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Thursday, July 02, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE VIRGIN QUESTION


Good day BVs, pls help a sister.


 I am about walking down the aisle with someone I don't love, but is a good man. I have tried and tried but the love isnt coming,I am 25 and a virgin....

Is there a guarantee that love will come later??? I am so scared but I want to marry. ..



*Nothing is guaranteed and in life everything is a gamble....If you wanna take a risk marrying someone you dont love,then be prepared for anything...Marrying someone you love is also a risk.......

Only take decisions that give you peace...

Being a virgin is not guarantee for love...Maybe when he begins to tantalise you in bed,the love part will come....

115 comments:

  1. its better to marry a man who loves you more

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    1. I’m almost in the same boat, just that we are not wedding soon. I don’t love my boyfriend but he adores me. He’s not my first boyfriend so it’s not like I’ve not experienced what loving someone is like. He’s been pressing to come for introduction but I’ve been pushing it since late last year, covid19 even helped me push it without questioning.

      I’ve tried breaking off things, I told him how I feel. He said he doesn’t mind giving me time to grow on him. We’ve dated for two years and he’s just two years older than I am.

      My friends say I should marry who loves me more, but I feel he deserves better. He’s a good person, young and not ugly ( I wouldn’t mind a finer face on him sha). I easily loose patience with him because his attempts at being romantic unconsciously annoy me. The matter confuses me daily

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    2. My dear, that Stella's comment, take it to fist bank and cash it fast.

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    3. From a divorcee who was in your shoe. I will ask one question. Do u have peace when u think of the marriage. If u dont have peace walk away. U ll be surprised how pple change in marriage . Sometimes the thing telling u not to go ahead maybe Gods signal. I didnt like him but I felt I was too choosy and he loved me more. I didnt have peace too but unfortunately experience was my teacher. Think and ask yourself. Those lil things u think are not the issue will be the one to break the marriage.

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    4. The way some people say some things with so much confidence would leave you speechless.. na wa oh

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    5. You see a man u tell u don't love but he says he doesn't mind. Be weary. Go read about narcissists and love bombing. They always love more. Buying u gifts, taking you to expensive restaurants. Until the temper starts and they guilt trip u that u r ungrateful etc. Babe if u dont have peace run

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    6. 16:00 please, do yourself and that your boyfriend a favour - let him go.

      Love and marriage can't be faked or endured.

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    7. Anonymous 16:00

      Your boyfriend is a big fool.Only a very foolish man will be with a woman who is irritated by his romantic moves

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    8. I hate that phrase. It’s utter bullshit. Love should be vise versa.

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  2. You dont love him but you want to marry:

    Faulty foundation already...

    Scamming the young man...you marry him and make his life a living hell just because you don't love him.

    Maybe he doesn't love you too....perfect recipe for disaster.

    Goodluck.

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    1. Poster, sometimes love comes later in marriage. But the truth is, there are various factors you should consider besides love.

      Love is usually not enough for a successful home. Shocking but true. Many people who are divorced or separated today were once in love with their spouses.

      Have you considered purpose?
      Have you considered spiritual compatibility?
      Do you values align with this man's own?
      Are you okay with his habits?
      Do you have peace of mind as regards your relationship with him?

      Purpose is what makes a couple move in the same direction in life. For them to function as a team, they need to have a common purpose and support each other in fufilling it.

      What makes a relationship thrive, and makes it purposeful and meaningful is when values/virtues like respect, understanding, sacrifice and so on are in place or upheld.

      Marriage is sacred and a very serious business. Don't go into it out of desperation or pressure. Before you walk into it, please think seriously about these points I mentioned.

      All the best.

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    2. @ Pure Inspirations, you are truly inspirational... God bless you for this comment. You have said it all.

      Poster carefully read through this comment from "pure inspiration" he/she is so on point.

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    3. I wish you good luck@poster
      I pray you love him someday.

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    4. @pure inspirations, your advice is so apt and the best for poster.

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  3. BEST ANSWER ANTY STELLA JUST GAVE OUT NOW

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  4. If he is a good man and treat you right, go ahead, Love sef is not a guarantee for a happy marriage,because shit always happen, just be open minded and stay happy. All the best.The ones you loved why they no marry you?? Face the available and make the best out of it

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    1. I follow you for this one ๐Ÿ’ฏ

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    2. At 25? "Face the available and make do" at 25?

