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Saturday, March 27, 2021

Saturday In House Gists - HIV/AIDS Scare

 Have you ever had an HIV/AIDS scare? You thought you had it because you think you have the symptoms?







Or are you the one living with it and your partner found out and freaked out? or it is someone you know?

My own scare was when i watched my big brother die of Aids, it was HORRIBLE and an eye opener cos i had initially thought it was all made up and AIDS did not exist.. It totally put off men and then when my big sis also passed on from Aids, i went cold with fear!

Got a story? Lets gist!!!

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  1. I remember at my 12 weeks prenatal appointment. I went with my husband. I was given a list of tests (about 10) to go to the lab to do, free of course. When we left and got outside, I decided to go through the list, praying there was no HIV test included.

    The last test was written VIH 1 and I didn't know for sure if it was the Dreaded HIV test. So I asked my husband.

    'How will I know', he responded.

    So I went to Google and confirmed it was HIV. I looked at my husband and said 'babe, they said I should do HIV test'.

    'Ok, what's the problem',

    I said 'ha babe, I cannot do HIV test oh, what if I have it'.

    At this point, I was already sweating and my heart was beating. My husband just said, you don't have it and continued pressing his phone. We were in an uber. I decided to convince myself that I had it and I had definitely given it to my husband.

    You see, when I was unmarried, I dated. Ha! I dated! I don't think I've ever been single since I was 17. Some I had sex with, some I didn't. Even though I was mostly protected, there was no telling what could have happened.

    When we got home, I went and laid in bed in fear. I started remembering things. I remember when i had this itch for weeks that no medication I took worked. Until a pharmacist told me it was probably allergies and prescribed an antihistamine xyzal for me that actually solved the issue. I convinced myself, it was a symptom of HIV.

    I remembered a period after coming here that I will be seeing white stuff in my mouth. The period it happened, I Googled it and i read that some brands of oral B toothpaste which I was using at the point could cause it. So I stopped using Oral B and the white stuff disappeared. At that moment, I told myself it was a symptom of HIV and it disappearing after I stopped the toothpaste was just mere coincidence.

    I remembered when I got here and I was in the shower, I would feel do out of breath and dizzy that sometimes, I would have to pause my bathing. I Googled it and it was explained with water pressure or temperature logic (can't quite remember how it was explained away). At that time, the explanation made sense but at the point I was, it was definitely the HIV in me that was causing it.

    My then never ending catarrh nko that only stopped when I discovered and started using nasal corticosteroids, of course it was the HIV causing it.

    My husband has this back acne that comes up every now and then. I convinced myself that it was because I had given him HIV.

    I became very scared because at this point, I was convinced that I had it. I went to my husband and asked me why he never asked for HIV test before marriage.

    'Babe, why didn't you ask for an HIV test before marriage, this way we would have known my status and hopefully I wouldn't have infected you and you could have walked away then', I said almost in tears.

    Remember when I said I had the most unusual, sweetest and the kindest boo ever??? His response also showed I didn't lie. He told me I was the one in charge of all we were doing for the wedding and since I didn't ask, he didn't think about it. My husband knows my history with men oh cos we were first friends before couples.

    Then he added 'babe, the moment I decided I was going to propose was when I had concluded it was you and no one else and that even a positive HIV test would have meant nothing so there was really no need on my part for it', I looked at him and knew he was saying the truth.

    I then told him I'm certain I had it, will he leave me??? He said he wouldn't that there are drugs for it and it's not a death sentence anyone. I reminded him that we would have to take drugs everyday of our lives.

    'If it's what we have to do, that's what we would do', he responded.

    Then I begged him not to tell his people that we were positive and he asked why he would tell them since it was no one's business.

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    1. 不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不

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    2. Your church didn't send you for the test before wedding day?hmmmm

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    3. My church only requires pregnancy test

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    4. We have been hunting for a househelp but it has not been easy. 10 people screened now and it is either hiv hepb hepC or bad character. God epp

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    5. Story of my life

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  2. The next day I went for the test, kept asking the nurse for resources for people that tested positive and things like that. I was told I could come pick up the test results a week later, I also provided my email for the results to be sent in.

    That day, I was very miserable. I just didn't want to see the result. I wondered how the doctors would treat me when they found out I had the virus.

    That same evening, I received a mail from the lab, it was my result. Ha! I shouted. Shebi they said it would only be ready in a week's time, why are they sending it now', I screamed to my husband.

    I told my husband I couldn't check it and told him to help me check. Then I fell on the floor and started crying. My life was about to be over.

