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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
URGENT ADVICE NEEDED



Hi Stella,
Please I need urgent advice that I can apply to a situation at my Work place this week.


 I've been in my company for a little over two years and my boss has been commending my efforts. In fact, he even hired 3 new hands from my previous company because of my efforts and would hype me during their interviews .

Now, a new role was created and it's a senior role but they got an external candidate. I felt bad initially cos I saw it as a growth opportunity but he reassured me it doesn't mean there won't be future growth opportunities, that they needed a strong hand for the role.

When the new lady resumed, I was excited cos she's a lady like me and had better experience from what I saw in her portfolio. I felt i would learn a lot from her.

Now, its been 3 months and she's not performing as expected and keeps asking me to teach her the job, while bragging about her previous experience.

 Sometimes she'll say she's scared she might not last till the end of the year. Now my colleague is suggesting I help her out and I'm confused. Like how do i teach my senior colleague how to do her job?


What do you guys advise please? Am i being petty?





*If this is being petty, then please by all means be petty and DO NOT TEACH HER ANYTHING!!!!!:
Destiny stealer!
Why did she accept a Job she knows nothing about? Please stop being friendly with her so that she does not develop liver to come and be asking you to help her...
Be Petty and dont do it.

83 comments:

  1. Let her tell your boss, she never merited all that was attributed to her, please stay on your lane jare




    *Larry was here*

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    1. If you exaggerate on your cv and eventually land the job, then the onus is on you to quickly learn what you claim you know. Why put someone else under this burden while still being braggadocious???
      If she’s smart, she will quickly pay someone to take her in a crash course on the thing except it’s something that only experience can handle. In that case, she’s not qualified.

      Meanwhile, if she was smart, IT HAS BEEN 3 MONTHS, what stopped her from learning on her own, all this while?

      Poster, I don’t have an answer to your question. Humans are unpredictable and can be wicked for no reason.

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    2. This is how they used my cousin until she eventually left.

      They kept bringing people who they paid better but all the work was left for her to do.
      She grew with the company, gave her nights to it.

      This year, she just woke up one day and resigned, they kept begging but she refused to go back because she was mentally drained.
      Don't give your all to something or someone that doesn't care.

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  2. One must learn to stick to their exact job responsibility at work.
    Doing other people's work for them always backfire.

    On the day you do it right for her, she gets the glory. On the day you do it wrong, she would throw you under the bus.

    Politely tell her it's not your duty and stick to what you are being paid for.

    Don't malign her, don't gossip about her, don't even do any sidetalks with anyone about how slack she is.

    If she is as bad as you have described, she will be the one to expose herself.

    And as for your boss, he is a User, you ain't getting any higher role anytime soon.

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    1. Anon up there well said 😘

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    2. I so much agree with you. Poster, this here is a good advice.

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    3. Thank you. Her boss is a user...

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    4. Poster mind your business and let your boss teach her since he decided to bring in a lady to be on top.

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    5. The babe might be dating your boss codedly and he knew she doesn't know the work. If teaching her will please your boss, use the opportunity.

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    6. Gbam! The boss is a user too! Why not direct u on the job & support u to do it for them, rather than brining an external candidate there...than will use ur head to crack coconut.😡
      It's always that way in the banking jobs, social services etc. They'll never promote a frontline worker to management levels, rather They'll steal ur ideas, steal ur energy & steal ur talent for many years.

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  3. Stella just want to give you problem with her advice. Ur boss knew you are better but want that lady in that position. If you don't teach her,you will end up doing her job and she will still remain ur senior. Be at peace with her and work as a team. There is a reward for every good deed. Stella,pls this is Nigeria,not Germany.

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    1. The office described above is not federal civil service job where incompetent folks from a particular region are appointed to boss the competent ones and get credit for doing nothing yet greater percentage of work is done by the junior who was denied promotion to teach the boss. She should mind her business and face her work. This is Nigeria yet things are the way they are.

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    2. Stellakoko is absolutely right on this one. Why would she accept a job she's not it capable of handling???