      Haba! Even girls over 30 still have choice biko.

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    3. Poster, better be sure of your decision before you marry to avoid could have and should have.
      pray about it. Trust in God and lean not on your own understanding.

      The heart of man is a mystery only God knows. God alone knows if he is indeed good for you despite your present feelings or lack of them.

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    4. I agree with Stella and Pure Inspirations wholeheartedly.

      This life na gamble sha........
      May the odds be in your favor.

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  5. You won't be able to tolerate his flaws poster.

    What you would overlook for someone you love would become an issue difficult to ignore. At a point he too would become frustrated because he knows he's the one trying so hard to make it work.

    You would have to conciously put more efforts to make the marriage work.

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    1. @Twins Squared ๐Ÿ’ฏ%๐Ÿ‘Œ

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    2. Poster take this advice and do not mind all those people saying love is not everything in marriage because it is...

      A lot of things you would accommodate when done by someone you love will irritate you when someone you do not love does it... and when it comes to sacrifice, it's easy to sacrifice anything and everything for the sake of love but where there is no love, sacrifice becomes a huge burden... even the bible says love never fails

      I believe LOVE is the most important thing you need in a marriage because it makes everything else fall in place, trust me

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    3. Marrying someone u love can also be energy consuming because u'll want to do too much to please the person.and sometimes the person may not be appreciative. Even after sacrificing for the one u love he may not be reciprocating n may be ungrateful, u know men's love decrease wit time especially after sex they like looking out. I loved my first husband but he ended up not loving me enough after marriage, my second marriage I chose peace of mind n likeness, mutual respect n not infatuation/lustful love. That is why the saying it is better a man loves you more. I can easily say this second marriage is easier than the first when I was stressing myself to please the one I love to no avail, cooking, cleaning, forming good wife to him n inlaws. But now because my hubby loves me he doesn't need me to stress myself, he helps to cook n clean. Doesn't even mind buying food when I'm indisposed n sees good in anything I do. When we quarrel he says sorry times unlike d first I was emotionally abused being sorry all the time. But if u find ur soulmate who loves u so much through thick n thing n will always chose u everyday that is d best. Regardless of how much a woman loves, a man's love and heart is the most important for a marriage to work not the woman

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    4. Ano 08:41... you're getting it wrong, love should be a two way thing... it should not be one sided, please.

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  6. Hmmm. Everything in life is a gamble just like Stella said.
    Anyway, married people please educate us with experiences.

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    1. The intensity of a man's love is most important. No matter how much a woman loves, if a man doesn't really love you, forget it. The woman go suffer tire. N u know most times men don't marry for love, they marry for convenience. Which most women don't know

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  7. Hanty, what is chasing you? You better think twice. Don't be in a hurry to marry someone you dont love bcos you wanna answer Mrs.

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  8. You might love him as time goes on or hate him more as well. Y not ask him for sometime to think about this before u make mistake that you will regret all your life.

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  9. The relevant questions are;
    *What is the attraction marrying this man, "good man", money, abroad?
    *Are you being compelled to marry this man, fear of parents, what friends will say?
    *Is there someone else you love?
    *How will you cope with romance with this man?
    *Does this man know of this apparent loveless disposition of yours?
    *Supposing you find someone you "love" (actually lust after) will you jump ship?
    Tell yourself the truth and do the right thing.
    The only thing that doesn't fail is LOVE. All these listed above will fail...1 Cor. 13:4-8
    ๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️

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  10. Its better a man loves a woman .so if you know he loves you much then go ahead and marry him.May the Good Lord see you through, Amen.

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    1. Please it is better they both love each other... love shouldn't be a one sided thing... and yes, i'm a woman

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    2. man loves more, but woman should love too.how do you people have sex without love...

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  11. 25 and desperate. Smh..

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  12. Why tell us about that 25 there?
    Isn't it just but a number?
    You are walking straight into a loveless marriage with your eyes open and you are asking us questions?
    What's the motive?

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  13. Hmm my dear please don't enter something you will regret..Did you read yesterday's chronicles? Please do and learn from it

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  14. Why torture yourself so. I hope you don't write back that you fell in love with someone else while already married. Think carefully before walking down that aisle. Good luck.

