She aborted because he said he didn't want another baby girl.....
She aborted and lied to family and friends that she had a miscarriage.
She aborted a pregnancy that had formed bones just to save a dead marriage.....
So many women are on this table...ARE YOU CRAZY?
So many women are on this table?
ReplyDeleteYou people should come and tell me why???
Know of a lady whose hers was the other way round. She had two boys , over active , to the extent she started having HBP. These boys were rascals and she sworn never to have boychild again.
DeleteThe hussy really understood her predicament and she was in her late twenties. So they decided they can only have a girl child to make up with the two boys. In their quest , they aborted two boys.
Then after three years, she and hubby decided it's time for another baby and they planned everything with a gynecologist who told them when to mate etc.
After every drama , na boy she still born . Her elder sister and I laughed so hard 😆😆😆 . She felt so bad then and I felt her pain too . Those her boys dey worry SHAA .
My ex's brother enforced this on his wife. He wanted only boys so after their 2 boys she aborted 3 pregnancies. All girls. Very stupid woman. Always angry at others but her jailer is sleeping next to her. As for him, he is satan's assistant. But she's a real fool.
DeleteRubbish because of the sex, may God help us ooo. Do you know if that girl was to be the next Okonjo Iwela. See Mercy( big brother )mama imagine if her mama commot the belle, the girl for dey to change her generations future. I am not innocent and completely different circumstances. But this is very very horrible. Yes I judge this woman. May God replace this one you commot because of sex of the child.
DeleteInstead of all this aborting up and down. If you so desperately want a boy or girl pls save money and go for gender selection IVF; this is 2020.
DeleteIt is so wrong to be aborting just cos you are looking for a boy. I know a family the mum was so desperate for a boy too. They have 5girls and 1boy and God forgive me d boy is d most useless of all 6 of them. Not sure he even graduated school. Its the first girl dat is running the fathers business and doing so well along with the 3rd sister.
God forbid.
DeleteI have 3girls and if I become pregnant tomorrow and it's a girl, I won't abort o. I will only stop having babies after her.
This would be an emotional post .
ReplyDeleteAnd here I am, looking to get pregnant while someone is aborting a child because of her gender which is solely the responsibility of the husband's.
DeleteIt's well.God bless her.
You know, it's very easy for some myopic holier-than-thou deputy St Peter's on this blog to judge single ladies and accuse them of "shooting off" at the slightest chance. But truth be told that married couples are the biggest abortionists! Is it that they feel more justified to have a choice because they are shielded within the institution of marriage or just because sex is ordained in marriage, every other thing including abortion is welcome. Why do married women suddenly become saints? Meanwhile they never changed their true personality from when they were single.
DeleteMtcheeewww...
May God answer me, I desperately need baby
DeleteMy dear you are so right. I didnt know this till i was married myself. First time i saw a couple go for an abortion i was in university then and i was waiting to see d Doc; he just performed an abortion on a married woman. She was even in a suit maybe coming from d office and came with her husband. I put 2 and 2 together when i saw it was theatre dey were coming from and her disposition.
DeleteAny woman who does that must indeed be crazy. That's all I can say
ReplyDeleteI read a story on facebook, the lady had 3girls and was pregnant. She did a scan, and it showed she was havjng a girl. She said she wanted to abort it, or carry to full term, give birth and exchange her for a boy, or say the baby died, because her husband didn't want another girl. I wonder why most husbands blame their wives, when the men are the carriers.
DeleteDon't judge dear . When some women tell you what they go through in their hussys house or in marriage, you'll feel sorry for then
DeleteThis union called marriage no easy at all . When you are blessed with both, just thank God. Though abortion is bad .
Then leave now. Me I had 3 girls. My husband went outside and had another girl. I don waka na.
DeleteSDK do you blame? What do you expect when the society sees any one who has a failed marriage as a failure?70% of most women will leave there already dead marriages if not for what people will say, so they go all out to do whatever necessary including such wicked acts just in a bit to salvage an already decayed marriage. I smh in shame, whenever I read such stories. Its a pity the lwnght women can go just so they will be called Mrs somebody.
ReplyDeleteMy 5 year old son desperately wants a baby sister he thinks she is in my tummy already.
ReplyDeleteBoy or girl I will keep it
I already had three girls and another pregnancy. Horseband wanted to part in it and asked for abortion. I refused mainly because of age/health reasons. He said I am on my own, I will take of the baby by myself. Pregnancy turned out to be twins, make and female. He is rejoicing and boasting to his friends that he is now a man! He doesn't know I am planning my exit! Waiting to give it to him in his own coins!!!
