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Wednesday, August 05, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
RELATIONSHIP THAT TAKES AWAY YOUR JOY:


Good afternoon everyone,

I grew up in a family where the mother is the breadwinner,my father lives the life of a single married man. Any money he makes is hardly used for the family but for himself. He gives outsiders money but to give to his family na big war and although my mum takes care of us effortless,that act actually made my mom to endure her marriage instead of enjoying it. 

My mother always rings it to our ears never to marry a man who can't take care of you because sorry to say he will not take care of your children.


Now down to my issue,I've been in a relationship with a guy for a year now and I noticed it isn't hard for him to borrow money from me and when it's time to repay me he get angry. He doesn't give, he also gets angry at the littlest thing.
His entitlement mentality is top-notch as he sees it as my responsibility to assist him. Mind you, this is the guy that has never given me money before o. I always make sure I'm there for him,but my people, it's draining.


I believe in the 50/50 thing in a relationship, so it's not that I'm pressuring him to give him money.
Now,I'm tired of being the only one that puts in more to the relationship. I've lost my happiness and Joy because of 'man'.


It called it quit recently, and he cried and said it's because of his financial status I'm breaking up with him and ever since he has been pleading.

The main reason is because I do not want to start what I can't finish. I don't ever want to go through what my mother went through in marriage.
He has asked that I pray about it because he says I'm the one for him and that I'm over reacting.
I do not know what to do now,please bvs I need your sincere advice.




*You are the one for him how?please REJECT IT;that prayer is not from God,bind and reject it.....The problems you see now will get bigger later,tell yourself you deserve better and walk away.

104 comments:

  1. OP, Please dodge the bullet.

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    1. I'm a guy but this shit right up there if it is actually 80% true, is no no for me. My sis change your network and location.

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    2. If he blows, he will dump you. You are a maga

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    3. What an elder sees sitting down, you can't see it even whilst standing...you think say your mama wey advice you na mumu abi? The signs are already there, yet you still want to end up with someone like your dad abi? ...

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    4. Lol, he shock him I am sure he didn't know you could break up with him. Abeg stay away from that stingy guy if you guys go back together he will end up pretending till you get married

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    5. If you see this comment my sister, please run with everything you have. From experience this situation NEVER gets better. You are not overreacting. A man may not always have but that instinct to provide must always be there. Intuition is God's gift to you, use it. You already knew the truth before asking us.

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    6. Is he a cry baby? Manipulative ? Knows how to guilt trip you when it comes to money? Says it's because you have that's why you're behaving like this? Refuses to pay back? Always delays paying back? Spends on himself? Financially irresponsible? Obviously, he is.

      I have been there. RUN. they never change. That one was telling me that if it was Dangote's son, would I have been delaying his marriage proposal? Begi begi people. Tmr they will call you runs girl or blame you for their misfortunes in life.

      RUN O. i've said my own. It will end in premium tears, just like your mum

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    7. This is what MFM call familiar cycle, ur mom has suffered and now they want you to suffer. Trust me,ur own case will be worse than ur Mom's, I beg you, reject that evil man, reject ur mom's suffering and reject the familiar pattern.
      On your mark, get set, ruuuunnnnnn.
      Henceforth never date a miser or stingy man IJN

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    8. Lol.... E reach to change network and location ooo....
      Run now that you can before you end up living in bondage.

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    9. Please run with your slippers on your head and your leg touching the back of your head. Man or wpman nobody deserves to marry someone with entitlement, you see that cry... na wash, guyman knows what he is doing. You are just a means to an end.

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    10. Runnn!!! Just like Stella said what ever you see now will triple after marriage.

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  2. What garbage??!!;😲😲😲😲😲huh??poster pls FLEEEEEEE!!!!

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    1. If I talk now they'll come for me. As a woman who knows her worth, there's no such thing as a 50/50 relationship.
      Stop trying to go all the way for a man to meet you.
      No man who truly loves you will keep leeching you off. Forget all that crying he's crying. If you're about to lose your insurance won't you cry?

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    2. Poster, u have not married him, u still have a chance to run now and dodge suffering. Take Stella's advice. I am telling u from what I am experiencing. U are better because u have not married him yet

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  3. Poster I beg you to reject him with all your might.You are not made to marry a stingy and entitled man please. Sugar head is not your portion .flee from that guy now that you can .

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    1. Poster, you are obviously an intelligent girl but not so courageous and need assurance that your decision is right.

