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Tuesday, February 02, 2021

Couch Convo .-The Working Wife Who Returns Home To Cook For The Jobless Husband

 Who is standing on this Table?

These times eh, the Kitchen is no longer for the woman alone!








69 comments:

  1. For me it is the most unreasonable thing i can imagine. How and why on earth is the rationale behind this

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    1. Na she won cook. Me that my hubby is not jobless, i still don't cook everyday. I only cook when he comes back from work for the 1st 1week of his return, after that kitchen is open for all to help themselves.

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    2. Na to fry water for am na

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  2. Its a no no no and should not be encouraged in any relationship no matter who they are.

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  3. They will say its her duty now and that's what makes her a woman
    Awon woman expert isonu😁😁

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    1. Simply tell the same people that its the man's duty to go out and make money.

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  4. Because a real traditional, African “alfa” male would never condescend to cook for himself, it’s strictly a woman’s duty and it doesn’t matter if she leaves for work at the crack of dawn and comes back home at night exhausted from a hard day of work. She still has to enter the kitchen to prepare something befitting for her redundant lord and master.

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    1. 'befitting' truly. Because she might want to just make something quick and he decides he wants Pounded yam and egusi soup! Then she has to, because whatever the Lord and master want, he gets.

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    2. You guys are inthe mood todayπŸ˜„

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    3. Lord and master that probably didn't buy the food. Wahala for who be proper African woman

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    4. A real alfa male should be outside making money for his family not chilling at home all day.

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    5. 🀣🀣🀣

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    6. Love the sarcasm sha, they won't even understand that "alfar" males are never jobless, they always have legitimate sources of income that allow them to provide for their families and hire help.

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  5. Na the wife get time na...awon I go die for my husband

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    1. My dear... It's not that o... This thing was enabled right from the homes of these men while growing up! The thing dey pain me die! For instance, you'll leave for work at the same time with your brothers and come back same time, tired just as they are! My dear after some minutes they will go to the kitchen to open the pots in hopes of food being in there!!! Meanwhile, they are very aware there was nothing in there a while ago! Lol. My dear, even to make Semo or garri no way! Meanwhile, soup dey freezer! They'll expect you the lady in the house to do the needful!

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    2. Anon, some men are so mean, they don't care what you go through. Women should know what they are doing.

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  6. Chaiii aunty Stella, this table is finally broken. Come to Abuja and see what some wives are going through. Hmmmmmm

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    1. this abuja own don too much...... so many wives covering up for some of these men. using the wives money to flirt with girls and be forming fine boys upandan...... some women have patience sha.....

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    2. It's not patience. It's desperation to remain "Mrs"

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  7. Some men are just too mean,at least help and cook just to encourage her, even when both spouse work and stress all day, the woman will still come back and enter the kitchen,face the kids home work while oga will be chilling

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    1. @****Bjac****, I agree with you. That why when couples should place priority on more important things when dating. If you are dating someone who you have to always meet their apartment dirt, so you have to clean, wash, cook and do all domestic chores every time you visit, don't expect them to do domestic chores when married. People can almost not radically change especially for the better.

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  8. Awon Househusbands . Lazy ass men

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  9. My dear this write up was so me before now. The man was jobless, he will stay in the house with baby till I come home to cook for him, I will bring money, buy and cook. Do you know that immediately his business picked up, he became a chronic flirt, he nearly died in a hotel with a woman.May his soul rest in peace. The second man that came into my life was so religious that he was a pastor in a church. I noticed that my money disappears mysteriously ,he will use my car to lift girls. He brings money to the house only when they had programme in the church otherwise he feeds on me. I pursue this one and tell my family that I am done with men. Honestly ,I am happier now than when I was living with those leaches.

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    1. It is well with you anon. Happiness is Paramount.

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    2. @Anonymous 13:39, you be think say na "Church" man go better, abi? E shock you. There are is nothing certain in life. Shey the first man cheat, then the second man, "Church" man still cheat. You don see am nau. Shey people go dey talk say move on men dey outside. Who tell una say the men outside better pass the one you wan leave. All na gamble; e fit enter, e fit no enter. Na so life be.

