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INFERTILITY FEARS


Hello Stella,



Please help me post this in the chronicles section. I am 26 yrs old and I am set to marry next year. My problem is i am constantly in fear of infertility even though no doctor has diagnosed me with anything serious.. Due to this reasons;
*My mum had me at 36 yrs old


* My aunty suffers several miscarriage before she later had her daughter at 44!
* My cousin is in her 6th year of marriage and still waiting
* i have never mistakenly gotten pregnant even in my very careless moments with my ex boyfriend. My friend said i would have gotten pregnant mistakenly if I'm fertile.


I'm just worried and sick of thinking it might be hereditary, i don't know what to do. I was suppose to get married early this year but i keep postponing it for my parents and even my fiance is getting tired and he thinks I'm playing games with him but i can't open up my fears to him..i can't stop googling anything i noticed about my body and its driving me insane.

 Please help me bvs I'm going crazy, i don't know what to do about my irrational fears.



*Did i post this before?Yes?No?

Anyway,stop being afraid of nothing and stay positive

57 comments:

  1. You haven't Stella
    Your case might be different my dear. Get married and allow God take control ok.๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

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    1. U have gotta be positive,hun

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    2. No,you haven't Stella.
      Defeat starts from the mind.

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    3. Poster please remove that negative thought from ur mind, becos life has way of playing according to our thought.

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    4. Stay positive always so that your fears may not come over you

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    5. You cannot die before death comes. Life is not for the faint hearted.

      We all have our different journeys in life so stop thinking you will struggle to give birth cuz you have a few family members who struggled.

      Start being positive, start talking to God about your pregnancies and children, start eating right,start taking your folic acid daily, lose weight If you are over weight and finally, go ahead with your wedding. There are a lot of verses in the bible to strengthen your faith, Prayer is the key.

      All the best dear.

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    6. Be feeding your mind negativity. Be positive, rebuke fear and pray always.

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  2. You will have babies in your marriage. You're not your mom, aunt or cousin. Have faith in God.

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    1. As a man thinketh in his mind, so is he.

      What you think of daily becomes your reality.

      Fear is terrible thing and opens the doors to the possibility of that which you fear the most. Dont forget this statement " that which I feared the most has come upon me". Who said that? Job.

      Fertility is a mystery. Nothing guarantees nothing! Not your virginity, not your past 1001 abortions, not your fire tounge speaking, NOTHING!!!

      What's the fear about? This is 2020, so many options unlike in the 80's. Better technology and medical breakthroughs in reproductive medicine in case you even have any problem which I doubt.

      Many parentless babies looking for mothers to adopt and love them.

      Do you know the law of attraction? Start TODAY to imagine yourself heavily pregnant. Start preparing by reading pregnancy articles and following baby Instagram pages.

      Don't forget your daily folic acid intake.

      Let this be the last time you will ever talk nor write rubbish like this on yourself. God bless you.

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  3. Your case may not be the same as your family members, you could have a different experience as regards conception.

    It's best if you let your fiรกnce in on your fears and both of you begin to seek medical help.
    Don't get so worked up till it's medically certified.
    Above all, pray fervently about it.

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  4. Poster, its ok to be afraid, but pls do not be negative about urslf. Be prayerful and hold God strong. Who dey serve God no dey shame

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  5. Even if is a family thing,why not embark on serious prayers to break that yoke,worrying will not give you the solution.

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  6. Same here getting married next year never been pregnant
    Removed fibroids earlier this year n my Gyno said im good to go
    Dont overthink it !
    God dey

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  7. My dear, pray and have faith
    Think positively, just because you family had infertility issues doesn't mean you would

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    1. I mean, even if you need help conceiving, This is 2020. Science is breaking barriers in the area of fertility.

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  8. 1) stay positive, stop confessing negative.
    2) Go for a checkup
    3) Rest your mind
    4) you're not your mom, aunty, sister, neighbour etc.
    5) Get married, f*ck hubby's mind out, and spread those babies.

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  9. My dear, STOP being afraid o. Remember the story of Job, when he lost everything, he said "that which I feared..." . Whatever negative thing, you think, will happen, because you will give the enemy room to work. Pls do away with that, and be speaking to your womb that you are not barren. You will conceive and carry to full term.๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

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    1. Its a lie whatever you think doesn't always happen.. I feared infertility for years due to cysts and i concieve on our first night

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    2. Candy you just sound like me and I am just seeing your comment.

      See poster, one day I will find the typing energy to write about myself and how I defied every medical norm in fertility matters. Leave matter for Matthias.

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    3. I feared infertility too due to past sins, I have had two d&c and I was so afraid I may have problems. Infact I wasn't in a hurry to get married but I did and within 4 years,I had 3 kids.

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  10. A visit to a good gynecologist is the answer to your fears.
    That people ahead of you failed doesn't guarantee your failure, you can choose to be different.
    Tell your fears to God in prayers,He cares

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  11. No doctor diagnosed you but 6ou choose to be pessimistic bout your life.
    Why are you doing this to yourself ?

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    1. She's just being realistic especially with the history of infertility amongst the females in her family.

      @Poster, every body's destiny is different. That it happened to A doesn't mean it will happen to B. To allay your fears, visit a gynaecologist to run tests and confirm your fertility. If there's any issue, the earlier you begin treatment to correct it, the earlier you will conceive.

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  12. That's d same fear I always have when I think about marriage until I mistakenly got pregnant in 2017 and had to remove it cus I wasn't ready. Now my new fear is what if I've removed my only baby. But God forbid.