    The HIV result was the last. I heard my husband say 'why are u so dramatic'

    I was like 'what's the result', I swear, i was a mess. I was in serious tears.

    'It's negative abeg, you are just too dramatic', he hissed and went back to work.

    It was as if the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders. All my test results came out clean. I was fine, my husband was and my baby would be. *phew*

    People of God, abeg stay extremely safe out there. The fear ehn...

    PS: I already had this story in my draft and posted cos this fits ☺️

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    1. Hahahahaha,I read every word..
      Very beautiful read.
      You are a drama queen o, Haa!
      HIV is real, people..
      Protect yourselves!!!

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    2. HIV is not a death sentence. It's exaggerated reactions like this that makes people commit suicide once they're diagnosed HIV positive.

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    3. I love you Mama Alex!
      U are the realest.

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    4. 不不 you are so extra..why were you so convinced? Seems like you ve never gotten tested before.

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    5. Omg you are so crazy! Whatttttt!

      I have been laughing and laughing.

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    6. Anon, that's ur business. Will u like to have it?

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    7. Perxian, I have tested twice before but that was a long time ago. Both times, I made promises to God that I still didn't keep.

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    8. Na your hubby own I see, your man is a rare gem. Side eyes @ wailing wailers and women haters like 'I'll slap any woman who goes through my phone' and '#babyboy4life' advocate. 云云云

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    9. Kai. By the time I got to the end, I had goosebumps. Bia Eka stop this o.

      Done it many times. It's compulsory when pregnant and for official purposes.
      Did another 3 weeks ago, sorting my medical history prior to some moves.

      HIV is not a death sentence anyway but denies you little privileges.

      It can come from your cook or nanny. Shine your eyes.

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    10. Interesting read, just trying to imagine your drama and how you will feel when your husband seemed to have taken it lightly

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    11. You are indeed very lucky. No HIV no hepatitis? Hepatitis that is very rampant in Nigeria? It's very difficult to see a househelp without b or c

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    12. Eka Joy, you are the real drama queen 不不不不不不不不

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    13. If you test for hepatitis and you are negative, go to the nearest healthcare center and get vaccinated just like covid shots take 3 months and last for up to 10years

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  3. The test freaks me out, dont like doing it. Lol.

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    1. It does.
      There's sth about that HIV test..cos the thing about HIV is that it's not only sexually transmitted..
      It could be via a contaminated syringe..
      It could be via a needle at the hair salon when fixing, it could be via anything..
      So once you are told to run the test, e dey normal say person mind go cut small.
      Lol

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  4. I had it,my then fiance got to Know while I was pregnant and hospitalized,he was supportive for a while but eventually freaked out.He left without looking back.I eventually had a still birth.Its a story I would love to erase from my memory.

    Things are better now cos of the awareness.

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    1. God will heal you. Please say the symptoms you had. I don't want to believe all these things google is saying.

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    2. It is well with you anon

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  5. When one of my Christian sisters suddenly was diagnosed of AIDs. She was pure, holy and a virtuous woman... But, that virus came, ate her up and killed her.

    She contracted it through unsterilised sharp object at the hair salon.

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    1. Ohhh......that's so sad
      May her soul continue to RIP

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    2. Ndo. May her soul continue to rest in peace.

      And to Stella Kork's bro and sis. God giveth, God taketh.
      They are in a better place.
      You strong sha.

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  6. The thought of it have never crossed my mind.
    Talkless of having related symtom

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  7. Iv had to do HIV test many times because of work. Iv changed jobs like 4/5times,so with each New Employment a complete Medical is done....i just always take it as nothing is ever found since iv been doing it.
    And offcourse before Marriage we both also did.
    The only time i was scared was when i did an MRI scan cos i was having migraines. But it was all clear and it eventually went.

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  8. When it was time to get my Residence Permit, included in the tests was HIV test. If you're negative, you're given the result and if positive, the facility will call Police and from there, detention center. I waited and thoughts of "what if" over took me. Thoughts of "you're free and good" was in the percentage of 90s and "you might have it" was very small not withstanding I balled hard codedly. A nurse came and gave me the result. I laughed. The look on her face was "you will not be laughing if it was negative". I ran out of the facility.

    This story happened in late 2010.

    Issue is, HIV is not written on the face. If only people will use protection.

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  9. Had that great fear @ Eka joy talked about when i was doing medicals for a multinational that i was to work with. Gosh! the fear and palpitations were epic!!! it turned out negative. umu chineke eeehhhh!!!! join me and thank the LORD. Good afternoon BVs.

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  10. Have been celibate for 4 years now, then for almost 2 years, I only had cornrow on, I wash my hair myself and just weave at the saloon. Cos you see this HIV test, it scare me alot. How long does it show in the body?