      Sweetheart, don't be afraid. Don't give in to his emotional blackmail because even if he blows tomorrow, you will always be that woman he takes from and he will find another who he will be a giver to.

      Move on and be ready assured that you are better off without him.

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  4. You're the one for him, as per his bank na. I believe in 50/50, but it's crystal clear he is taking advantage of you. My opinion o.

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  5. Don't let him blackmail you into going back to him.
    Please,CHOOSE YOU.

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    1. If he was so rich you will not be the one for him. Poster whatever you started now that is how it will continue, you betybe walk away before you fall so deeply that you will not be able to escape it in future.

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  6. Poster, you are not the one for him! A man that cannot meet your needs as a boyfriend will never be able to meet your needs as a wife, add children to the equation; you will be left to carter for yourself and kids alone.

    Men are naturally born givers, especially to the woman that they love. So, when a man claims to love you and he's not making any effort to care for you and support your needs, just know that he's lying.

    How can you be taking care of your boyfriend?
    Continue at your own detriment.
    We will be here to read an update chronicle from you.

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    1. Poster, he is a blood-sucking, joy & money-sucking PARASITE.
      DO TO HIM WHAT YOU DO TO PARASITES❗

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    2. She hasn't really learned from her mum's experience, sorry to say. I wonder if our advice will make any sense.

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    3. Poster come and read this comment and digest it

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  7. Love is patient, love is KIND,...is NOT SELF-SEEKING...1 Cor. 13:4-7
    So if he is selfish, not kind...
    he does not love you. Is it hard to understand.
    If you are selfish, and not kind, you don't have love in you.
    To have love in you is to have Jesus in
    your life. You can't give what you do not have.
    If you do not have the word of God in you like we quoted above, you cannot
    even understand what love is in the first instance.
    Make Jesus your first relationship
    and the rest will fall into place...
    Let me 🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️ in peace.

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    1. Focus on Jesus and the right man will come later. For now, RUN and you will not faint.

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    2. πŸ‘Œ✔️πŸ’―%

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  8. My dear run oh

    When he has he won't give you, if he can't give you from the little he has.

    Poster Call me πŸ€™

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  9. Let him go pls. Any relationship that is beginning to take away your peace of mind is not a place to be. Let him cry premium tears from now till 2mr. Go and pray and tell God to bring your own. Lastly stop spending in a relationship. Learn to be clam on terms of wanting to give. There are a lot of spoilt nijia guys nowadays who don’t mind eating every last dime from a woman. Learn from this situationship and move on. God will heal ur heart.

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  10. There's nothing to pray there. Your mum has done the prayers and was answered. The answer she got she told you and your sisters; run, fly from any man that will not take care of you and your guy is a living proof.

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  11. You have the experience first hand with your dad and mum, are you still toying that same route???Haba mana, that guy is a user, Move on for your sanity or watch him dump you when he hammers for a girl of his class

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    1. Don't mind this poster. She is disobedient to her mother. πŸ™„

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  12. My dear, if you couldn't learn from your mom's experience and dated such a man, there is nothing we will say that will enter your ears.
    Just know he will be worse than your dad.
    Also, even if you are already 40 and ugly, it is better to be single than to be married to the person you described up there.
    Just to add, he will cheat on you, dehumanize you, disrespect you and spend on another or something else.

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  13. I cant stand stingy people be it man or woman. my sister run. RUN RUN RUN. he is only with you for what he can get. fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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    1. And you, do you give freely?
      I can't stand people who can't give buy can't stand "stingy" people.
      😏😏😏😏😏😏😏

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    2. Same here! πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

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  14. You really deserve better baby girl.

    Don't end up with unnecessary wrinkles, depression & anger.

    You already know the right decision to make.

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  15. Poster reject him, I say REJECT HIM OOOO, na dem.

    Don't mind that his tears. Dem talk say eye wey dey cry dey see road, so he know wetin he dey do. When he is done crying, let him wipe his tears.
    Drop him like bad habit.

    Some men are shameless. How can you sit down and a woman will be paying your bills... God forbid bad thing. Tufiakwa!!! Aluu!!!

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    1. As in, that guy knows what he's doing πŸ’―! He's taking advantage of her and people like him even when he has enough money, he won't still care to drop o not to talk of doing 50/50!

      Don't let him guilt trip you with his tears o poster..nahhhh

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  16. With what you witnessed your mum going through, you should be allergic to men like this..You surely do not heed to your mum's advise

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    1. I’m telling you. What I saw my mum go through being married to the only bread winner in his family turned me off completely from Bread winners abeg.