ReplyDelete🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeletePlease forgive him and remain in your marriage. I understand how you feel about this. He went too far trying to walk away.
DeleteHmmm. So sad. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteHe is a psychopath. Celebrating the children he tried to kill.
Delete@ Olomo, pls shut your stupid mouth. Where is your sense of basic pride?
DeleteAnonymous 14:28,ure evil. What's wrong with the advice Olomo gave? Your head is paining you bah 😏
Delete14.28 you shut your own smelly stupid mouth! Because she councelled she forgive and mend her marriage? Stupid air-head who thinks she is a feminist not knowing she has no inkling what true feminism is about. What's wrong with forgiving her husband if that is what she eventually decides to do? What's with the quick condemnation for people who nurture , forgive and keep a marriage? If every woman left her marriage for flimsy excuses do you know what kind of society we would have? Non of us is without fault and our husbands too are expected to understand and forgive us when we make mistakes. Check the content of your marital vows or stay single.
DeleteWe are all built with different capacity for tolerance and endurance. Just know your limit and don't impose yours on another. Whatever your do, just make sure you are making nice lemonade from the lemons life throws your way. Any point the lemons gets too much and you can't deal anymore, get out of that situation be it marriage, career, family, neighbourhood, country etc.
Dont mind dem anon14.50 same them will be mocking divorcees and hiding dere husbands but are quick to shout divorce divorce. Like she will contribute for d woman when she cant care for her 5kids alone.
DeleteMen are silly beings you just have to tolerate.
I'm on this table. I still have regrets. I was turning gwegs - as the society terms older ladies- and due to pressure from my mum I decided to marry. Turns out dude was a divorcee with 2 kids, in my naivety when he asked for my hand in marriage, again, I informed my family who encouraged me to go ahead. I however recall he was asked about his kids and he said they will remain with his ex wife and be trained by her. Had I known.... Dude was really in love with me, he was a dream come true. Before my introduction I got pregnant. Boy!,was he elated while I was scared. My ex before him left me because in 7 years of dating I never took in and I'd been diagnosed of a fibroid. I told my present guy I was told I'll never have kids and so the pregnancy was a shock. Eventually, baby came(girl), and you will think he vomited her....a split image of him. Suddenly, he changed. Started felicitating with his legally divorced wife on the guise of the kids. Then got very mean. By this time, I'd resigned from my very lucrative job to tend to baby as there were complications with her feeding and really she was everything. Then I got pregnant again, first daughter was 9 months, foetus was 3 months.... He turned a beast. Threatened me till I gave in to aborting the child... I regret daily even till now but I had no choice as I had nothing. No job, family waiting to laugh at me, an old mum who will break down, no savings as I'd contributed a lot to having my child abroad... It was bad for me. Then my man changed completely. He Will beat me for even saying good morning to him, started keeping late nights, will beat me at the slightest provocation, will beat me even when he was wrong. Then his other daughters started frequenting the house more often and I learnt he was also going there on a weekly basis. My heart broke but I remained in the union. A very unhealthy one. My once bubbly self turned to a shadow. I prayed day and night for another baby and job so I would leave the union and close the chapter on men. Now 3 years after God has answered my prayers. Whether boy or girl I'll keep my child and then leave the union. Iv decided to leave though with nothing, dust my CV, like 3 months after birthing, search for a job, start life new with my kids. Of course he's not aware of my plans but tells me every other day I'm in his house and have to live by his ways else I leave. His kids come and won't as much as sweep or do dishes. I and my help do everything for them. If u send them he will ask them not to do it and warn me in their presence to stop giving them chores so iv stopped. They are girls. They will be the ones to pay for it sadly. All they do is watch telly from a.m to night. More importantly I feel the need to leave as I don't want my daughter and unborn baby growing up with decayed morals as his other girls exhibit. Its a lot. So much. God help me. All I'll need is a job but I'm certain that by Gods grace I'll find my footing with time.
Delete@19:58
DeleteSo sad to read your story. Kindly read Exodus chapter 1 and John 3:15-18
My father rejected me and all the females after me. He didn't hide the fact that he cherished male children. Finally in his will, he made sure he told us the girls that we are nothing to him by bequeathing all his seven properties to his three boys! Life no balance at all...
ReplyDeleteSorry about that love, but your father no try. Ah Ah. Parents should love their children, irrespective of their gender. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteHow sad and perplexing!
DeleteSorry 13:10.
But your brothers can give you your own share out of those properties since it isn't in your father's hand anymore, right? He already bequeathed everything.
Gates.