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  10. Ko jΓ³ rΓ rΓ‘, jobless me that's lazy to cook will now cook for one houseband that's sitting at home doing nothing from morning

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  11. The ones that will prefer to park the only car while they sit lazying at home and the pregnant wife has to take cabs. Especially in a city where driving is easy and she can even drive sef. I can never understand how some people's brains work

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    1. My sister please off the mic. This is so me oh God how I suffer with pregnancy jumping bike and keke with my little baby while the fool of a husband park his jeep at home. When the marriage finally ended I bough myself a car as a consolation for the time I and my daughter fell from bike. Marriage I swear na scam. Abi how this stupid man of a ex will sit at all home claiming to call clients for business while me will carry pregnancy to work, from work go to the market, from the market go and pick our firstborn still end up in the kitchen to cook for the useless husband I don't wish my enemy to have. Women really need to sit up. Everyday I thank God that the marriage scatter seriously. I have peace that no penis could give me.

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    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚anon o na real peace no penis could give me πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    3. 🀣🀣🀣 @ peace movement penis could give

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    4. πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ€£ see me eeyaaing till I reached to the end of the comment, lol!
      Sis you are a clown, thank God you came out a warrior!

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  12. That's why someone here was in shock that I was waiting for my husband to finish work to make dinner for his also working wife.

    God forbid that we marry someone that thinks it's an abomination for a man to love and help his wife that way

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    1. And I wanted to know how it ended ooo,told you to tell us if you won but Stella didn't post my comment.
      Stella did me shege that night shaaaa.
      How are you Eka

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    2. I won oh my dear. I won. He later came to the room with a frown on his face to tell me dinner is ready.

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    3. There is nothing like winning in marriage. This is a man you told of how he lifted you from your poverty stricken life here,bought you an iPhone and how he spent giving you a befitting wedding ceremony with stella’s contribution, bring you to the abroad. You now forming hard woman, and you are someone that believes in keeping sideman just in case, who knows if you even have one there, madam, learn to be humble, don’t forget where you are coming from, now trying to join all these women making life unbearable for their men in the abroad, keep your married life private, a word is enough for the wise madam angry bird

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    4. Because they can't relateπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    5. Anon u are still crying???????? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      It's 2021 abeg. May God send you someone to lift u out of your poverty stricken state this year.

      Thank God I didn't marry someone that because he turned my life around will use it as an excuse or reason to not do more.

      Biko, leave me and my husband like that oh. Sometimes I win and sometimes he wins. Sorry we do not have the husband-slave relationship, rather the husband-wife relationship. You know, the 21st century kind.

      Abeg, keep crying, let me go and cook for my husband.

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    6. Ahhhhhhh 😯😯😯😯 world people, see epistle ontop another person's life (Person wey dey her husband house enjoying herself in the abroad) it's well

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    7. Omooooooooo anon hope you’ll sleep well laidis😳

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    8. Anon you ended up typing rubbish. That Eka's life has changed is still paining you. When it comes to husband/ wife matter, mind your business. It works for them

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  13. A woman was once praising herself on how she's a good wife material. She gets home 10 and starts making food for a man that has been home and was watching TV when she walked in. He won't even give the kids food. She'll start cooking and food different meals on days that both him and the kids want different meals. She doesn't sleep till 1 and wakes up early again to go to work.

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    1. @Mawumi(MERCY)She is happy with that. You don't know if that is gives her joy. For you that is suffering, but for her it is her happiness, so we should learn to respect other people's choice and outlook of life. Human beings are not all the same.

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    2. Till she dies from stressed or suffer stroke.

