Read and see if you can identify with any of the seven points.....
In his latest upload, he pointed out various things men do to frustrate the women (wife, girlfriend, or fiancée) in their lives.
1. Not listening to her
Women enjoy talking and it frustrates them when you don’t pay attention to them. He advised men to always listen to their women when they speak. He also advised men to take the advice of the women in their lives. Men take the advice of every other person except that of the woman they love.
Men should understand that although she might not have a logical explanation for her advice, she works with intuition and the intuition of a woman is hardly ever wrong.
When a woman advises you, she does it because she loves you and wants you to be happy.
2. Sending mixed signals
Women feel frustrated when men are not open about their feelings. You say you love her, yet you text multiple women, this can deeply hurt the woman. Be open about your feelings and avoid sending mixed signals. Women love it when you state how you feel about them. if you love her, tell her you love her. If you claim she is the only woman in your life, then stop sending messages to other women.
3. Being insecure and immature
Women love and respect men who are mature and able to lead. He advised men to not be insecure about their wives' success and riches. As a man, you should learn to support your wife through everything and you should learn to serve her too. Women are frustrated by egotistic men, so learn to be mature around women.
4. Being clueless about women
Most men don’t realize that women are built differently than men. One of the easiest ways to frustrate a woman is by not understanding how she feels. Pastor Kingsley advised men to learn how to understand women, men should learn more about what a woman wants, how she feels, and even why she behaves the way she does.
5. Not being faithful
Women love security, they don’t like it when men are not faithful towards them. unfaithfulness is not only when you are physically unfaithful, men can also be emotionally and mentally unfaithful towards the woman in their lives. He advised men to set boundaries with other females in their life. Also, make the status of the woman in your life known to your friends and family.
This will make her feel secured, valued and respected.
6. Not keeping in touch
6. Not keeping in touch
Women love communication and they don’t like it when men don’t try to keep in touch. Men should always keep in touch with the woman they love. This can be through phone calls and messages. Even if you are married, call her regularly, women love it when men communicate with them. also, try to keep in touch with her across different platforms. Even if you have called her, send her a message or even a video call.
Women see communication as a sign of affection.
7. Not being open
Women are emotional creatures so it turns them off when men are not open about how they feel. He advised men to learn how to show emotions when they are with their partners. Women love it when men are expressive about how they feel. Also, as a man don’t be scared to share your vulnerabilities with the woman you love. Women love it and it makes them feel like they have a special place in your life.
Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo is the founding pastor of David’s Christian Center. He is well known for his biblical views on relationships, dating, and marriage. He owns a YouTube channel where he shares Christian views on marriage as well as advising single and married people.
My love for this man and his wife teachings it's like copied assignment I can't explain it.
ReplyDeleteDear men
DeleteRead and digest.
Aptly written.
Is it the woman that when you are with her and a call comes in, she will say, oooh, who is this one now?
DeleteWhat he said is the fact
ReplyDeleteHe whom the Lord sends speaks the Word of God John 3:34
ReplyDeleteI don't see how a "pastor" will become this verbose without a single Scripture?
The Bible says in Eph 5:25-33, Everything he said up there has to do with loving your wife. which is scriptural
DeleteYou have problem. Seek help fast
DeleteThis one don pass problem!
DeleteThe person behind this account is a religious nut case
Fantastic Fanatic
DeleteMotivational speakers, a lot of them. Plenty research saying what people want to hear, no biblical backing for their sermons but plenty common sense speeches. God will open our eyes o.
DeleteSpot on, Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo.
ReplyDeleteEverything you said is true especially the men sending mixed signals and not being open.
I'm a sucker for men who are not afraid/ashamed to show their women how they feel. They should be able to talk about their pain, anger, joy, sorrow, heartbreak etc
Yes but the problem why they fear to let go is bcos we take them for granted, weak and show attitude, when they do this and we use the word "Man Up" instead of seeing what they are saying, the kind crazy wey dey our head too much self, we go treat them badly.
DeleteAre we twins
DeleteCus those two things are what gives me headache the most.
I was going to type it but just decided to leave it...
Facts. The thing is that, most men will read all and will still not 5ry to make a change or adjust.
ReplyDeleteWell said, and very thoughtful of him.
ReplyDeleteBut I think all these energy should be channeled towards raising todays boys into tomorrows better men. So that the next men, wouldn't see women as a lesser human they should accommodate. But as a helpmate and partner.
DeleteThe essence of the preaching is to make boys become better men. Better fathers, better husbands, better providers.
But you are still not satisfied.
Women!
Lazy men now don't see women as helpmate ,they see them as breadwinner,they too want to be relaxed and be taken care of.
Delete😂😁😂😁😂😁 Anony 12:56, women will never be satisfied no matter how hard you give in your best.
DeleteDear ebony
DeleteThe easiest ways to teach is by physical examples
How do you teach a young boy? Be a good example as a father and they will most likely follow suit.
This is why I feel no matter what there are things mother's can't always teach, boys need their fathers to learn such.
dear anon 13:11, Lazy women do not want to lift a finger for the man, they come with the archaic mindset of "my money is my money while his money is our money" they see the men as meal tickets and even unashamedly use his own money to buy him gifts. The world has moved past women sitting at home and waiting for a man to take care of them, get your ass up and do something with your life. Who doesn't like to be given treats? Who doesn't want to relax and be taken care of? It's not reserved for only women my dear, it's for both parties.