Take heart dear. Even if your father rejected you, the creator of the universe will lift you up.
DeleteAm sorry to say this but your Dad was a very very very foolish man. He lacked wisdom. Thank God the universe now has one less unwise man, the numbers will keep decreasing, we are praying and working on it.
DeleteAnd then when/as you get successful someone would tell you to ‘forgive your father, afterall he’s your dad.’
DeleteNot everyone deserves forgiveness Abeg. Let them seek forgiveness from God.
My prayer to you is that you bring blessings to those who love you.
Which can man be that abeg. Someone like my father pampers the female kids and is much more tougher on d males for whatever reason. Even in punishment and beatings d guys suffered it more.
DeleteGender-based issues in marriage. 7 out of every 10 births daily are females, no one can stop nor change that fact. It's a global fact but the stupidity of Nigerian men makes it look like a deadly pandemic. My dad's brothers don't regard my sisters and I as their late brothers children, but regard my brother as their nephew. Except the earth cease to exist,I will not only buy all the have, I will buy their lives and freedom as well. They will serve my sister's and I till they pass out. Many married women now engage in abortions more than single ladies because they don't want to give birth to another girl-child but they are females. Hmmmm it is a man that determines the sex of a child, not a woman. What she has is a reproduction system not a gender selection machine
DeleteDinma Ezeji , 7 out of 10 birth are girls ? Where did you get this stat from ?
DeleteJust so you know , there are more men than women In the world (you can google it )
For every 100 girl birth theres 107 Or more boys
Even in Nigeria women are barely up to 47 % of the population .me are the majority .
I honestly do not know the hype about a male child. This may sound ironic but that's just how I feel. The gender of a child is so unimportant that I try to ask who ever cares to explain why it's such a big deal. I am yoruba and I don't even care if it's a male child or female. As long as it is a human being in good health then fine! My friend is from port-harcourt and says they value male children more and I don't know how true this is. He plans to adopt a male child and pass it off as his own to his family that is, if his wife fails to birth a male. I think people just give themselves unnecessary stress in this life that is already stressful enough.
ReplyDeleteMy driver had five girls and kept looking for a boy. His wife got pregnant the sixth time that she almost dies but lost the baby boy after childbirth. People should be contented with whatever God gives them.
Gates.
She almost *Died* sorry.
DeleteGates.
Gates, its almost a world wide phenomenon. Its worst in india and most of middle-east and Asia.
DeleteIt's a man's world. Patriarchy is as old as time itself hence the preference for male children. Even the holy books are patriarchal.
Gates my mom is from port Harcourt and this is true .
DeleteWell im glad my dad never attached so much importance to gender even though he has a lot of boys .
Most of my mom siblings had extra marital affairs just to have male children.
For me I love girls I love boys whichever God gives me id be glad as long as I have offsprings im good and yes I'd adopt as well.
God did not create women to debase them. Man was given authority over woman for the purpose of accountability and orderliness. He asked man to love his wife like himself. So all the abus3 from men over th3 years is not Gods purpose and plan
DeleteAnd this up there is why Nigerian men will keep taking care of kids that are not biologically their because of their preference for make children!!! Very selfish lots!
ReplyDeleteTrue!
DeleteBaby boy/girl are huge blessings from the almighty God.
ReplyDeleteWhatever gender he gives me, I'll happily bring on board. No gender is greater than the other.
If my husband asks me to abort (he wouldn't dare) cos it's another baby girl, he will regret it.
God forbid me to abort my baby to save my marriage. If abortion is what my marriage needs to be saved, then the marriage can crash for all I care.
Sluttychic.
Yaaaay I'm glad you're okay babes 💓 💗 💕 💖 💛 ❤ 💓 💗 💕 💖 💛 ❤ 💓
Delete👏👏👏
DeleteI wish there's a law that will stop ultrasound technicians from revealing the sex of the baby until the child is born. What errant nonsense. Killing an innocent child bcos she came as a girl. As if you can create an ant let alone a whole full grown human being.
ReplyDeleteAll child matters...
Give them sound education...
Train them in the fear of God...
The law is not the problem. Why try to break what is working? People's mentality need to change.
DeletePS. Your suggestion displays the culture of illogical approach to problem solving that Nigerian govt follows.
There is a law in the UK where u cant find out the sex until 16weeks i think. Google for correct weeks not certain. This in essense means u can no longer abort the child; because all dese indians over there like aborting female kids. By dat no of weeks abortion can no longer take place. And aborting cos of sex is even illegal.
DeleteOh, many married women abort more than single ladies..
