STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BITTER;ANGRY AND IN LOVE
Good day Stella. thanks for this platform and your continuous help.
Please I need your advice and that of the bv's because I'm angry, bitter and in love at the same time.
Good day Stella. thanks for this platform and your continuous help.
Please I need your advice and that of the bv's because I'm angry, bitter and in love at the same time.
I'm 25 and I work and do well for myself and my siblings as my parents are no more. i started a relationship and it really was promising. Tola cared for my siblings and I and loved me dearly and the feeling was mutual. we planned doing our into. in April this year and I was scared he is matured and I believed he was ready as I was and we planned together. but before the April I took in and that was when my problem started.
he said he wasn't ready and that was not the plan so I should get rid of it.I was scared as I have never had an abortion.I gave in as I thought about many things. I can't raise a child on my own as I have siblings I'm still seeing through school.
2 days after the abortion i met himself and another lady on his bed. and i made up my mind i was leaving. he would not agree to a breakup so i decided I'll move on with or without his consent. but he never stopped calling to say he was sorry and sending the whole world to beg me. months passed and i started seeing another person (FREDDY). he found out (i don't know how) and started making inquiries about the person. got his name,address and even his phone number and picture. he called me and asked if i knew the person i said yes. he went back to begging and crying and even kneeling on the road.
It really was embarrassing. so i decided to cut all tieS with him. And i focused on my almost perfect relationship and i enjoyed every bit of it for months, until i got a call my ex was critically sick and needed to see me. i went to see him and upon seeing him i cried. he looked the opposite of himself and all he did was cry and begged me not to leave him. i got back home and told freddy about it. he got mad at me and for the first time we had a fight for visiting him without his consent.
I resumed talking to him cause i really wanted him to get better. i followed up on his health and all. and he never stopped apologising. he used different means both good and bad so as to make me forgive him and return to him. i know he loves me and i know Freddy loves me too. i decided to seek counsel from older ones and i was asked to pray about it, which i did and found out myself and freddy aren't compatible but myself and Tola are.
I had to explain the who compatibility thing to freddy which took a long time but he finally gave in. So months later i got back with Tola and everything was great. his amount of love and care didn't change. he tries his best to do everything for me (including things i can do myself). the only problem we always have now is " i heard you are still talking to him" " if you are done chatting him let me know". and those words really annoy me .
Not until recently i found out he was meeting up with my friend in secret, telling her no to let me know he came around and to delete their chats. he even sent her money. and that one was even telling him to buy ampiclox when coming. i confronted my friend and she was telling me she did nothing wrong. i talked to him and he said he just wanted to get informations from her and let as go. apparently she was the one telling him shit about me. at this junction i'm fed up and i told him to leave me the hell alone.. and he has started his crying and begging and sending everybody to beg me.
I dont take his calls anymore as i am very angry and fed up. my question now is this . Am i overreacting? Am i getting it wrong? please help me i'm just confused. i'm sorry for the long post and the errors .
Why did you go back to your vomit?You did well by leaving the first time,please leave again and dont look back,even if he uses SARS to beg you,do not go back...So much negative vibes and all...Also cut off that dishonest friend that was ratting you to him please......My dear face front,you are still young and will find love...
If you follow that guy,you will end up sending more chronicles,mark my words...
Please don't get caught up in this mess. It'll only get worse.
ReplyDeleteYou're even under reacting sef. But I wonder what you were thinking going back to him in the first place. A cheat is always a cheat. There's no changing...
DeleteAll this drama and multiple 'months later' is between April and Oct?🙄
DeletePoster, see the way you casually said 'took in'as if you had sex with your husband and just 'took in' after that. I really feel sorry for you young lady. Continue having sex with your boyfriendsss who clearly sleep around. Keep inviting diseases and demon spirits to yourself.
DeleteMeanwhile, having friends that are evil and stupid enough to sleep with your man and use ampiclox to prevent pregnancy is telling of the kind of girl you are.
If you have any ability to think rationally, you will dump that man (who is manipulating you by the way) like hot akara; realign your priorities and stay focused.
Hian
DeleteTola = Ozo
RUN
Go back to freddy. Not compatible doesn't mean it can't work. Block Tola. Change your number.
DeleteIf he likes, let him die
Women married to men like Tola are suffering.
DeleteWhat he has for you is obsession not love.
Men like that can kill or beat u up when they think u are cheating. Even if u are innocent
25 and so childish and dull.Which kind mumu relationship is this?? This whole drama and triangle sound like highschool and teenage romance.
DeleteYou really think his crying and begging,plus sickness means he loves you??? I bet it makes you feel like oxygen.
Any guy that ask you for an abortion,and he is responsible for the pregnancy,doesn't love you enough.The painful part is that you were in the wedding planning process.That should make a sensible man with marriage in view,so happy and speed up the process.It should have been a big red flag and reason to break up.
