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Sunday, March 07, 2021

Chronicle Of A Married Man -15

“You have to quit your job, you have to choose between your job and this marriage!” Sound familiar? 

Oftentimes, this is a conversation we had to have in our marriages.







This ultimatum was given to my aunt by her husband. It took the plea of my grand mum to make her quit that job. At that point, the marriage was already heading for the rocks. 


This was my aunt’s dream job. She has always wanted to work in the bank since her university days. With sheer determination, intelligence and hard work, she rose to the position of a manager at that branch and her husband wanted her to just throw it all away.


On the flip side, her husband is well to do, he can afford to take care of her and make her comfortable without her working. At that time, she only had one child after 6years of marriage and had suffered 4 miscarriages. The doctor’s verdict was that the work stress was contributing to the miscarriage and her inability to bear more children. So basically, she threw away her thriving career to save her marriage.


However, the irony of this story was that; 9years later the marriage was dissolved. The husband had two children with another woman. My aunt would have none of it. She felt betrayed. My family’s plea to her to remain in the marriage fell on deaf ears. She even blamed us for making her lose her career. And she didn’t bear other children.


Just in case you are wondering how my aunt ended. She ended just fine; you don’t rise from nothing to becoming a bank manager by playing dumb na. Even after she quit her job, she set up one of the biggest supermarkets in town. She is fine by the way.

So, back to the issue. Should a woman quit her career to save her marriage?


 Naturally, my answer to this question will be a simple “yes”. We could go on and on about the need for a woman to have a thriving career and be working to be supporting the family and for her to be independent; and for security just in case the marriage goes south. I understand these things, I have a working-class sister whose husband is jobless right now. I know how she has been supporting her family.

In as much as I said “yes”, when it comes to marriages, there is no right answer to these questions as marriages and conditions are different but I want to believe that before the husband will make such demands of his wife, he should have considered the pros and the cons. 


However, there are always ways around these issues if they couples could have a talk and find the best solution to the problem. The bottom line for me is, the woman should be willing to make such sacrifice!


Then you might ask, can’t the man quit his job to take care of the home? Can’t the man also sacrifice for the woman or what if the woman is earning more and is bearing part of the home expenses? Sure! The man can But what are the realities in our homes today especially here in Nigeria?



I have always encouraged woman working for obvious reasons; but when it gets to that point where it begins to affect the home, the children’s wellbeing and the life of the marriage. At such point a decision has to be made. 


There’s also the option of taking a house help, a cleaner, cook or an external support that will make things easy. After all we have women who are CEOs of multinational organizations who have families and they don’t have issues. But if you and your husband can’t afford such external helps or if it affects your health in case of people TTC, kindly do the needful.


For argument’s sake, we can say all we like but let’s always allow the reality of our individual marriages guide us in decision making. If you are fortunate to have a job that allows for maternity leave, annual leaves and support family life, good for you. There is a big difference between quitting your job and staying idle. Even if your husband asks you to quit your job, it doesn’t mean you should stay idle.



My wife has never done an office or a tasking job. She has always been the type that works from home with her kind of business. I have always encouraged her to work. But child bearing has always had a way of disrupting woman’s life; during the pregnancy period and first six months after child bearing everything is always suspended.


 My wife would have been an air hostess, I would have given her all the support but the reality is that I work minimum of six months offshores every year, so who will take care of the home since both of us will always be away from home most of the time?

I believe the reason why couple normally have such issues with quitting their jobs for family sterns basically from two things: Trust and Security.

Many women don’t trust their husband enough to want to live life at his mercy especially when they are not working. We had cases where women are stuck in abusive marriages because they don’t have money or means to survive after leaving the marriage. They don’t also trust the man enough not to rub it on their faces that they are jobless. Some wealthy men who insisted on their women becoming full-time house wives will still make it a point of duty to remind them “I am taking care of you; you should be grateful”


Having your own money gives you security as a woman, lots of woman have had the sad experience of starting from square-one after divorce with years of doing nothing. Even many widows are on this table too, having lost their husband and with no means of livelihood. 


Let’s not also forget women who support their husbands financially.

So, I won’t blame any woman who insists on not quitting her job or in other cases relocating with her husband thereby losing her job. However, we should all learn to look at the bigger picture when making decision. Remember the marriage is a two-party affair.

