every spirit of jealousy in ur life be removed right at this minute IJN

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    2. No, this is not one of those situations where heart to heart talk could rectify and solve issues as Stella said o. No no no. You will burn the friendship, the future posibities of reconciliation and everything inbetween.

      Good you have detected the jealousy as a problem, now pray and make conscious effort towards it and see it that she is a God-sent in your life and you must not reproach a God-sent else God will withdraw her and you will be left by yourself.

      My dear, life is not like that o. Her future excellence is NOT in your hands o. E go do you like film! Her good heart and intelligence will just open doors for her that you will still find yourself needing and depending on her. So it's time you swallow that your "privileged background" and be thankful for the gift of a true friend.

      Start by daily thanksgiving to God for bringing her into your life. The secret hate and jealousy will slowly melt away, I promise you.

      Meanwhile, 1st class in school most of the time never scores 1st class in real life o. Just have that at the back of your mind.

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    3. Sapphire always making sense😘

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    4. 1st anon, how can you be so judgemental. We all have our struggles. It's beautiful that she's recognised that it's not right and seeking help. May God pull her through in Jesus name.
      Amen!

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    5. @saphire.. Need I say more??? God bless you for that❣️

      Poster, I have a close friend that everything comes easy for, I mean Everything!!! She will say "Tade,I want to do this and that" then, it will definitely happen for her, no matter what that goal is she will reach it in no time up to scholarships, jobs, Money etc. She's a winner at everything! but you know what it has never occurred to me to be jealous for once! she also provides a solution to almost every problem I need to solve, I'm being real here, she will always have a solution and have been helpful in many areas(she's so smart and beautiful). Trust me, I tell here all these things very well.. Just the way I'm typing it, this is the way I tell my family about her.
      Me on the other hand, things don't happen immediately for me.. I'm a fast thinker,smart and blessed in other areas which i don't hesitate to come in for her at all, infact she doesn't need to call me twice. I appreciate her in every little way I can for being a real good friend to me,and I also realized that anytime she tells me what she wants to do, I always say a prayer for her and follow through out with encouragement, it will surely happen the way she wants it and I'm always really genuinely happy when they do.

      She always say to me "Adeola, you can't understand what a blessing you are to me" I still really don't understand though coz I really still feel I'm not doing as much as she's doing for me. 🀷 But I'm willing to do more

      Dear poster, stop being jealous.. You are blessed and a good person too, find a way to be a blessing to her just like she's doing to you. Nobody has it all, Don't distract her nor compete but fill in some missing gaps! All the best ❤️

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    6. The story looks made up jare.

      Bedsandroses

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    7. Made up or not, People like these are many.

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    8. To add to Sapphire’s comment alongside praying you need to make conscious effort as well such as; complimenting her and celebrating her on her wins, asking her to give you guide lines on how you can be better academically and morally. See jealousy happens to the best of us and to the best of my knowledge it stems from our Ego which automatically makes us believe we are better than others and as such deserve better than we are getting. Don’t beat yourself up it is a good thing you are honest this is the first step. Now humble yourself and learn from her and you will see how you will beat this need for jealousy and become a better person while at it . Best wishes

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    9. Clarity this one no be ordinary Jelousy oo.. This type can kill. Go and read the other post of a friend who beheaded his friend cos of 13million.

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    10. Thank God you discovered your problem. May God uplift you.

      Stop being jealous of her and appreciate God's gift in her life.

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    11. Sapphire u have said my mind. Pls do not tell her anything as that’s the end of the friendship. Just work on urself.

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    12. Please and please o no kill person pikin out of jealousy....keep praying about it or maybe talk to your mum about it

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  2. For you to recognize that you're jealous is your first step to recovery. Secondly, you have to seek help from God... That's the surest way out of this. Tell God to purge your heart of evil thoughts towards her.... Begin to think of things that are pure, true and noble.
    Also, I don't think you're dull. Make conscious efforts at becoming better with your book work. Some people are naturally gifted when it comes to assimilation. Some others have to make extra efforts.
    Make extra efforts and do all you can to be a better person.
    God bless you and help youπŸ™πŸΏ

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    1. Pls stop it!!

      Dnt be jealous!rather see her as someone that inspire you. I have a friend like that who will hide materials from me during test or exams just to get high Mark's. But during exams she will still gather plenty DS and E.
      I am not that so intelligent but we have some people who can easily assimilate things fast. What lecture says in the class. Few readings they have gotten everything just glancing thru the text and plenty books. Is a gift.
      Rather than gather all the jealousy. Read with her! Go closer to her and let her teach u things u dnt know. U should be happy she is not the proud type that hide knowledge. Be her friend and read together. When I was in uni. We were 3! I mean 2 of my friends that we read together and we Graduated with sharp 2.1 . Just remove the pride and get ready to learn from her. U will see changes in ur result.

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  3. My dear you see that thing called prayer,it is not overrated. Have a deep talk with God. Tell Him to put love in your heart. You see people like that,the more you hate them,they more they Excel.

    You are being jealous because you feel there is nothing that you are good at. Just try to discover your own good side and concentrate on that. It's good you know that it's a problem before tomorrow now it will now turn to husband snatching

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  4. I dunno but I low key want you to stew in your jealousy 😁. You will continue to be beneath her so far she has a Good heart cos God is not partial. Even if you have a talk with her, she will continue to soar n like an eagle, she wont need your connection..if at all u have.