      Poster should mind her role and face front...

      Her boss is a user. What stops them from giving her the new role , upgrade her salary??? Or she doesn't deserve the senior role???

      Monkey cannot work and baboo will be taking the glory...

      Poster, face front and do not teach her jack...

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    3. Baltika, you perfectly described the average govt job in Nigeria mehn. You too sabi abeg.

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  4. Poster be wise. Do not teach her. Let her flop while bragging.

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  5. Stella just want to give you problem with her advice. Ur boss knew you are better but want that lady in that position. If you don't teach her,you will end up doing her job and she will still remain ur senior. Be at peace with her and work as a team. There is a reward for every good deed. Stella,pls this is Nigeria,not Germany.

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  6. Please be petty with your full chest. DO NOT TEACH HER ANYTHING, I REPEAT DO NOT TEACH

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  7. Teach her, part of work experience for her. If u teach her, who knows, you might just be promoted for being supportive. Anyway, you know about office politics. If I were u, I would teach her n make sure the boss knows...just incase she decides to be funny.

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    1. My thoughts exactly...it’s good to be good...no body knows tomorrow ...just see it as an opportunity to keep improving your self

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  8. Gbam!!
    Stella I support you on this

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  9. Nothing stings like being passed over for a promotion and then the opportunity is being given to an incompetent person.

    Look, the universe just opened up another opportunity for you so don’t teach her nada. Then your boss will know see how valuable you are to the company. Best of luck! 💛

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  10. Poster, I suggest you teach her but with conditions. Report it to your boss and make it official. Let it be stated in black and white that she is undergoing on-the-job-training. It should be documented and you should be paid differently for it. Next time they'll check internally for 'strong' hands. Lol.

    You don't want to experience the credit for your hard work being given to someone else. It's very painful and demeaning. Discuss it with the lady. If she says go ahead, good. If she says no, then she should steer clear of you. Every experience, talent, skill and knowledge one acquires is to make way and progress. Yours should.

    Remember, teaching her without official authorization could distract you from your own duties and you could be queried. Meanwhile, she'll be making progress at the expense of your job. And if it is settled officially that you teach her, then do it nicely and thoroughly. Have a nice day.

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    1. Jechix I agree with you. This office politics skill is not for the weak.

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  11. I don't know why some people lie on the CV while applying for jobs. You know you did not have the experience why lie?....

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  12. If she wants you to teach her, she should make it official, by informing your boss that she needs you to tutor her on her job, simple

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  13. She learns from you, she solidifies that position and might not be grateful. Face your work and let her sort herself. Teach her train.

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  14. Poster u need to teach her if she's not a bad boss. You don't know the opportunities this could open up for you. You have no idea if she would even refer you for a promotion when the time comes.

    Your grouse should be with the person who went outside to hire a supposedly better hand and not with the new hire.

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    1. I agree with Eka...

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    2. I agree to, poster teach her. It's a learning curve for you both.
      Your not teaching her doesn't remove anything from you.
      Don't be petty about it, you can't tell who will be watching out for you while at it.
      And who says your promotion has to be from that company?
      It's a whole new experience that you can add to your portfolio; you being able to successfully onboard a senior person, you can't tell what interview you'll attend where it'll come in handy.
      Continue to consistently put in your best and the sky is your starting point.

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  15. What make you feel that her boss is not aware about her incompetence? Poster,don't be carried away. Wisdom is profitable to direct

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    1. Are you the lady? This one you've been all over the comment section.

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  16. Teach her
    If she get it immediately, then fine, if not you have done your best
    Just teach her/help her out

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  17. I think you can put her through the basics and if she doesn't still get it after a while ,report to your boss

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  18. Maybe she scratched someone back and balls to get the high level job she was not qualified for.

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    1. Na so the other room rewards

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    2. She might be your boss' side chic o,

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  19. Madame whenever she ask you to teach her tell her you don't know and face front. Reduce your being friendly with her,I'm not asking you to fight with her just face your front and mind your business, simple.

