Hmmmmm....na wah!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SISTER IN LAW CONFRONTATION:
Nice job you are doing here
A friend referred me to the blog and i must confess you are running a good course...
I hope to find the best advice and suggestion to the issue on my mind
I lost my Facebook account to hackers and just decided to open another one when a family friend asked me to rush to facebook and see a comment..
I went through the group for Women where they share without bias its a popular group when i saw my sister in law comment insulting daylight out of my family
My mind hasn't been same again.
Let me begin from the genesis
I come from a nurtured home with two brothers,lost my elder brother to a road accident in 2003 and am left with just one.
To the main gist, My elder brother got married in 2018 to an amazing woman so we thought..
Before the wedding she would come over even to my place we would gist and we didn't even have any course to investigate her or any suspicious...
She is a medical doctor while my brother works with a shipping firm
my brother worked her brother way into the armed force, took care of her junior sister schooling, we were aware and supported afterall we are going to be united as one family.
Trouble begun from when the wedding date was fixed, three months to the wedding my brother lost his job and by then he had gained admission to further his education to get a masters degree.
This affected him badly, The apartment he lives was taken over by a court injunction as the owner of the property children were fighting over the estate
My parents called my brother and his wife and asked that they postpone the wedding cause the way things was going, my brother admission and he was job hunting ,His wife said No that she would support till he gets on his feet and the marriage should go on
Okay ooo
On the wedding day, she insisted that her junior sister must go with her that it was what they agreed she caused a big scene on the reception ground when it was time to leave, We sha allowed her 16yr old sister follow us..
So my father gave them a building 3 bedroom flat to support them(we own the place) so no need to pay rent to ease cost while each month i pay 30,000 to her account as my nephew welfare and my parents take care of feeding
While my brother focus on studies and job hunting
Since 2018 till now, i have done everything to ensure he gets a job but no result
My parents have tried,connections too but somehow his name wouldnt be shortlisted or one issue would rise up
we tried business it would either crash or the good would be destroyed or lost
We still make sure that the wife lacks nothing and pampering her to be patient with him
Imagine my surprise when i saw her comment that we are maltreating her and how she was seeking freedom from the marriage, she insulted me that i was still single and how she feed my brother
I can swear that this lady get nothing less than 70k combined with my parents contribution into her account, Even down salt and maggi we buy in bulks .
Nepa bill too we pay for them..
There is no month foodstuffs isnt sent to her
my brother now works in a betting shop just to leave home to her nagging
A master degree holder o
I dont know if i should confront her for that comment on facebook or lock up
What wrong did we do to her ever since we knew her
Was my brother not taking care of her till he lost his job
Have we even ask for vitamin c or 5NAIRA from her since marriage
Ever when we found out she was a divorcee did we call her out for deceiving us into the marriage?
I have taken her as my sister yet she went online with a false story
Why didnt she tell the world that her jnr sister moved into her matrimonial home same day of her wedding, would people not bash her?? yet we accepted her..
Even when her father warned my brother to be careful of his daughter we didnt take it serious but now i don't know how to react to this public betrayal
what wrong did we do that she couldn't tell us or tell me
Should i confront her?
*Na wah.....
Please by all means confront her but make it subtle....
She has no right to go on the social media defaming you like she did,if there was a problem,she should have let you know.....
talk to her
There is no need confronting her because she is likely to deny to high heavens, and even if she admits it would rub in the the hurt and the relationship would further deteriorate.
ReplyDeletePlease your brother should try to pray his way out of this predicament as this doesn't seem normal.
May help come his way soon and may peace be restored to your family.
Nah...confront her you so will. Don't confront her alone. Confront her in the presence of your parents and her husband. If you don't, that is malice. Your mind will graduallya cook up great hate for her which is not healthy for you.
DeleteSee, she needs to know how foolish and ungrateful she is. Don't raise voices with her but calmly ask her why she feels this way towards your family and you. Also give her opportunity to appologise and be ready to forgive if she asks.
She has things up her sleeve. Help her.
TS screenshots of the comments should serve as proof
DeleteScreen shot the comment and save it then confront her, though not with anger and say your mind
DeletePoster, you should have commented under hers, so she would know you saw what she said. I hope you have screenshot so she doesn't end up denying when you confront her, cos you should. It can make it just the two of you, don't involve anyone else yet till you hear what she has to say.