    Now place ur hand on ur chest...

    Tell yourself...

    God help me, deliver me from this school of Hogwarts. WinshπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    1. 🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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    2. BB where your house make I come konk you for headπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. For her to bring it here means she is not all evil.

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    3. Sapphire she's not that bad and she wrote "she's hoping i will help connect her after we graduate, poor thing"...she sees this FRIEND as a poor thing... Imagine.
      Poster your redemption will come when you start seeing your friend as a fellow human being who also deserves good things in life. You are rich, she's poor. God blessed her with wisdom to balance the equation.
      Change your mind set πŸ‘†

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    4. Poster don't mind this witches up here. A person who admits her short comings is definitely better than this lot up here. Look poster, you are jealous cuz you want what she had and can't seem to get it. You are trying to run your race in another person's lane. You can never win. Life has given you your own strengths, identify them, groom them and soar in your own lane. Good enough there is money where you come from, that's half the battle won. Own your own space, and stop bothering about how fine another person's parlour is.
      PS it would very unfortunate if you use all your uni life envying someone that you might seperate from permanently after graduation.

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    5. For someone who is intelligent, why will she need your family’s connection to get a good job?

      Stop thinking this way please

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    6. Keen eyes you are the witch and wizard here if you can't see this girl for what she is. Someone who distracts her friends so she would fail is someone you are pampering. Keep there and let others say their minds biko

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  5. Poster, channel your jealousy into a positive thing. Instead of trying to distract her while reading, why not ask her to tutor you on those courses you are not good at?

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    1. Because she is an entitled winch. Her parents are rich and have connections but her belle is still turning over someone she sees as poor, lives in the village, and wants her to connect her. The funny thing is that the friend probably just likes her as a human being but her wicked heart has refused to let her see the girl as a friend. I pray that God will open her eyes to see you don't have the same intention as she does. Intact, I hope she reads this post and recognizes the instances mentioned.

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  6. If you give your life to Jesus and get closer to God in praying, fasting and studying his Word, you will know your peculiar gift from God that no other has. You will not pander to the works of the flesh one of which is jealousy. You will appreciate God.
    But for you, one of your stumbling block is the deceitfulness of riches.
    If you don't correct these now, you might land in a huge problem in this life and hereafter.🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️

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  7. Ur type can kill ooo
    It’s even good u realized u have a problem, talking to her will make her avoid u totally... I’d advise u to pray against it...

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    1. @Kim
      Galatians 5:19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and witchcraft; HATRED, discord, JEALOUSY, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

      You see HATRED + JEALOUSY/FITS OF RAGE = Murder.
      Jesus already taught that if one is angry with one's brother/sister without a cause, he/she is guilty of murder.
      This is exactly what this lady is doing. Already she confessed that the girl "is a kind and nice girl."
      🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️

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  8. Poster, there is nothing your jealously can do to this your friend because she has GRACE, a special one at that.
    Change your mindset towards her for your own good too, embrace her with genuine love if you can, don't be surprised that her connector/helper will come from a different angle while you continue thinking of how to play GOD in her life. Wealthy and Connected family my melanin color, mtcheewwww.

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    1. Don't mind her... As if she's God...

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    2. Dear poster,
      You are a witch, if no one has told you before, i am telling you now.
      What!!! I'lld have believed you want to change if you dint make the statement of she being your friend cus of what she hopes to get... Everyone doesn't have an evil heart.

      PS. No one knows tomorrow, what makes you think you will be rich forever?

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  9. This chronicle is the reason I have NO NIGERIAN friends both male and female. They are always envious of everything I have; this has been my problem from birth. Anything in my hand bayi someone must like it, admire it, envy it and want it.

    I'm female and live in the abroad!

    Poster go and give your life to Christ osiso

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  10. All is saw was poor thing 🚢‍♂️🚢‍♂️🚢‍♂️

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  11. Hmmm. I don't get how you're friends with her, she helps you and you say she does that because you're from a wealthy home, and her parents are in the village. Really?? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Your jealousy is not healthy at all.

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  12. Poster I must commend your sincerity like Stella would say ''its okay to be jealous of someone's success but let it propel you to do better or more than that person''..At least you know your shortcomings meaning solution is on the way..I think you should find out what works for you i.e your study pattern..Your friend has known hers and it is working for her..Discuss with her that you need help in order to improve your grades..Like me, I like to study and read before time, so when you as the lecturer is discussing on that topic..It sticks to my head more and faster..Clear your mind from any negativity and set your mind that you will graduate in flying colours..Let that jealousy propel to be a better person for your own good..all the best

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  13. You have a strong spirit resident in you. This is not normal. Its a good thing you realised it now, cast that Spirit out, release yourself from any strong hold or ties. Pray ooo.
    if you allow it continue to grow with you as you advance in life, it'll steal your happiness, poison your mind and get you to do extreme things. In fact, it'll welcome other strong spirits, and they'll aim at destroying your life.

    Don't tell me this is not spiritual. It is very spiritual.

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  14. Do not have any talk with her about being jealous or she may become scared and start avoiding you.

    You have realized you feel that way and that is good enough.
    Not everyone will be booksmart, what she lacks in finance, God made up for her with intelligence and what you lack in intelligence, God made up for you in finance.

    Always tell yourself it's okay to be jealous but WRONG to act on it.

    No one has it all in life, please when the thoughts come , tell yourself that that it's okay as long as it spurs you to read more and be better.

