STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADDICTED TO GBENSHING
Be kind in your words. I am going into depression. I told myself the truth last night...... I am sick!
I need help!!...
I am addicted to sex and Can't help myself.
I am aunty gwegwe but can't stand my ground and say no to s#x no matter how hard l try. I have done all sorts of restitutions on this but always find myself going back to my vomit.
I not bad looking so l am not doing it out of complex. I am a graduate even though no work but l have parents and siblings that truly care so l am not doing it because of money.
Something is WRONG with me..
I did it again last night after staying in the blessed sacrament for 2hours. My heart is torn apart in pains. The weight of the sin is heavy on me. I always vow never to do it again. Na today?. I know God is even tired of my vows.
*Hmmmmmm this your privates na wah..
Is it with one person or several men? I dont know what to tell you at all.... Your problem is not you, the problem is your tohtoh,you probably have a rare condition that needs medical attention..
why dont you try to see a doctor?.. look for a Doctor that your predicament will not give a hard on.. maybe your clits need to be subdued...LMAO
You are outrightly shameless..👀Learn to control your urges sometimes now
ReplyDeleteBe kind. Sex is an addiction to some people
DeleteNo need for unnecessary criticism. She's a nymph, they exist.
DeleteYou should be imploring her to consider going for some sort of therapy and not casting aspersions at her.
Sheesh..
Please try and go on a 3days fasting and prayer 6- 3 or 6- 6 .
DeleteRead your Bible daily. Meditate on 1Corth 6:15-20
You can visit the blessed sacrament during the day asking for God’s mercy
Wake up at midnight during the 3days fast and ask God to have mercy on you and help you overcome the sin of fornication.
The Lord will surely see you through
Judge Judy.she's not the curse of your low libido o
DeleteYou're the shameless one here. How can you be so mean in your choice of words when she outrightly said she has done all sorts of restitutions? You mustn't comment nah. It's not a do or die affair
DeleteWhen someone sends in chronicle for advice, if you have nothing to say just shut the F* up and move to the next. Mtcheeeew
You are an idiot
DeleteYou are very sick for calling her "outrightly shameless". Haba! She is seeking for help and the only thing your coconut head could come up with is telling her how, outrightly shameless, you this Eloquent (Advincci) is. Na wa oh! No just vex me this afternoon. What rubbish!
DeleteStella jeweluchi, abeg, make this comment no lost.
Stop kicking someone that is already down, it’s not nice at all. Poster, stop calling yourself Aunty gwegwe or other derogatory names. As Stella said, some things are medical conditions but we call them spiritual cos we don’t know, talk to a medical expert and get help since you aren’t broke and if it is normal high libido, keep praying it reduces, in the time being, I suggest a friend with benefits pending when marriage comes, better than random men and one night stands.
DeleteThis is harsh. How is she shameless? She doesn't want this lifestyle anymore. She has realized it is an addiction for her and wants help, and you call her shameless? Someone comes crying to you and all you can do is call her names? May you not be in need of help. Amen.
DeleteY'all should keep up with your cries and unnecessary banters you hear?
DeleteMadam please always have an alarm reminder along with you.
DeleteMay God Deliver you
See @Eloquent_Iam, see fuck na 5&6
DeleteYou're doing it because that's where your mind is..Put your mind into other things maybe baking or Reading books..Remove your find from vagina related things or private parts..
ReplyDeleteGood point,
DeleteHello Poster, sometimes we use words to describe events, but most times the events are not what we think it is. Sexual addiction or hypersexuality is an uncontrollable urge to indulge in sexual acts. A person with sex addiction may have a compulsive need to be sexually stimulated. This desire often interferes with their ability to live their daily life. Do you indulge in maturation, pornography, voyeurism, or any other sexual fantasies to satisfy your urge? Does it interfere with your day to day activities? How many times do you indulge in these acts? What lead to them? Do you fulfill your desire with any available partner or you can’t say no to your partner? What part of your body do they touch that make you loose control? What was your growing up like? What is it that you are running from but can manifest only through sex? What is your growing up like? These questions answered by yourself alone can lead you somewhere. It might not be an addiction yet. But if it is, you can still get help. I don’t know which country you are in but psychiatrist can help you. A listening ear who will not judge you will help but you need to unearth any buried events and feelings that might be difficult to unearth. God can never get tired of you! He sees, he knows, and he always listens! Do not be discouraged. You will still fall but get up and keep moving! Seek a medical help if it interfere with your daily living, lead you into indulging in dangerous acts, and if can do ANYTHING to fulfil the urge when it hits. It will be okay, stop staying alone, keep your mind and hands busy, stay away from all form of sexual stipulations, talk to God not only when you fall but before you fall. If you want, reply to this and feel free to chat with me. I am not a psychiatrist, I a only a woman who knows God can use us to help others. Don’t loose hope!