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DeletePlease choose your battles wisely, this story reeks of a wife who has strong spiritual husband and your brother is standing in his way, hence the loss of anything that would bring him a source of income. Find out what really happened in her last marriage and hold your peace. If possible,call your brother's attention and if possible allow her exit the marriage if she so wishes. If you confront her,it will yield nothing believe me.
DeleteSave your brother first because her type may not agree nor believe she has a problem, not to talk of fighting this on her knees.
I agree with anon 17:14 something is wrong somewhere. How comes he lost everything just when he was about getting married. It looks like a spiritual husband is likely one of the many problems.
DeleteTake a screenshot of her post and send it to her on WhatsApp.
DeleteHope you have screenshots of her post as evidence? She sounds like she's an angry,sad person with her nagging. 70k isn't much for a family of 3 but it's something. I think you should report her to her father. Whatever you do, do not exchange words with her, no matter how provoked. As for marriage my sister, her badmouthing can destroy your reputation and drive suitors. Nip it in the bud. God will give you wisdom.
DeleteConfront her abeg. She still has so many things in her mind she has not said. She should go for deliverance.
DeletePoster, don't let it slide! Make sure you have munched the comment she made on that post.
ReplyDeleteConfront her but, not in an aggressive way. Just let her know that you're aware of all her bad mouthing you and your family.
Some women lie so much... Imagine how she will raise her kids with such a lying personality.
But poster, please don't let your brother or your parents know about all that she has said.
POS that woman is a"dry leaf" with a spirit husband. You guys should pray him out of that situation first.
DeleteVivi you are so right.Im sorry to say but That woman is all shades of bad luck and it’s all obvious. You guys need to pray for your brother.
DeleteLet her know what you saw on Facebook. No matter how you tried, some people can't be pleased.
ReplyDeleteI am telling you . Unsatisfied lots !
DeleteMy brother's wife did the same thing by badmouthing us on Facebook. I came across her comments and screen grab them. But my elder sister insisted we should confront her for now bcos she's pregnant. Waiting for her to put to bed before calling a family meeting.
DeleteHmmm...this is deep. She's such an ingrate going by your story. Confront her in the presence of your brother with evidence too.
ReplyDeleteI'll say you screen grab the comment and ask her about it.
ReplyDeletePeople would post anything on social media just to gain attention and sympathy. I think I know that FB group.
ReplyDeleteIs she even alright? And she's a medical doctor!
Please confront her. What's the meaning of all that?
I'm sure it's someone like her that injected me over one month ago and til now my two buttcheeks are in pain
Kokolets for real😁😁😁😁
DeleteKokolet wan kill me 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteKokolet 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you are out of this world.
DeleteThey wan damage your good hormones. Na wa.
DeletePoster don’t be surprised.. that is how some of them come here to lie about the families they married into...all in the name to gather sympathy.. tuehhhhh
ReplyDeleteWife from hell!!!! My concern is about your brother,God gave y'all the red light before marriage but you went ahead. Abeg pray about your brothers predicament so he gets another job,his sudden problems ain't ordinary.
DeleteExactly my thoughts Madam Liz.. God gave them red light! Poster, save your brother first.
DeleteSave the Facebook post(s)
ReplyDeletebefore confronting her because she will deny. Let her see it and do not do that alone because she will change the story. Confront her before your husband and family members. She appears fastidious. Is she aware you guys are in the know she was a divorcee before marrying your bros? Let her know you guy know. It is deceitful not letting her husband know before the marriage.
By the way, how can her father tell your brother to be careful with his own daughter and he took it casual? She seems ungrateful.
Screen shot her comment n confront her. What a marafacker
ReplyDeleteSeriously I dey vex..Why people dey so ungrateful like this nitori olorun
DeleteVery ungrateful.. See even if you give some people 1million naira in cash or even one of your eye ball for them to see , they will still back stab you! Meanwhile give some people #10 naira.. They will not forget how you came through for them when they needed you the most lailai! This life no balance rara
DeleteVery ungrateful woman. Focus your energy on helping your brother though, because one can only imagine what he is going through. If she wants to quit the marriage, pls let her go. Perhaps with her gone your brother’s fortunes will turn around for good. And yes, confront her
DeleteI'm speechless honestly.