For us married men especially those in the O & G business, Covid-19 has taught us to empower our wives because anything can happen.

Na so I talk am reach this week.

E go be!


Ciao!

36 comments:

  1. Good work poster
    Do you have a brother with your kind of mentality?
    If yes
    I am single and searching

    B.R

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    1. Correct babe I like seeking for wisdom every other things will follow.

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    2. Positive shot fired.

      Thanks for the piece

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    3. I'd be happy to hear he doesn't have a brother or he's taken. No shame anymore, women shooting useless shots. Tueh!

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    4. He is not as great as he sounds. Don't be fooled. Doing the bare minimum is not an achievement. Men that sound this reasonable are sometimes the worst.

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    5. Lol Any man that pushes his wife to quit her job against her will is a fool and Any woman that agrees to that is a bigger fool. Why didn't he marry an uneducated lady or someone that had zero interest in working? They marry a professional and try to pull her down and out her in a box.

      This writer is a typical offshore man with madam as housewife. I also worked offshore so I know the format. They ALWAYS use this same excuse of 'I work offshore so if she also works, who will take care of the kids?, I don't want a househelps to raise my kids'. The highest they do is open a baby products shop for her (This is very common in PH). Why all these wives sell only baby products is still a puzzle to me and I can't help but ponder why they just don't think of other business ideas. How many people can afford to buy the plastic baby drawer you priced as 120k? Oga, empower your wife to be financially independent and earn sufficient income that can sustain same lifestyle should anything happen to you. I pray you live long to see your children's children but I have seen cases where the guy dies and the family's standard of living drops drastically because there is no more rig bonus coming in. This has happened to a couple of people; even the family of someone earning $1200/day was not spared.

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  2. I can never quit my job for any marriage. Especially in this Nigeria where the system works against the women. These same men that have been disgracing their ancestors since the beginning of time.
    Wahala for who no get "vex" income.

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    1. Why don't you outline how the system works against women instead of making blanket statements everytime. Always quick to play the victim card when in reality the opposite is the case.
      If it's a man's world then it's a woman paradise.
      If you don't want to quit, by all means don't, it's your prerogative.. but don't fuckin blame the system and insult men.. we're not the cause of your problems. Deal with your shii and keep us out of it

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    2. 😂😂@disgracing thier ancestors

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    3. @Dante, stop pretending like you don't live in Nigeria and know how the system works. Just yesterday I saw on Instablog of how an Edo billionaire threw out his 64 years old wife out of their home for a new woman. Comments on that post made me weep. People most likely in their 20s were blaming the woman, calling her 'dumb' because she didn't have a source of income. What if the man had told her not to work and she had obeyed him? Now she's the topic of mockery to Instablog commenters who don't know anything.

      If she was in a first world country, would this have happened to her?

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    4. Dante, the reason why it seems women speak like the victim is in this chronicle. Eventhough, the married man have seen women are at the shorter side of the stick, he still suggested women compromise though not by force. This school of thought is what many men still operate by, even the poster will not narrate the days he felt burden of providing for the household but somehow assumes "men like him and you, Dante" are the only men, women will come across, when this is not the case!

      The laws we have here are mainly cultural, even with a court wedding, a woman has to be ready to pursue to get her benefits. I know we will get there but think about it, if we had a compulsory pre-nuptial agreement of what one's responsibility are and penalties in the case of default, (Men should work and be able to provide, Women should support, unless there are other circumstances) if the house should belong to the woman and kids in the case of anything, if the man's family can stay away, etc. So, you see? women will feel a little secure but traditionally our customs are not that way.

      So, suggesting a career woman should compromise and all things will fall in place is a no no!

      Kapish?

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    5. 14.37..
      You should have come with your name now, abi your comment sef dey shame you?
      From your comment above, how does that scenario support the claim that the system is against women.. how? Did the system stop her from working, investing,having a business, saving etc etc. If one decides to be dumb, how does that to translate to the system being against them? Do you want to tell me that you would be married to a billionaire and won't have at least some good savings and investments attached to your name? No expensive items, gift like gold, savings etc? How dumb can you be? Even if you're a full time housewife..