DeleteZikora, all you said is right but I will add that poster needs to ask Jesus Christ to be her Lord and Saviour.
DeleteSalvation in Christ is the key to her freedom. 🙏
Jesus don't change people, people choose to change by themselves. There are things you don't pray about, this is one of it
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DeleteI pray that you have an encounter with Jesus like I did
A nymphomaniac. See a female sex therapist, hopefully that can help.
ReplyDeleteStella you no well, I swear. Poster I would have said we should pray for you to find a husband so you can continue gbenshing with no guilt but look into Stella's advice, you might have to seek some sort of therapy if not the marriage might scatter if you dey look for other ds, since you have identified it as a problem and an addiction, address the root cause and seek treatment, then God will bless you with your match libido and gbenshing wise. Don't be ashamed, seek help.
ReplyDeleteIv not had sex for 2yrs now since my last relationship even though i get horny. I have a problem sleeping with a man except i love you. If i dont i will feel irritated. I dont just do any guy.
DeleteMaybe there is a hormone overworking in your body that makes You crave for it. You need a therapist or a doctor
ReplyDeleteYou are a Nympho, try seeing a shrink and also apply willpower
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ReplyDeleteYou are not "auntie gwe," you are God's creation
ReplyDeletewho have been trapped by the evil one into sin.
The devil does not allow his captives go free
Freedom comes from Jesus Christ.
How did the devils get in, in the first place?
Of course through sexual immorality. Sex is not fun.
One person you have it with can imperil your life and eternity
You cannot be free on your own. Talk to Jesus and tell him
that you are sorry and you want him to save you. For he whom the son
can set free shall be free indeed. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Yes talk to Jesus, ask him for grace to be save and remained saved. Love Christ more than ever before. Since you have no job at the moment work for God and the interest of his kingdom and he will settle to you. Matthew 6:33 works.
DeleteSo her "to*to" is now different from her, really?
ReplyDeleteA tale of "the shooter is not the problem but his hands and fingers?"
Jesus saves the whole human. Ask him to save you
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The best solution to your high and uncontrollable libido is to get a marketer job in access bank. When you see the access united (AU) target ehn ur toto will dry up fiam
ReplyDeleteLol 😆 🤣 😂
DeleteOh dear, I wish you the best as you seek solutions to this predicament.
ReplyDeleteThere's a doctor I know who has this problem also. She had to have sex everyday, if not she'd be frustrated. She's late now though... She died in a road accident 🙁
Poster you can get out of that bondage, I emphatize your feeling as one who got free from masturbation, identify the triggers,Evey addiction has a trigger and avoid them. do away with guilty feelings after praying for mercy, God is a Loving Father, don't make vows, ask the Holy Spirit of God to help you overcome the temptations and as someone earlier mentioned work on your mind and filled it with things that will build your life. Remember what God cannot do does not exist,😘e-hugs
ReplyDeleteYou don't need a doctor and neither do you need any crook that calls himself a pastor. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. The solution is just one thing- get a permanent boyfriend that also has a high libido. Make sure his libido matches yours. In your search, don't go on the moronic Nigerian girls' hallucination of wanting a rich boyfriend. Remember, na fuck be your immediate problem, not money. Many men who would ordinarily date women run away when you begin to mount financial pressure on them. Don't also settle for all these shameless young men taking money from women. Just settle for a guyman wey like fuck like you. Who knows, you guys might just get married. Please stop using that word on yourself. I detest that word. I can't even type it.
ReplyDeleteI didn't think I will ever agree with Ceasar but he is right. On your way to recovery which is what you want, if you keep falling, find yourself a temporary boyfriend with a high libido, so at least you are sticking to one man. Also both of you should get checked for STIs before you start gbenshing.
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DeleteI'm also partially addicted 2sex nd I c nothing bad in having a high libido.Na fuk I dey fuk,I nor kill person.Though I'm quite selective when chosing my partners nd normally fuk 1person often,he too has a high libido so we jst dey help ourselves with evryday fuking.
ReplyDeleteSex is bae,enjoy ur gift,dnt c it as a curse nd be quite selective as to who u allow in ur coochie, men re very cheap and u should be going 4 dos classy ones nt truck pusher o
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DeleteI laughed soo hard at “men are very cheap”..i never saw their level of promiscuity as that but you are indeed very correct😂😂
DeleteThere is a word called nymphomania. I'll advise you to see a sex therapist. With therapy and determination, you can overcome your sex addiction.
ReplyDeleteYou ain't the only one, there are hundreds of women that didn't seek help before getting into marriage. Please, don't think of getting married without seeking medical or therapeutic solution.
She did not state whether the do is with one man or different.
ReplyDeleteShe needs help. So she can't stay without gbenshing. Some of us are celibate for four years now and counting. And feeling at peace.