      You can’t enter fire with open eyes then come and cry later.

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    2. Poster, always ask yourself WHAT IS IN IT FOR ME?

      Love your neighbour AS YOURSELF NOT MORE THAN YOURSEL❗❗❗❗❗πŸ‘‚πŸ‘‚πŸ‘‚πŸ‘‚

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  17. U never see husband abeg. Run far with ur slippers on ur head, i mean kaba kaba tins o

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  18. A business transaction gone bad?
    🚢🏽‍♀️🚢🏽‍♀️🚢🏽‍♀️🚢🏽‍♀️🚢🏽‍♀️

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  19. Please stingyness is as the sin of witchcraft. Walk as far as you can and don't look back.

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  20. Poster you better move away from him. Don't allow him to manipulate you into going back.

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  21. Dear poster please don't accept the cry, it's emotional blackmail. My sisters husband cried too after she broke things off because she hated the way his family behaved towards their own mother and close relatives around. Today she regrets taking him back. Don't get me wrong, the man is a good man but he's not a good husband. Please don't try to mange what you can't deal with on the long run.

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    1. How can someone be a good man but not a good husband?

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    2. Anon 15:51;
      Some men are lazy, some father's would rather put outside people needs before their family needs..
      Some father do not care about the welfare of their family, but he probably doesn't cheat or beat his wife..
      So, he is a good husband by some Nigerian women standard..
      Chizzy j

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  22. Like Stella said walk away cos it will definitely get worst

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  23. Poster you just confirmed that you have lost "Your happiness and joy" what's else do you want to hear, a relationship /marriage, where these two characteristics are lacking is dead. So leave that guy and move on.
    If not you will still be unhappy, and maybe end being a divorce;if you both eventually get married, May God help you and open your eyes. I personally can never date/marry a stingy man, the reason is because I give a lot, so I expect a lot too. Follow your heart.

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  24. Take to your high heels like miss koin koin and run.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ It's called a parasitic relationship

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  25. Poster what are you saying? Did you listen to yourself..My dear you are resonating the wrong energy that is why you are attracting the same likes as your father..Your dad may not be doing the right thing but it is between your dad and your mom at the end of the day...You have your own life to live, learn from your parent's mistakes and pray to God to help you in your life journey..

    I will advice that you should not resent or be bitter about your father rather forgive him and Please you don't need us to tell you if to leave that man or not...MENE MENE SEKE MENE..The writing is on the wall? Are you reading or is it not clear enough for you thats my question..All the best..

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  26. The hand writing on the wall is very clear,fleeπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒ

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  27. I read ladies here cry all the time,
    "my husband does not give,
    my fiance does not take good care of me, my boyfriend is so stingy..."
    The questions are;
    Do you give
    Do you take good care of him
    Are you stingy?
    Is there a law that only men give, take good care of women or be generous?
    I do all for my husband and he does same too. I consider whatever I do for him as doing it for myself for we
    are one. That's how it's been since I agreed to marry him.
    😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

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    1. Anon 15:16, i hope you are saving something aside? I hope you have a property or building one? You remind me of how my aunt used to sound.....i hope what her sweetie pie husband eventually did to her will not happen to you. My dear have a side account, investment or property o! Hmmmm

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    2. Haba Stella! I am very disappointed in your comment...how can you advise her to "walk away" from her stingy fiance? You should have advised her to run! Jump fence! Somersault! Disappear! Jaapa! Tear race! Pick race! 100metres! Supernova oπŸƒ‍♂️πŸƒ‍♀️πŸƒ‍♂️πŸƒ‍♀️πŸƒ‍♂️πŸƒ‍♀️πŸƒ‍♂️πŸƒ‍♀️.
      I survived my stingy and entitled ex husband for 15years! All our businesses and 2houses (MY HOUSES), were all in his name. You know i was so stupid and naive and swallowed all that was taught in marriage counselling hook line and sinker. Then i noticed some kurukere behaviour, i went to the bank to request for all our bank statements, my husband was shopping at boutiques, eating in fancy restaurants, he even took a mortgage for a heavy property in lekki. I checked through his docs at home and found nothing, i had to give him valium 10 on a friday night and told him i was going for vigil. Drove to the office and went through his files. My husband had bought other cars for God knows who? And two other properties at magodo. Thankfully my house in opebi was still in my name and two other plots of land. I took the documents home and hid them far down my travel bag. Called my lawyer to meet me on monday. To cut the long story short, i was smart to have the majority shares and other partners were my friends and one of his. Called for a board meeting and audit, fired his ass, divorced him after 5months, bought a duplex, moved in with our children. He remarried almost immediately to a very hot chic that drove the other cars whose docs i stil have. ...any way iheard she's moved out and my dear Tunde isnt finding it easy. My dear sisters, spend on husbands , have a joint account if you like, but always have a back up plan. I almost lost my all, my livelihood because of my naivety. N.B there are still some very very good and trustworthy men and their percentage is 0.0000001%. Cheers to all women with working brains