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    1. Wicked people...na them but you can ask for help when you need it?

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    2. Anon16.43 you don't deserve my response you are a cretin.

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    3. @16:59
      And you still responded, and insulted her?

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  20. I won't drag with anybody for promotion or position at work and this is why;
    Psalm 75: 6No one from the east or the west

    or from the desert can exalt themselves.

    7It is God who judges:

    He brings one down, he exalts another.



    When the Lord wants to promote you, nothing can stop it.

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    1. @Golibe
      My take is clear from what I wrote above.
      Wait for God to promote you. Don't drag it with her.
      Teach her if it is convenient for you to do so without
      jeopardizing your own work. Everything mustn't be written.

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  21. Na to stay your lane dey mind your business

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  22. Please help her by all means, this is an opportunity for you to show yourself. Help her but dont ever let her take the glory. Do her work , shine and excel in it for all man to see.
    Simple. It's a corporate world. Fish eat fish.
    As for them taking an external person for that role?, it's what it is. No job is your family oo. Ehen, CEOs, they do what's best for them, so do what's best for you and you CV. Shikena.

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  23. Teach her,but some how, without bragging let your boss know that you are indirectly doing the work

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  24. Wrong advise Stella. The lady is NOT a destiny stealer. There's nothing wrong with the poster rendering assistance when it's within her job requirements to do so. Sometimes it takes months to find one's rhythm when coming into a new place and taking on a new role. Also the boss did nothing wrong in selecting someone from another organization for the senior role. Perhaps the poster hasn't met some of the requirements for that position or he wants the new lady to bring her experience from her previous organization. Or maybe the poster is meant for a senior role but not within this company.

    In any case, even if you, Poster don't help her, if the lady is worth her salt, she'll find a way to perform her role and you won't come off looking well especially as she's your superior and may be responsible for giving you appraisal.

    Also, avoid the temptation to run her down in front of your colleagues and your boss. The professional world is hard enough for women. You won't find guys running down their male superior or refusing to the work assigned to them just because they think they're better qualified. Besides, this world is small and life is unpredictable. In your eyes, she may have no value but years down the line, you may need her help over another aspect of life. I've seen this happen so many times.

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    1. Best suggestion so far. Was actually thinking of how to put this thought together. I have experienced this first hand, most employees get bitter when an organisation brings an external person into a more senior role that they felt they are ripe for.
      The organisation knows the criteria for that particular role and I am sure the lady merited it.

      Just like you have said, it takes months to find your feet or even comprehend the organisation structure or politics in a new role, the lady might be seeking help in this regard and not necessarily in the technical aspect of the role. You are already bitter by not been considered for the role and the tiniest of help from the new lady might pass her off as incompetent.

      If it doesn't take away from your own tasks do well to help her. Some environment are extremely toxic and hostile to new employees and you never know where you would find yourself professionally in the future

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    2. Thank you anon 15:52! All these other ‘advices’ . There are ways to these things. Good Bess you for this

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    3. Moreover, you are not the judge of her performance, to you she might be lagging but to your boss she is delivering on her KPIs, senior roles are more managerial than technical and believe me managing your boss and making your boss looks good is a key skill

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    4. Stellas advice dey weak me sometimes. Which one is destiny stealer again? Someone that applied for a job and got it.

      I don’t have strength for long typing. Just know that anywhere in the world, Nigeria or abroad, you refusing to show her some ropes will put you in bad graces of your superiors. You have to be extremely wise and diplomatic.
      Your boss is definitely watching you, help her but don’t let your efforts be undermined. When another position comes up, you’ll get the offer

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    5. The issue here is the lady is still bragging of her past experience even when she's a novice..

      Di, let her use her past experience on the new job..

      She won't even appreciate the poster after everything. She will carry on as if she knows it all...

      You can't be dumb and arrogant at the same time...

      Poster , face front , let her use her vast experience to do the job...

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    6. This!!!! Life na turn by turn. Poster you'll be shocked where your accolades will come from. Continue to put in that work.