Poster, if with same person, formalise the relationship. If with different men, you are in a longgggg thing, on your own.
Whether it's with one man or multiple men e no concern you. Advice her and move on! Amebo
DeleteGlaringly, she's doing it with different men.
DeleteAll those insulting and planning to insult, l hope u know sex addiction is a mental condition. Maybe she needs to see a physcatric doctor. Maybe. Just maybe
ReplyDeletePoster nothing is wrong with you, you are doing all these cos your lonely and jobless..i pray you find a job and a man that loves you for who you are..Good luck.
ReplyDeleteNothing to be ashamed about. Good a thing you want to change from this lifestyle. Please confide in your parents and seek help medically. Usually its peeps that begin to be sexually active very early in life with various partners that this kinda stuffs happen to from the few people I know that fall in this bracket. Also you are idle. Get a job even if it's a voluntary service for now. Occupy your mind and seek help.
ReplyDeleteShe should confide in a " Nigerian Parent" that she is a sex addict??
DeleteYou are a HYPOCRITE!
Stop spewing rubbish confidently!
Whether one became sexually active early in life or not does not stop one from being whatever he or she wants to become!
Anno 19.32 you should state your comments without insulting others. Not every Nigeria parent is like yours. You might be unfortunate to have parents that don't care about your life hence your mindset.
DeleteAnonymous 20:41 and you grew up with a Nigerian parent whose mindset is/ was liberal...Liar!!! LOL
DeleteNo sweetie I am actually very lucky with my parents and they really care about my life till date actually.. but I didn't come here to spew rubbish about telling a " Nigerian parent" that I have a high libido when I know an average " Nigerian parent" expects their Daughters to remain virgins till they get married...Lol..
Oh and for someone who tried to lecture me about being nice and sweet...You are a bloody HYPOCRITE too darling... Lol
Maybe find a job that will keep you busy?
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for how you feel poster. Pls let’s be kind with our words. The world is already hard enough. So here is my advise. Listen to message from pastor Paul Rika on YouTube.(holiness Rivival movement) it might sound like what the hell? Try it and thank me later. I was once in your shoes. May the good Lord see you through. May the devil not continue to use your body for his house. May you conquer flesh and may the light of God shine and give you that inner peace that you desire. Don’t waste your money on sex therapy o. You might end up making it worse. Just go to Jesus in sincerity. Your case is small for Jesus to handle. As you are praying, keep yourself busy with the word of God and those messages since you do not have any job at the moment. God bless your family also for standing by you in this hard times when money is not easy to come by.
ReplyDeleteAmen! 🙏 Poster take this advice.
DeleteYou can also try certain SSRIs. Get a doctor to recommend one for you. It will do wonders in reducing your sexual urges if not turn it off completely. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex. But you might want to work on the frequency of it.
ReplyDeleteIt may be a disorder and there must be help somewhere.
ReplyDeleteI also know that God can help you. Some people have written here how they got help.
By reading the Bible and fasting. Call God to help you.
Keep yourself busy, you will be fine.
ReplyDeleteThis one tire me ehh. Problem really dey for this life wey we dey.
ReplyDeletePoster since it is like this, while you keep praying you can find just one partner you can always go meet for the itchy toto to be satisfied, as in since all your efforts to abstain isn't working.
Meanwhile have you gone for deliverance, this could be a marine husband problem, maybe its his way of keeping you from getting a spouse and settling down.
Deliverance is not once , keep going while you keep praying no mater how many times you go back to getting layed.God will help you.while you are going for deliverance please mind the kinda church you go, avoid pastors who will extort your financially or in kind'
Finally get really busy, start a business,even if it is to carry your goods, just keep busy while you keep praying.
My God. She should be praying and fornicating?
Delete"I'm addicted to sex and can't help myself". That's where your solution is! YOU CAN'T HELP YOURSELF AND NEVER WILL. The later part of I Samuel 2:9 says " by strength shall no man prevail ". Only God can do that for you. This is a clear case of the demon of fornication at work. This demon wants to ruin your very beautiful and glorious destiny. But he won't if you don't allow it in Jesus name. Amen.
ReplyDeleteRepent thoroughly of all sins. Ask God to forgive you for everything you've done wrong knowingly and unknowingly.
Go for deliverance. Very seriously. If you need to repeat it severally, please do. Use the prayer points you get at the deliverance to pray at home not only in church. Form the habit of fasting daily at least from 6-12. During the fast, declare the following scriptures addressing the demon(s):
Isaiah 53:5,
Isaiah 44:25
Job 5:12,
Num. 23:23
Col. 2:14
Isaiah 49: 24-2
Rev.12:11
Say it loudly to them. They will hear and leave you. Use the blood of Jesus to draw a line around you. Tell them to cross the line if they dare.