ReplyDeleteI am very angry
DeleteScreenshot the FB comments.
DeleteDon't confront her yet.
Get your brother out of the country.
Quit her from the apartment your dad gave them.
Cut off all financial assistance and free-groceries.
Allow her stew in her own wickedness.
She will divorce herself out of the marriage as she desires.
Plan all this with your parents.
I don't suffer fools gladly.
My own wahala is your brother. Only God knows what your brother is passing through. U had better visit him to see how he is coping. Men are good at hiding their pains. I will advise your brother to be extra prayerful, he who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing from God and obtaineth favour. How can someone plan to get married and his finances are down even after the wedding? The forces against him are indeed strong.
ReplyDeleteEven with all their connections o.. Poster, something is definitely wrong. You guys need to be prayerful
DeleteQueen Amaka you’re so right with your comment, her brother needs prayers, it seems there’s something spiritual going on with him.
DeleteGod bless you Queen Amaka
DeleteVery true my heart is broken haaa why will she do that
DeleteI swear,The force is either from his family or the wife. Very sad situation
DeleteEven the poster's parents should go for deliverance since they lost one already. Hope your parents didn't offend anyone in their family. Your brother and his wife need to pray their way out including you that is not married. Odikwa somehow, you need prayers too.
DeleteShebi you know there are people who know her on that platform, who also know you are the one in picture? My dear confront her, if possible give he gbas gbos using same platform. They read peoples true life stories and then formulate fake stories to show say them sef get issues.
ReplyDeleteIf na me i will reply under the comment.
I read the story on the group and from her own narration it seems she was trying to say his family used his destiny and that is why this poster is not married too.Good to read your side.its better you confront her because that man destiny is being used somewhere.
DeleteThis is so bad.why didnt your family do some investigation before marriage.Please,BV,no matter how nice or innocent a supposed fiancé/fiancée during courtship,investigations should always be made.
ReplyDeletePlease,be careful of her and try avoid her in all ways you can.Your family should be mindful of her too.I will advise that you don't confront her but apply wisdom in your dealing with her.well,I wish your brother the best.I hope she doesn't frustrate him to being depressed.Always pray for your brother as he needs that...
God bless you. She shouldn't confront her at all. That is not a smart move for goodness sakes. She just needs to modify are interactions with her. That's all!
DeleteWhen you are kind to people they think you are stupid. I have the purest of the heart( forgive my saying) but when you act so ungrateful and malicious at that point I owe you no loyalty. "Two can play the game mode is on". I hate slander with all my heart because I have gone through it in the past. To whomever I am dealing with, I can be an angel or.....whichever you deserve depends on you. Who wouldn't want to know the intention of the person they are dealing with in this life? Most people do say they love to read other's mind. Though it isn't possible in a different way that is what God has brought to you on a platter of Gold( her mind in black and white), now you want to ruin it by telling her. Please follow that group with a different name and picture and ask her questions, sympathise with her and let her fall deeper even more to her shame. She has the effrontery to mock your single status, like! if it was so easy to be married she won't have left her first marriage. Most of the time, Women are the ones shaming their fellow women for being single.
Sabella, I always look out for your comments as well as NiB's.
DeleteSabella we reason alike. I don't give backstabbers a second chance to stab me again. I forgive but keep my distance and my my 'antenna' up around a betrayer.
I especially like your advice that Poster follows that FB page with an alias and tango with her sister in-law.
TRUST IS EARNED. TRUST BUT VERIFY.
Thank you anon 20:22. You know this! I Don't Know why poster can't see this is a blessing in disguise. The wife shot herself in the foot and she shouldn't be left off the hook easily.
DeleteHmmmmm, I am speechless dear poster, I think you should have a one on one talk with her...
ReplyDeleteI don't want to believe that she's a bad luck to your brother o. Let her also know what you saw about her comments. Kai, can children of Adam be ever pleased!
ReplyDeleteI'm more concerned about the fact that you brother has not been able to get back on his feet again after losing his job for over 2 years.
ReplyDeleteWhat could be going on?
If he is not lazy or choosy, I'll suggest you guys look into that matter.let the family support him prayerfully. A man's source of likelihood is his crown.