      Moving on, let me teach you how to make a constructive argument incase of next time.. I listed 10 ways the system supports women and is 'against' men, but somehow everything wiped off before posting, so I'll list some again as I can remember-

      1.Military- the men are sent to war but the women are given civilian jobs. Equal pay for less risk.

      2. Maternal leave- do you think men don't go through as much stress this period.

      3. War- killing of women and children is regarded as war crimes, but men are dispensable.

      4. Girl child and Women empowerment- have you heard of male child and men empowerment?

      5. Health- the medical field focus solely on gynecology and is silent on androlgy.
      Women receive twice as much funding for breast cancer research than men receive for prostrate cancer research, even though more men die from prostrate cancer than breast cancer.

      6.Crime- women get less sentence for the same offence.

      7. Domestic violence- men are seen as predator and women victims, when in actual fact women are more perpetrators of this crime.. when a man cry out, he is termed weak and shamed, just like that girl wanted to shame daddy freeze this morning before I put her on cheak..

      8.Dates- women come with a purse they never open. Men sort the bills, and still order Uber for her.. the lady is also working oh..

      Do you need more?

      Men dey try sha.. upon all these you don't see us complaining and playing the victim card, because we are MEN. We are really under appreciated and it's so unfair. You girls should be ashamed of yourselves..

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    6. Dante, you don't always have to sound like this, you may think you are smart but you actually sound angry.

      Just seeing the story of the monarch, no matter what she did, she shouldn't have been thrown out after 39 years! Whether she made or didn't have savings in her name. The law is not protective of women in this instances that is what we are saying.

      1. Military: if your brain is working like it should, you should know physically strength is with the males than females, not like women don't play their roles in this same military.

      2. Maternity leave: thankfully, one of the modern banks have introduced Paternity leave for 1 week (which can still be extended(, you also know that the woman is not expected to come to work the next day with her baby, yeah? I don't even know why you mentioned this?

      3. War: Please go read up on this, in the ancient days, when men are killed, women are raped and subjected to being sex slaves and child rearers. Women feel as much torture, physically, mentally and psychological. So both genders are at risk.

      4. Girl child and Women empowerment: no one stops you from making the boy child movement. In short, don't we say it here all the time that parents should also focus on raising their male children right? I know you reaction to this, but one thing I will tell you in confidence is:I am not happy with the number of touts on the streets (this na another convo, so I will stop here)

      5. Health: Many men I know don't like to seek medical help. I need not go into this. You talked about funding, you know these comes from volunteering, women can not be blamed here. If you had a health plan, nothing stops you from assessing it.

      6. Crime: also look at the statistics on this. You also know Sharia laws are striner on women, right?

      7. Domestic Violence: see I don't support this or any form of violence, any gender guilty should be made to face the music.

      8. Dates: I don't agree with you on this, let us not pretend about this, any man that does this, do so for a reason or are mostly still in the chase stage. Many dates these days, don't go so smoothly with a tussle. These are little things that should be appreciated, but I can verily say unto you, even as far back as Uni days, many girls pay for dates, guys should stop lying on this.

      And or by the way, you missed out number 9 which I think should be number 1.

      9. Sports: Men are more paid than women.

      So you welcome, peace out.

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    7. Bee Hill, I agree with you. Asmuch as I respect the writer and looks forward to his write ups, I think this very chronicle is all about the irony of masculine hypocrisy. Culturally and socially prejudice against women. While the writer is right, within the context of his marriage. The realities in marital squabbles does not encourage his foundational position on the subject matter. I wouldn't necessarily blame it on misogynistic cadence but on most of us ladies who believe it's a woman's right to be taken care of - it comes with a price. And price is the prize given to us by such masculine reasoning. And for this I think Dante is right, but what he refused to admit is that all what he listed as how the system supports women are nothing but palliatives. Our society and culture uses the carrot and stick approach, to address the structural deficiencies in marital perjury on the woman.
      It's a known fact that women have more resilience, the reason most in today's world, are in the forefront of their respective careers. While more men easily gets comfort and recalcitrant at pushing forth. Majority of the abuse ladies suffer in their marriages, lingers on majorly because such women are financially dependent of their abusive husband's. A financially empowered woman, has a listenable voice in her marriage. Take today's chronicle of blog visitor. If such lady had resigned from her job, would she have been contemplating leaving the marriage?