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    3. @15:30
      Your aunt is not the Scriptures.
      YOur aunt's lifestyle is not the standard of God.
      Neither I or my marriage are God's law.
      We strive everyday to live by faith according to God's law.
      When you say, keep aside, build aside, save aside,
      it is just like saying, have a small wooden, iron or golden
      "god" by the side, in case God almighty the creator of the earth,
      this Jesus that died for you, fails you, isn't it what you mean.
      Let me tell you, marriage is a mystery as illustrated by Christ and
      the church Eph. 5.
      My husband and I have everything together, in our names. But
      above all, we have eternal life and inheritance
      in the Kingdom of God and that is the ultimate.
      Thanks for your (fear-mongering) advice. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

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    4. Anon 15:51 let's just pray it doesn't end in premium tears for you. How can you compare husband to God? Even sometimes we feel like God has abandoned us not to talk of mere man. God is always there for us but you can't trust men ooo. Always have a back up plan. Have a separate account. Invest in 1 or 2 properties, invest in assets and stocks because no one knows tomorrow. Don't let love blind you. These men are not loyal ooo. Be wise. I wish you the best. Hope we won't see your chronicles one day.

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    5. Anon 17.07 abeg leave Anon 15.51 make she dey do my husband ds my husband that. She is too naive and silly

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    6. @17:07
      I see you keep coming back?
      I do not trust "men." I trust God who gave me
      my own husband. He is not a husband to another and cannot be.
      You know what? Come to Christ, make Jesus your Lord and you will
      understand the language of "love that never fails." 1 Cor. 13:8

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    7. Anon 15.51 Mrs i trust my husband. I bet my left nut your husband is cheating on you cos he sees you vulberable and trusting. You might have access to the phone he brings home, how about the phone in gis office drawer or hidden in his car. We dey wait your chronicles if you dont wise up. We are Christans and very active in church. Babygal it was a chronicle i read here about a woman who found a phone in the boot hidden in the spare tyre of her husbands car that triggered my suspicions and babygal, i was super right.

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    8. @20:33, 20:47
      Christians do not live in adultery, do they?
      Christians do not live double lives, do they?
      You may be active, very active in the church but
      not in Christ. Your name may not be in the book of life.
      Let me tell you what you call wisdom, listen and read carefully;
      James 3: 14But if you harbor bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in
      your hearts, do not boast in it or deny the truth. 15Such wisdom does
      not come from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16For where
      jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every evil practice.…

      Thanks to you all for your concern. Take time also to read John 3:8

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    9. @20:47
      It is so easy to see the evil side of things. You learnt on this blog about the
      husband that hid a phone in his car trunk. How about learning from this blog
      about the lady (me) who have known her husband for about a decade and half
      ,been married for more than a decade and never argued with him or had issues with him,
      all due to the Love of Christ? How about that? Are they not all stories on this blog?
      Same way people are so afraid of satanic objects and representatives but mindless of
      God, isn't it? Please I am not in anyway belittling your experiences. But
      please do not belittle mine either. I believe you all, why don't you believe me?
      😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

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    10. Muru anya ka azu7 August 2020 at 05:06

      Anon 22:47. Thank you for your comment. I fall into the category of having a good man. And i don't want to love and live in fear. He is the bread winner and have spent millions on me. Like i met him a made man before marriage and you expect me to love him with caution? That's not fair. He risked it all for me. I should reciprocate. Guys anon is not trying to diminish your experience, but sharing her different but rare experience too. There are few good men and please if you find yourself with a good tested and trusted man, hand it to God and take the risk. Do not live in fear. Anon I believe you. Other bvs I believe you too. Sad this is the reality of most Nigerian marriages. Most of our men aren't it. But the good ones should be celebrated.

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  28. Poster,you cannot change a man after marriage cos his tight fisted entitled mentality is in built.