    God may have placed you in each other's path to be each other's destiny helper.

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  15. I suggest you a therapist. The solution to this issue lies on a one-on-one talk with a professional.

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  16. Poster you need prayers to kill off this spirit of jealousy in you,it will grow bigger to something more harmful if you don't take it to God now to help you destroy it..this how witchcraft starts so you know,your thoughts,actions and finally flying! So you have to deal with it from the root..it's quiet bigger than what you imagined!go for deliverance and start telling yourself that you consciously refuse to be jealous of anybody,or intimidated! Your body is actually a spirit and it hears what you say,so speak to your being to be happy for others and not to envy them

    I love the fact that you own up to your flaws,the same God that gave her that which you envy can give yours too if only you ask in sincerity and be happy for her!

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  17. I feel so sorry for you poster and at the same time,happy that you're willing to make a change.

    Sit your friend down and tell her how you feel about her and your willingness to be a better friend to her. In life?we cant have it all. You're from a wealthy home with no brains but with your connnet and all that,life will be easy for her. God compensated her the brain knowing her background so after school,her certificate may speak well for her.

    Please see life from this angle and be at peace with yourself self and your friend.

    I believe after opening up to her,she will appreciate you more and make sure you guys study together.

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  18. You too, you have a good heart. Just tell yourself that we can’t have it all. That God made her special to help her family. Tell her to teach you things you find hard to understand, you will be fine. Don’t compete with her, our blessings are not the same. Some will make it through academics, hard work, etc while others make it by connection and goodwill. My friend got a job as a marketer in a bank, all she did was go meet her rich relatives to bank with her, and fiam went home to sleep. She is one of the top managers of the bank today.

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  19. I'm glad that you admit your problem but you need to stop sabotaging her. She won't stop doing well whether you like it or not, you have to accept that she is smarter and that's her strong point.
    I think you should pray about it. Ask God for help to deal with it.

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  20. Stella, this poster has not recognized anything yet. This post is just for formalities sake. She feels if she let's people know about her Jelousy, she'll be free from subsequent guilt of what she eventually has planned for her friend. This friend is a sociopath and I'm pretty sure she doesn't let her poor friend keep other friends.
    Dear poster, you're still in 200l, you can do better than this. Until you beat that Jelousy, you'll continue to do very poorly even with your rich family and all. You'll never be contented because you'll continue to see everyone around you as a threat. Shift away from your family affluence a bit and focus on your studies. Read twice as hard and speak to your friend about how you feel. Who knows she might take it upon herself to make you better
    Also, I'm pretty sure you're from a family broken in some way hence your attitude. Don't let allegiance to your family destroy you. Find a hubby or drop out of school and find your true passion.
    DONT BE A WITCH TO YOUR FRIEND.
    p.s my sister had a friend like this poster back in school. The things she did to her can never be forgotten

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    1. Exactly, you said the truth...She wants to have it and let her friend be at her mercy...

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    2. You know these jealous people too well. That's how they behave. They try to keep you all to themselves so you won't have any support system other than their jealous selves as friends.

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  21. Please stop being jealous. Success after school does not depend on good result. I made 2'1 but my colleagues that made 2'2 are the ones getting federal jobs while we that made better results are just managing. Since your family is wealthy and connected then what are you worried about? Relax. Always remember that at the end everybody will end up in 6feet. That's what I tell myself whenever I tend to feel jealous of people that are better than me and trust me, it has been helping to put me in check. Nothing dry this life my dear. It's all vanity. By the year 2100, 99% of the people alive today will be dead and forgotten so why worry.

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    1. You are not helping her with this advice. Telling her that her friend may not get a good job after school is feeding into her evil narrative of her friend being "a poor thing" and a loser. I have a good job worthy to the glory of God's name. Besides being from a rich home is not a guaranty of success. You have to have the zeal and the favour of God on you. I have friends from both backgrounds of life. I can tell you a rich home doesn't guaranty anything. No condition is permanent she needs to stop using her family wealth as a cushion to move others and make her won wealth. Look here Poster! In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, your friend will get a good job and all other good things of life and all these you will witness it with your two eyes. Amen. Change Your ways for your own good. Change!

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    2. What kind of advice is this please non 15:26? You have allowed yourself to be eaten up by envy. Why would you be talking about vanity and death just to make yourself feel better? Purge yourself of the evil in your heart. You are as bad as the poster

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    3. *cushion to mock others and thrive to make her own wealth"

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    4. That's not what I meant Sabella. Please read to understand not just to comment unreasonably. I only used myself to give her an example. I didn't say that her friend will not get a good job but MAY. What's obtainable in Nigeria is that without connection you can't really get a good job with your certificate. True/false?

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    5. 16:37. I do realise comprehension for some is a serious problem so I will expatiate. Now, using that "instance of what is obtainable in Nigeria" to advice someone like this poster will have an opposite effect compared to when you say that to someone who is just simply sad because of their poor grade and not because they are envious of another. If she had said she was sad and afraid she wouldn't get a job in the future due to her poor grade alone(and not envy) then that advice would be apt and you would be applauded for your word of encouragement but in this case, she is envious of another and you feel telling her the person she is envious of may not make it in the future and using your life as an example is what this wicked poster needs right now? Oh please! Color me surprised. That up there is the advice you deem fit to give to a person like her? Come on! This isn't rocket science or brain surgery. Like! Are you naturally obtuse or you just can't see you are adding fuel to a blazing fire? Read through your comment again and if you still don't see where you missed it then you are incorrigible. Well, you already said you are like her so it's only natural to you that you would see all these from a different angle and want to make her feel better in your own way.