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  11. I remember this one time in uni, i used to be a child of the world then, the first time i had unprotected sex, i fell sick the next day. God i was super scared,you know our minds have a funny way of making us go paranoid. I was asking myself shebi these things take time before it pops out with symptoms na? why am i sick just the next day. was sick for straight 2 weeks. Then at the hospital the doctors kept asking very private scary questions, those ones u cant answer cos your elder bro or sis is there. you don't want to be the family embarrassment na. Luckily everything turned out to be typhoid, and the test results showed negative for the HIV Virus.since then, if i must play football, i will wear my jersey o.

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  12. Stella pls avoid me o. I did it raw few days back with someone l knew last year. I have been so afraid since then. I even had a dream now when some whitefish things was coming out of my vijyy l woke up. Asked God for mercy and opened this blog just to see this. Baba God. In your infinite mercy have mercy on me. It will never happen again.

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    1. Have Mercy on yourself first. You're not even scared of contracting the dreaded virus you had to go raw. Tufia.

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    2. Anon plz never have unprotected sex. If it bothers you so much try run some tests.

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    3. You are probably fine. Maybe u should just get tested to confirm it's negative. Now I'm glad I have gotten the test out of my system.

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    4. It's is well with you but please stay away from sex if you aren't married. Do the test right away and repeat after three months.

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    5. Next time yohave unprotected sex,go to the nearest hospital around you and get PEP within 48 hours of having unprotected sex .

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  13. Let me share a true life story of one of my patient.
    I'm a medical office currently undergoing my NYSC in military hospital.
    A fellow corp member came to me and requested she wanted to run some investigations (HIV 1 and 2,hepatitis B,hepatitis C,syphilis test,high vaginal swab test).she said her partner(boyfriend) requested she does them.i sent her for the investigations. The results came out fine.
    So,she shared her experience in her past relationship with me.she dated her ex for four years and they planned on getting married. According to her,he was nice and caring. The plan was for her to get pregnant before they start up marriage processes.well,she said her boyfriend was always healthy cautious and eat right.Takes vegetables always and always on multivitamins. They were together one day in his house as they both had a trip to embark on.She was backing him and was on her phone. Before then her ex had always complained that gives so much attention to her phone.He parked his drugs into his luggage though she was on her phone but she noticed how strangely.when he entered the bathroom to shower,she checked his luggage but found his multivitamins only but she still wasn't convinced.when she went back to check and saw a strange drug in a packed,she quickly snapped it and browsed on it.To her greatest surprise, it was antiretroviral drug.she said she composed herself and left.she never confronted him and that was how she gave him some distance and the relationship ended.she did Hiv test which was negative, repeated after 3 months still and was negative

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    1. People who have the virus and knowingly pass it on cold killers who deserve jail time.

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    2. It happened that his viral load is too low cus he’s taking the drugs and that way he can’t infect another person. Recently it’s been a great time ppl who live with it and take their drugs can actually go on and have kids and have sex with someone who’s negative and not infect them. Even here kn western world there a drug u can take to prevent u from getting it. But always good to use protection although it’s not 100% but it helps. Cuz u can suck s1 & swallow precum unknowingly and u can get it from there. Even just kidding someone who is +ve & bleeding in his gum one can get it. It’s just good to be upfront with whoever u are with to avoid stories that touch.

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  14. I have never been scared of doing the HIV test. In UNIBEN then, medical students usually come to the hostel during their health week to do the test and also share condoms. I did it every single time. It's been a while I did it though

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  15. How do you get married without knowing your HIV/AIDS Status?
    All my life I have had HIV test done 5times.
    First and 2nd was when I was in school.
    3rd and 4th was during youth service, my cds was that HIV/AIDS Sensitization group.
    5th time was in 2018 after I broke up with my bf, it was a really painful breakup and I had to do something to get over him, I met one smallie bros who was my younger sisters age and he fell flat for me, I took the opportunity and threw all caution to the air, did the do like someone who was on rampage, it kinda worked for me. Then I hooked up again with one dude who my friend and I met in a club, it was just a one night isshhh.
    After everything i returned to my sober self, everything I did began to hunt me, I began to think what if this smallie boy or the dude at the club is infected then it means I too have been infected, I was scared to death, I kept postponing my test day, days ran into weeks, weeks into months, until the 10th month I finally summoned enough courage and did the test. It was a great relief I was negative.
    Since then I have been celibate till tomorrow.
    Just recently I met a bobo who insisted we do the do without condoms, I told him oga e be like say make we go do these tests them(I listed about 5 test) bobo run o.
    I say better run and never look back no be me you give wahala.

