We all have in laws either by Marriage or by relation...
Some in laws are so good that when we tell other who have horror tales about their in laws we sound like liars.....
Do you good in law stories or horror stories about your in laws? In laws can be brother in law, sister in law, cousins in law, and all forms of in law from sides of brother or sisters or cousins....
Some people say if you have an in law living with you, your marriage will not last, especially your mother in law. Is this true? happened to you?
Some people are best friends with their mother in law and it is even mother in law that sorts out issues in the marriage when it arises.... Happened to you?
In law tales are good and bad.... Tell us yours!
Lets gist!
This is one area in marriage amongst others I'm so grateful to God for.
ReplyDeleteGod has been so good to me, I'm indeed grateful. My parents and siblings-in-law are nice people. God bless them for being so nice and God bless me too for being so nice to them. It's vice over versa.
Same here. My inlaws are wonderful people. My husband does not love me but I console myself with the fact that I have loving and caring inlaws.
DeleteHubby married me because he wanted to settle down and I was doing very well for myself. It was a very long distance relationship so I couldn't have seen the signs. He told me what I wanted to hear over the phone and like a fool, I believed him. Discovered few days after the marriage that I was played. Well, he neither hits me nor abuses me verbally but he does not love me and it's very obvious, he doesn't even make an effort to. We have our issues, which are usually finance related but mostly, we live peacefully and respectfully.
100% true that ot works vice versa. I have wonderful inlaws and I am also a wonderful person to them. My sis inlaws and brother inlaws also say our family is very open and loving
DeleteI went to fellowship yesterday and a mother-in-law came to testify about her daughter in-law. According to her.. I want to thank God for my daughter in-law and my son coming together after six months of separation. The devil entered their marriage and my daughter in-law left. I have been begging my son since she left to bring her back but he refused. My husband is even supporting my son to marry another woman but l said no. I came to the alter last month and cried to God. I like my daughter in-law so much. I like the way she treats me and my other children. God heard me. Her husband went to meet her people and she came back with hi.. Praise God. And we said Hallelujah. After fellowship l went to meet the woman and told her mama. God bless you for loving another woman's daughter. You will not die young and she said Amen.
ReplyDeleteThis is so wholesome. God bless her heart. 💛
Delete@ God bless u for loving another woman's daughter got me. This is one major issue I keep preaching and advising people around me. Some mother inlaws don't love their daughter inlaw, and expects to be loved bcoz she is the mother to your husband. Every body on earth deserves to be loved and give back love. A daughter inlaw is not just an inlaw but also automatically your daughter she should be loved too, as a mother show her love and care like u show your biological daughter. Whilst daughter inlaw does same. But in some places women are expected to care and care and keep caring without receiving any back. It's very bad. This love and care should go both ways
DeleteI pray for good in-laws. Though they're mostly overlooked, but they're very important in marriages especially the young ones. They can make or mar
ReplyDeleteNo bad tales, I'm grateful and pray it continues to be so.
ReplyDeleteI've successfully been able to micromanage my mum in law🤗🤗
I have no bad inlaw tale. My mother inlaw happens to be the best out there so far. She just sent all the foodstuff I asked for from UK and insists that I shouldn't pay her back. She even added one cream I asked for. My sis in law insists on calling me Aunty and I don beg her tire to stop since we are almost same age but she keeps forgetting.
ReplyDeleteI just hope things continue to be this great amongst us. I do play my part to ensure I don't tick anyone off the wrong way
Lastly, they know whose side their son would be on if anything ever happens so no one is actively looking for trouble
Eka for your mind na at last paragraph. Just continue to thank your God and don’t pray for trouble if not è go shock you. I come in peace.
DeleteThat's the part u will pick na. You didn't see where I wrote that I play my part in making sure nothing goes wrong
DeleteYou did not see the part when I said just continue to thank your God. Stella post oo aunty too like fight and I get time today.
DeleteYou are just looking for who will engage u this evening abeg. I no get time
DeleteBecause I had a very rough relationship with my ex mother inlaw, I was already conscious of my now mother inlaw overstepping her boundaries but I really shouldn’t have because I lucked out.
ReplyDeleteI get along good with her and her daughters. They absolutely adore me..gave me pet name and all. ☺️
I won’t lie, I don’t call/reach out as often as they call me and they understand my reluctance but it’s always good vibes when we talk. I need to do better.
It is a pity my ex husband mother inlaw is dead. But l pray for all my sister in-laws. May their husband sister in-laws treat them the way they treated me. May their own mother inlaw treat them the way their mother treated me. May their own sisters in law fuel discord and lies the way their did to my marriage. Amen.