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    6. 16.35, there's nothing wrong with consoling oneself with thoughts of death and vanity especially when others around you are doing better than you. Most people in life get jealous at one time or the other. It's a fact but thinking the right thoughts and making yourself understand that life is vanity is a way of not acting on your jealousy. People kill, steal, maim, poison, etc because of jealousy. Everybody is attacking the young girl because she owned up to the fact that she's jealous of her friend. A lot of people here are jealous of people around them but will never voice it out. It's a natural feeling that creeps in to the best of us once in a while but good people are the ones that put it in check and not allow the feeling get the better of them.

      Sabella, you made no sense. I can see your obtuse insult. You probably just learned a new word. Carry your over sabi self and move front abeg. I don't know why you would find an issue in a harmless comment. KMT.πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’

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    7. Thank u sabella and anon 16:35. I don't know why everyone is petting this small witch.

      Anon 19:07 u say jealousy is a naturally feeling okay nau but when u start to wish others badly to d extent u distract them so they would fail their exam and not read then what do we call that one nau. that is witchcraft ooh

      When u act on ur jealousy u have become a witch biko. This poster make her friend fail read up again and that is why everyone is surprise u are petting her with nonsense and u insulted sabella first you told her she comment unreasonably and she gave it to you back sharpely. I feared for you that she will use English and deal with u today because who don't know she is a walking dictionary. She even play with u small

      Ur advice is evil like the poster. Too many envious people supporting their kind.petting a nonsense jealous person.

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    8. I am not the one to insult. You were rude to me first even though I never insulted you in my first reply to you. I never said your advice was bad. However for the kind of person the poster appears to be, it will only feed her ego the more and won't have the effect you felt it should. She would seat back and relax priding herself even more with her family's connection while she gloat over her friend's lack of it. She thinks too highly of that silly connection of theirs already and you helped her place it on a pedestal even more without realising it. Now, You making a reference to a word as trivial as "obtuse" shows you are highly impressed and obviously hearing it for the first time. Hey! Even a 5 year old knows it's meaning.
      Have a good day.

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    9. Chai anon, dem don give you upper cut. Lolll @ highly impressed at new word.

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    10. Amen to your prayers Daniella and God bless you...

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  22. Do not tell her. Rather work on yourself! You can get books on Jealousy. Also pray to God. YEs! Prayer works! No one can do anything except by the Holy Spirit. Tell him to help you because you cannot do it on your own.

    Do not forget. This girl is blesses. And who God has blessed, no man can Curse. So work on your Jealousy please before you do something that will backfire.

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  23. Poster it is a good thing you have realize your weakness. My advice to you is to put in more effort in your studies, if you were dedicating two hours to your studies everyday increase it to three or four hours. Make sure you read and practice whatever you are thought in class the same day so that it will stick. Once you start doing that you will definitely improve in your studies.

    Some people have sharp memories and don't need to read for several hours while others don't. I used to have a friend in such my 100level I was always following her to night class despite it not been safe couple with all the noise and disturbance in night class. Fast forward to end of semester my results were not impressive and I borrowed myself sense. I don't need to do night class, I don't read more than 2hours anything I do after 2hours is waste of time. That has been my pattern till now. I have just finished my course work for my Ph.D. My school is in a different state so most times I don't attend lectures I just go and write exams but I still pass more than those that attend lectures. My friend that I stay with each time I go to school was not happy because are grades were not okay. But I told her I am not someone that reads that much and I only read when my exams are near. My other friend during my undergraduate years was not happy about my new routine and will always tell our mutual friend that I don't read as much as they do so I don't deserve the grades I was getting.

    My dear, find your pattern. What works for you in terms of reading and understanding humble yourself and ask your friend to explain what you don't know or understand to you. Stop feeling inferior I am sure there are other gifts you have that your friend doesn't have and she wish she had too.

    Please whatever you do don't tell your friend you are Jealous of her. That will kill your friendship and she might not understand where you are coming from.
    Hope I am Anon.

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  24. Poster you are a very evil person!!
    Guess what, your doom day is near cus if not, why bring the confessions here?? It simply means that God is strongly with the innocent girl that thinks she has a friend in you. A big SHAME on your dumb ass, This girl genuinely loves and does everything for you out of the love she has for you because she's ignorantly thinking you to be a good friend, You turn around to say she's doing it because she feels you'd help her, your family's connections, blablabla!! Who the hell do you think you are?? Now hear this and read this!!!
    That girl will forever be ahead of you in life, AMEN.
    She will never be needing your help or that of your family cos God had already prepared a golden banquet for her in the presence of you her enemy, You'd forever be needing her help for the rest of your life, Amen.
    She'd always be wayyy above you, Amen.
    Any day you wake up with the thought of causing any harm to her, you will be publicly disgraced and killed, Amen.

    Thank God you confessed here, I'm sure the powerful God that the blessed angel is worshipping made you do it, She will see this and stair clear!! Even if she doesn't, her God is always with her.
    You made jest of her being poor and bragged about your parents connections?? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. You're not only dumb and a awitch, you're also very foolish. Are you so sure of tomorrow??
    That angel you're wishing all the evil in the world to happen to will continue to be a great woman, Amen.