Those kinda guys are the worse.Cry baby,make you feel he will die without you and is still cheating on you.Don't borrow sense and break up,before you contract an incurable disease..
women generally lack sense
DeleteWhen it comes to Exes, that thing that made u break up with them will always surface, no matter how he or she pretends when u reconcile. That is why they were exes in the first place. Now you are gonna start from square 1 all over again. And freddy is gone. Your compatibility elders are scammers😁... do I pity u? NOOOOOOOOOOO.
ReplyDeleteDont mind her. She was engaging in adultery and stupidly thinks its God talking to her. That's silly.
DeleteIt probably your *** still yearning for Tola, you come dey misread am as revelation. Person wey you abort for. Grow some sense please.
I'm even pissed you're still sending chronicles about this.
BlackBerry,i am with you on this one. Hian!!!
DeleteGbam
DeleteU should move on, he is too immature for u, he will still cheat on u, keep asking God almighty for help
ReplyDeleteThey're both immature. The fact that she is still confused proves this
DeleteGirl, you are 25 and should be carefree and intolerant of rubbish and ingredients at this point. Don't even go back to the Fredie. 25-year-old hard working girls who has found their feet are scarce and highly valued. Focus and take your time to build yourself and your independence now so when you are ready for marriage, you will marry your class.
DeleteYou ran before with your legs and like Lot's wife, looked back. You almost became a bag of salt. This time, fly from Tola and don't look back. Let him beg with his community in tow, let him beg kneeling on Lagos/Ibadan express road, he should be history.
ReplyDeleteGood luck
Aunty run for ur life oo. Not about begging and begging. The guy na stress
DeleteHmmm, you try o. You caught him in the act, and you took him back. How long do you want to keep doing this??? Do not go back, no matter what. Move on, and stop looking back.
ReplyDeleteYour guy is manipulating you with his crying and begging. That guy doesn't love, he is only trying to keep you to himself so that no man will have you. If he truly loves you and wanted to marry you that pregnancy would have keep you both.
ReplyDeleteI will say you are dating yourself at this juncture. End the relationship with him, avoid his calls, stop listening to anyone who he sent to beg you. People like him knows her to hurt a person and can send the whole of Nigerians to beg.
He will never change so do yourself good by walking away. This one is love, the guy is not ready to be serious with you.
That your friend is dating him, she is enjoying what you are enjoying. Stop friendship with her also, face front.
You left a good man for a manipulative man.
But you said your prayer said you two are compatible...
ReplyDeleteI follow you wonder ooo
DeletePrayer ke. Her own heart was telling her she and the Yoruba demon are compatible.
DeleteDon't mind her, like my colleague will say oniyeye
Hahahahahahaa....which prayers it was her punnani doing the praying....it was doing...tola come tola come tola come
Delete“They said you and Freddy are not compatible” on what grounds? Una two be AS??
ReplyDeleteThe Tola that cheated on u while u we’re getting an abortion (and u could have prolly died or lost your womb) is the one that is compatible with you??
Help me make this make sense.
Help me ask her???
Delete@Golibe and Scarlet
DeleteNice to know that you ladies understand that you can lose your womb or life
in procuring an abortion. There is one you did not mention; you can also lose your
soul, I mean eternal hell. 😖😖😖😖
That guy is bad news.
ReplyDeleteBuy ampiclox for what? Some women think ampiclox can prevent pregnancy so are you sure your friend wasn't having sexual relations with him.... Move on dear and rebuild yourself someone better will come!!
ReplyDeleteDon’t worry it’s native doctor that will help you see that he’s your future husband this time around.
ReplyDeleteYou people keep moving around looking for where you’ll see and unsee.
You can’t review your problem and take logical decisions like adults that have a sense of reasoning.
What sentence exactly in this chronicle led you to believe that the poster has a sense of reasoning and therefore can make logical decisions?🤣🤣🤣
DeleteLack of indecision and strong will is her problem...
Delete😀😀😀😀😀😀 @ Kamikaze
As in.
DeleteIt seems you don't even know what you want, when trust is broken it takes more sorry to make amends.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,please,move on with your life and forget everything about him.He is insecured,possessive,manipulative and a Cheat.You don't need sure bandages around you.A better guy will surely,just focus on yourself and again,cut all ties from that your female friend,she isn't a friend
ReplyDeleteAnd while you're at it eh, don't rush into another relationship. Give yourself time before going into another.
DeleteHahahaha...
ReplyDeleteMy dear move on , don't go back to him again!!!
ReplyDeleteBut she won't listen because they told her they are compatible...
DeleteYou went to pastors or praying house go see which one of the men was compatible and yes, they gave you the name of the bad man. You see that you only can choose for yourself?
ReplyDeletePoster, do you give Tola money? He is acting like awon gold digger
DeleteBVs don't waste your time advising her. She will still go back to him. Right there, she said she got into a fight with Freddy for visiting Tola. Yes she told him but why did she have to get into a fight with Freddy over her supposed ex?