      Yes, the marriage comes first but at what cost? On whose compromise? To what sacrifice? Many of today's marriage is like putting a square peg in a round hole. Or a round peg in a square hole. Realistically, a cultural man need not desire a career driven woman as wife. His best bet, is a socially conditioned career minded woman. Who can be persuaded or asked to staunt her growth as her sacrifice to the good of the marriage. A career driven woman ought to be seeking a liberal or open-minded man. Who is not limited by the common norm of cultural conditioning.

      My male cousin would say the society is masculine, it laws are masculine. And as such men with a cultural mindsets, aren't seeking submission from their women. They indirectly seek subjugation from their women. And subjugation comes with total acceptance that masculine decisions are authority, that need not be contested. At this point, I won't forget what my late father warned me against. He said I should NEVER consider marrying a man that won't allow me to see out my career. And thank God my spouse, isn't such a man. The case illustrated by the writer, even gives credence to why a woman need not give up her career for the selfishness of masculine ego. Managing the family ought to be a joint effort. Same goes for support and resistance in the marriage.

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    8. You are always biased Dante. Upon all your long one-sided epistle, you never disappoint on your position. The system in this country is biased against women and your epistle can't change that. Not everyone has an ID. You can continue to hate on anonymous Bvs. Na you sabi. You sef be anonymous. Your mama didn't give birth to you and call you Dante. Feel free to come under and abuse me.

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    9. Bee inn, you are actually so dumb and bitter if you think this simple fact I stated up there have an angry undertone. Always feeling attacked whenever one say a truth concerning your gender. You sound ridiculous with that nonsense you put up there as a reply to a comment which wasn't directed to you in the first place. And to think you consider yourself smart is my most funny jokes for today.

      Just seeing the story of the monarch, no matter what she did, she shouldn't have been thrown out after 39 years! Whether she made or didn't have savings in her name. The law is not protective of women in this instances that is what we are saying- HOW IS THE LAW NOT PROTECTIVE? CAN YOU TELL ME THE SECTION OR CASES THAT MADE PROVISIONS FOR THAT, DID SHE GO TO COURT AND WAS DENIED ANYTHING?

      1. Military: if your brain is working like it should, you should know physically strength is with the males than females, not like women don't play their roles in this same military- DUMB. SO ONLY RECOGNIZE THIS STRENGTH WHEN IT'S USED FOR YOUR FAVOUR.

      2. Maternity leave: thankfully, one of the modern banks have introduced Paternity leave for 1 week (which can still be extended(, you also know that the woman is not expected to come to work the next day with her baby, yeah? I don't even know why you mentioned this?- YOU DON'T HAVE SENSE, SO I DON'T EXPECT YOU TO UNDERSTAND. MEET SOMEONE WITH SENSE TO PUT YOU THROUGH.

      3. War: Please go read up on this, in the ancient days, when men are killed, women are raped and subjected to being sex slaves and child rearers. Women feel as much torture, physically, mentally and psychological. So both genders are at risk.- YOU'RE NOT SMART. YOU'RE REALLY NOT SMART AND I'M LOST ON HOW I CAN HELP YOU AT THIS POINT WITH THESE YOUR SHALLOW COMMENT. DO YOUR RESEARCH ON HOW THE WORD "LADIES FIRST" CAME TO BE. YOU LACK KNOWLEDGE ON HISTORY.

      4. Girl child and Women empowerment: no one stops you from making the boy child movement. In short, don't we say it here all the time that parents should also focus on raising their male children right? I know you reaction to this, but one thing I will tell you in confidence is:I am not happy with the number of touts on the streets (this na another convo, so I will stop here)- STILL DUMB

      5. Health: Many men I know don't like to seek medical help. I need not go into this. You talked about funding, you know these comes from volunteering, women can not be blamed here. If you had a health plan, nothing stops you from assessing it.-REALLY, SO YOU THINK WOMEN HELP WOMEN MORE THAN HOW MEN HELP WOMEN. ARE YOU A GRADUATE?