ReplyDeleteKai... That means you really suffer well in their hands.
DeleteComfort to you. God gives you joy you so.much desire Amen
@anon 14:48 I know how u feel, don't bother they are already receiving it. Let me tell u a story, a family I know too well, we are from the same place. The son a no do well felled in love with a unique and beautiful soul struggling to make ends meet. Picked up this guy and arranged him, paid for him to learn a trade and after opened a shop for him.the lady dropped financially.This no do well started picking up, and became a responsible and hot guy, he made his intentions known to the parents that he wants to settle down with her, the family kicked so hard, especially the mother, the sister and mother's sister that have been living with them since the beginning of the marriage. This lady got pregnant and went to live with them in their family house, the guy was squatting with a friend outside of his parents abode, leaving this lady alone with his wicked family. They did small smtin on her head,mind u the 3 evil women I mentioned earlier refused to go for the imego, only the father did. This lady suffered so much to the extent that every Tom and harry in the street knows her story. Only the father inlaw treated her like human. She gave birth to a beautiful and over handsome baby boy and guess what this three evil women refused to touch that baby, this lady and the husband found a house and moved in, not quite long. The daughter of this woman got married. Wedding that was not up to one week enter voice mail, inlaws full ground like uncountable demons in her matrimonial home begin give her back to back. This girl runs home every week to get consolation from the mom, the worst is that the husband no send her pains.if u see this girl iam telling u abouteeeeh she is very beautiful with a very wicked shape, but karma no look her beauty give am back to back.
DeleteI'm here for the comments
ReplyDeleteGod see's my heart. I had very good intentions to my inlaw when we newly got married. But I realized they all have same spirit of jealousy, envy, gossip, inferiority complex etc. It was hell on earth as I was very open to them and shared alot with them. When I lock up and face my life without them knowing anything about me anymore. They face their brother and son and manipulated him to scatter the marriage which I'm very grateful for. They lost everything regarding me including access to my kids. They use their brother to torment me but God has been merciful and has turn all my shame to glory. Look at me living well with two kids without any support from their son. Now they are filled with shame but it late already cos I rather remain single and happy than been in that marriage anymore. Inlaw wahala now I understand why some ladies pray not to have mother inlaw. I don't wish anyone dead but my mother inlaw showed me hell. I have started making my kids independent so that none of them will rely on me when they get married. The worse thing to happen to anyone in marriage is not having a say of their own.
ReplyDelete@anon14:51 Comments like this sends shivers down my spine. Thank God for ur breakthrough. Am happy for u
DeleteSorry dear. Just face your life as you are doing. Marriage is not the best thing in life. Life is what you want it to be. HAPPINESS is all that matters. Marriage has brought pain to many. Keep being happy!
DeleteI'm grateful to God for the kind of in-laws I have,no bad tales whatsoever.
ReplyDeleteWell my parents-inlaws are late but the family dey left behind is dysfunctional right now and I know they would be turning in their graves right now, the eldest son is in on bush in ogun state killing witches he is over 50 no wife no kids oga has blown his inheritance, 2nd son too is a chronic womanizer oga has also blown is inheritance and now he doesn't talk to my husband anymore because he refused to heed to warnings and advise now he is ashamed, my husband found God before getting married to me so he had to retrace his steps and God has been faithful , the last son is in a cult abi na religion that told him to renounce his blood relatives oga didn't even attend our wedding he only remembers us only when he is in need of money... But all the same I'm cool with everyone of them
ReplyDeleteIn one bush in ogun state killing witches 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteI and my husband live in hus family house, though we have our own apartment in the compound. I can proudly say my in-laws are the best.❤
ReplyDeleteWould choose this family over and over again.
@Ryrygold Wow, it's good to hear, testimonies like this shows it's not a Nigerian thing to be evil to daughter inlaws, but based on family. God will keep making u smile in that family. So many people are struggling in this area in marriage
DeleteMy Mil is so nice but I kept my distance when she wants to be running my home for me and always comment on my outfit anytime I visit like this clothe is fine o, how much does it cost, it must have been so expensive, your tailor tried bla....bla .
