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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED URGENTLY


I need advice please.


What does it mean when your wife tells you she will no longer need you soon after an argument?

After a serious argument, she opens her mouth to say '‘very soon, I won’t need you anymore'' and then turns around to say she didn’t mean it after her attention is called to what she said.

I think she meant it so I don’t want to be caught off guard. I’m not perfect but I take good care of my family and I don’t cheat.




*Hmmm maybe she is planning to divorce you. I really dont know what she means but if she keeps repeating it then you have to prepare yourself for the worst...
To start with, is there a way you can avoid the serious argument with her? like avoid it when you see it coming?

66 comments:

  1. Stop frustrating her. Frustration can make some people think of divorce





    *Larry was here*

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    1. Do you live with them to know he’s frustrating her?

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    2. And do you live with them to know that he's not frustrating her πŸ™„

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    3. Yes most times a woman can say what she doesn't mean, it might be you are oppressing her bcos you provide and each time it pains her when you continue to remind her of that fact. She may mean she will be financially independent soon and so she wont be depending on you for you to continue to insult her. Also, she may have a plan B to leave, so start making her comfortable, she might change her plans if you change and stop harassing her, but be on guide and monitor her without her noticing it, bcos that will add more pressure.

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    4. You've probably been doing something over and over to her that makes feel inadequate.

      Hope you don't make her feel less than you are?

      She may have been saving her own money and a time will come when she will eventually break and let it all go.

      A perfect example is when a man keeps cheating and his wife keeps letting him know how much she can take, then she says "a day will come when I won't care so much"
      That day will eventually come.

      Las las it's something you keep doing to hurt her, so check it.

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    5. I wanted to type this πŸ‘†

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    6. She has probably spoken to you about ways you treat her or something you do and she feels nothing has changed despite her telling you repeatedly. She feels you don't listen to her, nothing she says makes a difference, she is tired and frustrated. So she says the most extreme thing that is guaranteed to get your attention. Bear in mind, she is may also be contemplating leaving you because feels you or the situation will never change. The best thing is to sit down when both of you are calm and rational and talk it out. And make sure you listen to her.

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    7. Stop frustrating your wife Mr poster women tend to say things they don't mean sometimes during an argument

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    8. Or she may be hatching plans to kill him.

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    9. Oga, you and I knows that you understand perfectly well what she meant by that! Stop deluding yourself. We all know that we women don't just randomly say things, unless we meant it.

      She has given you a hint, so if caught off guard, na you do yourself!


      Even Bible says that, out of the abondant of heart, the mouth....🚢🏼‍♀️🚢🏼‍♀️🚢🏼‍♀️

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    10. Oga learn to love and respect your wife. Correct her with love, take her out and pray for her. Avoid quarrels.

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  2. Well, no lose guard, the heart of a woman can be very deep.

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  3. She’s simply saying you’ll not matter to her soon.
    You can still both be married but deep down in her heart, she feels nothing but disdain.

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    1. Exactly what I thought, not everything is divorce, I see a woman trying and fighting to wean her heart off loving you, she thinks she gave you too much power and control over her heart and she is trying not to love you the way she does and once she is able to kill or reduce what she feels for you then she won’t need you anymore.

      Secondly, I think she depends on you for practically everything especially financially and that causes serious arguments between you both probably because you always give her hard time before you meet her needs. If this be the case then she is working underground to get a job or a better job or a business and something that will make her independent from you.
      You ddnt tell us what led to the argument but you are quick to pick what she said in the course of the argument.

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    2. He won't tell us what lead to the argument but he was able to pick what she said how about what you also said during the argument?
      Men providing for your family is your responsibility no kill us abeg na helpmate God call us

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  4. She's simply trying to divorce your ass and πŸ‘‹ stay woke

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    1. Not necessarily divorce, it could be that she won't bother him about her personal issue.

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  5. Why not focus on avoiding conflicts in your home instead of worrying over frivolities.
    Study the Bible and do some fasting to avoid outbursts like you described. Love conquers all.

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  6. Oga look at what you wrote after series of quarrels, oga be a man not everything you go dey quarrel with madam.

    Am sure she was pushed to utter that word to you.

    You self avoid trouble and both of you should come together and talk about the things that bring quarells.

    Bring her close by praying together and don't give the serpent to enter into the broken edge. Build your home with love, prayers and understanding of each other.

    It is well. Your marriage will never enter into the book of divorce

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  7. Poster what did you tell her before she made that statement? She has had enough of that, so watch it.

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    1. Don't mind him, that's how my husband will always say I should leave his house, threatening me at every argument even when he's the one at fault telling me his mum never argued with his dad mtcheew his dad that nobody has any good thing to say about him, the way he used to lock her out to sleep outside, he has seen I can't tolerate such.