    PEEPS be careful of the people you call friends, This right here is one of the reasons why.

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    1. Chisom shut up...you are such a vile person and it shows in your comments. You are too insultive and very aggressive. You will not make a good spouse till you change...the poster just said how she felt and true to herself....guess what, God will honor her more for being truthful as long as she has recognized her problem and willing to change...

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  25. I cringed sometimes at how some persons imagine things.. You're from a wealthy and well connected home. She's from a poor home but God gave her intelligence and wisdom to make life easy for her which you still enjoy from yet you're jealous...

    Deal with your insecurity and leave the poor girl alone.

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  26. This brings back bad memory. This reminds me of when I was in school. If not that I have left school many years back I would think you were one of my frenemies. I always watched movies even on the day of exams and I still had As straight and came out with a 4.00 GP and for this reason alone everyone hated me. I did a project for free, made people sit beside me so they could pass. Tutored some but still, envy was their food both day and night. And no, I needed no assistance from them financially because I was the one even supporting them in that area. Even my close friend at the time was happy the day I had A- at some point. You could see the relieve in her eyes like "Finally"! I am trying not to be mean to you for awakening the past I buried but I can't pretend "I hate envious people". However, the fact that you acknowledge your flaws shows you are redeemable but your envy still shows from the way you write. What do you mean by "poor thing, she is helping me because she feels I would help her secure a job?" Smh. Even Your mind is black. You find it hard to believe people who help selflessly truly exist. You have a bigger problem which goes beyond jealousy. Maybe that's why you are where you are and she keeps topping the class. I said this in spontaneous post recently. What you wish people most times come back to bite you. As long as you keep wishing her bad you will continue to behind and below her and if that's not enough to make you retrace your steps then I don't know what else will. Jealousy will ruin you. It's a given! She has a pure heart and that's why she keeps winning. Purge yourself of hate. envy is a sickness. It eats the owner. You are so focused on making her lose that you lose yourself in the process. Obsessing over her failure that you don't even have the morale to be better. When do you have time for yourself to work on your grades instead of obsessing over another's grade? Silently competing with her in your head. Your head must feel really heavy by now. One more thing. Don't you think she can't see through you? She knows who you really are because you can't hide envy. One way or the other you would have given yourself away. She just overlooks it, hoping with the time you would see that envy doesn't get you anywhere and neither do you gain anything from it but disappointment. Pray to God to heal your heart. Your friend do know.
    Envious people are simply ungrateful people. They magnify others accomplishment and minimize theirs. Does Your friend have it all in life? is she a perfect being? You are from a rich home and she is from a poor background yet that is not enough to make you happy, that is not enough to make the raging envy in you to die out. What do you want from her?
    Jealous and envious people are never satisfied always comparing others good qualities with their own perceived flaws but would never compare their own good qualities to other people's flaws and see that life is not really balanced. No one has it all. There is no difference between a jealous person and an enemy of progress. Are you trying to tell me you don't have one or two good qualities your friends lack? Well, if your answer is yes, I am not surprised.
    🚢‍♂️🚢‍♂️

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    1. πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ. Spot on.

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    2. You have said it all

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    3. "You find it hard to believe people who help selflessly truly exist".. People that don't believe "selfless people" actually exists only see other people as "greedy".

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    4. Nice advice as always sabellaπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘. But if you always had an A grade and one A- grade how come you came out with 4.0gp i dont understand.

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    5. Thanks guysπŸ€—
      Anon it's 4.0 on a 4.0 scale. 😘

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    6. Happy that u had A~ 😱 . What an evil friend! Hope u cut her off!

      Anon 18:26 stop wondering

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    7. 3Amigos Bread @6 Okesalu St, Ikotun. 0813851632818 July 2020 at 19:55

      “ Even my close friend at the time was happy the day I had A- at some point. You could see the relieve in her eyes like "Finally"!“

      Similar thing once happened to me when I was in school. I was so naive at the time that it never occurred to me that someone I was trying to help do well in school will be wishing me failure. In my case, the day I did not get my usual grade for the class, I told her my grade thinking she was a friend and she texted others what I got. I still scored amongst the highest but did not score my usual grade in the class. By the time we met up with other classmates and they were questioning me on my grade, and giving each other a certain look, it dawned on me that the “friend” beside me texted them about my grade. I was floored cause I never imagined that someone I was doing my best to help with school will wish me otherwise. At the end of it all, God still remained faithful. Matter of fact, I remembered that incident yesterday.

      As for the poster, your comment calling the girl “poor thing” made me wonder how you treat your housekeeper e.t.c. at your home. If the current pandemic has not taught anyone that God is the only unchangeable in life and that life is unpredictable, then you’re done for.

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    8. Yes, bini love. I did! This was someone who told me to my face albeit mistakenly, that she doesn't know why she is never happy for other people's success asides hers. I acted like I didn't hear her neither was I surprised when she voiced that out because she only proved my assumption about her right.

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    9. @ 3amigos. Honestly, it"s been years and I still think about the level of jealousy I was shown. So I believe you if you thought about it yesterday. You hardly forget the betrayal you feel knowing someone you wish well wishes you the opposite. Jealous people are evil. The more you help them the more they hate you and wish you bad. I pray to God to heal them.