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  13. Why not try having a baby with your future husband. Or rush now to mfm for generational curse

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  14. Do not let the fear of unknown kill you before your time. Stay postive and all shall be well.

    If you want, you can go for hormone profile test but that doesn't mean that God will not still settle it if there is any issue and in time. Always think positive

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  16. Calm down, stop comfessing negative, settle down and you will have as many children as you wish.

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  17. I had fears of not getting pregnant too before i got married. But guess what? I had 2 children in 2 years. So, dont worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will take care of itself. If you love your boyfriend enough and he ticks major boxes, go ahead and marry him. Everything else will fall into place

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  18. Please have a positive mindset, you will carry your own children by God's grace

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    1. I don't know why she is just being afraid,I have seen a woman that have so many children but her children finds it difficult to conceive.

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  19. It sounds great when we say ' Be positive and everything will work out for you'.

    Some of us are saddled with this fear and it'd really be helpful if any Doctor or gGynea her can list some of the necessary tests one can take to tick these boxes.


    Something like a fertility test or scan and the cost implications.

    Poster, you really need to open up to your husband to be and if possible, take the necessary test to rule out your current fear.


    All the best.

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  20. Hian! Please, stop creating issues for yourself. Relax and believe you will have your baby(ies) immediately after marriage rites.

    Stay Positive.

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  21. Poster, cool your mind. Think positively and prophesy good things into your life,womb and marital life. Go ahead with your marriage plans and hope for the best.

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  22. Stella it's deja Vu playing on your mind. You posted something similar though.

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  23. Fear not poster, your case is different.... God will grant your heart desire as soon as you get married.

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  24. Poster please stop killing your self with thinking,always tell your self that my case is different.

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  25. Poster, be still and relax... You're still young and because others related to you had issues doesn't mean it will happen to you...

    Stop being anxious...

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  26. Poster please don’t start thinking about all that ,it’s too early now , ur case is different dearie .. U ain’t ur Mum or ur Aunty !! Don’t be surprise u will get pregnant on ur wedding night !! Please stay positive , trust God and be happy .. Godz got all ur problem all in control

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  27. Why not see a good gynae and do a full hormonal test to see how your reproductive organs are doing. #staypositive

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  28. Fear has torments.
    You fear because, you aren't living right.
    If you weren't fornicating and "being careless" with your boyfriend,
    you won't have written this chronicle. Many times, we humans give
    the devils the raw materials to work with.
    If we obey the laws of God, which is for our own good, we have absolutely nothing
    to fear.
    Think about it. If you remain chaste and wait till you marry, is it God that benefits or you?
    If you give your life to Jesus, follow his teachings, hope for eternal life, is it God that benefits?
    If you fast and pray to seek God, is it God that benefits or you?
    Think about it and do the right thing and fear will vanish from your heart.
    Life is beautiful in Christ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

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  29. Too many ttc stories on internet these days, I have noticed a huge rise in infertility issues in our society..
    I am even scared myself even though that I have never done abortion before...
    You just have to conquer your fears by trying..
    CJ..

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  30. I used to think like that because I had irregular period. But guess what? If my husband's breath touches me, na belly o. Na me dey run now.

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  31. So why not intentionally try catching some shot on your pick period with your guy

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  32. Decree whatever you want with your mouth, you don't have to follow their footstep, the power of life and death is in your mouth, say whatever you want with your mouth,reject delay and barrenness

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  33. Poster why are you fanning the embers of your fear..Don't fret...Pray against such happening in your life..You need to be positive because it happened to your mum and relatives doesn't mean it will happen you..Be anxious for nothing but in prayers and supplications make your request known to God.

    You can visit a diagnostic centre and run test to be sure of your fertility status but I will encourage you to believe the report of the Lord..The devil is bring in fear so you would lose sight of the great thing that is happening in your life..Dont allow him win! You shouldn't be afraid telling your intended husband of your challenges, fears and feelings..If you are, then there is a problem..A man that loves you will be ready to be with you no matter the circumstances..However remove the fear but have a positive, powerful and sound mind..All the best..

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  34. In my friend's family, no woman has ever got married. Her fathers sisters, none got married or have kids. Guess what, my friend has just got married and is pregnant.

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  35. I had this same fear when I was preparing for my wedding, fortunately, I missed the next menstruation after my wedding. Just pray about it and have faith that God has answered.

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  36. Stay positive deardont be pessimistic bit be an optimist and believe if it's hereditary,it has ended with their generation. Job 3:25 For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me. Pray against the spirit of fear

    h

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  37. Poster please stop inviting negative energy to yourself.
    Believe that your case is different and you will be the person to break the jinx

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  38. Be positive dear.You are fertile 'tell yourself this everyday"

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  39. Poster have you taking your fear to God.He is the one that created us and has all our spare parts, stop going to google cos you be more confuse.
    Go ahead and get married and watch God in action,just be positive and keep hope alive.

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  40. My Dear I understand your fears but put your trust in God and He never disappoints. Enjoy each day in His Presence.Don't let fear hold you down. I am 38 years old, never married and never been pregnant, praying to meet someone and get married and I believe that Jesus will do it. So Fear and worry not.

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  41. Poster start taking prenatal vitamins or specifically buy folate. If you buy a complete prenatal vitamins, make sure there’s folate inside and not folic acid. Folic acid is synthetic. Folate directly assist with fertility and reset your hormones. Also cut down on white carbs and sugar. eat more veggies, whole grains, lots of water, exercise and rest very well. All these will help with fertility and balance your hormones. And lastly, prayers and positive affirmations helps a lot. Good luck!

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