According to Ese, some parents think that they know it all and end up causing you regrets!
Saturday, October 30, 2021
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Good for her
ReplyDeleteSometimes parents choose right sometimes they choose wrong.Also children sometimes choose wrong and sometimes they choose right soooo....
ReplyDeleteTonia
My own is smtimes when ur parents are against someone,smtimes there is a reason. My mum never really liked my Ex,and i felt her reasons were ridiculous. She told me going by his family history and ppl from his place,they dont stay in marriage. His father was on his 3rd marriage and had outside kids,elder sister too was divorced. They are a very rich and famous family but that didnt even move her. She cared more about my peace in marriage.
ReplyDeleteAnyway this guy still broke my heart by doing intro with another girl while still dating me. For years i mourned the relationship till i met my husband and married with a child now. My Ex is divorced now,he got a side-chick pregnant.
If your parents are against someone take time to re-evaluate all they say and make your decisions wisely.
Hhmmm.was matched make, didn't like the person from onset but was presurred to go ahead. 6 months into the marriage, I had to call it quit.My family thought I was mad. Though not easy at 35, I am happier now. Will pick up my pieces and move on.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is good but it is wonderful when u have the right partner.
It is well.
It's well. Your happiness and peace is key.
Deletei feel you and because of your comment I will not be pressured into marrying who i DON'T WANT. parents kept pressuring me to marry one guy that my aunt introduced me to but me and the guy don't gel AT ALLL!! . i even had a bad dream last night that I married him and was very unhappy. But I imagine i would not even last up to 6 months married to anyone that my heart isn't in for. you saved yourself a life of settling for mediocrity, trust me and soon you will be rewarded for your boldness n honesty to yourself. many settle for what they don't want and become VERY miserable and sad leaving hate comments and frowning at the world.
DeleteTry and do more natural makeup, this looks weird.
ReplyDeleteNot only weird, but also a bit scary.
DeleteCan these girls ever have any other conversation apart from marriage, relationships, snatching and runs?
ReplyDeleteHonestly, now that you say it, I just realized this has been the onus of all her conversations.
DeleteIt is a challenge of mentality; they can't hold intelligent conversations.
DeleteFirst of all, I personally don't take serious singles talking about marriage. You have to be/been in it to have an opinion on it. It's not BBN.
ReplyDeleteOn the Topic;
This is the kind of popular but misleading opinions that people have that's prevalent these days. The opinion of those that raised you up, watched you through your developmental stages, seen you at your best and worst can NOT be disregarded, especially when it comes to marriage. As long as their opinions are Genuine, then it will be wise for that 'child' to take a step back and reevaluate his/her position.
Considerations like Tribe and Social Class are very IMPORTANT,as 'unwoke' as that may sound.
Issues in marriage are not usually from Big things but from those lil nagging issues. Personally, am from upper middle class background, my wife's from a lil lower and up till date, there are certain ways she handles things which still irks me, but it's kinda normal to her..e.g I grew up eating from set pieces (table has to be made and all), she can just move from kitchen to dining and commence eating...it's a background thing. Take that scenario and imagine it in a context of two totally different social classes and you'll have an inkling of what frictions can present.
I also date outside my zone...am a Southerner, I date a core Yoruba lady. She was wonderful, however, dating her I understood y tribal differences matter. I understood for e.g why Yoruba comedians day their jokes in Yoruba, the concept of respect (never got used to how obeisance she could be) and how important words could be interpreted/misinterpreted depending on context. If I didn't experience it I wouldn't understand it. Culture Shock is a real term. We should also not discontenance family background, regardless of tribe. No one appeared from thin air and a person's growing environment has a very strong influence on who the person becomes.
Will you then simply look at her statements and approve? That'll be Fallacious and a recipe for disaster. The Disasters that marriages have become these days.
Marriage is not a joke and it'll be foolhardy taking in opinions that are put out, not out of personal convictions or experience but to trend.
In all, let God and good Conscienceb be our guide.
#nuffsaid
Well said.
DeleteI agree. Background and exposure matter alot. My ex had a good job and was a bloke on the surface. Very intelligent oh! But his mum was a struggling single mum before she married his lazy step dad. The guy no sabi take care of woman because he believes that women should do all by themselves and only ask him for minimal support. Then small support him go give, he magnifies it as if he did too much. Because him mama no kukuma get support before. Then he wasn't posh AT ALL. Earned almost 1m at the time but still can't tush up. I left sha.
DeleteMy bf has a very solid father and is from a middle class Background. He is such a nice person and always knows how to treat me like a lady. We think the same way. He is intelligent but also has class. So we vibe well. Abeg ladies, please don't settle. No matter what
22.17 I don't think it's necessarily about being tush, posh or not, all those are surface things that can be worked on. The koko is the shared VALUES. When major decisions and tests of life face you both in your union, those are the things that would matter, not being posh.
DeleteThis topic is a catch 22.If you listen to them sometimes,it might save your life and if you don’t,it might be the best decision of your life.
ReplyDeleteSomebody's son should do and find this one make we hear word already🙄
ReplyDeleteI think the best thing is to evaluate the reasons why our parents refused ours partners. Sometimes,their reasons might be geniue . Above all, only God can provide the right partner with no hitches
ReplyDeleteAbeg the fox eyes thread lift ,n nose filler is becoming too much ese please
ReplyDeleteMy Ex is from Ngwa and I am from Anambra and he said the sister wants him to marry Abia state and immediately I left him and him and the sisters has gone for introduction and he still calls and tell me you are the best,I missed and love you(hiss) always calls to come and cook for him but I refused..
ReplyDeleteThe lady is staying in Abia state while both of us stays in delta state..
I want to stop picking his calls.
That's how they go about heaping curses on themselves without knowing,you sister's say them say but still,you want me to come and sleep,cook,keep you company,brother please receive sense and move on with your sister's and ur town's lady..
God no go shame us.
It’s called an ex for a reason. Stop doing wifey duties for someone who’s already engaged, it’s you who should receive sense. If he can’t respect boundaries, what stops you from respecting yourself? That he can call and you pick means you still have feelings for him, God no go shame you before you go carry belle for him
DeleteI've had similar experience from same village. Leave those people alone and stay on your lane. Block his number. You have no idea what you've been saved from.
DeleteDiscrimination even within South Eastern states wih the same language, wow. And then we complain about the North discriminating against the South, so much division. May God grant us unity of heart, Amen.
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