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  27. My love I get that you only want to be better yourself, the jealousy isn't because you don't want any good for her but you also desire good for yourself. Now the question is, what's h r secret? I'm guessing it's made from heaven so the best thing to do is talk to your God( I'm assuming you're a Christian now) ask him for forgiveness first, tell him to help you overcome this spirit of inferiority and jealousy( it's important you do this because you will still meet people who are doing better than you in the course of life, how many people would now be getting jealous of?) and lastly ask God for your own spirit of excellence. The Bible says if anyone lacks wisdom he should ask God... Please do this asap because jealousy when left to fester can make ppl do evil things o. Please dont talk to her, she's gonna be really scared of you and rightly so. Infact she will tell her people and they will tell her to keep away o.
    I believe these steps would help immensely, but if not, please end of your friendship with her before she you do the unthinkable. You've already started some small small wicked things towards her, so please save yourself. Lots of love. Ignore all advice such as you are bad, you fit kill etc. The fact that you wanna change is an indicator that you have a good heart towards her.

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    1. I dont agree with your first statement. The poster is so envious that she distracts her friend from reading just so her friend can fail or have low grade... This is withcraft.

      Planning not to help your friend in the future wih your onnection is withcraft. Who told her that connection will be there by the time they graduate and who told her that her frien would need her connection at all. You cant be envious, be a witch and try to play God in the life of a friend who has done nothing but help you and think God will not fight for her. I wont be surprised i she poisons her friend. FRENEMIES EVERYWHERE

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  28. You are doing yourself so much harm with your jealousy. You can as well try to improve yourself than remaining where you are. She only has one head and is not better than you as you think. You can reach her level too and even surpass her. The act of jealousy is evil and dangerous. Save yourself the drama by opening up to her and genuinely repenting from such evil or walk away from her life before you do something evil to her. But to avoid such reoccurence in the future with other people even with a family member, you have to purge yourself of such evil and show genuine repentance from such. It's not easy and this is where you need God in your life. Pray over it and try to occupy your mind with good things. I wish you all the best as you ponder on what to do.

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  29. leave dis girl alone nahhh....God has vindicated you at least u came from a wealthy family,her brilliancy is d only way to make it in life I beg you poster dont ruin her life becos of jealousy

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  30. i will be reading comments
    this one pass me

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  31. Wow... what a write up. I'm very sure that she would be on a 4 point GP if she didn't hang out with you. She's a smart girl and I'm quite sure she sees right through your gimmicks. I hope she comes to realise that God is her source of upliftment and not man. Pls change your ways. Find your own pattern of assimilation and stick with it. Ask her for some tips. Genuinely put in effort to read for your exams and I'm sure you'll see a change. It may be gradual but you will improve.

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  32. Do what works for you, if reading 6 hours a day will make you get good grades then do it, if your friend reads for an hour and still makes it, then it is her luck. Find out how you can make good grades, start early to read, read past questions, don't be any to tell her to teach you, if there is a tutorial, pay and learn.

    You still have your life ahead of you, how many people will you be jealous about it future.

    I hate witches like you, that's how my cousin has not recovered after his friends in secondary school used juju on him, because he was smarter than them, I hope they are happy whereever they are.

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  33. jealousy is the last step to being a witch, i hope you dont poison that girl one day or set her up. Rather than envy her, since ur family is rich just sort the lecturers with MONEY

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  34. All you need now is to invite Jesus Christ into your life

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  35. See small witch o !
    I pray she find out that you're filled with evil so she can dump you like a rotten potatoes.
    Your type can an will kill other fellow friends if not delivered from this bad spirit.

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  36. The love of money is not only the root of all evil, even jealousy is also the stem and root of evil.poster the fact that you speak out signifies that you're bold,you acknowledge your sin .But are you willing to repent "poor thing" really? You sound like a proud being. remember that "pride goeth before a fall". You need to get rid of jealousy and envy,it won't do you good.You should even be thankful that you have an intelligent friend who is willing to help academically.it's glaring that you are not of God,someone who fears God will never be jealous.So the first thing you need to do is acknowledge God,don't let jealousy control and have dominion over you,let him control your thought.


    Lastly,envy doesn't end well,so it's better you snap out of it totally.

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  37. Jealousy is evil,it is demonic,if you notice you have this evil spirit in you pls seek for help and counseling fast because the end is always disastrous if not tamed,psychologist say every human has an atom of jealousy in them but as a child of God when you notice yourself of being jealous begin to bind and cast and resist that evil spirit,poster do this and always pray and do good to your friend at every given given opportunity and this foul spirit will disappear,peace✌️

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  38. Secondly poster stay away from your friend if you can't deal with your jealousy,lest you might be planning any evil against her,don't dare cause it will backfire!!

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  39. This story just brought back memories and I'm in a similar situation .
    This friend of mine is high ranked in the U.S army but she has this spirit of jealousy towards her friends that are in a relationship or married .
    One of our friends got married some years ago , this friend of mine met her pastor and confessed to him that she was jealous that her friend was getting married to the extent she felt like killing her friend hmm . She felt so bad and empty that she severed the friendship but after some years they started talking again.
    This is someone that we chill alot together especially weekends , but when i met my fiancΓ©e I noticed withdrawal and dismissal she was always behaving somehow and limited her hanging out with me . My sister warned me to be careful and I shouldn't disclose much about my relationship to her so I dont put her in a bad spot.
    I asked het to be my maid of honor but she came up with an excuse, well I am praying for her to find happiness and know that life na turn by turn .
    This poster to be honest you need to work on your attitude , imagine feeling like this friend of yours is your friend cos of connects , did you have a my family is wealthy placard on your head? For her to know that you're from a rich family.
    Imagine with all your connections you feel so inferior . Get rid of hate , pray to God .
    I wish this friend of yours decodes this Chronicle and cuts you off.