ReplyDeleteIf only the society knows..
Chizzy j..
That's not what the discussion is about na.
DeleteRubbish who gave you that statistics? Keep aborting you hear
DeleteAbsolutely crazy situation
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm. I am a Mother of 4 daughters( from 16,14,11/6).
ReplyDeleteI am 41 years. I have decided if i really want to try again, it definitely will be IVF sex selection. My Husband will not encourage abortion sef.
For 17years we have bn married ,we use CD as merhod of Contraception and the 4 times we didnt,we had our Daughters.
So i cannot judge anyone ," I am Team Do Whatsoever Makes You Sleep Well At Night"
Contraceptive jare
DeleteYour last sentence is very problematic. The most evil people sleep very well at night.
DeleteOn the contrary, they don't. You may think they do but they don't. Their evil haunts them but they put up appearances and make you think all is well.
DeleteBV Maximus.
Oh Lord! Things women go through because of marriage.
ReplyDeleteMarried women get zoom to answer with the lord
ReplyDeleteI do not and will notworry about the gender of the children God decides to bless me with.
ReplyDeleteMy only concern is to raise them right.
Boy o, Girl o. May we not birth the child that will end up disgracing us.
Gbam, this is the most important. The boy you are looking for fit turn to big boil we no to bust.
DeleteMy neighbor has 3 pretty charming girls.But you all know that adage"there is no family without a male child, girls are commodities""
ReplyDeleteI watched my neighbor removed more than 7 pregnancies ....the last she did was 5 to 6 months maybe her doctor rejected her, my dad had to call her to order...that children are gift from God
He asked her what if she died during the process and her reply was my husband isn't the verge of taking another wife!!! I had to tell her tobpay her doctor to calculate her cycle to know when to sex for angle child ...which she did n gave birth to a boy.....
You all can imagine the man's display of foolishness saying"it is nowhere marriage started, I'm now a man!!! In my mind "Oga u b goat before"?
😲😲😲😲😲😲😲
DeleteThe obsession with male kids is something else o, say what?
You can imagine,if she had died the husband will not think twice before marrying another wife.
DeleteImagine, she put her life in danger. If she had died, that same man will still get married. Kudos to tour Dad for calling her to order.
DeleteThat line up there is not an adage. That's beer parlour talk.
DeleteFoolish woman. Just cos she didn't want her husband to marry, she had to do series of abortions? All to please a man? My God!!!
DeleteWomen, learn to love and value yourselves.
You make it easy for some of these men to mess and trample on you. Who goes through all the pain and agony of abortion?
If there are complications, who suffers it? What if you die in the process? You think he won't move on quickly?
Sluttychic.
In 2009 November,my cousin gave birth at kubwa general hospital Abuja, so I was in the hospital with her. One woman gave birth and her delivery was very fast..she came out crying (according to what I heard she never bothered checking the baby gender) as that was her fourth child and a baby girl. Her husband came and asked what the sex of the child was,he was told and then he hissed and spoke in Igbo language with a mean face 'nwanyi ozo emegiyaeme'..
ReplyDeleteMy God I was mad hearing that cos I was in the ward, the next thing the nurses devoured him with their mouth and the mumu sorry of a man walked out, the poor woman broke down again
Chaii I felt so bad
Ah! Does he know what labour pain is???
DeleteBut she's married and staying put with a pig for a husband. That's what this society values above all else in women.
DeleteAbortion is a no no.
ReplyDeleteSome people may say aborting a child because it’s a girl is a very cruel and heartless thing to do, why? Because of the reason? It will be much better if abortion in its entirety is seen as a crime. Once you give the right to decide to the mother, then any reason she deems fit will serve as justification for abortion.
If the right to decide is left with the mother, be prepared to get all sorts of reasons, including being forced by the husband/baby daddy.
Couples should learn to accept all children as equal. Equal in capabilities and potentials. All children are equal.
It's is well, sometimes this life just dey confuse person, I don't know how some people think. May God have mercy on every woman that has done crazy and inhumane things to keep a man, may God help them to receive sense.
ReplyDeleteFunny enough, if I'm only destined to have one sex, I'd rather it should be all female rather than all male.
ReplyDeleteThankfully my husband doesn't care. Child na child for him. I pray my first is a girl
Yes, God said;
ReplyDeleteAmong the things he hates are HANDS that shed innocent blood. Proverbs 6:16-17.
The Hebrew midwives because they feared God in sparing the male children which Pharaoh wanted dead, GOD GAVE THEM FAMILIES OF THEIR OWN...Ex. 1.