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  29. Please please and please,walk away. He has nothing to offer you. He is a user.
    Do not forget where you see coming from.
    If he had money will he be begging you. All these hanger-on who live off women when they make it, they carry shoulder.
    What are you even doing with a him, jobless and collecting from you?
    Is he the only man? By still hanging in there he is blocking better men from approaching you. I dont know your age but learn from your mother's experience. You don't need this kind of relationship. Tell him to give you breathing space and then cut him off.

    It's is paining me,,,,

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  30. all I know is subconsciously, women are attracted to men with the same attributes to the first men in their lives: their dad that is. Don’t be surprised if your next man would be same; no offense. The third time is always the charm.
    Poster, please tell him you will pray with him from afar. A man simply can’t change overnight....so don’t waste time.

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    1. Poster these are very deep words!!! My father was utterly useless and I kept attracting abusive boyfriends like him and then I married one of them. Thankfully I borrowed myself brain and when the man left me, I decided to work on myself. Now I am with a man that values me beyond what I ever thought was possible. Please pray and work on yourself and your mindset
      so you can attract a better quality man.

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  31. Better don't enter a once chance relationship with your 2 eyes open. He has seen his burden bearer, why won't he call you his own?

    Leave him before you regret it! God forbid bad thing! Tufiakwa!

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  32. I don't blame you poster, we unconsciously gravitate towards men like our fathers even if they were not the best. You need to consciously seek out the opposite, you have a first hand knowledge of what that situation can be like, do not repeat your mother's mistake please dear.

    And stop this 50 50 rubbish, a man is supposed to take care of you then you supplement with yours. Talmabout 50 50, are you people going to split the rent, feeding and school fees bills into 2? πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

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    1. How I wish most of you Nigerian girls will live abroad, just for one year. Lazy and entitled bunch! You have a warped mentality of the man providing 80 - 100% for the family. On what basis? Here, it is 50 - 50! Or at best 60 - 40!

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    2. No I live abroad and I dont do 50/50 with my husband. We are Muslims and any man that decides to do 50/50 with the wife is ota olohun(God's enemy) abroad where you dont have help and by nature women have more responsibility when it comes to children and nurturing them.

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    3. 16:45 do your abroad and leave us to do our African Nigerian. Is it your entitled? Why are you crying more than the bereaved? Lazy free loader abroadian mofo.

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  33. You know better with your mum's experience, RUN,RUN,LET YOUR TWO LEGS TOUCH THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD. That guy is bad market. Ina esisi ko gbodo joni leemeji. Don't allow him blackmail you with crocodile tears. In fact ,block him from reaching you for now and let your mum know everything .I'm sure she will school you properly on stingy and self centred men.

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  34. women like you these days are not so easy to come by. You are willing to go 50/50 yet he is still dragging his feet. Drop him like a bad habit abeg

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  35. Nne don't allow history to repeat itself pls
    Remove ur koi-koi and run as fast as your legs can carry you!

    #ReservedQueen

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  36. Am walking away from the troubles in my life, am walking away from his troubles in my life,according to David Craig! My dear sister hold your breast,pack your slippers and RUN like mad! Emotional blackmail will not work let him go and cry for his parents SHIOOR!

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  37. You already know how the story with him will end, your mom suffered it. Don't let her suffering be in vain. Run from him. Fast and far.

    A generous person will be generous regardless of financial status. Even vulcanized will take care of their babes on their level o, he won't ever miss sending her that 200 naira recharge card and when he needs to raise money, he will call customers, friend and enemies to borrow rather than borrow from his babe.

    Be wise. He has used you enough.
    Run.
    Run.
    Run.

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  38. The problem with girls like you is that except you take extra caution,I'm afraid you'll end up like your mum.its like a vicious circle.from my Christian life its foundational.you need to back your efforts up with serious prayers.tjis is more serious than you can see.i know a family,their mum suffered so much in the hands of their dad.different stories,neglect,DV,women,diseases etc anything you can think of she saw it.now she had four daughters, whom she warned just like you.the woman believed its cause the didn't have a job or a career or even money that she suffered so much.so she tried to establish those girls in any way she could.as hard as she tried,as much as her daughters didn't want to be like her,they've all ended up married to men like their father.facing crazy inlaw interference.even the last daughter that claimed woke and always told her mum to her face how she can never end up like her,is the worst hit.2nd to last is still single though so hopefully she goes spiritual on the matter.girl go spiritual on this matter,cause it may not be this current guy sef,the next person may come in sheep's clothing.on your knees,pray and fast harrrdd

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  39. Dear Nigerian women please learn to run away from any man who cries when you end a relationship and I am shouting this with all the strength in my lungs RUN!!!!!!!!!!!