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  25. Please dear teach her

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  26. Please teach her. Continue with your good & cheerful disposition towards her and everyone else in your work place

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  27. You were there with all your competence when your boss chose to employ someone else for the role. He didn't want you for that role, despite your competence.

    It wouldn't hurt to HELP HER. Not helping her may not make your boss give you that role, instead, he may hire someone else for the role. Help people when you can, even if you wish you have what they have been given.

    Just like you, that woman is trying to earn a living and she is willing to learn on the job, don't deny her that if you can, just because you're hurt you didn't get the role.

    You know the right thing to do, do it.

    God will come through for you.

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  28. Beevees 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂... most people are saying don't teach her, meanwhile if you where In her shoes, una for like make dem teach una oo. I know everyone who works has been taught one or two things by a superior or subordinate, yet ye want God to bless y'all? Some Bad minds n hypocrites.

    Poster please teach her a bit n inform your boss.

    Christians get bad mind sha...or shall I say church goers? Hahahahahaha

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    1. BB na true you talk. Make God help us. Heaven go hard to enter.🤔😞😩

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    2. No mind them BB and after they will litter other posts with Bible passages.

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    3. You are not sure the pieces of advices against teaching her superior came from bvs that quote Bible passages.

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  29. Awwww. This brought back memories. I remember when i got a job in an office i wasn't suppose to be in cos i lacked the experience and i was so young. The youngest in the team too. During the interview i over hyped myself and truly believed i could carry out my office responsibilities. Well, I'm very smart learn fast. Just like that lady in the narration i needed someone to mentor me. The office Accountant and marketing head was a nightmare for a while. They've worked there for a some years and wanted that position.

    Well, Grace got me in & i realised the shoe I'm going to be wearing was a really big one and so much was expected of me. I had the first meeting with the staff members. Still confident. Took the first week to learn of everyone and know who's who in the work environment.

    Immediately after that, i got myself a mentor who's more experienced. Not my direct boss or those i was to lead, they needed guidance and that was why I was hired and i knew that. I got someone in a different department, and higher who clearly understood what's like being in my position cos she's been there and knows a lot that goes on. Kai! office politics can drive one nuts. My first month i followed her like a lost puppy. She was really helpful, i had to open up to her and told her plainly, Ma' please i need guidance. Help me. She was indeed helpful. A lot of things i know today she taught me. A lot of mistakes but she guided me and watched me grow. She believed in me and i believed in myself. Eventually my young age was forgotten and it felt right being in that office.

    Dear poster, No! You're not the one to teach her how to do her job. Don't condemn yourself too much if you choose not to. But please for growth sake and from the goodness of your heart you can show her how it's done. You'll be doing her a lot of good and she'll never forget it. Especially if she's not rude or demanding with her asking. Help her help herself.. E no easy to get job for this country.

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  30. Yeah it’s being petty.If you really care about the productivity of the company and not just what is in for you personally,you would teach her.But Nigerians have this ‘oga ta oga o ta,owo alaru a pe’ mentality.

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    1. Wait I don’t understand, productivity of the company?? Is she not being productive by doing a good job in her role??? At the end of the day, most companies don’t have loyalty to employees. They can fire or replace an employee whenever and however they want. So she needs to look out for herself first! Your comment is ridiculous sha

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  31. I had a similar experience. However it was not an external person, it was an internal person who I had been teaching even while we were on the same level. I was bypassed when we both interviewed for a supervisory position and this person was not only promoted but made my boss. Guess what? In the supervisory position, this person did not know her job and would call me to help even with the simplest duty. Her subordinates who were my peers would also come to me for help because she did not know how to help them. I was basically doing this person's job and my job while this person was getting paid for it. In hindsight, I would not have taught her but when someone is incompetent, they can't hide it for too long. This person eventually started to bully me on the job, gave me query and tried to get me fired but guess who was fired instead? The query I was given revealed the person's incompetence and thats how pandora's box was opened. The organization then fired her. I later quit the job for a better job with better pay because I felt they did not value me. It was the best decision I made.