I also hope you guys are not maltreating her because she is dependent on you. Maybe you all thought you were doing the right thing. Money is not enough. Call her and show her the messages and ask her to tell you where you went wrong. Some people will rather suffer in silence than complain about something they don't like.
Wow, that your sis in law is very wicked, screen's hot her comments and yes confront her, let her understand, that you get her game of woes, but no fight, just state your point, at least her nyansh don see sunlight .
ReplyDeletePlease confront her,so you both and the family will know her kind of person.
ReplyDeleteWhen people are looking for good inlaws this one get one,come dey act anyhow.
Who knows, maybe her head no good for your brother.
Please pray for your brother to be broken from this shackles, he is supposed to be the head of the home and not her if everything was okay.
Does she know you are on the group?
ReplyDeleteNo. Then don't confront her. Read everything she has to write then about you and your family. Both The good the bad and the ugly. That is God letting giving you a chance to see her for who she really is. When you have a pure heart, God reveals your enemies to you. They just fall into your hands without you trying to figure them out. That is her heart towards you all and sadly most wives are like that. No matter how nice you are, they have zeroed their minds to see their in-laws as strangers. What do you intend to gain, if you confront her? More lies? Of course she would deny it and leave the Facebook group and go to the other ones to bare her evil heart out. Who knows she might have even sent a chronicle here once and bvs would have insulted the living daylight out of you all while believing a one-sided story. Continue to play your part but don't you ever let her know you see everything she does. Stay behind the scenes and be a step ahead of her. God has led her straight into your hands while soil everything by being a snitch on yourself. This is the only opportunity you have to know all of her intention please don't let your emotions get the better part of you. Calm down, take a deep breath and relax. That is my advice to you.
But Sabella if the only thing is keep track of all..I believe there should some action from poster..She can't allow defamation to pass like that..
DeleteI understand you phoenix but I just didn't think I needed to write out everything for the poster. If the poster is smart enough she will know the next step judging from whatever new findings she gets from lurking around on that site. The action they will take against her is to be one step ahead of her. She will bear out all her plans on that Facebook site. Remember Poster already said that the wfe said she is planning to leave the brother and the marriage and I am sure the brother doesn't know yet. If poster confronts her immediately, it is too early to figure out what else she has hidden in the dark. They all pretend they don't know her plans and she ends up being disgraced before she disgraces them. I just want her to gather enough evidence against her till her cup is full and overflows. Because the truth is, most people telling her to confront her didn't tell her what to do after the confrontation. Else confronting is nothing. She confronts her, she begs and tell them she is sorry and what next? She is still her evil self.
DeleteI just believe if poster bids her time, One of these days she is going to write down some rubbish which will implicate her even more, that is why I told her to keep quiet and keep watching her. Poster might even find out more secrets about her than they already know if she takes her time.
But Sabella, just tracking her comments anonymously will not help their relationship at all! I agree it will give the poster insight on who she really is but it will not help mend their relationship. It won’t help the wife make a turn around (if she is not so far gone) neither will it help the poster as she will just be embittered reading the hurtful words directed at her and her family. I don’t know sha but i doubt this will help them as a family.
DeleteMystic, I am sorry if I sounded harsh but the end result is not to mend the one-sided relationship. The relationship that wasn't broken to start with but She kept on looking for loopholes were there were none. Insatiable human. If I were the poster I honestly would not want her around anymore buy I won't show it. I am not stupid to trust someone like that ever again. I have been there before, a different scenario but people like that,they never change. If I were the poster I would stay online till she spills her lungs out and implicate herself even more that she won't be able to wriggle her way out in the end.
DeleteYea! She is defaming the poster but what if the poster doesn't know about it? Would she be thinking of confronting her? Imagine what she tells her friends, her colleagues, her family about them. The negative stories poster does know a thing about. She hates them and confronting won't change anything. Even the father of the bride warned them to be wary of her. Though we don't know the relationship between them, if its cordial or not but for me, that's something.
The reality is even if you move mountains for certain people, they can never see it. They can never be grateful. I hope you have screenshots of those comments. It should serve as evidence. Let her know you know. If you don't let it out it will keep bothering you. May God bring peace to the family.