    From my personal experience and people I know, women who have encountered these kind of men don’t ever have any good stories to tell, thank goodness I am able to experience the other kind who don’t cry and beg to manipulate.
    RUN!!!!!!!!! from crying men

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  40. It's a mans duty to provide and the wife to HELP... please don't fall into the trap he is setting for you. People hardly change when they get married... at least hes showing you his true character before you tie yourself to him. The writing is already on the wall...

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  41. Do you need some slap to reset your brain that this is your father's replica loading? My dear poster run for your life, that is if you love your life and don't want to continue from where you mother stopped. Ignore that his pleading, don't look please

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  42. Poster from what you wrote up there, what is the center of attraction of this guy to you?
    Run before you leave the rest of your life in bondage.

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  43. Congratulations for ending that situationship. He would be worse in marriage. Abeg pray very well not to end up with a man like your father oo.

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  44. Hmmm poster pls don't go back cos what u fear will eventually happen .
    Come to think of it,how do babes give guys their money..Asin what do they tell u.me myself and I can NEVER give my shishi to a guy.for wetin na.i no come this life come suffer o..no be guy buy house for toke and co.abeg me I want to relass and taken kiaruff o.

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  45. Poster please run and don't look back

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  46. That your boyfriend is a demon from the pit of hell. The earlier you run away from him the better for you.

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  47. Stella, I support you on this. My dear, Bind, Rebuke, And Reject such. Run for your life or you will ruin your life with such man.

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  48. it is very important to know that people have different family dynamics. there are families where the wife is banned from working or ones where the wife is not allowed to contribute, there are also situations where a man is not as bouyant as the wife and sometimes request for money. I am traditional in nature and expect my husband to bring a lot of the meat while i contribute a smidgen. Also i dont believe i should cook, serve, give birth, clean the house and take care of the domestic chores and still contribute 50%. Thats bull shit. I mean My contributed 50% is quantified in the shit i do that my hus band cant do or does not regularly do (like child birth and regular house chores) period.

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  49. Nne the dude is crying not because he loves you but what he tends to lose if you breakup with him.
    Pls don't suffer what your mum suffered.
    Drop him like a bad habit. He doesn't deserve a girl like you.
    Pls you're not for him, he should go and look for his type.
    I'm sure he gives another girl money.
    You're not his mother so stop playing that role

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  50. My dear reject it and wear your Usain bolt shoes

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  51. You lost your joy and happiness because of a man....,plss babe pray to God for someone better and move on.

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  52. A simple advice, leave him

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  53. I reject him on your behalf. A big Amen and Amen

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  54. Stingy 1.0 is when they don't give you anything. Stingy 2.0 is when they don't give and still collect from you..your guy's type. Since you guys are not married, you have every right to review this relationship and walk away. Of course not every one who gives to you loves you, but one can't love without giving. If they love you, they will give you. Another thing is men are not as complex as women. If a man is in love, it shows. It always shows. Both in movies and real life. When a man loves and respects a woman, it is the most beautiful thing.

    It's better to avoid men that tolerate or use you and I'll tell you why. Men who do that will walk away once they no longer see your usefulness. If a man is with a woman for papers, once he gets the papers, he divorces her to marry who he wants. If a man is with a woman for money, he will end up duping her and walking away with the money etc. A woman can be with a man for money (or fame) and still stay when that thing disappears. Men are not wired like that.

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  55. Pick race and Runmmmmmmmmmmm far away from him please I am shouting

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  56. It’s actually very hard to break family patterns. Looks like you are getting ready to relive your mother’s life.

    Girls tend to, consciously or unconsciously look for men like their fathers. You have to break the cycle.

    All the best.

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  57. People say we marry our father. This is exactly what you see in your household growing up. So you’re easily drawn to men like your father. You’ll have to make mental effort In all ramification not date someone like your father. Leave this man ALONE for good. Do NOT go back.

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  58. I do not comment on blogs but this one, I will. My dear, run for your life! Take yourself out of that relationship that will keep sucking happiness out of you and stay in your lane. That guy will only get worse and because you assist him, he won’t even give you when he eventually has excess. I know the kind of family you described because I grew up in one. Your mother has suffered on your behalf in this life already. Please don’t let anybody guilt-trip you into believing you don’t deserve a giving man. Please don’t be irresponsible with your happiness and life

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