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Friday, April 23, 2021

Weekend Arena - What A Time To Be A Nigerian Child!

This is a must read if you want to know what ''Bottom'' or ''top'' means!








The Nigerian society as it is today, no doubt, has a lot of ‘avoidable’ challenges for everyone. But the most vulnerable group, if you ask me, is the younger generation of Nigerians.


 So many ugly and injurious things are unfolding before them. Their generation is inundated with a lot of gloomy details: defilement, child trafficking, unsafe schools, hunger etc. And the ‘briefcase’, ‘naira-printing economy’ has further deprived most of them of adequate parental care, as many parents are more concerned with their economic fortunes.


 Many parents work their butts off to be able to keep them in very exorbitant private schools, due to the failure of government to provide viable alternatives, and very little attention is given to them in terms of mentoring and filial attachment. 


The downside of this can be seen in two major headlines that rocked the country this week.

It took the arrest of Rhoda Agboje, a third year undergraduate and her boyfriend, Ifeanyi for the nation to wake up to the reality that cookies, ordinary cookies are now being laced with addictive narcotic substances which are sold to school children. Reports put the cost of the cookies at N1,500 for a pack of three, and it is likely that many parents may not have a wind of this and would not mind working harder to provide money for these magic-cookies. 


What NDLEA has unfolded is the one in cookies; who knows how many of such substances are being infused in doughnuts and buns sold to the less-privileged children who cannot afford Rhoda’s Cookies?


May be the issue of the drug-laden cookies is not as disturbing as the viral video which had a group of teenagers from a public secondary school, smoking (abi piping?) shisha. My wife drew my attention to the viral video and my first instinct was to dismiss it as a scene in a movie probably made in Congo, because Nollywood’s picture quality has advanced beyond that. I did not imagine it was real until the news reported that the girls were actually from a public secondary school in Ikorodu, Lagos! 



The shock was palpable due to their ages and gender. It’s good that the very responsive Lagos State Government has not only identified them, but also initiated a rehabilitation programme for them. But that is what the world is turning to and pretty reminds one of those days when popular NTA news anchor, Frank Olize, would begin his popular show, Newsline with the unique question: Where is your child?


‘Where is your child?’ in this instance may not be referring to how much one is paying as school fees but to how closely or loosely parents are monitoring their children. In reality, some parents quantify parental care with the amount of money being expended as tuition, but it sure goes beyond that. In fact if there is a time in the life of a nation when parents ought to worry about the kind of exposure their children are confronted with, it should be now. The digital nature of the times has made their level of exposure much more fast-paced than what was obtainable 30 years ago.



 For sheer lack of it, children 35 years ago did not see any controversial images to watch apart from those from NTA; and for some of us who grew up in the South East, it was NTA Channel 6 Aba, that would open for broadcast at 5.00pm with the National anthem and close five hours later at 9.30pm after the network news. Now they are not just exposed to 24-7 television but to the internet, where YouTube and Google will explain whatever they want to know, no matter how evil.



 The sight of dead bodies then was frightening but I doubt if such images still send shocks down their spines with all the stories of killings around them today. For parents who show class by buying great smartphones for their kids, they should also go the extra mile to monitor what they do online, because that is where children could pick information about what shisha does to the body.



The social networking sites are a major culprit but the developers of the apps have done their bit by placing consent policy barriers which everyone must agree with before joining. There is no way Mark Zuckerberg will come to PH to know the actual ages of everyone on Facebook. It is left for the parents!

My encounter on Facebook lately is worrying for me as an adult and I can’t help imagining how a naïve child, under 13 would be able to handle such pressures. In the past one month or so, I noticed that I was getting an unusually high volume of friendship requests. I guess they altered their algorithm which has been exposing my profile to people and all manners of people have been sending requests and many of those I manage to scrutinize and accept, usually rush into my inbox with all manners of undue pleasantries like ‘how was your night?’ during the hot afternoon hours. 


 Sometimes I would open my Messenger to notice 200 messages! And I manage to scan them so I don’t miss the important ones. The other day, I noticed this guy, Connex Matemba, who claimed to be a Malawian living in South Africa, telling me how handsome I looked. I gave him a thumbs-up and the next thing, he was asking if I was ‘top’ or ‘bottom’. Haa!


 Intuition told me what he was up to, so I played along. I told him, ‘bottom’. He was so excited and the next thing, he flooded my inbox with his naked photos, including those of his manhood! Then, he asked for my photos.


 I guess he was expecting photos of my bum since I declared ‘bottom’, but I shocked him. I told him that I was an investigative reporter working on a story on gay activities on Facebook and that I was going to publish his naked photos to back up my story. He melted and has been begging for two days. 

Now imagine what such sinister souls are showing younger vulnerable ones online.