ReplyDeleteMake sure you screenshot her comments and let her know how you feel.
ReplyDeleteSome people can be so ungrateful,screenshot the comment and confront her.
ReplyDeleteYou really have to confront her with evidence of the chat, she needs to be called to order before it gets out of control, make sure a relative knows about it to serve as a witness incase she tries further to cause more damage.
ReplyDeleteSome people are wicked Sha... They must speak evil about you no matter how good you are to them.
ReplyDeletePoster screen grab the post,call for a meeting with your parents and your brother and confront her in their presence.
No need to be aggressive about it though,so she can express herself.
Moving forward, you guys are doing very well by sending monthly upkeep, but I think it's better if you send the money to your brother's account instead of hers.
May God help your brother because I can't imagine what he's going through.it must be tough living with that kind of woman.
Why do you and your parents send her the money instead of your brother? I suggest any financial assistance you want to render gets to the family through your brother. Psychologically, it is good when the man in the house provides some money for upkeep - or don’t you trust your brother to spend the money on the home?
ReplyDeleteTo the main issue, before confronting her, I would suggest you confront your brother first. Ask him to tell you if there is anything he or your family did that she may be reacting to, you never know. If nothing comes to light, I will suggest you up the ante. Sometimes, you need to deal with people in the way they understand. You can show her write-up to your parents and her parents then call her for a family meeting so she can explain her grudge. She taking care of the family for 2 years is not enough to be this malicious; and then tell her firmly that if she has an axe to grind, it should be with her husband, not you and your parents - she should have some respect for the people putting a roof over her head and contributing to her kid’s upkeep.
In my opinion, you guys are coddling your bother too much. If he didn’t have your assistance, wouldn’t he have looked for something else to do, even if it’s beneath him? Nigeria is hard, I agree, but I believe your family's assistance is not helping him at all. Privately, you guys should talk to your brother. He can only earn his wife’s respect if he is fending for his family himself else she will only have contempt for him. Anything he did in the past is past tense. Impress it on him that he has to do something urgently now, even if it means withdrawing your monthly support. Free housing is more than enough!
It's like u didn't read d part that her brother now works in a betting shop.
DeleteI will not advise that they withdraw their financial support if they are certain the brother is really trying hard to get a job because he will suffer more in the hands of such wife.
Poster, I'm curious to see how this issue pans out. Pls keep us updated when you take your action.
It’s like if you are not rude, your name would change to something else. I saw it and still wrote what I wrote.
DeleteWhen you have people taking care of your responsibilities, you have more room to choose and select, instead of having a sense of urgency.
He should have done this since, and not just so he can escape her nagging, as she wrote.
Can u explain ur rudeness or u just feel like joining the bandwagon.
DeleteIt’s your rudeness that should be explained.
Delete‘It's like u didn't read d part that her brother now works in a betting shop‘ sounded rude and confrontational. If you want to point out a sentence you ‘feel’ I missed out, there are better ways of wording that paragraph. ‘It’s like you didn’t read...’ is impolite.
I don’t need to join any bandwagon; you are rude to people sometimes, and this is not the first time you put a rude comment under mine. You even had to come back with an even ruder comment, it’s like you can’t be courteous even if you tried.
One sided story.
ReplyDeleteOn this blog, the ladies always chant, don't marry
a broke man, don't marry him, if he has not job etc.
Now, your brother also lost his job, but he isn't a broke guy, is he?
What goes around comes around.
I know what I am writing here. The way you ladies insult guys when
they lose their jobs make it seem like they are the cause of it all.
Now, you found out that she is "a divorcee," how is that an issue?
Don't divorcees marry?
Isn't it part of your chants here all along?
Please, leave this lady alone.
Since your account had been hacked, how are you sure hers wasn't hacked and
someone is bent on dismantling your families?
Eccl. 7:21 Do not listen to everything people say before you hear your servants cursing you..
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Madam market square preacher! Didnt you read that she hid her divorcee status from them? They found out after marriage
DeleteThat woman is bad news and full of negativity. She has ill-luck following he up and down. She's the root of your brother's problem.
ReplyDeleteScreenshot her comments and confront her in the presence of your family members.
"Even when we found out she is a divorcee, and deceived us into this marriage..."
ReplyDeleteReally?