So Just know that God loves you and Jesus did not come into the world to condemn you (John 3:15-18).
But know that your actions including murders (killing of innocent babies) will be judged at the last day...
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Yes, God said;
ReplyDeleteAmong the things he hates are HANDS that shed innocent blood. Proverbs 6:16-17.
The Hebrew midwives because they feared God in sparing the male children which Pharaoh wanted dead, GOD GAVE THEM FAMILIES OF THEIR OWN...Ex. 1.
So Just know that God loves you and Jesus did not come into the world to condemn you (John 3:15-18).
But know that your actions including murders (killing of innocent babies) will be judged at the last day if you don't repent...
🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
He (she) that sheds the blood of a person, another person will shed her blood... Gen. 9:6
ReplyDeleteDo you understand?
Do you know the sources of all those nasty experiences you've been having?
God is waiting for you to repent and accept the Savior of the World Jesus
Wait o, women do this?🤦♀️😲🧐🙆♀️
ReplyDeleteI dey tell you.i never even knew sef
DeleteI have three girls,I will birth a 4th,even if it's a girl,I am keeping it and not birthing again.my sil keeps saying twins boys,amen but if God says otherwise,I am okay Nd done.
ReplyDeleteGod grant you your heart desire.
DeleteSave and do IVF for a boy. Chikena
DeleteJust take your time and read about billings. Like a comment above said, ask your doctor when it is right to do the do. Then a male child is almost certain.
DeleteMy experience as a doctor practicing in Nigeria is that it is easier to restrain a bull
ReplyDeleteIt is easier to force a horse to drink from the stream,
It is easier to flog out an egg from a rooster
than to restrain a woman bent on abortion.
In her vain mind, she wants to "save her marriage?"
Most of those marriages don't last afterwards.
The way of a murderer is very hard (find it.)🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
ANG! ANG!!
DeleteYou are also a Dr? Okay . ..
DeleteStella na question I ask
Hmmmmm.. Stella no be lie u talk o..
ReplyDeleteIgbo people carry this matter for head eh(pls dont troll me o)
Thank God I have 2 boys and a girl because I had all girls, I dont know how I would have felt.. Igbo men and male child eh...make I no talk too much
You have said it all.
DeleteI know of a nurse who had 9 girls and one boy.she kept on trying for a male child till the tenth.
If you were a male Igbo, you will still do as their men are doing.
DeleteIf Igbo women stopped marrying Igbo men with such mentality they'll fix up.
DeleteThe sex of a child is dependent on the man.
My inlaw no kuku send sex of a child. He's igbo.
DeleteMy brother wife family na typical igbo wey prefer boy. Her mama born 8children because she dey find boy. I thank God she has 2boys and a girl before she for born football team for us.
Had a discussion with a friend about all the things she had to do in marriage just so she can keep her home, things she never in her life thought she'd do because she has.. or rather had a strong moral compass.
ReplyDeleteIt's so sad really, a good marriage is supposed to build you up in every aspect.. financially, spiritually,sexually,intellectually, not make you loose yourself, you'll wake up not even knowing who you are anymore because of some of the things you're pressured into doing.
Single ladies, please pick a God fearing man over riches, looks or anything else. The man is the head of the family just as Christ is the head of the church, if the man does not have Godly values or is not God fearing, he will lead you astray.. because as a wife, you're meant to follow your husband where he leads.
Not saying it will be perfect with a God fearing man, but you both will have a fighting chance.
Same thing applies to men.
IMO.. nothing or no one is worth loosing your soul for. Be it husband, your children, family.. nothing! If it's causing you to sin, cut it off!
God help us.
This is the same issue that killed a relative. She had 3 girls and when she gave birth to the 4th, it ended up being another girl. The husband came to visit and saw that it was a girl and walked out, saying he was going home to sleep. Due to that pain and heartbreak, her BP escalated and she started having complications then she died and her baby followed. She was the one putting food on the table feeding the jobless man. Now her 3 girls are motherless with the oldest being 7.
ReplyDeleteI have 2 girls, and God help anybody that will start telling me rubbish.
I have an aunty that has 5 girls all because she's looking for a Male child and she's getting old, yet keep giving birth anyhow. Same as her younger sis. I have said my own that I won't keep breeding anyhow all because I want a boy. 4 kids and I'm ok.
Women dont have to commit abortion just to save their marriage. Keep your child and you will be glad you did. In this part of the world (Africa) having a male child is seen as what qualifies a husband as a man. In all truth child sex shouldnt be a reason for a crashed relationship. Men should try and do better!
ReplyDeleteCommon it’s not just the men.