ReplyDeleteJust be neutral, don't be too close or far from them. Send gifts to them but stay on your lane
Hmmm, the problem I had with them was before marriage, and it makes bonding with them hard, I started dating hubby at a young age, we were both in uni then, this people painted me bad, called me all sorts of name, just cos I was dating my hubby, the mother even took me to a prophet who asked if i be ogbanje, and I told the prophet it truly he's a prophet,she no need to ask me if I be Ogbanje that God go reveal to her, the prophet now later want to be my paddy so hubby go dey settle her, na she dey even give me gist about what one of my sis in law said, that I can't have kids again that she knows I would have aborted for their bro, now na my children be their grand parents favorite,as dem look like oyinbo children, , for where ,I no give her face. Now they all pretend to be nice, me sef dey pretend as we only see once in a year, I hardly call them sef, I see their show as eye service
ReplyDeleteStella, my in-laws are very wicked people, whenever me and hubby have issue , they will pour everything on my head,my hubby on the other hand behaves like Tata and he's so stingy, we are trying to conceive, he refused to go to the hospital and his parents aren't saying anything, hopefully and with prayers I wish I can meet a more caring and responsible man,I will so dump him ehnnnnn, am just praying a better man locates me soonest, because if I pack out I don't have good backup.
ReplyDeleteStella my in-laws are wicked, if I have any fight with their son ,they will support him and insult me, hubby on the other hand behaves like a baby, and he's so stingy, we are trying to conceive but he refused to go for any treatment and his parents are looking at him, i have changed prayer points, an praying for a better man and a happy home, I pray my own prince charming meets me soon, I do have intention of leaving here but I don't have good backup at the moment, you see my in-laws ehnnnnn they showed me shege, am always sad
ReplyDeleteSo sorry.
DeleteI thank God for the kind of in-laws I have. My mother and father in-law treat me like their biological daughter. Things I can't discuss with my dad, I discuss it with my FIL. My siblings inlaw are also very nice people. I pray God helps me to treat them right because I have constant mood swings. God bless my parents in-law with long life, they are very good and wonderful people.
ReplyDeleteMy in-laws are very good. Everybody is on his/her own lane. My hubby over protects me Atimes sha
ReplyDeleteBeen living with MIL for more than a year, not what I wanted but it happened. We are at total peace.
I love one of my SIL and BIL, they are Angels in human form seriously
Prior to my getting married to my husband I don't think they are a knitted family. At first after our wedding I was trying to relate with them as per family but it is not their thing.we stay in kaduna and my in-laws in Lagos.we lost my father in-law last year and the burial was Nov. My family already made arrangements to follow my husband for the burial since I was heavily pregnant to deliver first week of December. Hmm people of God my husband said he won't be attending because he doesn't have money. It was strange my parents will not have it they called his family and they said its okay since we are expecting and my husband said he doesn't have money.
ReplyDeleteMy inlaws are one the things I'm grateful to God for. They are kind and very understanding. They respect themselves and respect everyone around them. My friends still believe it's because my mother in law is Hausa, but me I believe it's God answered prayers.
ReplyDeleteI love them so much, may God help the unmarried ones among my husband siblings find a good family like theirs.
I strongly believe it is cos she is Hausa too. They are generally well behaved and respect others. I am Igbo by the way but I have lived among them and have friends.
DeleteTrue. My inlaws are from the north, though not Hausa by tribe but they all speak Hausa as with the case with most northerners. They are the best inlaws you could ever ask for. Although there is a language barrier between me and my mother-in-law, she still treats me like her daughter and always calls me often. Although hubby does not love me, his family is great.
DeleteNot married yet
ReplyDeleteBut am thanking God for giving me peaceful inlaws
Cant wait to have a Mother In Love
My ex MIL, hmmm, Ejime may God help you retrace your steps before you depart this Earth. I remember less than a week after I got married, I was dancing in the living room, she said no be to dance o, do make you born. My heart broke but lil did I know that I had conceived my daughter already.
ReplyDeleteShe is wife no3, she spent 8 years before she took in o. My ex FIL warned his son to send his mother back home since we just got married but he didn't heed to that advice.
She is hypertensive and diabetic and so we don't eat the same meal, I prepare hers separately, yet when preparing our meal, she will come to the kitchen and say that I am wasting her son's money, that he does not eat what I am preparing.
Since her husband didn't cater for her children, she became my ex husband's wife, sadly i found out too late, na so she go dey sing for my head. Tell her sons that she is starving, I don't want to give her food. Too long a story, too many bad memories with her but I am proud to say that I can narrate the past we had without any bitterness now. She has one daughter unfortunately, she is not mentally balanced, her daughter can never experience the marriage and in law thing.
I hope someday soon, I will narrate the story of my joni with her son without bitterness.
John is still a gold digger in UK. Bunch of users as sons
That is what happens when women are advised to face their children, they put all their emotions onthem. When the children marry, the jealousy of sharing companionship starts. Women stop depositing your emotions on your kids, get a companion.