      Which kain sufferhead be that

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  14. 10yrs ago i was married to an only son No siblings a oyinbo man very lazy his parents were rich so he was used to getting help from them he was so lazy that i wd wakeup early in the morning to go and work and he was always fired from his job so he wd stay home without cooking or Even cleaning when i confront him he says i will tomorrow i wd just clean and Cook he did that for 6months i got tired when i get My salary he expects me to Pay Bills too and I paid My 50% but later he became greedy because i was warning more than him i had some friends in another city when its Friday i pack My clothes and put in My car i go out with My friends and dance the whole weekend then i go to work monday morning then go home i find the house the same way i left it i got clever after i got My citizen ship i left him you wont belive how this man fell on the floor crying like a bitch i just laughed. He kept following me but I refused and told him AM not a maid he was will ing to do everything now i said No AM done.

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    1. @Anonymous 14:28, you may not want to hear this, but I will say it: you used him to get your papers. You can argue that, but it is very obvious. There is no way you would have endured that long with a man of such character if your papers weren't at stake. If it was a guy that did that, the ladies in this blog would have insulted him.
      Point number 2, I thought on this blog they usually say that "white men" are better than black men. That "white men" help in house chores, they are loving, romantic and all that. Make una hear now, laziness, romance, love and evil are in all races of the world. Some races may have more that the other, but these characteristics are in all races.

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    2. And you want us to believe you, we know your type, na dem, una type full here using white men to get papers, abeg go find somewhere sit and think about your life, no conscience woman

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    3. All of this with just one punctuation mark........my head!

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  15. It's more painful when you get married/dating as you grew up in a home where the men pulled their weight....it's really amazing and annoying.
    Yes,Women build a home but it can't be that without the Men helping. No women (HUMAN)is a BOB(BEAST OF BURDEN)

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  16. me i don't deceive myself. i have a 9-5 and my husband does business so he has more relaxed time. I always make him breakfast before leave home at 9am. the days i need to leave home very early he is on his own. sometimes he complains and I will tell him me i cant wake up 5am just to make you breakfast. I will sleep late then wake early when you can make your self a sandwich. i cook all the food he eats and sometimes just to make a sandwich for himself na problem. I told him if you can put 2 pieces of bread together because you love how i put it together better then hunger go kee you till i get home. he buys food at home and helps with the kids that is why i go the extra mile to make him happy but sometimes body dey tire

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  17. My sister is on this table. A doctor married to a lazy clown just to answer mrs. Sometimes I wonder why I have foolish siblings just imagine! God knows this my husband the moment he starts being lazy I’m off.

    I’m not the typical woman that endures marriage. Let the man endure me.

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    1. Is your sister complaining to you? Why don't you mind your business. When you are married do as you please. If your sister is complaining to you and she asks for advice then that's a different thing. @Anonymous 15:32, mind your business.

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    2. No worries, we tanda full here dey wait the day you call your marriage off, na to just add you to the statistics

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    3. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜let the man endure . I love you.women are tired if being eran iya.

      Na wa for the man hete replying everyone here oooo. Go and change your ways!if your wife is working you should do house chores and parenting too!stop being lazy!

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    4. The same ANGRY anonymous going up and down to criticize every post,anon16:34 why are you so angry at women??

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  18. Every wife/husband should do what works for their home. It is all these noise and disruptive influences from outside that has destroyed modern day homes. What ever works in your home and gives you and your family peace without stressing all involved, do it and keep quiet. External influences are the bane of today's family. Be wise.
    If as man you cook, clean, wash my wife undies, why should anyone outside the home know? Why? If as a woman you earn more and take care of most of the family bills why should outsiders know?

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  19. Lolllll. Them plenty. This comment section no go fit contain comments for them.

    Yes I'm single o...laugh all you want but I'm HAPPY.

    Marriage will add to my happiness, NOT subtract.

    Anything that will take away my happiness and peace of mind. I DONOT WANT.

    There is no MRS on Heaven. Them no dey give high table for there. Just saying.

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  20. I know a person this used to happened to. It frustrated her so much. After laboring all day instead of the man ease her burden he only added to it. Needless to say it ended.

    To add insult to injuring there are some women who will even get beaten up if they got home and did not make the dinner. This world is something else.