17 comments:

  1. It will be a very long while before my kids will own a phone (smart or not). God help us!

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  2. I somehow miss the good old days of moonlight stories

    Everything happening in the world today might have been existing before today, maybe on a low-key and was regard to as a taboo
    But all these is coming to be a norm in the society today
    I really fear for this generation and the future generation, things will be a lot mess than this.

    I can't wait for the coming of the Lord , I'm tired of all this Irritating, sick and disheartening news

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  3. Nice write up. Parents have to do their best and pray for their children.

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  4. Mr Ngozi... Ahhhh. God bless you.

    Parents and our society today is something else. Money is the only thing that is valued. Parents no longer teach children manners, kids will see you and brush you to pass and can't utter a simple good whatever time of the daily it is.

    No discipline whatsoever. Growing up,i believe most of our parents use our manners to brag but now it's about how much they spend on their kids. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with spending on time, but spend time, spend your love, and manners in them.

    Go to the classroom and see, students can't read and they don't care. Their parents money will do it for them. If you talk, their parents will tell you they paid, let their money to the work.

    So many things are messed up. I was talking with a jss3 students some time ago. She's always dressing in very short skirts talking about how she's doing things to boys.

    I was trying to talk to her and she just shut me up. The new line is "that one na old school ". Morals, discipline,spirituality,contentment,manners,care,love,reading etc are rapidly becoming old school. If you are not on social media, you are old school.

    We can do better, it used to be that the community raises the child, I said used to because right now,things are not it anymore.

    Everyone is now "woke" I guess except me.

    Top or bottom ko, up and down ni. Mtchewww

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  5. Mr Ngozi... Ahhhh. God bless you.

    Parents and our society today is something else. Money is the only thing that is valued. Parents no longer teach children manners, kids will see you and brush you to pass and can't utter a simple good whatever time of the daily it is.

    No discipline whatsoever. Growing up,i believe most of our parents use our manners to brag but now it's about how much they spend on their kids. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with spending on time, but spend time, spend your love, and manners in them.

    Go to the classroom and see, students can't read and they don't care. Their parents money will do it for them. If you talk, their parents will tell you they paid, let their money to the work.

    So many things are messed up. I was talking with a jss3 students some time ago. She's always dressing in very short skirts talking about how she's doing things to boys.

    I was trying to talk to her and she just shut me up. The new line is "that one na old school ". Morals, discipline,spirituality,contentment,manners,care,love,reading etc are rapidly becoming old school. If you are not on social media, you are old school.

    We can do better, it used to be that the community raises the child, I said used to because right now,things are not it anymore.

    Everyone is now "woke" I guess except me.

    Top or bottom ko, up and down ni. Mtchewww

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  6. Oh. I still remember my days of 2go. I remember one guy asking me for my pictures, I told him its on my dp. He insisted I didn't understand so he sent me pictures. It was kinda dark. And I was asking him what. It took me some minutes to actually get it that he was asking for my nudes. He was always engaging me in meaningful conversations. But that move had him unfriended.

    After that,2go lost its place in my heart. I just got tired of it. I don't have any social account lest my whatsapp. I allows me the privacy I want. Nobody can just send me request. Still only my contacts can access my profile picture. I still don't use my picture, I don't know why but it has just like that with me.

    I wonder how people cope with sending their nudes to anyone. Like, this is something that can be uploaded for the whole world. Why take nudes sef.

    The only functioning channel now is zeeworld, until big brother comes up again and you'll see how kids are being exposed to the content.

    If you talk, they'll tell you, a mother knows best. So I wonder what's to be done.

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  7. Top or bottom? Gays are openly toasting random men on Facebook? Aluu!!!. Mr Ngozi. are you sure someone didn't add you to a "group" you are yet to be notified of. So many things happen on SM these days.

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    1. And vice versa too.Let me not get started on the increasing number of pedophiles.and pervs.My little niece that was rewarded with a smart phone for passing her exams almost fell prey to this useless pervs on facebook.Its a really sad situation.

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    2. Ahh...I miss those days.Frank.Olize and his famous newsline opening question.."Its 9 0 clock;where are your children",days children are dropped off at neighbours houses freely without fear of defilement;even the nannies then had fear of God,not now that CCTV is needed to monitor their activities bcos of increasing number of atrocities they commit.Social media has indeed had its fair share of positives and negatives.

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  8. Oh ụwa nkaa sef!
    Zero shame, inukwa top or bottom, ALU!

    I enjoy reading your article Mr.Ngozi, haplh weekend sir.

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  9. Sometimes I lay awake at night, thinking about my daughter and how to shield her from these evils.
    Lord, I need you. I really do.

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  10. My greatest prayer now is that God should help me with parenting in this present world. My husband laughs when I start my worries.

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  11. This world don spoil finish. It's really sad ☹️

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  12. Nice one Sir.Very insightful it is.

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