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  16. The day I carried out the Hiv test,I died, resurrect,died,woke up, staggered and finally woke up.
    I got married and the chychu didn't ask of hiv,they only asked of genotype.i didnt date my hubby..he saw me in a church and that was it,werd wed plans began.After wedding,I got pregnant.when I registered for antinatal,they asked me to go for hiv test,it was a general hospital.That day the devil on the TV for me and was showing me all the life on a fast lane I lived,what it remain was for the tears to roll down my cheeks cos I was crying inside.i was telling myself that today is my day off reckoning.I started practicing how I would break the news to my hubby cos I no I have infected him too.I remembered one day furdur my fast lane days,a babe came to fight my then bf because she met me in his house and he asked her to leave,while the babe was crying,she said "after u have ruined my life and gave me hiv now u want to leave me", I was in the bedroom while they're in the sitting room.After the babe left I wanted to ask my bf if what I heard was true but fear didn't allow me.infact I concluded that I didnt hear what she said well.But that the day in the hospital,I convinced myself that I heard her very well and I'm also infected.I promised God never to return to sin if he makes the test comes out negative,infact I prayed line never befire.i was sweating seriously,my eyes were almost coming out of their socket..I was terrified.
    Then finally it was my turn to go in for the result,I went in,the nurse in charge was holding the result,my neck was streched like that of a giraffe trying to see where they wrote positive,and I'll pretend like I want to go and pee then run away,pack my things and fussappear.
    After the long counselling (I wasn't even paying attention) she said congratulations,u are negative,I just went on my knees thanking God.the nurse had to bring me back to my sit.
    On my way back home,all my 32 teeth were outside,I was just greeting anyone I see on the road with a big smile.That day was one of my happiest day but I don't want to be found in such a tight Corner again.

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    1. I can totally relate with the smiling part. Everything becomes better, food even starts to taste better

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    2. Kai!
      Fear fear people full here ooooooh!
      Thank God for everything.

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  17. I've had two scares.
    The first one I don't pray for anyone to meet with that kind of woman as a counsellor. I was ill, had taken meds with no improvement so the doctor sent me to run some tests and amongst was RBC. I didn't know what RBC was so I walked to the lab and I was told you're not doing this one here. And they pointed it out to me. I saw a heart to heart center (told myself it can't be here) then I walked to the histopathology lab and I was told to go to the heart to heart center. Ah! My heart started beating rapidly, I wasn't sexually active so I knew I couldn't have gotten it from sex, but I was scared because several times the needles from the salon pierced me( I hardly fix weave now and if I must, you must be able to use the bottom of the needle or I carry mine). Then I met the woman from hell who was supposed to be an adviser. I really hope she has been removed from that place.... I filled the form, it was a long wait and I heard how she announced to the lady before me that you're positive. Very fine and sweet lady, this doubled my heart beat. If this fine lady can have it, who am I but was relieved when it came out negative.

    Then the second was last year, even did it twice, different hospitals because the doctors were like it's only virus that can cause what was wrong with me... so they felt it was HIV. Even after telling them I was sure about my status they insisted I ran the test, it made me doubt myself at a point. Thankfully they both came out negative. The second hospital I met a nice counsellor but that one asked for money when my result came out negative. According to her, to celebrate my status 不不不不 I'm just grateful to God that I'm fine now.

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  18. An Aunt died of Aids. She left behind two kids. Testing freaks me out, but it's something one has to do frequently.

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  19. I have been living with HIV for 15yrs now,I got to know when am married to my ex husband he has been sick ,stooling and all that , later I went for pmtct clinic was diagnosed, today my baby girl will 15yrs in may, she is ss2, am living my normal life, HIV is not a death sentence

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  20. I have done HIV test severally and wasn't scared about the result.

    First time i ran the test, i was with my ex fiance, omgosh he was in panic mode, he was close to tears, dude was hyperventilating! I just sat calmly watching him acting like what i don't know, they brought our result and it was negative, he heaved a huge sigh of relief and kept asking me how i remained so calm? Well i always have my shit together, always cool as a cucumber in any circumstance i find myself.

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    1. In my younger days I was quite a playa,used to knack a lot. All those free university girls , spend a bit , go clubbing , I had a very comfy bachelor pad, las las we end up in the sheets.
      57 body count before i got married.

      I was safety conscious tho. Out of all 57 I only did Raw with one girl. The day she told me she was preggy, the love for unprotected sex quenched! Lol. Baba, I was never caught without a condom ever again.

      When I was about to get married.I did the test Was i nervous? Yeah...a bit, but not that much.