      6. Crime: also look at the statistics on this. You also know Sharia laws are striner on women, right?- HOW'S SHARIA LAW STRICTER ON WOMEN? DUMB BLANKET STATEMENT

      7. Domestic Violence: see I don't support this or any form of violence, any gender guilty should be made to face the music.- YIMU

      8. Dates: I don't agree with you on this, let us not pretend about this, any man that does this, do so for a reason or are mostly still in the chase stage. Many dates these days, don't go so smoothly with a tussle. These are little things that should be appreciated, but I can verily say unto you, even as far back as Uni days, many girls pay for dates, guys should stop lying on this.- NONSENSE. TALKING FROM BOTH SIDES OF YOUR MOUTH. YOU REALLY DON'T BELIEVE THIS NONSENSE RIGHT?

      And or by the way, you missed out number 9 which I think should be number 1.

      9. Sports: Men are more paid than women.- YOU'RE A CLOWN. DO THEY PLAY BY THE SAME 'RULE'?.. MOST FEMALE SPORT ARE LESS STRESSFUL THAN MEN.. PLEASE TRY DISCUSSING WITH AN INTELLIGENT PERSON NEXT TIME BEFORE YOU REPLY MY COMMENTS.

      So you welcome, peace out.

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    10. Dante, who did you this? You calling me dumb severally shows how angry of a human you are.

      You should go resolve whatever is wrong with you and leave women out of this.

      If you know history like you really claim you do, you won't be so dumb to tell me to research how Ladies first came to be. Because ladies were used as Test for good or bad before any new thing is adopted. Ladies protected Men's life.

      You now know not only you can come up with reasons as to make the other feel like nothing. So, watch your back before you come here to justify the trash you type.

      That financial contribution you always use to brag, is shared between both genders these days and you know this.

      Which is why I have to prepare for work tomorrow, you may drop your aggressive response as usual, I will reply you in some other posts.

      Peace✌️

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  3. I can't quit my job for any man too...we will find a way around it somehow.

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  4. Bottomline is the marriage worth the sacrifice? Of course in the ideal setting of the home, the man should be the provider while the wife acts as the home keeper. But present economic realities has made that practically impossible. Homes particularly in Nigeria can barely survive on just one income source. Both husband and wife have to join efforts together.

    However, marriage is the most tasking of things anyone will do. It can be draining and a number of times, wanting out seems like the best solution. For a number of women, they'd rather choose their job or business over the marriage. Nothing wrong with that. If she feels her marriage is not worth saving, that's fine. I am of the opinion though that no one should have to be forced into a position where they'd have to choose between work or their marriage. If proper dialogue is engaged,a solution can be found.

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    1. Very beautiful submission DogAlmighty.
      Your opening question is the KOKO, And therein lies the crux of the matter.

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  5. Hmmm, e get as this one be. Just because it has been the norm for a WOMAN to sacrifice since time immemorial, doesn't mean it should continue like that. Humans started that tradition not God, we can also change it. Things can change and become better. We have been trying it this way and its not working. Let's flip the script and see if it works better. No harm in trying right?
    Imagine that Ngozi Okonjo's husband asked her to quit due to whatever reason. Would she be the Icon and Female inspiration to young women the world over that she is today?
    Do you know how many lives she has touched? The pride she has bestowed on the Nigerian nationality by her work ethics and conduct?
    Most times it's the man's pride or ego that dictates his request of the woman.
    I wish there could be temporary role reversal or rotation in life, everyone would appreciate each other more I believe.

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  6. Nice write-up. Can I ever quit my job cause of marriage? Yes, if there's a legally binding agreement signed by the husband to pay a certain amount of allowance every month apart from money to run the house.

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    1. When i 1st got married, i said i would never quit my job no mater what. But by the time children started coming,i realised it was hard. Hubby and i where never home same time. Just like the poster he dose off shore job,and i also go to site for some weeks. It was very stressful and affecting my marriage. My children where at the mercy of my helps. I did not even no my children,because even when I'm around i leave very early and come late. I only have Sundays free and by then i want to catch up on my much needed sleep. But it took after the birth of my twins to quit. Yes i resumed back after my maternity but i knew i could not leave my twins with help,being that they where even premature at birth. Hubby and i sat down to discuss, then i quit and stayed home with them till they turned 10 and got into secondary school. Now I'm back working,but a less stressful job. During my years of sitting at home,was earning salary from hubby. Then i had investment that was paying me. So at the end of the day do what us best for your home.