    So, her incompetence will still show. Teach what you can but make it very limited, just watch your back.

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    1. Poster read 16:45's comment carefully. By now, I hope you are also exploring other opportunities as well.
      'Praise' does not pay bills.
      It is not a new thing.
      Employers will hype you, make you feel like a star.
      When it comes to the koko, they will bypass you with 'reasons'.

      In the over 2 years you have been there, have you recieved any promotion? Any bonus? Any written commendation?
      Or na just mouth dem dey use rub your body, dey beat drum &praise?
      Open your eyes.
      Look out for yourself.
      MOST IMPORTANTLY, UNDERSTAND OFFICE POLITICS.
      The people who get ahead in most offices are not the ones who know the most.

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    2. Anon 16:45 and 18:00 Gbam Gbam Gbam! Poster open your eyes wide read these two comments well. Some folks here don’t understand office world. If you like, no give yourself brain 🧠.

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  32. It’s so obvious so many don’t work in a corporate environment….

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    1. Lol… so obvious! Office politics is different from market politics

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    2. As in they think this is Okoroigwe&Sons Enterprises Ltd. Inside Computer Village by Ikeja Along.

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  33. DO NOT TEACH HER ANYTHING. I know her type. They will turn around and set you up! She already sees you as a threat and she seems to me a very funny person. If you want to retain your job, be very careful with this kind of sly colleague

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  34. Based on experience, pls don't teach her anything. Let her do the job she claimed she can do. I once helped someone like that and she messed up 8t even cost me my job. Pls don't help her.

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  35. The issue here is with the employer. They started with you on a salary they feel is okay. When the new role emerged, they will prefer to employ someone from the outside and pay them astronomically salaries which they wont give you. They employ you on a 150k salary, instead of promoting you and paying you 600k or 700k, they fell the jump in salary is too much for you and instead they employ an incompetent outsider and pay him/ or her 1.2m. Alas, she can't do the job as expected.

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  36. Na oga girlfriend jor hahahahahah.

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  37. This is the same thing I saw new staff doing in my work place..you applied as a teacher and can't do your job..Then,instead of pleading with old staff in your department to help you with how things are done there,you walk straight to the management and reported innocent people who didn't know you needed help..

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  38. Teach her and let your boss be aware of it!!! God will surely reward you.

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  39. Dear poster, please teach her the job, you don't have to do it for her just show her the process, even if she takes the glory, your own promotion will come trust me. God pays good with good not viceversa. This is very common in offices. Sometimes the process of doing things where u r coming from is different from the new place of work its all a matter of time. In my company a lot of hiring occurs but they prefer recruiting based on referral; minister, president, Emirs, Obama and so on. When this pple come in they look for the best on the job to assist them get thier job done faster but I tell u, you will have the persons respect. Just help for future growth sake.

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  40. Dear poster, firstly I'll advice that you maintain a cordial relationship with her. Don't ever engage in any form of gossip/disrespect towards her.
    Concerning the issue at hand, pls give pointers and advice but don't let it interfere with your own responsibilities. She should earn her salary.
    I'll also advice that you start applying in better organizations. Who knows, your experience may count elsewhere and reflect in your account.

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  41. Mind your business at work and do not teach her anything, always stay on your lane and allow your boss train her.

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  42. Poster start looking for another job with higher payif you can. You may start resenting your boss soon watch. Some folks here are saying teach her but your salary stays the same. Some of you guys don’t work in a professional world so you don’t know how crazy it can be. Here in abroad, companies hire people to train new employees and they pay them. Negotiate your salary if your boss needs you to train her. They’re not raising your salary, yet you’re not getting paid for training her. In that naija’s hard economy??? Use your brain please. They’re definitely using you. Shine your eyes. Make dem pay you what you deserve. For you to bring it here on Stella’s blog says a lot. It’s obviously affecting you. Option 2 is start looking for a better paying job. Know your worth and choose your happiness first.

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  43. Cheap ass company. Let them hire folks to train new employees simple!

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