      Result came out negative. God was gracious to me....all that fucking around, and I came out negative.

      I am more responsible naadays...i havnt cheated on my wife while dating and even all these years of our marriage.

      Temptations dey, but so far I have not yielded.


      Madam Stella, I greet you.

      On 2 the Next!

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  21. I did a voluntary HIV test at the uni because my boyfriend before I became born again preferred unprotected sex.i was new to sex then and didn't really know much.went to the heart 2 heart centre thrice but the woman stationed there wasn't around.felt it was the universe's way of telling me not to take the tests so I stalled.I sha found my way there one day and met the lady in charge who began to ask me why I had a boyfriend and proceeded to inform me of how my life was going to be in ruins if the test came out positive. I told her I would accept my loss and move on.test came out negative fortunately, a week after I had cold sores all over my mouth!, couldn't eat or talk .went back to the hospital to see a doc and he said it could be HIV but I told him I tested negative few days before. Later discovered the dabur herbal toothpaste I changed to then was responsible for the outbreak of sores

    So I was living the life, found myself on the fast lane which I am not proud of.ihad 14 body counts within a period of 5years and some protected and some unprotected, but the unprotected ones were with high risk and random men.5 abortions on.every hiv advert sent me into panick mode, I begun to research on ways to cure hiv with local herbs and pray God made me hiv negative as I automatically assumed I was a carrier of the virus.I stopped being very
    sexually active I toned it down to once in 2 years. so 5 years on , I encountered God and discovered being sexually careless was the devil's way of distracting me from the right path.please it pays to abstain apart from making you spiritually healthy, it saves you from alot of trouble though hiv can be gotten through other means asides sex. 5 years after I summoned the courage to go and know my status in a teaching hospital. On getting to the lab, the technician was quite cranky and hostile.in the process of drawing my blood she pricked herself with a needle, then she faced me and said I hope you are not hiv positive this one your needle has pricked me.i was livid with anger, she and her colleagues apologised but every night after then I begun to dream I tested positive. I prayed and fasted .and 3 months after my encounter with the lady, I went over.the officials at the lab asked me why it took me so long to come for my results and I told them the technician 's remarks haunted me. I came out clean but if you test positive, it is not the end of life as there are far more worse ailments, just eat healthy and take your drugs. I made a mistake recently by sleeping with my boyfriend of 5 years thinking we were almost married already.he left me at the end. Though it was once in January 2020, I know I messed up and I hope Gid gives me another chance.will very taking the tests again soon

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    1. Aww sweetheart, all will be well. God has got you.

      #beblessed

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  22. I had unprotected sex with one oyoyo babe very pretty fair babe.few days later white sweetny discharge ,did the first test negative not convinced went for the second test negative.treat std with anti biotics.

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  23. I was sexually active with my ex who was HIV positive. He didn't know and I didn't know at the time. He started falling sick regularly and started blaming it on his village people but I felt it within me and told him one day he that he was HIV positive. He kept getting sick, vomiting, stooling and coughing. Then he started stooling blood and he collapsed one day and was rushed to the hospital where he stayed in a comma for two weeks and results of investigations showed he had HIV it was in a very advanced stage but luckily for him HIV treatment has improved and they were able to reverse him to normal HIV so he didn't die of Aids. Now on my own end I was terrified cos I was sure I was infected cos we were still sexually active when his sickness was digressing then along the line we broke up because of his bad side. Luckily I came out negative years after I tested again when I was pregnant and I was terrified because I thought the last test I did was probably still during the incubation period of the virus but it was negative.

    Please you people should help me thank God for saving me because I don't understand why I'm negative today after having sex with someone that had AIDS.

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    1. Maybe you are one of the few people without HIV receptors
      Thank God for your life
      How is he now?

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  24. Hhhmmmm i was convinced i had hiv 3years ago, I had an ex then that was always falling sick, always taking vitamins, always on drugs...sometime After we broke up' I developed dark scaly Patches all over my body, I googled it and it was a symptom of hiv, for months I panicked, I was scared to go for tests.i already believed I was positive. I cried to God several times to change my status. Then I met a guy who wanted to chop, but needed to be sure of my status...well, he encouraged me to get the test, and wen I did and it came out negative' it felt like the God gave me a second chance..I was so relieved. BTW. Stella, can we talk about uterine prolapse in women, I noticed that I can actually feel a bulge which I think it's my cervix, just at the tip of my vagina...Google says that it's older women and those that have had vaginal birth that could get it, I am 29 and never had a child. Never even gotten pregnant. I am confused... I am also scared of going for tests...

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