DeleteShouldn’t a woman also have a mind of her own?
Mil has only Male children, but I bet you, none is useful to her. Tyrants. And the way they boast about Male empire ehn, you will think they have millions in their accounts, yet they are all trying to find their feet.
ReplyDeleteThis life is not straight at all. When some couples have done IVF multiple times without success for at least a child, some are aborting because the sex is female. May God grant the prayers and wishes of every childless couple.
ReplyDeleteGod help women. If she dies why aborting the man will marry another. When it comes to issue like this, I don't talk where people are because of the response I will get. They will tell me because I have 3 boys.My mum had us 4 girls luckily mum grandma never troubled her. From what we heard as grown up, my dad wanted to take second wife because of a male child but his mum said it is over her dead body that will happen.
ReplyDeletelet's try and be happy with whatever God gave us. Some are crying, praying for 1 and somebody will have 3 and complain about their sex...it is well.
Another angle to this is some foetus being changed from male to female by wicked and diabolical people. Who has heard anything like this?
ReplyDeletePossibly ooo.but ive only heard of God changing genders
DeleteBaltika, it happened to me. My boys were changed to girls. I saw my fil pulling my baby bump when I was pregnant .
DeletePlease, stop!
DeleteThis one pass me
ReplyDeleteI have a pretty daughter and pregnant with another baby girl. I was so happy the day I found out I'm going to have another girl. Hubby's countenance changed since then but he can't open up because he knows I'll give him fore for fire if he says any rubbish. In fact, after this, I am locking up in case he tries anything funny. I will just happily take good care of my babies. We are from nnewi and no human dares open his or her mouth to tell me about how important a male child is.i am fully ready for ignorant people.
ReplyDeleteMy parents have 6 girls and I'm the last born. If you ask my dad today, he'll tell you he prefers his first to 20 boys. I always make sure to ask any guy that bring up marriage topic his view on children's sex.
ReplyDelete** his girls
DeleteI know one that already had five girl and the mother died while having the sixth a boy and funny enough all the children are struggling when they're old enough to be in the university.
ReplyDeleteEven the only boy he's been looking for,he can't take care of him,common exercise book he can't buy,I can't even remember the last he bought clothes for the boy not to talk of school fees.
Stella sef had paid a term fee for him before when I was in the vocational training school and beloved was still the PA then.
I'm just doing my own for God as he is the only one who can reward good deeds.
Had a discussion with a friend about all the things she had to do in marriage just so she can keep her home, things she never in her life thought she'd do because she has.. or rather had a strong moral compass.
ReplyDeleteIt's so sad really, a good marriage is supposed to build you up in every aspect.. financially, spiritually,sexually,intellectually, not make you loose yourself, you'll wake up not even knowing who you are anymore because of some of the things you're pressured into doing.
Single ladies, please pick a God fearing man over riches, looks or anything else. The man is the head of the family just as Christ is the head of the church, if the man does not have Godly values or is not God fearing, he will lead you astray.. because as a wife, you're meant to follow your husband where he leads.
Not saying it will be perfect with a God fearing man, but you both will have a fighting chance.
Same thing applies to men.
IMO.. nothing or no one is worth loosing your soul for. Be it husband, your children, family.. nothing! If it's causing you to sin, cut it off!
God help us.
I love my 2 girls and i am very happy to have them. If i ever have another child, i would be very happy to have another girl or if God says boy i will be good with that too. Little girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. Maybe its cos i have no nigerian man 'pressuring me for boy'😆
ReplyDeleteMy dad's colleague an igbo man who has been married for over 27 years and has been trying to have a child told my dad (we're all girls) that in his place, my dad is considered as someone who has no children at all. Imagine!
ReplyDeleteLol😃😄 can you imagine. You no get at all you dey mock person wey get? Na imm make God never still give am. You ladies can still marry and add your dad's names but him no body will even carry his own surname at all. Wonderful,I hope your dad just shook his head and walked away.
DeleteHmm Stella is like u made this post cos of me...I got married to a to Delta ibo man.my first child a girl,2nd girl,3rd twins girls..ha Stella my horseband change am for me..no feeling again only maltreatment.infact he got a side chick pregnant,rented a flat and bought a car for her..she's Calabar.
ReplyDeleteThen I took in,I was scared of birthing anoda girl.i waited until 6months ND scan confirm a girl,my life shattered stella.i did d unimaginable (nobody shld judge me pls) I lied that I miscarried d pregnancy.my hubby said it was a lie and sent me packing (aferall he was looking for opportunity to throw me out) by now sidechick had birthed her child..a boy.it took the intervention of elders and pastors in our church to bring me back. I came back and was desperate to give him a son,I took in and birthed anoda girl.infact my hubby disappeared.i begged and begged he came back.i took in again and still a girl.now I have 6 girls and I'm called mama Abigail but I'm not done o..I born till I born that boy.
