Stella Dimoko English 101 - Civil Ways To Communicate And Social Stuff You Need To Know


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Monday, March 08, 2021

English 101 - Civil Ways To Communicate And Social Stuff You Need To Know

Do you know that you should not call someone more than twice continuously?

Did you also know that instead of saying someone is lying, you can ask them if what they are saying is true?

Read on cos you are about to learn!

1. Instead of saying you are lying say THIS IS NOT TRUE

2. Instead of saying this post is fake say ARE YOU SURE OF THIS?

3. Instead of saying you are wrong say THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE

4. Instead of saying you will be punished say THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES TO THIS

5. Instead of saying I am talking and you are not paying attention say I WILL LIKE TO GET YOUR ATTENTION

6. Instead of saying I don't have your time say I WILL LIKE TO END THE CONVERSATION NOW

7. Instead of saying what you are saying does not make sense say IS THERE ANY OTHER OPTION THAN THIS?

8. Instead of saying what you are doing is bad say THIS BEHAVIOR IS INAPPROPRIATE

9.Instead of saying this child is a slow learner say THIS CHILD IS AN UPCOMING LEARNER

10. Instead of saying " get out from here" say PLEASE IT WILL BE APPRECIATED YOU LEAVE THIS PLACE.


1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers lending it to you. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes;

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you;

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;

8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;

17. Never give advice until you’re asked;

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.



  1. Nice nuggets. You see that marriage and weight own ehn, people need to learn to mind their business

  2. Many are guilty of 13

    1. Many are guilty of all of them.

    2. Someone on our first time meeting threw me a random 'use honey for your stretch marks'. I responded with 'get surgery for your face'.

  3. NOs 3, 17 and 21
    Nigerians don't ever follow those.
    @3; Some Nigerian ladies will not only order expensive dishes and their take away but will invite their friends to come and chop and take away.
    @17: Unsolicited advice; watch out as they will come under my comment to advise me. 😜😜😜😜
    @21: "I pass my neighbor" mentality. They will flaunt their little riches to "pepper them"
    Oftentimes I wonder at those who have "them" that they are mindful of always. What a stressful life to live.πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

  4. Hmm nice one! The very first one My daddy taught me! This is really beautiful..This blog is wonderful you cant get enough of it...

    1. Learnt them all growing up. My dad taught us all proper communication and etiquette. God bless his soul!!!

    2. Same here.
      I learnt proper communication and etiquette from my parents especially Mummy, we call her Mummy fit and proper, lol you Mummy dearest😍πŸ₯°πŸ˜

  5. Nice....we hope to remember them when need be.

  6. They will borrow from u , & when u ask them to return it; they call u stingy..

  7. Thanks Stella!! Alot of people are guilty of no 13, it can be annoying

  8. Number 16 annoys me the most, and it is not just staring into your phone but not giving someone your full attention when they are speaking to you. If you can't give them your full attention at that time, let them know.

  9. Wearing of sunshades eeh, irritating habit, sunshade honey not house shade.
    I just remember watching BBN lockdown edition, lol!
    Bunch of fakes.

  10. I love this....
    In my country, you tell someone "THIS IS NOT TRUE" then you get the "SO YOU'RE CALLING ME A LIAR" reply.

  11. I recall a colleague was laughing at me and telling me that his wife was pregnant with their first child, meanwhile I had been trying to conceive after my first child, hmmm I quietly encouraged my self and walked away asking God to help me not to be offended. He died after the birth of that second child. God blessed me with twins. Hmm let no man get proud of the blessings of God because honestly you don't know what tomorrow has for you or the person you are making spite of.

    1. That was so absurd of him to say such to you. Glad you have your bundles of joy 🀩. God protect y’all.


    2. i dont understand this your gist. he was laughing at you how? some of you women are unneccsary sensitive because you are ttc. so he cannot talk about his own experience again again? your english did not come out clear abeg

    3. Honestly!! Even the bit where he died sounds so morbid and judgemental. Story sounds contrived.

  12. We learn everyday.
    Thanks for sharing


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