Lady, face your own marriage. YOur brother's marriage isn't yours.
You are merely an interferer.
How did she deceive you?
Did you ask her if she was a divorcee and she said no?
Wow, wow, wow! A woman shaming another woman because she
got divorced? 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
That is all you saw? That she hide that she's a divorcee is a BIG deal. I bet you're one of those SIL that spread lies about husband's family. Mschew!!!
DeletePlease swerve, d woman is a fraud. Left for me, I would make sure she leaves my so called broke brother's house. He will always get another woman, always.
Delete@16:45 -poster
DeleteHope you informed your own husband that;
You visit SDK'S blog
You eat fufu and stew
You can breathe in twice in a second
Yes, a lady and her husband should not keep any secret.
But, for a third party expecting to know details isn't cool at all.
What do you mean by "deceive us?" That Word "US" shouldn't be there.
Is her husband complaining. Aren't you in your own husband's house?
@Blackey
DeleteSo you are one of those women that tie a string on your brother's wife and control
them like puppets?
Wow!
Wow!
Wow!
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Just let your brother know about it.
ReplyDeleteThis story is somehow.
ReplyDeleteIm sorry Poster but you guys have to take your share of the blame. Including your brother. Dosnt he have a mind of his own? Why did he allow his wife and your family have so much say and interference in his home?
He married a bad woman quite alright but what is he doing in regards to it? Is he letting your family do all the talking? The biggest mistake you can make right now is you being the one to confront the wife. Please let your brother be the one to confront his wife in regards to the Facebook chat, not you. Discuss with him first.
Cause someone like that lady would do a lot of damage when scorned.
Confront her to be sure she said all what you saw online.
ReplyDeleteDear sister please ignore her and if she is in her mid or late thirties, that her sister she insisted on moving in with her on her wedding day is her daughter. Take it to the bank
ReplyDeleteExactly! With time if poster is patient enough, everything will come to light. With the kind of woman your brother married. Poster, More secrets are hidden . Brace yourself.
DeletePoster, take screenshots of her comments, call for a family meeting, then confront her in front of everyone. What an ungrateful woman. Don't confront her in private before she uses your single state to spread lies about you in real life. She has already done so online.
ReplyDeleteI also think you and your parents should withdraw your financial assistance. They are both adults. Let them sort things out by themselves. Maybe she doesn't feel free because she feels indebted to you all. If she decides she wants to divorce your brother because he's not able to help financially, then let her go and find her happiness elsewhere. It's also possible she's facing things you are not aware of.
If you don't have evidence, then you have to keep quiet. But withdraw and mind your business. You can share what you read with your parents but not your brother as you don't have evidence and she may use it against you.
Sometimes, husbands are the reason for their wives rude attitude towards their inlaw .
ReplyDeleteI remember when things were very rough for my brother & his family had to move in with us .
In the beginning, my sister in law was very warm & always contributing in terms of house chores.
Suddenly, she just changed oh and started keeping malice with everyone including my mum& dad.
She will not leave her room till her husband is back from work, she will no longer assist in house chores, she started cooking only for her husband& kids.
After many children, the marriage packed up when they relocated to Enugu& she had to beg my parents to interfere(Lol, the same woman that she was bad mouthing& avoiding).
She & my mum had a long ass discussion that day on why she changed& what she did wrong that made her switch.
She explained that my mum didn't do anything to her that she was just following the instructions from her hubby. She stated with verifiable chat evidence that it was her husband that asked her to stop helping out with chores & to keep a distance with everyone in the family because over familiarity breeds insult and since my parents were the one feeding him at that time, he doesn't want to give room to insults.
He told her via chats that my mum and I should continue with the house chores that we were already doing before they moved in with us afterall if they were not living with us, we will still be the ones managing the home.
He told her all our family secrets & the numerous siblings rivalry that he had with my other elder brother& that the whole family prefers him.
Who wouldn't?? Imagine spending money thinking that your son is in school only to realise that he was a truant& never sat for exams.
Dad secured a job in Port authority for him & he got himself in a shady deal that got him arrested.
Sent him abroad & the idiot went there to continue with his cultism, he was deported after the club altercations that he had.
Came back & shop was opened for him, he squandered the capital & profit with 9months.