@15:52, you are sick! Your comment irritates me. What!!!!
DeleteMay you not loose your life looking for boy. Rubbish
DeleteMama Abigail, I feel for you. But please, stop! Focus on training the girls you have. I know a family that the mother has all girls. Today,that woman is far more blessed than another woman I know who has all boys. Her girls are professionals today and ar doing very well financially. Mother was travelling overseas before COVID 19 as if she's travelling to another state in Naija. She lacks nothing. But the woman with boys is feeding the boys and their families till today. Dem no get work.
DeleteSo mama Abigail, focus on training your daughters so that they become strong women tomorrow. Your husband will look back and regret how he treated you and them.
Mama Abigail, your husband does not love you. That is the truth. So prepare your mind. Start working if you are not and gather enough to leave and start your life with your girls. Ignore the mockery from people. Tomorrow, they will wish to be like you.
Pray you don't lose your life in the process
DeleteYour girls are worth more than 100 boys
Look what you're going through just to be married to someone that doesn't give a hoot about you , and your well being. Its not easy to birth a child .
Delete6 Girls,you are even lucky you have the money to train them. What a sad life so you will keep giving birth till you have a boy. If this man finally dumps you do u have d money to train those 6kids?
DeleteHow are you sure that son is his?? Stop having kids and train your daughters well and watch how they will become the pillar of your family. Xxbarbiexx
DeleteLol madam you are a suffer head. In this 2020 you dey born like this? Lol. When there is IVF, that you can do sex selection, you can calculate the right time to have sex that will birth a boy. All this time you are using to born up and down, why didn't you gather money after the twins and opt for sex selection pregnancy or why don't you even make sure your 3 girls are the best they can be. You don't even have faith in God.
DeleteI had a classmate 4 girls the parents hang boots dey enjoy themselves and when the last girl was in like primary 4 or so, God gave them a miraculous boy. I know another family who God dashed them boy like that. You are just fighting your own head, na wa...
Anon 16:05
DeleteShe won't lose her life
What kind of person are you?
KING XOXO MYSTERY
@xoxo mystery, I'm not a mean person. A lot of women have died because of this craze for a male child. What I said may have sounded harsh but it's the truth. God forbid she looses her life her husband will move on.
DeleteEgungun becareful na express you dey go. If only you know how those your beautiful daughters will make you proud, you will not be trying to kill yourself because of a man that doesn't live you. Yes! Because if he loves you he will love appreciate whatever baby you birth boy or girl or even hermaphrodite.
DeleteStay alive for your children the man already has a side piece so what is the fuss about.
Well said @ hydrogen. I am still shocked that in this day and age any man will blame a woman for having girl babies. If he didn't do biology in school,I will be very glad to buy biology textbook for that man and teach him. Oga,it's the x you produced that brought the girl child. If you want a boy,squueze your blokos very well so that y will come out. Something that even the man does not have control over,you will now be blaming the woman who has no part to play in determining the sex of a baby. They have not given birth to that man that will tell me that nonsense! Here I am looking for just one and somebody is aborting becos it's a female baby? Let the stupid marriage crash na.
ReplyDeleteAbortion is a big NO!
ReplyDeleteLet's be contented with what God gives us, it's quite unfortunate that most men don't know that, they determine if it's going to be a boy.
Women that take advantage of another woman's predicament by getting pregnant and bearing a son for another woman's husband, may God have mercy on you for your wickedness.
ReplyDeleteMy dear my husband did it and had another girl. All the beg beg now I am sure if it was a boy hian story for different. Anyway I don waka. Make I no die of bp.
DeleteMy mom has four amazing, wonderful girls.
ReplyDeleteChildren that anyone would be so proud to have but ofcourse my father has always had this quest for male children.
My mum told me that right there at the hospital, some hours after she had me (I'm the second child) my dad told her very coldly that he must have a boy. He must definitely have a male child. I don't want to imagine how she felt..
Fast forward to several years later, mum had two more children after me. Two girls.
I was in my first year in Uni when we found out that a woman had a child for my father. Guess the sex of the child?
A girl..
He still wasn't over it. He went ahead to try his luck with another woman. You want to make another guess?
He had another girl.