ReplyDeleteAfter that fight, she still kept on talking with her ex until she convinced herself she wasn't compatible with Freddy and then she went back to Tola. For her to even be asking for views on this forum still shows she has affections for tola. Yet she still talks to Freddy.
Yes she thinks she is compatible with Tola yet she wants to keep Freddy as a backup.
If you keep communicating with your exes during your present relationship, then you are the problem. No one deserves to be used as a backup.
My dear you see one common attitude of cheats or violent men is that they can beg!!! They are possessed with a spirit and no matter how they want to change they can't because the thing causing that abnormal behavior is living inside!!! Move on!!! You don't need this drama in your life at all. Take Stella's advice and move on if not you will send more Chronicles soteyyyyy life go tire you.
ReplyDeleteStella,ewo ni use SARS to beg you 😅😅
ReplyDeletePoster,Tola is a very manipulative person,he will drain you emotionally.
Don't look back this time around, LEAVE Tola o
What's the point advising you when you'll still find a reason to go back to him after finding something that's more beautiful? I wish you well.
ReplyDeletePoster congrat on going back to tola and you are crying. So which prayer points you want us to give you now?
ReplyDeleteTell me, I go tell you how to do am.
In my colleague voice oniyeye
You actually went back to Tola
ReplyDeleteThey asked you to pray about it
Ampoclox is used by most foolish ladies to prevent pregnancy instead of taking contraceptives or using protection.
You actually broke up with Freddy to be with Tola. If this is not the case of genotype compatibility then you are on a long thing.
You dont just like good men. When you move from one Tola to another Tola, you will appreciate people like Freddy.
You know the best thing is to use your tongue and count your teeth.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
In case you haven't joined the dots yet, your friend told him to bring Ampiclox most likely so she can take it after they have gbenshed.is that really a friend? Pls face front and flee from Tola!!
ReplyDeletePoster run far away fromTola before he kills u. He is too emotional, and such guys can kill.....That guy can KILL u...... Ran
ReplyDeleteChai,who did this to you?So you actually believed this Tola was going to marry you? Why then did he ask you to get an abortion when you got pregnant if indeed he wanted to marry you?My dear,he used marriage to trap you and you threw your legs asunder.The heartache that wil still come from this your Tola is still doing press up,when it hits you,I pray you dont run mad from it.Please block this devil,destiny killer and run for your life.A word is enough for the wise.And please while at it,do penance for the baby you killed and close your damn legs.
ReplyDeleteIn your mind now, you think that this "Tola" or whatever you called him will marry you -"a compromised, murderous womb?"
ReplyDelete(Yes, that thing in quote is the way he refers to you in his heart. )That will be too gullible to think that way. And really,
you can't be praying about "compatibility and incompatibility" and fornicating and killing baby(ies)at the same time.
That dude is using you as a fornication toy and toying with your emotions, womanhood and eternity.
But if you will start a relationship with Christ, he will change your life, forgive you and you will begin on a clean slate.
That is when you will have a relationship that he gives, that will give you peace of mind.
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Which prayer house did you visit. Instead of you to concentrate in taking care of yourself and siblings, you carry man matter for head. Aunty you can go back to Tola since you by yourself told us you prayed and he is the chosen one. Kindly read what you sent in there Lie's your answer.
ReplyDeleteLovelace
Kerewa prayer house.
DeleteHave you noticed how quickly you lost two men and are floating?
ReplyDeleteIt is one of the consequences of your (unrepented) actions. Let me tell you more
Abortion, killing of innocent blood is a sin and God hates it:
Proverbs 6:17 There are six things that THE LORD HATES, seven that are detestable to Him: 17haughty eyes, a lying tongue, HANDS THAT SHED INNOCENT BLOOD, 18a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that run swiftly to evil,…
Consequences:
Gen. 6:9 The person that sheds human blood, another human will shed that person's blood...(also Matthew 26:52)
Exodus 1:15-21 The person that spares the lives of innocent babies, receives good happy family from God.
NB: Being married (into chaos) isn't having a family.
Rev. 21:8 Sexually immoral and murderers shall have Lake of fire as their eternal home
Solution:
Repentance: 1 John 1:8 if we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves. If we confess our sins, he is faithful to
forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Mourn: fast for those killed babies
2 Cor. 7:10 for godly sorrow brings about repentance.
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Deleteso men are prizes or what. And the cheating Tola that encouraged the abortion too is a prize to lose. Na wa
You must do one thing poster. Stay away from TOLA, FREDDY and your so called FRIEND. You will be fine
ReplyDeletePoster, the ampiclox chick is sampling your guy!
ReplyDeleteRid yourself of them both!
That Tola would just block all her chances. Mtchew
ReplyDeleteIf you were my younger sister, na belt I for use beat you. How can you allow Tola to manipulate you like that?
ReplyDelete