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  21. Been there, done that, never again. I did that for over a decade. My brain reset automatically when I got tired of being a beast of burden. Got over the fear of being labelled a divorcee and possible ostracism from friends(divorce is unheard of in those circles). I took a walk and never looked back. Now I am blessed with a man who has it all together and spoils me silly. No one is perfect but he is perfect for me. Useless suffering and smiling is not a sign of spirituality.

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  22. Hmmmm anon 16.33 U r so on point ! Wisdom πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

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  23. I'm on this table, he even reported me to his mum.I told his mom that I can't kill myself.i live on the mainland and work on the island.Most times I can barely walk because of the tiredness.yet he says I'm not a virtuous woman.
    Well, one day monkey go go market, e no go return.

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  24. People use 'virtous' woman to enslave women... If you as a man truly love your wife as Christ loved the church and laid down His life for her, you will help as much as possible without complaining.. Two of you are one for goodness sake! Help her, don't watch her die!

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  25. I was on this table for 6 years. He is a NARCIST, so what I thought was love was not. Empathic people are usually drawn to narcissistic people, it took a psychologist to make me know what I was dealing with.

    My story.... The story oppor but lemme just say some parts. We were married for about 1year, then he lost his job. For 6 years, he would not get another
    At first, I felt eyaa, lemme not add to his pain, Shebi they said a man already feels down when he loses his job,so I took care of the home with all joy. After a while, dude said there was no need working since my pay can do everything we need in the home. I thought it was a joke, but I kid you not, he was serious. Shebi, I am a church girl, so I said it is spiritual, the devil is at work. Omo, I prayed and fasted for things to change. I will wake up at 3am, make breakfast and lunch and leave home by 5am as per virtuous woman ,come back around 9pm and he will be still be in his pyjamas, school bus takes and brings the children but I'll come back and meet home fun undone, so I'll start making dinner, supervising home fun and prepping them for bed. Then when I finish around 12midnight sometimes, I start praying,then give sex on top. Do'u know what he told me one day? Just one-day, I said I was too tired to f**k. He said. . .You are a very foolish woman,selfish,wicked, pretending to be good, you pray so I'll not have a job and remain like this, so many unprintable names. People of God, I have been crying in that marriage but that day, I told him it was the last tear I'll shed for us and that was my liberating moment! It's been 4years of minding my business and the new song now is you have changed! You are longer the woman i married! I am team, divorce is not an option. So look at me now,we will tow that line soon. God knows I have tried!

    I never thought in my wildest dream, this would be my story. I mean I follow all the rules but when it was time for marriage, see what I did to myself. At least, one thing I learnt from my experience is to NEVER judge anyone. Marriage was an eye opener for me and I am only just learning to love myself, because I discovered that was the missing ingredient! SELF LOVE,i just didn't love myself at all! I have come to truly love me and put me first. People who don't know the story can judge me but God got me. I tried! I give myself that. Else I end up mental because it was getting to that. I had already started second guessing myself until he left and went to stay with someone and in 3 months, he was kicked out of the place and the person called me heaping insults on me. Na me raise am? She said he remained like that because I took his excesses. Do'u know what he did, he too tried to blame me. That's where I lost it! It's one-day, at a time for me, it's not easy but I am getting by. Sometimes, they pretend well, and you don't see the signs. I used to judge people until it happened to me! Even the devil, quotes scriptures and had access to Jesus. Time and chance to just happens to us all.

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    1. I just want to give you a hug

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    2. Self love is the ultimate.

      Pls Madam can you give us a Chronicle on this. I know it may be long but we will learn one or two things out of your experience.

      Please Stella beg her.


      Since I have been a BV on this blog I have learnt a lot from people's experiences. Since the time of Linda Eze, the General's wife. The time Jim Iyke de wahala Stella because she talked as she see am

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    3. Awww @ anonymous 11:09 thank you .Plenty hugs to you too😘😘😘.


      @ the most complex,πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜ sorry, just seeing your reply. I will do just that, hopefully by weekend

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