I don't know but I hope that your case is not like ours where your sister's view on your family is influenced by the lens that your brother might have given her .
I can totally relate, its like heaven just shares at least 1 bad seed to almost every family. My bro can do stuff up there
DeleteSome people can never be grateful
ReplyDeleteBvs Don has said it all.
ReplyDeleteI think you and ur parents should withdrawal your financial assistance after the confrontation for her to reflect on what she did wrong.She is a medical Dr and should provide for her family till her husband is back to his feet.
How come no one is thinking that she is talking about her former in-laws from the marriage she left?
ReplyDeleteI have noticed that some women in the medical field feel they do the men a huge favour by getting married to them, poster you people are over pampering her, sit your brother down and talk some sense into him. Stop breastfeeding a grown man and woman if they don't appreciate your efforts.
ReplyDeletePoster make sure you have a screenshot of the comment. Confront her in front of your family. That girl looks like someone that flip things around and it will work against you if ypu confront her alone. She may even say you beat her up. So make sure your brother and your parents arw there.
ReplyDeleteconfront her and also seek solution to your brother predicament. It is not ordinary.
ReplyDeleteYes,na definitely attack on the brother not to succeed.
DeletePlease screenmunch it ... The whole comments kpakam
ReplyDeleteScreen shot her comment and show to your parents. All of you shud call a family meeting where her parents will be present, it can be a video call. SHE IS A BASTARD. Then for your brother, he needs prayers against retrogression or get and loose spirit. MFM prayers will help. I am sure the wife has bad luck or the bad luck is from your foundation. I am so angry right now becos its the same way that my brother's wife behaved till she packed her things and left him. Ingrates
ReplyDeleteInstead of you to look for a way to deliver you brother from that spiritual entanglement, you are looking for who to fight.
ReplyDeleteGo and pray your brother out of that bondage, let him be free from that wicked union
Ok let me add something here. I know your pain but I will suggest you don’t ask her. Instead talk to your family about it and seat your brother down. 1st off, your brother married a divorcée meaning another persons wife. Your brother needs to let her go becos of a truth, he is not in a marriage but committing adultery. Go to scriptures in Luke 16:18 so let the woman be reconciled with her former husband. Well if your brother already has kids with her, it’s ok the kids are his but that woman is not is wife. I pray the good Lord grant you and your family wisdom to handle this matter. Lastly you all should ensure that background checks and spiritual checks are done prior to accepting anyone into your family. Be it male or female.
ReplyDeleteReally adultery ,what if the former husband was wicked she leaves to marry another she does not deserve happiness ni,sorry I'm lost,is it the same God we serve ,cause my god sure wants me to be happy in my marriage,m meaning if it doesn't work and my sanity or life is threatened I should leave and if need be remarry
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ReplyDeleteDon't confront her yet.
Get your brother out of the country.
Quit her from the apartment your dad gave them.
Cut off all financial assistance and free-groceries.
Allow her stew in her own wickedness.
She will divorce herself out of the marriage as she desires.
Plan all this with your parents.
I don't suffer fools gladly.
(I know I posted this a second time -, yeah, just for emphasis)
Nice advice.
DeleteYou see eh, humans can never be pleased. My own that you will do something for them, to open mouth and say thank you becomes very difficult. Rather they will list all the flaws in the good you did.
ReplyDeleteYou guys are enabling her, the money u guys pay her monthly is actually for what. Can't u guys keep the money in bulk and give it to your brother once to find his feet.
ReplyDeleteThey dont pay rent and still they cant feed, why una dey pamper ur brother like this. Una dey enable them oo.
I think the sister in question is the woman's daughter. Plus she is a divorcee and lied about it. Your brother should be careful
ReplyDeleteMadam make sure you screenshot those comments and send it to all your family members.Your parents should call both your brother and his wife for a family meeting let us see how she would deny it...
ReplyDeleteFor emphasis sake
ReplyDeleteTHE YOUNG LADY THAT ACCOMPANIED HER TO HER MATRIMONIAL HOME IS HER DAUGHTER!!!
I HAVE SEEN THIS HAPPEN IN MANY MARRIAGES
Make sure you are going to send this chronicle to the admin of the Facebook page before confronting her with the screenshot of her comment or else she will report you to the admin and they will remove you from the Facebook page.
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