      Now I have stopped bothering myself about him, he's the one looking for my face I love him but my heart is no longer with him.
      Once this travel pulls through he's on his own.

      Poster, taking care of your family is not enough reason to frustrate someone's daughter, what did you say to her first before she uttered that statement.

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    2. Exactly….

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  8. She is either

    1) Tired of the marriage and has her own plan which could be divorce or separation

    2) You are frustrating her and she became careless with words hence said it out

    3) Has a sugar man or boy somewhere who is gradually taking your space in her heart

    4) She knows that particular line will painnnn you wella so she wants you to feel same pain as her too

    5) She is already mentally unavailable in the marriage and waiting for who will fill the void;then she is gone..

    6) You have always been an option to her;a case of where the undesirable is available..

    @MARTINS

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    1. This martins ehhn where will I send your hug to ? You’re spot on as usual

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    2. Ah. Martins are you a marriage counselor? See the way you disect the matter.πŸ‘πŸ™Œ
      Sannu Sir.

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    3. Wow. Great analysis. It could just be anything. That your number 4 ehn, very correct

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    4. Martins Aboy sense is not far from you. That number 4 will apply to their situation. Poster just adjust your incessant need to be always right in your arguments.


      Lovelace

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    5. Martins I disagree with you today.
      She may not even mean it, some if not most have said such in their marriages from time to time especially when the man keeps repeating certain traits, which she must have told him hurts her deeply.

      A woman like this may not even have divorce or another man on her mind but rather wants to lift herself (mentally) by refusing to depend on him emotionally or financially.

      Most times here, we tell women to face themselves and their kids when they keep getting hurt by their partners, maybe this woman is also trying to emotionally detach from him and face just she and her kids.

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    6. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚oga Martins be calming down ooo

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  9. Maybe you are the problem dear poster. Sometimes we push women to their limit without knowing. Try to be sensitive towards her needs and appreciate her a little. It would work.

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    1. She might not even mean it, but just said what could get to him and pain him.

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    2. God bless you.

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  10. Stop making her feel bad to the level of telling you such,I bet you constantly hurt her or use a particular situation to mock her,well her statement could means when she gets that big contract,she won't need you for anything,when her business picks up big time,you won't matter,as soon as her visa is ready,she will 'japka',oga be good to your wife.

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  11. You have been hurting her and she has made up her mind to leave you...

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  12. That phrase could be referring to financial assistance. Do you rub it on her phase that you are the only one providing for the family?

    Maybe she is looking for a job and being hopeful thtt soon she won't be needing your financial assistance anymore.

    Please, let there be peace.

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  13. 1. Fear for your life
    2. Another relationship is cooking in the pot
    Summary life no get duplicate so no lose guard

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  14. Hmmm, you're doing something she doesn't like so, that could mean she'll stop gbenshing you or begging you for something or tired of the marriage and will go soon or start checking elsewhere as she is tired of you. Pls have a talk with her to know why and what triggers such emotions and words.
    Only good women communicate like that than the quiet smooth operators.

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  15. Maybe you ask her politely when you are in good mood.
    Try to avoid arguments
    Also ask her if there's anything you are doing that always piss her off

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    1. Mr man gather courage and ask this questions

      What am I doing wrong
      What am I doing right
      How can I behave better

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  16. Maybe she is tired of you and ur actions are fustrating her
    Maybe she wants a divorce
    Maybe she always ask you for something(money,assistance) and you don’t usually give her that thing with ease so she has found another means to get the thing in question
    Maybe she is planning to leave you and get married to someone else
    Maybe she just wants to hurt you with the words
    Maybe she is in a relationship with someone else she plans to leave u for.
    In relationships,I believe in communication,if there is something ur partner is always complaining about you can sit them down and talk about it and make adjustments where necessary if you really want the marriage to work.when ur partner is harboring anger towards a certain complain and u are not making adjustment very soon resentment and unforgivness comes in,a little quarrel and the person will let all that has bin in their hearts out.always try to settles issues both big and small,don’t let it linger,don’t wave her complains off,and I believe she will come around.goodluck!

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    1. You wise abeg, dey hear talk say him dey take care of him family but he no tell us wetin d woman dey complain of.

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  17. That’s a woman with a plan. QED

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  18. Soonest she will become self independent not to be needing your money, 2) she might cut you off emotionally from her mind ( if you are a big time cheat).

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    1. Oga, let me give you the solution instead of explaining what she meant. What is that thing you have been doing, and your wife has been telling you to stop doing it to her? Have you been cheating, abusive, accusing her falsely, if she begs you for something and you don't give? Oga going forward stop it, you see that word she altered came from a very bitter place. She is about to do something about that your misbehaviour. Solution if you have sense, sit her down, apologise and make a promise you intend to keep that there won't be a repeat and please change cos if you don't there is a possibility she is about to get your medicine or she is about to pay you back in the language u understand.