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  40. I understand your plight. I don't comment often but this your situation is a little closer to home so I beg to say this. Every human in one time of their life will have to feel of jealousy not bc they are necessarily jealous people, while others are naturals when it comes to jealousy. Whatever be the case, what you do about that jealousy, is what matters. I've hard two occasions where the devil would have defeated me through jealousy but I never gave in to him. I'm a Christian so I try as much as possible to tackle this from that point of view( Christianity) the devil, is not necessarily operate only through witches or demons.One of the greatest tool he uses, is our mind. If we can concur him in our mind, then we can concur him physically. Now to the two occasions where the devil wanted to hold me captive through jealousy: One was when my elder sis.told us that she had a white suitor. Though I was (still I'm ) happily married, it triggered such intense jealousy that scared me. Bc I know I'm not the jealous type. Immediately, I began to speak to myself. I have the mind of Christ and I can't be jealous. I began blessing my sis.and wishing her well and that was my victory. The second time was when I got pregnant with my first pregnancy and the same time my colleague and friend was pregnant but I lost my pregnancy. When we resumed work after summer break, my friend with her already big stomach came to hug and greet me I hugged her back and laughed with her but deep down I felt so much jealousy bc I had a flat stomach instead of a big one. Jealousy, is a great tool in the devils hand and if we let him, it can make you think eveil or even harm the next person. When I got home, I cried so had and prayed. I spoke to my spirit and went ahead to bless my friend and prayed for her safe delievery that was how I won. And today, not even up to 11months after the miscarriage, I already have a 3 months old daughter. In essence, what I'm saying is, if you let that jealousy get the better part of you, you'll end up destroying yourself and not even your friend. One secret is, start praying for your friend and wish her well. It may be difficult at first but just watch how that jealousy will leave you. God bless you...

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    1. God bless you for this, the best advice ever you just spoke to my soul ... thank you and thank you again

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  41. I advise you stay away from her till you sort whatever Is going on in your head
    Try and get some help

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  42. Likewise me, I have suddenly develop deep jealousy on my colleague at work. She is always luckily to have a boyfriend that spends a lot on her while me is always stingy guys that are coming my way. She answers calls like kilode while mine hardly ring. I am not happy about the jealousy but it still coming. I have prayed to God to heal and kill this jealousy but it still coming. Please fellow bevees help me on the ways to overcome this cos am tired.

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    1. Why are young girls like you easily fooled by appearances?? Even if men are pouring all the money in central bank on her head, so what? Are you meant to be receiving calls up and down when you are meant to be working? Are you able to do what she might be doing to get money? Do you know some disgusting things she is swallowing in return. Be content with who you are and upskill yourself rather than worry about men giving you money please.

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    2. My dear, everyone of us goes through these struggles of feeling inadequate, jealous, not beautiful enough, not financially buoyant enough except those who want to delude themselves.
      The secret is when the thoughts crop up in your mind, tell yourself we all have different paths, there are areas where one person will do so well and others where they are not so good.

      Was the good son not jealous of his prodigal brother and justified to be?

      But he spoke to his father who reassured him.

      Speak to yourself this time and realize there are areas where God has compensated you for what you are jealous of in your friend or colleague.

      When the negative thoughts come, quell them with good thoughts no matter how hard they try to persist or overwhelm you.

      With time the thoughts of jealousy will fade away and you'll realize the negative emotions are not there.

      Peace ..

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    3. Anon 17:19, Jezz, what a reason to be jealous!!!!!

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  43. See witch confessing.
    I always say jealousy is witchcraft. So many people have killed friends and siblings because of jealousy.

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  44. One thing i know is that students generally envy their mates and wish to know as much as the other person but how you channel this envy matters. she might be the type that doesn't read much just listens during lectures and makes good grades while you might be the type that has to burn candles before you'll pass. So you need to discover the method of studying that works best for you instead of wallowing in jealousy.
    Another thing you being from a wealthy and background,might be making you feel you don't really need to stress yourself with studies afterall,you have everything you need. While your friend being from a poor home puts in her best so that she'll make her 'poor people' proud I see that a lot in school. Be jealous of your friend in a positive way and her academic prowess will rob off on you. Jealousy could even be hindering your progress in school. Lastly,you said your GP is not up to 1 point? Hmm you are in danger zone and anything lower than that,you could be going home.

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  45. This is not heart to heart talk oo Stella. Like talk to her and tell not be intelligent again lmao.
    My dear this is what you resolve on your own. I was a bit like your friend ehen I was in school, although I read, but I played sports alot. Always playing basketball, travelling for competitions, but smashing my courses left right and centre. Came out with 4.3 GP Biochemistry.

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  46. I have read through the comments and most persons called her a witch lol.... If we all want to be truthful to ourselves, we have gotten jealous of a person for some reason or the other not because we want/wish to be jealous but it just happens and once we realize the spirit of jealousy is creeping in we begin to fight it in different ways because it wasn't intentional.
    Poster I am happy you have realized this part of you and you have to fight it, there are many ways to fight it and I will tell you the few I know and I have practiced.
    1. When ever the negative spirit of jealousy starts try to say positive words in your mind and tell your self to be happy for her because your own wins are on the way
    2. Prayers also work, don't understand estimate the power of prayer, once that negative feeling comes pray against it.