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  15. Have you prayed? Take it to God in prayer. You shouldn't base the success of your future marriage only on feelings. God sees the future and knows what we don't. Let God lead you and ask him to give you peace. Ask him to reveal to you if the decision you are making will end up being a good one or not. You will be fine.

    Gates.

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    1. God is KING!
      However many people come to the sometimes erroneous conclusion that what they want is God's will for them. Such people always change their tunes with the tide.

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    2. Anon ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝwell said !!
      Just had this conversation.

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  16. My dear Please don't enter something you will regret for the rest of your life..Did you read yesterday's chronicles? Please do and learn from it. Being a virgin does not make you immune from life issues..Tread cautiously..

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  17. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Tantalize bawo and i totally accede with Stella

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  18. You are still young, why the rush?

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  19. I'm not understanding
    Then what was the attraction??
    Or you jumped at the offer just like that???
    Like nothing attractive at all ,from there you can build love though

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    1. Some men can pressure ladies into relationships, before you know it time don waka. That's why it's better to think well before entering. Take it to God in prayers and take a break from the relationship in the interim, absence they say makes the heart fonder, if you don't miss him and the prayers aren't revealing anything please leave him to find his missing rib. You mentioned that his love gestures irritates, is it because they are coming from him or he isn't speaking your love language?

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  20. Please read yesterday's chronicle. Do what's best for you. I wish you well.

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  21. Hia. Life na gamble shaa...

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  22. Na wa o.
    We virgins are plenty on this blog sha๐Ÿ˜.

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    1. Lol@we virgins.
      Poster,calm down and rethink your decision again.
      The ball is in your court.
      Being a virgin doesn't guarantee good home anyway.

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    2. Not to mention we recycled virgins ๐Ÿ˜
      With Jesus all things become new. ✌๐Ÿพ

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    3. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚anon which one is recycled virgins

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  23. Being a virgin or not is not a guarantee for a successful marriage.

    I'm so sure why you said yes to him is just because he's rich, well follow your heart.

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  24. Abeg marry your marry... I no dey for small pikin chronicle.
    Stella next chronicle biko!

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  25. Hmmm I don't know the reason you are marrying him, since you don't like but respect him, go ahead because I have seen many people who married out of love but are regretting it today wishing they chose peace of mind instead of love as love is never enough in marriage.

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    1. @QUEENAMY you think there's peace where there's no love? Love comes with great peace my sister... there's a difference between love and infatuation, don't confuse the two, please.

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    2. That is why I agree with pure Inspirations. Because love is not the only factor. Compatibility of values, faith and the person's person are important. Other things like finance, inlaws, tribe, education, profession, friends, habits, dressing etc also matters. Ultimately God's will for you is the best, but in reality this can be quite bogus to determine.

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  26. You are still young,why the rush. Don't rush into something you'd regret later in life.

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  27. Na only India series I dey always see d story.
    Pls don't marry someone u don't love oo

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  28. See you working into daylight misery.
    Its bad enough that couple who claim to be in love break each other's head not to talk of when you dont have any atom of love for him. ...that you go kii and bury him then.

    You don't have to marry him aunty...and dont say our mothers did it bla bla bla, that was a different time and age.

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  29. Hahahaha. Stella that your last paragraph na to m ochi. Exactly. When she eats the fruit at last she will love the man by fire by force.

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    1. Not a guarantee, except they happen to be compatible and the guy is very skillful.

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  30. Everything is just 50/50, Been a virgin does not guarantee.Just peace of mind.take Stella advice.

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  31. I disagree with stella. You have no iota of feelings for this guy, chances are high that you won't keep up with pretense for long. Had you at least 30% love(feelings) I would have kinda advised that you risk it. When I was single, any man that comes my way that I don't like, the thought of ordinary peck/kissing and intimacy with him makes my skin crawl that I don't encourage another date. Oh well that's me. Please do not go ahead only for tomorrow, an issue comes up and you stab him. 25 is good for marriage but not too late for this mistake of a lifetime. I hope you have a source of living because if this good man according to you, does not meet up with your financial needs or he is just plain stingy, you won't come back here for another chronicles. We will advice, but best believe shishi you wont see here. Ladies be financially stable before walking that isle. Times are hard!