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  19. Poster she might not mean it o.you know we women our mouth is sharp like Mai suya knife.like me,if I'm quarelling with my hubby and he says I don't have respect,I usually tell me "which respect,u think say u senior me,no be the day wey I no u u too no me,no bieve that my age wey I tell u o". But the truth is my hubby is older than me but because of anger I say those words.

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    1. Hahahahahaha...I shaaaa dey fear you. Thank God you went Anon to type that. Jesu!!!

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    2. LMAO
      You are truly a trouble maker
      🀣🀣🀣

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    3. Swears this poster is me 🀣🀣🀣

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  20. If you the sole provider. She might mean that she will be financially independent soon.

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  21. Poster, you know the kind of woman u married, her mood when she says this,a lot of things needs to be considered before we can advice you,

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  22. Some times when most women get extremely frustrated,they say a lot of things ,very strong words that will surely make you feel very very bad /hurt.
    That's her way of sparking your annoying ass....
    Put up a good act don't make her words play out OK.

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  23. Dear poster, why are you worried?
    You think she will kill you?
    No she won't but if you refuse to change you will be very surprised.
    I am planning a bid surprise for my husband too. I have not said anything to him yet but I plan to relocate with my kids, am planning a lonely old age for him.
    Unlike you he doesn't provide completely for us
    He made me a very bitter woman
    Am building in his village for him but he changed the house plans from what we agreed to something else, Everytime I give him money to build something he will do it but owe debts on top and won't let me rest.
    Give your wife peace of mind
    Stop stressing her
    If you are truthful to your self, you know what you did that elicited that comment because there's no smoke without a fire.
    If you love your wife right she will love you right, a woman can never want to do away with a man that is loving her right. But Nigerian men use because God made them the head of their families even when the Head is stupid and has a wise wife he also wants to Lord his stupidity over the woman. Many women will endure the marriage but give you the husband your reward in old age or in sickness or plan their exit once she gets her acts right. Go home and judge yourself and know where you belong and stop troubling us.

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    1. Madam, loving ones wife 100% doesn't mean that there won't be issues, it takes more than loving a spouse to have a good home.
      And also madam, please when planning the future try not to plan evil future for a son of man, (in this case your husband, the supposedly father of your kids) for we are all mortal and the future is promised to no one. How sure are you that you will still be around by the time your husband's "lonely old age days" approaches. You never know, he might even be the one that will be your sole carer at old age. Sickness, illness and death are not gender or age specific.

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  24. That last paragraph really got me. Dear poster you sounded like your in a competition with your wife. It seems you like trading words with a woman. "You dont want to caught off gaurd" Tueh! Your don sef.

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    1. Maybe she is about to get financial freedom from you say, in form of a new job, money to start up something and she won't be needing to ask you anymore. Is there something she has been asking you to do or to stop doing and you are frustrating her continuously, she might have gotten to her wit's end and is about do something about it? Truth is let me use myself as an example, when I am pissed I don't mean half of what I say and sometimes when I am pissed off the truth comes out? The twist is when I am calm I may not act on what I said, but best be told it's possible I told you the truth about something I am going to do but lack the boldness to tell u, but anger emboldened me to.

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  25. Oga trust me, she might not mean it. She just said it to pepper u.

    Maybe u do too much shakara before dropping money and she is tired of complaining hence d statement.

    You can still make amends brother. I pray for Peace in your home.

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  26. Lagos Mainland Girl16 August 2021 at 18:04

    Oga,shey she is your wife? Ask her when you are in the middle of love making what she meant by that statement

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  27. Hi poster, there is a high chance that your wife doesn't mean the statement, most of the time we say a lot of stuff in the heat of an argument, take it as a pinch of salt. She is probably saying it to hurt you or your ego. However, to protect your mental health, try and let it appear as if such statement doesn't bother you, make it an habit to distract yourself every time she utters such statement.

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  28. What have you been saying to her, to make her respond that way each time you both argue?

    Some men are fond of reminding their wives how they've not been contributing anything to the house, how they've been the ones shouldering all responsibilities. Making them feel worthless. (Underestimating the house chores she spends her time doing ..which in my opinion, is a full time job)

    Believe you me, those words can frustrate someone into calling your bluff, and disconnecting from you, to kuku face the world on their own.

    All the same, if you're sure you haven't triggered that, then she probably might be going through 'stuff'.

    If that's the case, then there's need for a heart to heart talk with her, to assure her of your love and appreciation.

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  29. Lol, she says it unconsciously but she is damn serious about it. You're actually the one pushing her away.

    Please be good to her and work it out, except you don't love her.

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  30. She won't need you in bed again. Mama want to get vibrator

    Check your bed games

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  31. You are pushing her far far away.

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