    One the other hand, the way you adressed her as "poor thing" really speak bad of you which shows this jealousy might be deliberate and if it is then you need deliverance maybe that is why most comments says you are evil, witch.... Then you need to ammend your ways but if former be the case just follow what i said up.

    Poster also know that whether you connect her or not after school that can't stop her progress because God is the father of all connections.

    Poster call me ☎

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  47. Poster, pray for your friend. Prayer is not about changing God's heart to do something for us, but about changing our hearts to be better people. When I am mad at someone I pray for them and my anger dissolves. It will be difficult to be jealous of someone you pray for. Be grateful you have such a smart friend, and be grateful for other non-academic talents you have (family inheritance). Don't you want your future circle to be made up of smart people as friends? That's what people pray for!

    Also, your friend is not the reason for your non-success. No matter how jealous you are of her, it wouldn't dim her light. Rather, it would dim yours. Someone else's beauty, intelligence, success does not in any way, block yours. What may be blocking yours is your attitude or your heart. She has shown you so much good, pray that the envy in your heart is purged. Cos that girl will be very successful, whether you help her or not. I have had people confess to being jealous of me and my sisters. Despite it all, God has been watching over us and we are still successful all around.

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  48. Poster I am glad you have admitted your jealousy. I believe that God really loves you and wants you to change, that is why you have written to Stella. Now listen and listen well. Start being a GOOD friend to your kind friend. Your friendship so far seems like a one way street. You need to start giving back and yes you need to help her get a job and better her circumstances if your friendship does survive. You are self centred and selfish, but it is not too late for you. Jealousy and envy and very destructive emotions. If you do not let go of such emotions they will completely consume and destroy you. Ask God for forgiveness. Ask him to cleanse your heart. You have every material advantage over your friend yet you are not happy. Make time to seriously study. Use the resources you have to buy study guides and study aids for both of you. God brought her into your life for a reason, to help both of your fulfil your destinies. However, if you let your jealousy take over, God will elevate her without you. Take heed and alter your ways.

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  49. I suggest you pray for her more. Anytime I see myself envious of someone, I just pray for that person concerning that matter I'm envying her. In your case, why not pray for her to be more intelligent and focus in her studies and see all the envy in your heart disappear. Cheers!

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  50. Everyone on here preaching, but this seems to be an African problem, envy and Jealousy, I want what you want, I will kill and maim you if have i dont get what you have all down to greed and selfishness. Where do you think most Africans are highly competitive? Envy and Jealousy, ...

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  51. Is normal to feel jealousy about ur friend but you has to work hard to be like her, also try to find ur strength and shine with it.

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  52. All you need now is to find a way to achieve the same result she has. There is a law of giving and receiving. Try as much as possible to buy her gift. As you do,you are tapping from the grace that she carries. She has the grace of intelligence. Sow into her life. And you will see yourself becoming like her. Don't be too jealous because there must be something you that she doesn't have too. Also note that Everyone has strength and weakness. Every one has different grace

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  53. My dear, u need Jesus..Spirit of envy/ jealousy is a bad one, please checkmate it before it gives birth to children.. Y don't you work on yourself to be like her..She no get 2 head.
    Bv NEME

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  54. Dear poster, I'm happy you acknowledged your jealousy. It happens sometimes. But everyone has a cross to bear. You come from a very comfortable family. GOD has blessed you in that department. While she comes from a broke family and GOD gave her intelligence. That's how to balance life. If you were the poor intelligent one, I'm sure you would still be jealous. It's not who passes in life that gets the biggest position in life. Look at our politicians and entertainers. Most of them didn't finish school, but they are doing way better than people that graduated with honors. Just pray to GOD to give you your own blessings and help that girl in anyway you can, if not, GOD sees your heart and he would rescind your blessings

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  55. This chronicle is about her friend, right? What will you guys say when I tell you how my two elder sisters don't wish any good thing to happen in my life? Yes, we are of the same parents (mother and father).
    Anytime something good happens for me, they both can not hide their feelings but I thank God that I discovered quite early and applied wisdom in telling them things about myself.
    Was it what they did during and after my wedding? When I delivered my child? When my marriage packed up?
    In all these, I have never done them wrong. I take their problems as mine but when I have a problem, they gossip and mock me(caught them many times).
    What amazes them is, the more they mock me, the more God uplifts me to their shame and disappointment. I keep winning and people who are older than me keep trying to be like me without success forgetting that, the heart God created me with is different from theirs.
    I got a better job some time ago and they couldn't hide their disappointment because according to them, they are older and so, good things should get to them first.
    A lot has happened and initially I found it very difficult to forgive them for all the pain they caused me but God has really helped me and shown them clearly that He blesses whom He chooses to bless, not by age but by grace and favour.
    Now, they want me to relate normal like nothing happened in the past but I am wiser and not ready for that any more. I greet them and try not to relate beyond that so that they will not do to me what they did before, these two do not want any good thing to happen for me.
    I make sure not to discuss anything about my life with them.
    They see how I have grown tough and emotionless towards them and I see regrets in their eyes most times but my mind is made up - affliction must not arise a second time.
    All these envy and jealousy became pronounced to me only when I got married some years ago.

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