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    1. That's just it! When I was still single, I can't even date someone I know I can't marry. If I don't love you, the thought of all those intimacies makes me cringe!

      Poster, please talk to God about how you feel, He does wonders. The guy may be your husband but the feelings need to be there to make things smoother, let God help you shape things. If it means putting the marriage on hold, please do so you can sort yourself out. Don't marry someone you don't love to later fall in love with another outside marriage.

      Also, please have a means of income before marrying whoever you decide to marry. I won't stop saying this. A lady should not get married when she's doesn't not have a job. Hnmmmm e no gel at all.

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    2. You are making sense!!

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  32. Uhmmm with all the chronicles some people wont wake up from there sleep, so to think all those chronicles were been cooked up or just a make believe. Don't ever try that nonsense, you are just 25 and already in eager to jump into the institution called mirage. Don't ever marry someone you don't love because you'll blame yourself at the end.

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  33. 3Amigos Bread @6 Okesalu St, Ikotun. 081385163282 July 2020 at 15:33

    Is there a reason why you must get married at 25? Hopefully you’re financially stable or working towards it.

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  34. Poster if he is a good man plus rich.
    I hope he is really a good man because una "good" man chronicles no be from here.

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  35. Well, sometimes it comes out fine at the end of the day.. Sometimes it doesn't, life is a risk.

    But I would still suggest you PRAY about it and also think this through properly, you are not a baby so we can't think for you. Don't let "I Sha want to get Married" cloud your thinking.

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  36. The same mistake people make. That you're a good person doesnt mean only good can happen to you.
    You need to shine your eyes and make sure he sticks all the boxes.
    I mean, you cant be in a loveless marriage and still end up being treated poorly.
    Also, I hope you're a principled and strong person, cos temptations go come

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  37. So far say the man loves you, even if you don't love him , nne believe me , you'll come around. May plenty love fall on you. Na so our parents marry , so no le le

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  38. ABORT MISSION... ABORT MISSION...

    Young lady, what is pursuing you, or are you getting married because all your friends are or racing against time? Even people who married who they loved find it difficult talk more of you, please don't put that man into emotional stress, break up with him now so you both can be free to settle down with who you both love!

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  39. We wey marry the one wey we love dey find exit o. If you find a good man hold him tight.
    Love happens naturally in marriage especially fo we women . Once hes kind and treats you well. Love will come. Love is a commitment you will choose to make.

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    1. Yes o o we women easily catch up with love ❤️, especially when u see other women suffering to get just 10% of love in their home

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  40. I believe that love is a decision, you can decide that you are going to love him. Just open your heart and with time the love will come.
    So long as you have peace๐Ÿ˜Œ.
    If he is a good man and treats you right then you're good.
    It's a risk like Stella said but if he ticks all the right boxes then it is a risk that you should be willing to take.

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  41. If he's financially comfortable and you are not doing badly yourself, love may come. I know money is the oil that moves love along most of the time. ☺๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. Love and Money are two different things. Do not mistake the two... that feeling that comes with money you choose to call love is short lived.

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  42. ABORT MISSION... I REPEAT ABORT MISSION.. all i typed wiped away and don't have strength to type again.. I'll advise you not to put that man through that emotional stress.

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  43. Why do you want to marry someone you do not love? Is it a forced marriage? People say love grows but I don't believe it can grow with someone you do not love at all. If the love fails to grow at this point, you will only get to hate him the more after getting married to him cos marriage will reveal more flaws. Please think about it well..

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  44. Have you considered the things that are making it difficult for you to love him, since you say he is a good man. Try focusing on his good qualities and with time I believe you will develop love for him.

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  45. You may just be scared and this may not allow you to calm down and love him in return..Just relax and enjoy the friendship, you like him enough to marry him
    .Then, you'll love him after all our father's married people they saw coming back from the stream,going to the market and went and asked for their hand in marriage and they lived till the grew old together..

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  46. U're still young, who is forcing you to get married?
    If U're scared then he's not the one for you.
    I believe Love should give u a sense of peace and emotional fulfilment. Please take ur time.

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  47. I hope you don't get frustrated later because you are getting married for the wrongest of all reasons (there's no word like wrongest Sha).
    If there's no attraction or affection, no matter how minute, get ready to endure.
    My advice, don't do it

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  48. Please,don't marry someone you don't love,you may regret it later .