Read the bible daily to build your spirit man. Avoid things, places and circumstances that will put you in a sexual position. Above all, believe God can do it (he can and wants to; has been waiting for you to call him) and it will be done.
You are set free in Jesus name. Amen.
Poster visit a female doctor to check and see if there is something they can do medically to control this.
ReplyDeleteI will say self control is all you need, channel your energy, attention, time onto sometimes meaningful. Stop staying alone, stop doing nothing, get busy that will help you alot to come out of this. When the spirit comes for you to meet with a man just tell yourself I cannot, I will not do it.
You alone can get yourself out of this problem, no one can do it for you. Hope no one laid a curse on you. Go through your parents to understand what is happening to you.
Dear Poster. Thank you for your honesty and courage. The first step in any recovery is admitting you have a problem. I will suggest you join an online addiction group (not an in person one o) first. Then go to a hospital, check out your hormone levels and also go to a sexual health clinic and get checked for STIs. You will likely relapse on your way to recovery so make sure you use protection if that happens. I suspect you may have very low self esteem, so this is where therapy kicks in. Also keep praying and keep trying to get better. As someone who has been celibate for 20 years I will urge everyone to be compassionate.
ReplyDeleteTruth is try n see a therapist. Good you know how to pray
ReplyDeleteHow did the sex happened, was it not by visiting the person is his house ? Well I know a lady friend then that confided in me that she just can't say no to a man when she visits even for the first time so she avoids visiting men in their house that way she had reduced her body count! The truth is the best way to get over it is avoid occasions that will lead to it!!!!! And no you are very normal. Try keep yourself busy and look for any reasonable job or learn a skill like makeup, braiding hair and event management and planning I bet you, you'd make it big time if you can put your effort well! Heaven help those who help themselves! So help yourself and God will guide you through the rain!
ReplyDeleteLook for a nymph to marry. Una go dey alright.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I was once almost addicted to sex. Yes it was embarrassing and the guilt would eat me up for a minute after sex or masturbation. I also took many vows. I still have the books containing my letters to God,lol. I was living with my parents and I was very comfortable. Three years ago, I moved out of my parents house. I rented a comfortable apartment. I lost my job and life became extremely difficult for me. I couldn't go back to my parents because they were against me moving out and said I would come back begging. So I struggled to survive. I took a 40k job and moved into a smaller apartment. My life was sloping backward. How I managed to stay afloat was only by God's Grace. My dear, in two years I didn't touch myself or desire sex. I started dating a guy, he off my matter because according to him "my sex life was poor". True to his words, I was always irritated when it comes to the sex, no urge, never wet or in the mood. I became uptight like it was new to me. I found myself being relaxed and excited about it, only when oga dashed me money. Now I have a little business that is promising. I feel a bit more comfortable now. And I get the urge once in a while and I feel blessed when this urges comes, lol. So dear poster, I think you are too comfortable where you are. Get something to occupy your mind day and night, and sexual satisfaction will be the last thing that would pop up. By the way, I'm not married yet, and we are not aunty gwegwe.
ReplyDeleteHere's the thing, addiction of any kind is hard for anyone.
ReplyDeleteAddiction can't be stopped instantly, it is a gradual process.
You're a step closer to healing.
You've gained acceptance.
Start by reducing the frequency per day, then per week, then per month.
It's addiction so you may find yourself going back every now and then but eventually you'll gain control over it.
Whenever you don't want to, go home and be with your siblings or lock yourself in your room or have a cold shower.
Learn to move about in groups. Large groups. If you drink fast from it.
You'll overcome. It's not easy but you will
All addictions are coping mechanism to resolve pain and trauma. Especially with no job our forward movement in your life sex seems to be the area you can control and it feels good. Restitution, prayer vigils and nothing like that will help you until you get to the source of the pain and deal with it.
ReplyDeleteMaybe all of this started from a young age, maybe it started at a time of great pain. Only you know your history. I sincerely wish you all the best in conquering this addiction. However, if you can never drop it then learn to deal with in a healthy manner. Marry someone who is non-judgmental and who has a higher than average libido. Get involved in community work/volunteering and keep yourself busy and form healthy enriching relationships with people.
You admitting that you have a problem is the first step at the possibility of healing. But you speak too badly about yourself. Stop using such harsh words on yourself, please. You are not less than anybody else because your have struggles.
God bless you all. God bless you all. God bless you all. I have noted all your suggestions. I will go to work by implementing some immediately.
ReplyDeleteAmen to all the prayers. Thank you SDK for posting. Thank you Bves for your kind words. I'm feeling at peace now
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DeleteI pray the Almighty heals you.
ReplyDeleteOn your road to recovery you can also get yourself busy by getting additional qualifications or learn a skill.
Start by cutting out white carbs and sugar. Then start exercising to increase your serotonin levels, pray, see a female sex therapist.
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