Deletedear anon 13:11, Mention how many women who singlehandedly financed their wedding and nobody knows? Name any of your sisters, cousins or friend who took a man home to see her parents and her parents never asked the man what job he does because they know their daughter is capable of shouldering the responsibilities in marriage
DeleteMy fellow men everything wey him talk na lie o. Even if you do everything up there, even add more, to women e no dey enough o. Them go still fall your hand at some point...wetin you go use know na all these modern feminist movement, upon how life dey easier for them all over world, men doing all the riskier and stressful job, building the whole world while dem siddon they enjoy everything....them still dey complain, dey fight and bring down the same men wey the make life easier for them worldwide. Guys if you like, put their life ahead of your own, when time rish dem go still fuck you up big time. They are selfish like that. I don warn una. Thank you.
ReplyDeletePls never get married. You are going to make someone's daughter very miserable
DeleteMen are more selfish. I can say it with my full chest
DeleteMen are more selfish. I can say it with my full chest
Delete13.03
DeleteHow many ladies would be in a relationship with a man who doesn't give, but men stay in a relationship were the lady has never given him shii
Who has the mentality of my money is my money and his money is our money?
You definitely don't know the meaning of selfish, always throwing words you dont understand around.. same way most of you abused the word narcissist..
We have selfish and terrible people in both gender.. but I hate to say this, every one thing ladies accused men of doing, they do ten times worse..
Take for example- sluts shaming, who sluts Shame a woman more than a fellow woman? A good scenario is what happened last week between Tiwa and seyi.. we didn't see social media clampdown on tiwa, asking companies to withdraw her endorsement, but if a man has said 60percent of what she said.. we for no hear word again
@anon 13:03, Women are most selfish! I can say it with my spirit, soul and body.
DeleteA pastor that licks ass. He wants us to kill ourselves over women, who will still ask you wetin you do for me? One stole plantain because of his girlfriend last week, I bet he still dey detention explaining himself
DeleteMen are self centered
DeleteThis is how things were supposed to be, but....
ReplyDeleteAlmost every guy that loved this way learnt the hard way.. most girls here would take advantage of this and abuse the privilege..
Dearest Dante, I wish you all the love in the world. I share everything with my partner and sometimes even do more. It irks me each time you feel women don't give cause I'm a living example of a woman who never waits on a man for anything. We go out together, I make sure I'm part of every financial obligations. I participate in everything and still have a young child I'm solely responsible for. I've Never asked for help and even with that, more guys have asked me for assistance than women. What I'm trying to say is that, there are lots of beautiful women like me who are not interested in your pocket but are out to build a good life with you. Please date such and I bet you, your perspective on women will change drastically. Believe it or not, I've met male gold diggers but I've never given up on the fact that there are good men out there. Again, I wish you all the love in the world.
DeleteYours,
Erika Ebony
@ Dante, over to you bro. lol. @Erika Ebony, well spoken.
DeleteI think the pastor failed to state he was talking about virgins, not women who already lined up dick appointments this afternoon, yet know they will marry someday
DeleteErika Ebony receive some flowers 💐💐💐💐
DeleteGod bless you pastor, you said the fact.
ReplyDeletePastor did a great job trying to get men to understand how to treat women. God bless him. These are very practical points and I don't think any woman here will say he is wrong. For men who are really interested in building their relationships, key into these points.
DeletePK....Well seasoned pastor of mine. I can never say thank God enough for making our paths cross.
ReplyDeleteAs in my woman, my oniduro
ReplyDeleteThere is no guarantee that if you do all the stuffs listed above that she won't find fault in you as a man. Sometimes, she will say you are a weakling and that she needs "strong" man that can handle her! There is no text book or guiding rules on how to love and treat your woman. Just go with the flow and with God, you might understand her. I think same rules is applicable to men as well. Generally, humans are insatiable...
ReplyDeleteThe Pastor has spoken very well. It's for one to study the woman he's with and apply the advice accordingly. Any normal woman appreciates a loving man, nevertheless. Those wey talk say na craze ppl dem dey find, na dem go carry dem two left leg run dey find good man las, las.
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ReplyDeleteTeam facts✌✌✌👌
ReplyDeleteNo man is worth 100percent trust in marriage
ReplyDeleteMen are bloody flirts
that's my pastor right there guys.
ReplyDeleteHis teachings has really transformed my spiritual life for better.
Hey love
DeleteHey ❤.
DeleteIt must be a recent thing in Naija for women to expect a man to do everything. Nigerian women are the hardest working women on the planet. Remember Jumoke the bread seller turned model whose husband sent her to sleep in a bakery to sell bread and stayed behind in Osogbo? He came to destroy her luck with his insecurity and hubris! I hope he feels better now. Women who stay in the sun to fry puff puff, carry wares in traffic, etc. I don’t know lazy Nigerian women but I know a few lazy men who only go to Abuja to beg for contracts and use money made to carry girls!
ReplyDeleteI met my husband at WORK, took only 6 months leave for “Triplets”, took them to an excellent Christian daycare with 5 elderly Christian women. Christianity was still in largely un-perverted back them and charlatans were few. I have worked 30 years of my life. Many things his family asked for was from money I made as I made double his income at some point here till some years back but even then it was paid into a joint account where he signed the checks.I never signed the checks, it had both names though I put more in. Stop generalizing. I shop for everything in his closet as he tends to forget not shopping though he caught up with me income wise as I stepped back and as I kept encouraging his career wanting him to feel good as the man. I don’t recognize or see myself or my professional daughter who is all American of Nigerian descent in these descriptions of women who are “lazy”. If a woman takes a year or 2 to care for the baby, trust me it’s a lot of work. That’s why they pay alimony and child support here. I actually preferred working outside the home than with the screams from 3 toddlers. God bless those 5 Christian Moms in Jesus Name.
Housework is more tedious than intellectual work and caring for kids is hard work. I remember breastfeeding 2 kids at the same time! Then someone sterilizes their things and all the sleepless nights! Stop talking down at all women. If you keep meeting the few wrong ones you may want to check your circle of friends. “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”