    God Bless Everyone.

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  49. Please,don't marry someone you don't love,you may regret it later .





    God Bless Everyone.

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  50. You may just be scared and this may not allow you to calm down and love him in return..Just relax and enjoy the friendship, you like him enough to marry him
    .Then, you'll love him after all our father's married people they saw coming back from the stream,going to the market and went and asked for their hand in marriage and they lived till the grew old together..

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  51. If the man is taking care of your needs and love you more please go ahead. In my family , we five girls that grew up at the same time, ripe for marriage. We all married because he is tall and handsome but one of my sister had a rich suitor . She complained that the man is short and bald that she has no atom of love for him,but the man pampers her, provides all her needs and always beg her anything they quarrelled.My mother advised her that if she dares lose this man, she will not get a man like him. Do you know that now after several years , she is the only one with best, dedicated, honest husband in my family. All of us our marriages are 'jagajaga'. Love grows with time, you can give him a chance.

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  52. You don't love him but do you respect him?
    Please don't marry that man if you don't respect him.

    Cos where there's no love and respect...hmmmm, anything he does will easily get you irritated and you may start snapping at him, being impatient, basically just a pain to live with. This attitude may in turn "kill" his own feelings for you.
    Now both of you are left without love in your home.

    IMO.. you can go ahead and marry him if you respect him and if he loves you and treats you right.

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  53. Dear poster i go with Stella on this. By the time he tantalizes you in za ozza room, love will come but it's better you marry someone who loves you more

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  54. Poster...please don't do something you'll regret in the future. At 25 you still have some time. You dont love this guy and you arent attracted to him so why exactly do you want to marry him dear?
    There are virgins that have regrets in marriage and mostly because they didn't seek God's face.
    The feelings might come later and it might not, so the best way to know for sure is to seek God's face concerning it dear. I hope you make the right decision๐Ÿค—

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  55. My dear, do what's best for u, if he ticks your major boxes pls go for him, I'd be 33 by Nov, when I was ur age I was very choosy, I only date whom I love, if they loved me as much I won't be here darl, the last one was a distance relationship, I was ๐Ÿ’ฏ faithful and committed to a wrong person for almost 3years.. Where did it lead?? Nowhere.. Pls pray and do the needful.. All the best dear..

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  56. Babe , quit that relationship.love will not come.it is better you marry a man you love , trust me.you will end up frustrating the good man.you need time out to know what you truly want and fun..no fornications oh.
    Drop a clue and I contact you.i love your type!.maybe we get started as being friends.

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  57. Dear Beautiful chronicle owner, The questions you should truly ask and answer yourself are:
    1 How much does he love you
    2 Is he a good person, note that there's a big difference between generosity and kindness/goodness
    3 How MATURE, understanding and accommodating is he??
    4 Does he go all out for you?? What sacrifices has he made for you??
    5 Will you have peace of mind and good sanity with him??
    6 How protected and secured do you feel around him??
    If the answers to these questions are positive answers then my dear, marry him. In the institution called marriage even relationships at times, there's more to it than love, I feel you'd grow into loving him silly with time especially when he de-flowers you, he'd definitely become your all, you'd be so attach to him that you'd never want to spend any minute without him. Go ahead and marry him but then, you should really pray hard for signs and direction from God๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน❤️.

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  58. You are just 25 for goodness sake! Why do you want to settle for a man you don't love. Why do you think you can't meet someone who you'll love and who will love you too soon? People say love isn't important in marriage but it is! I'm married so I know. Love covers a multitude of sin. Marriage is easier when there's love. Trust me!

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  59. I’m currently talking to a guy I do not like at all. I met him online and we exchanged numbers and honestly he is a good guy but I just do not like him I have told him this and we should be friends and he was just begging me that he really likes me and is crazy about me that I should give it a chance that the like will come. I am 5’6 and love tall guys that I can look up at or so but this guy is probably 5’8 so to me he is short because I cannot look up at him we are kinda the same height.

    Few things I don’t like about him

    1) he doesn’t know how to talk (Yoruba people will understand). He doesn’t know how to ask the right questions his conversation is dead most times I am
    Silent because I don’t want to talk to him.