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    2. Very beautiful decision

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  7. This I think is dependent on if you truly to some extent know the kind of man you are married to.
    My sister after having her first baby while still in uni, couldn't get pregnant again for 6 in marriage, my mom was always worried, she was working with an international company that really used them big time,she later got pregnant and lost the pregnancy while still on that job. Then the next year by God's mercy she got pregnant again and 3momths into the pregnancy it was obvious she had to quit because she couldn't cope with the stress and my mom and everybody was on her neck to quit the job. You know it's not easy to quit, it's never easy even when the job conditions are not so favorable, but she did quit, today her baby is a year old she doesn't regret leaving no matter how much she complains of not working and hoping to get another job. Her husband doesn't have it all but he is doing his best in taking care of his family and my sister is doing an online business which she is trying to grow.
    If I'm in a condition where it is necessary either me or my husband quits a job, I will quit mostly if it has to do with my health and taking care of my kids.
    Except I know the husband is a crazy type that misbehaves and the situation is not life threatening then I won't quit.

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  8. TALK before you TIE THE KNOT!
    Structurally and historically, marriages were conceived as a patriarchal relationship. It’s success is mostly hinged on women's willingness to subordinate their selfhood and desires for self-fulfilment to the good of her husband and children. Both sexes settle into secure, well-defined roles, which has been the norm. However, this dynamic, if you take a closer look at our OWN mothers today, actually exacted a terrible psychological toll upon many of them. The existential reality has shown that marriage is an arena for conflicts over power and authority.
    As the world moves on and our society becoming more egalitarian and individualistic, the cost of such subordination is obvious and virtually impossible to sustain as could be seen from the poster’s story. Patriarchy is giving way to companionship….Fixed gender roles replaced by more flexible relationship. More than ever, it is not just about performing one's wifely or husbandly or parental responsibilities, but meeting one's partner's communication, emotional support, stimulation, and growth.
    So, I think it’s very important that you know yourself/your personality and your understanding of what your ideal marriage is and find a WO/MAN whose vision of same aligns. If career is very important to you, seek ye the WO/MAN who shares same…TALK….TALK…TALK.
    If as woman, you could manage both wifey duty and career, that's so cool and awesome. We just have to find a way to navigate the ARENA with the one we love and want to share the rest of our lives with.
    I am an ALPHA MALE and will work very well with a Beta Female in a marriage relationship...Too much power tussles an conflicts when tow Alphas collide.

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    1. Rockstar, wise words.

      Anyone intending to go into marriage should read, understand and apply this comment.

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  9. Insightful.
    Somewhat realistic.

    Hmmmmmmmmm.
    Do you know that some men refuse their wives from working or ask them to chose between family or career, just because of sheen jealousy and envy.

    Well if I land this dream that I am hoping for, I am not gonna quit it my husband, these few years na real eye opener for me.

    Women be thou be financially independent, maka I get why.

    Interesting read sir, as always.

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  10. So proud of your aunt for refusing to listen to family and remain in the marriage. Her husband is a wicked man and didn't deserve a second chance. If he was the one with fertility issues, your aunt would have remained in the marriage and not cheated on him. See life. She ended up doing very well.

    No woman should end their career because of marriage. If your line of work is making it difficult to handle your family responsibilities, then change line of work. Never ever sacrifice your source of income. I don't know any woman who did so and didn't come to regret it.

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    1. You are absolutely correct!
      Please don't quit your job.
      If your present job is stressful, get another one. I have a friend and her husband doesn't want her to work or go into business. He would rather change her car every 6 months instead of allowing her to work.
      There is nothing as good as being financially independent.

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  11. There is no right answer I, I agree with you. It might work for A, and crash B. My mom did, it worked out amazingly for her, but I cannot advice another to try it.

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  12. Thing is even if my work is as stressful as anything, I'll always try to shuffle between my family and my career, both are importantest to me, can't ignore one for one.

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    1. It's very easy to shout l will never quit. Just pray make you see wetin big pass you. My mum had to quit her job because of my sickness. My dad was a federal staff working in Ibadan. She didn't have a choice. She became a very successful business person years after.

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  13. Let's pray we don't face issues o.. like miscarriage 101% of u saying "I can't" will be the first to quit the job

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