Now baba has six girls. With two very problematic baby mamas.( I visited home recently and he was complaining about how one of them has been a thorn in his flesh. Mo ya walk away) Baba says he has given up on his quest for a male child. LMAO
Baba is over 65 and he still has to pay nursery school fees and primary school fees for a very long time. Well, if God keeps him alive. I've told him not to expect anything from any of us. We have our own lives to live. He had better create an education trust fund for them as nobody sent him message.
My sister, the fourth born just graduated from Uni with honours. If only he had appreciated what God gave him. He won't have to pay school fees anymore but no, baba still buys pampers and baby things. Oh well...
I always say that God has the power to show you who is God. If you like try for a male child a million times, if God won't give you he won't. If you like, try for a female child, a million times, if God won't give you, he won't!
Give your children the best education. Train them in the way of the lord and watch them soar. Some people are praying for one child. Just one. While you're murdering yours just because you don't want that sex. May God have mercy on you.
God will continue to Bless you, your Mother and your 3 Siblings...
DeleteLol, can you just imagine. No body but God can give you any particular sex.
DeleteNa God save my papa say nobody catch belle for am, if not e for hook am no be small.
Amen, amen and Amen @Chelsy..Thank you
Delete@Y, lol @hook am no be small
DeleteYour story just made me laugh...hubby and baby mama self don scatter...she born boy but na she Dey suffer. Some babes think they are smart. I saw text on his phone where she was complaining that me and my girls have all his attention and money....mo ya look away...lol..she never suffer. He sends money for the boys upkeep sha. My prayers will continue to be answered cos na me get marriage and I no use juju marry. He saw me loved me and asked for my hand so I must enjoy the benefits and all the love in my marriage...na my right and heaven is on my side. Women know your place, don’t let a man treat you like trash especially for something not in your power. All kids are a gift from God and if you don’t appreciate it your loss
DeleteI have 2 girls and so shall it be. If una wan say I never born then let it be so. I am happy with my girls.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was young ,stupid and single, I aborted a male child at about 6 months. I didn't even know I was pregnant. I couldn't go home and tell my parents, who were separated at that time , I also mocked a lady who had 2 girls ,out of ignorance.
ReplyDeleteToday I have 4 girls. I'm super proud of them. They are all doing very well. And I thank God for His grace and mercy upon my life. For even allowing me to have children.
It's been a journey , this thing called *LIFE*.
As much as it is in you, please encourage everyone TTC., Support the girl child, then with a mentality shift, they definitely won't be looked down upon.
A frnd recently chatted me up and asked "chi how did u do it? I answered her how? She said the sex of my children (2 boys and a girl) that she has a girl who is almost 2 years and she is getting ready for another.. "She told me that her husband people has started telling her indirectly that if she gets pregnant, it should be a boy o.. I told her that gender of a baby, is determined by the husband.
ReplyDeleteI told her what works for me might not work for u.. If she wants a baby boy she should have sex a day or 2 days before her ovulation and if she needs a baby girl 2 days after ovulation if only her cycle is 28.. She thanked me and I wished her Goodluck.. What women go through.. If u no born wahala, if u born wahala.. This life sef..
No please it is the other way round. For a baby boy, you have sex on that day of ovulation or a day after. For a baby girl you have sex three days or two days before your ovulation. This is science. God has the final say.
ReplyDeleteAnon.. To me I had sex a day before my ovulation and for.my.last baby(girl) I had sex 2 days after ovulution.. To crown it all, I prayed fervently about it and God did it!
DeleteWell said @anonymous 18:11
DeleteGender dissapointment is a thing all over the world
ReplyDeleteRead babycenter and see for yourself
Some want both boys and girls while some thay have boys only want a girl
Vice versa
Men have left women who birthed only boys to be with a woman that birthed a girl
Bottom line is, someone who will stay will stay
KING XOXO MYSTERY
I have 2 boys and I wish and pray God will give me a girl. I plan to give at least 4yrs gap before having my last baby because I had serious complications the last time (c - section). I have been following pregnancy pages on fbk hoping to get some tips.
ReplyDeleteI have 2 girls and God will help any man that asks me to abort a pregnancy because it's a girl child. I plan to have one more baby and even if it's another girl that is the end for me. If any of my in laws(because my husband dares not)tries to make any comment about me having only girls, they will get it hot hot from me.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha... which one is squeeze your blood very well.
ReplyDeleteMy MIL has 6 boys cos of looking for a girl child. I joined in prayers and fasting for the last pregnancy. The baby turned out a beautiful boy looking like a girl. We just accept him like that and the woman hang boot. This baby has grown to be too beautiful and hairy.
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