    2) he is always telling me gist about his friends something I never ever and would never do because they told him those things in confidence

    3) He thinks he is better than his friends because he doesn’t drink or smoke but really he is not because he doesn’t know how to talk

    4) I am a strong believer in if you tell me gist about your friends definitely you will tell them things I tell you so i don’t tell him anything about me I keep it really simple with him

    5) the main thing also is he is not a born again Christian and his Christian life is zero and me I’m a born again Christian and I don’t joke with my God.

    6) not so much a problem but he is a divorcee with 2 kids he had with a white woman he married in Europe and she showed him sege so now he is desperate for a naija girl instead with his baggage

    Honestly he is a nice guy and not ugly at all but I don’t like anything about him. He is ready to look after me and actually gave me a gift on our second date which I did too but I keep thinking all these years I haven’t met a good guy and now I meet a guy that tick all my boxes but I just do not like him na wa o

    This life na pot of beans and he is 12 years older than me; I’m on my early 30s and he is in his mid 40s

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  60. I don’t know how you date a guy for so long without love to the extent you are at the point of marriage( that’s says a lot about u as a person too). Personally after after 2 or 3 dates that’s when am bored sef am done. Advice go to compatibility check online using your zodiac signs. Then decide what is priority for you. There is a reason why you have been with him this long. Don’t be selfish and know that sometimes you can’t have it all.

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  61. Cannot advice you here, my husband loves me very much. I fell out of love and he still loves me. I feel sorry for myself, dont wanna be lonely, hence we are still together. I also dont wanna break his heart again, we have been seperated once.

    I have tried loving him but I cant justify little things like cooking ad cleaning for him, i feel like why should i do all that for him when he has his own hands? Thats because I dont love him, I would cook for this other guy i was with, and bring it to his house without complaining, he wants me for real, but what if i break up with my husband and this bf fucks me over after maybe 1 year. I will lose both ways.

    What am I saying? Its a gamble, dont marry yet, give it time and see if your feelings change. If not, dont do it. You will be miserable. I was crying when I was watching that movie on netflix called 'plus one' why? I felt bad cos I know if I continue with hubby, I will live my life not loving anybody. Its a sad feeling.

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    1. All I see is a selfish selfish human being I feel sorry for your husband. He definitely deserves better. I guess you are probably one of those entitled millenuals who are sharp but not wise and whose idea of life starts and ends with themselves only.

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    2. Anon 17:55 I can't really blame you because sometimes the heart wants what it wants. Still I think your instincts are telling you that you are in the right place. Have you tried praying to God to touch your heart? You can still love your husband. Try to focus on all the good sides in him. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, and you don't really value what you have till you loose it. I wish you the best anon.

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    3. Why won’t you fall out of love when you have a boyfriend. Madam you have psychological issues.

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  62. I never loved my husband before marriage and he was aware of it ,but these is my 8yrs in marriage,I am now madly in love with him,infact I thank my mum that pushed me to him.he adores me.
    So many times love does not garranty a good marriage.
    So pls go ahead and marry him you will not regret it.

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    1. Please how can you say love does not guarantee a good marriage? So you think if you didn't develop feelings for him your marriage will be rosy?

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    2. How do you know she will not regret it?Are you her?
      Is she you?
      Just because you ended up loving your husband in marriage doesn't mean she will too

      Y'all are two different people

      Instead of you to advise her to seek God's face

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  63. sounds like you have other motives...
    at 25 age is certainly on your side...
    ps don't marry someone you do not love

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    1. Age is on her side, age is on her side

      Naso Amaka turn 50

      Poster i am not advising you to go into a loveless marriage o

      May God direct your path in Jesus name (Amen)

      and please if you want to marry him for selfish gains, don't go ahead with the wedding

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    2. Completely agreed with you. Love and marriage is a different feelings can only go altogether when you find someone in your way. So, get married whom you love at all or who does not like you. Love romance and feelings of course will be burnt and turned into hate and unpleasant if so happen.

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  64. From all indications he is not even your friend. Mehn...nah...

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  65. Please marry him o! So that we can read your follow up chronicle in a year or 2๐Ÿ™„

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  66. Leave somebody’s husband alone! He’s not for you! His real why is probably saying God when? You have no feelings for him. Let him go and find his own.

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