DeleteNo fight, no paddy paddy, we respect each others lane
ReplyDeleteMy (step) mother in-law ehn (hubby's biological mum is late)... She got issues and is constantly on a high horse. I tried to be in her good books so many times but she just doesnt like me. So now, I don't send her again. No calls or trying for her to like me because she just won't. Maybe its because of my husband who is her step son. Not like my late MIL came in to destroy her home or anything. Late mil was actually the first wife but the marriage didn't work out. This woman ehn, but anyway God will keep blessing my husband and I and we will prove them wrong. I told my husband in tears once that if there was ever anything like a next life, I'd choose him but I won't choose his family. Yeah I know it makes no sense but I've been through a lot. It is well with us.
ReplyDeleteI'm grateful for the in-laws that I have, I pray God continue to keep them in good health.
ReplyDeleteI had always prayed to have good in laws as I would treat them as I would treat my parents. Initially,we were good until I moved in with them because hubby cannot raise money for our accommodation.seriously the period after I had put to bed,made me know that Your MOTHER,is YOUR MOTHER..MY mother in law showed me her real colour. I was depressed. When hubby was misbehaving by keeping a girlfriend,they made sure they somehow blamed me. When I insisted I was going to leave,after hubby smashed my phone for telling on him,they started pity party that they would die because of hubby and I..lol. I thank God my mom is still alive ,I have a confidante in her. Now we all know our boundaries but my happiest day will be when we will pack out of this family house.
ReplyDeleteOnly stories from women Bvs. Men where are you? Are all your in-laws awol, angels, or you all are indifferent to in-laws? Are in-laws issues peculiar to women?
ReplyDeletePlease let us learn from you guys.
I have the best mother in law. HAJIYA u are the best.sooo much love
ReplyDeleteI am going through so much pain right now from my in laws. Please if you are out there reading this please pray for me. Where should I start. The first two years with my in laws were great. I thank God for blessings me with such good people. I started noticing my sister in law saying demeaning things about me or degrading me. I sat quiet and said this is not not her, it can't be, she is too good to act like this. She loves me. But all their acts were pretends. In short am in so much pain. My sister in law the other day "she will reap what she sow" I cried for many days. But it is well, God said I should forgive them and be patience. One thing I know is is you were struggling before marriage and after you got married God bless you abundantly not all in laws will be happy. I am planning to move abroad with my daughter.
DeleteHmmmmmm my parents in law, always supporting their spoilt child. He beat me up when I was 9 months peggy, in their presense o! His Mum told my dad that why wont her son beat me up when my mouth is too sharp??? I forgave and stayed. 2 years later, he beat me up again, this time in my father's house, in the presense of my Mum. I moved out of the house with my kids. My inlaws didnt dim it fit to call me for once, not until 4 months later their son dragged them to my parents house to beg. They ended up insulting my parents join, say does their daughter have 2 heads ni? Thank God I'm better off without them, they should go and look for a 2 headed lady for ther son to marry.
ReplyDeleteI’m a woman. I’m bothered about the 2 commenters who admitted their husbands do not love them but are staying because of “good in laws”. I am a child of God. It’s upside down if your husband does not love you but his relatives do. Get on your knees and pray to God to open your eyes and turn things in your favor. How can a young woman live with a man that does not love her?
ReplyDeleteMy parents in law are both dead, my mother in law is every woman’s dream. May God bless her soul. My FIL too did not disturb my life so May he Rest In Peace. You see my 3 sister in laws, with their Napoleon shirt women syndrome are a nightmare to any wife. They know it all though one was my junior in school. They are so stingy they won’t donate their urine if it could save a life, they will sell it. I can confidently say none of them has spent N500 on me in decades. They take, levy and have no conscience at all. My BIL is quiet, they probably push him around , my husband no send anybody. A family friend said BIL’s wife never looks happy and I told the person that said it that you cannot be among those wicked short ladies and be happy. Google Napoleon syndrome. Run from men and women with it! They know how to take and feel entitled to my own money. I pray they repent before it’s too late.
I met my in-law to be two weeks back and I'm still relieving the experience.
ReplyDeleteMy boo is from IMO state and several people tried to discourage me but I wasn't a bit bothered as dude is SWEETNESS personified.
We ain't married yet but if the first impression is anything to go by, I can say I am blessed.
They were so so accommodating and since I left them, each time I call my mom-in- love to be, she doesn't fail to pray for planned marriage and tell me she loves me.
The siblings are so caring and I can feel the love and unity in their family.
Heavenly father, I prayed and fasted for peaceful and lovely in-law, give me the grace to sustain what we have now when the marriage is finally instituted.
Amen