Hmmm....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED AND SCARED
Dear Stella and BVs...
I am in a hot predicament and just need fast advice... I cannot tell the full story here right now because you never know who is reading and I am not ready to have this blow in my face until i have a solution...
I will change some things as i explain just in case....
I am married to a wonderful man with a lot of money and we have been trying to get pregnant for almost a decade. Everyone looks at me as the problem and his family has written me off and no longer visit like they used to because of his refusal to get a woman who will birth kids for him....His whole family is rich so no one actually licks his axx cos of money.
I met someone recently and decided to test my fertility out of frustration.. I was suicidal.
I am about three months pregnant and no one knows.... The man who got me pregnant was a one night stand and i dont have his contact anymore cos we drifted apart after two times of doing it
Now i am at peace because i know that i am not the one with the problem...
What do i do now? After almost a decade of shame and pain, i cannot take out my baby just because i want to be a good woman or remain married...
I am confused and scared... what do i do?
*Hmmmmm this life no balance at all....
what do you do? Keep that baby!
I dont advice you to tell your hubby anything now.... If you can afford it, please go away to another Country and birth your child and then tell him the truth over the phone after your baby arrives...
Just say '' I just had a baby and its not yours but nobody needs to know that'' Tell him how it happened and what pushed you to it... just open up and ask for forgiveness and let him decide on what to do....
Na wah!
ReplyDeleteI won't judge you, but let's just imagine the reverse was the case and he's in a predicament on whether to tell you or not.
What would you want him to do?
To keep you in the dark or open up to you?
This should inform you on what next to do.
Follow your heart and do whatever you have to do..
DeleteWhy did you have to cheat taste your fertility? Dint you go for test?
DeleteYou won't judge, but if na man decide to try him fertility with side hen you go judge, ba? You try! Different rules for different genders.
DeleteSo as dem get money reach in all the 10years the poster wan tell me say she and her husband never go hospital find out what is wrong and fertility clinic to try and have kids? Abeg this story no make sense.
Test*
DeleteSdk u are not be fair if it was a the husband won't you judge him.
DeleteWoman your husband is probably testing outside or do you know if your husband knew all the years he can't father a child?
@17:00. Be like say na today you first read stori like this here
DeleteI have not read further. But majority of the comments will be - I can't judge. Just do you. Don't tell.
Well, let me go see if today will be different.
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Had a good laugh
Big time adultery.
DeleteFace the music and repent.
When you went to test your fertility, i am sure you had plans incase you fall pregnant. So, that plan ehn...oya go ahead and implement it and leave us out of it, Bitch.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her...imagine her saying she doesn't have the person's number cos they met like twice..liar...who am I to judge..
DeleteWhoever you are, you are cruel and wicked for this insult. But no wahala... the same evil you spew will return to you. Ase..
DeleteThat's not being cruel, but a truth! She met the person twice by coincidence? Let's be truthful to ourselves. She obviously decided to cutoff the guy man when she found out she was pregnant. What I don't understand is the "test my fertility" part. How would she feel if she was the one with the issue and her husband "tested his fertility"?
Delete@16:04..bi ewure ba boju weyin. Afepe felepe
DeleteDidnt she tell you she was going to change some info? What if she made up that part.Myopic unintelligent Oponu
DeleteWhere's my comment?
DeleteWhat you did is very wrong,its good when we put ourselves in shoes of others,There so many test out there now to check everything,You guys should have done that and then look for ways forward,Either donor sperm or whatever.we keep making bad things normal.its well with you.At this junction you can't abort but face your life.wishing you goodluck
DeleteWhy couldn’t you just leave before going to test your fertility out? Nah, you foul and wicked.
ReplyDeleteKMT.
I swear , she’s wicked….. imagine the how the man will feel ….. Stella she better face the man and not do this phone call thing
DeleteI swear , she’s wicked….. imagine the how the man will feel ….. Stella she better face the man and not do this phone call thing
DeleteVery wicked ooo! I doubt if she can eat what she want to dish for her husband. Imagine if reverse is the case here😑
DeleteYll will be surprised the man knew all along and continued subjecting her to his familys ridicle
DeleteStella's advice is 💯 please follow it.
ReplyDeleteThat means ur husband might be the probs.what u did is very very wrong. U have to confess to him pls u have desecrated ur marital bed. Tell him quietly while u make up ur mind to leave the marriage so that if he forgives you, fyn, uf he doesn't then u wouldn't be all that emotionally hurt.
ReplyDeletePoster no go fit oooh. The riches of her husband and his family is too juicy to forego. If that wasn't the case she will not be sending any chronicle.
DeleteExactly! Poster you did wrong, right from the moment you decided to test run outside the confines of your marriage.
DeleteI'm sure you had a plan when you chose to try outside, it's time to put it in place.
I hope you've considered your marriage ending on this note?
Confess to your husband, if he chooses to forgive you, then lucky you but if he doesn't, pack out of his house and move on.
I'm surprised that with all the money you both have and resources available to you, you couldn't discuss and decide on any of the options such as surrogacy, adoption etc rather than the crude and complicated method you chose to adopt.
Dainty T, Your comment makes sense
DeleteIt is well...Huge Dilemma
ReplyDeleteIt is well dear🤗🤗🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteFollow Stella's advice✌🏻👌👌
Whatever you do, do not plant another man's child on your husband. According to you, you guys are rich, what happened to assisted methods? Even go as far as sperm donation? Anyway since you were suicidal enough to cheat n carry belle, do well to pack out and tell your husband that u played away match, he may forgive u or send u away, honourably.
ReplyDeleteMy thought too, there are plenty options available now if one has the money. Wonder why they didn't try that.
DeleteMouth hanging open. If your husband is not a dangerous man,tell him. If he is then tell him from afar.keep the baby and ask God for forgiveness.
ReplyDeleteAs a couple, did you both go for fertility test?
ReplyDeleteYou have money, did you consider IVF/surrogacy?
Your husband’s refusal to get another woman pregnant as suggested by his family, was it borne out of love for you and respect to your marriage or he knows he is the one with the problem?
Are you sure it was out of love or because he knew he was the problem, would advice her to collect his sperm and run fertility test in a trusted facility, and if it confirms her suspicion it should be a bargaining chip. What is more cruel than a partner making you take faults that's not yours.
DeleteIs he supposed to go and start shouting am the one ooo,or what?Some procedures help sperm especially with the money they have.Anyway the world is full of evil now,This is small compared to what people are doing.Carry your cross madam.
DeleteInstead of focusing on the iniquity this jezebel committed you are asking JAMB questions there
DeleteThis one you have twisted the story, how do you want people to categorically advice you?? Besides,
ReplyDeleteHow did you even manage to sleep with a stranger as a married woman without protection?? Aren't you scared of bringing STDs home?
Lastly, I don't understand how people would be thinking it's your fault ohhhhhh.!!!! Considering how exposed the world is.
Lastly, I mean with all the options of surrogacy IVF and all, you still went to test the waters.
Anyway, I would advice you what I would tell anyone I care about...
Carry your Baby and walkaway from the marriage, or better still tell your husband the truth.
I mean, are you ready to keep that a secret for life??? To me if you truly love your spouse very much, these things can be addressed.
It took me years before conceiving,and in my case too, my husband was at fault.
We talked about it, and found a solution (sperm donor) which worked for us through Ivf
Mtchew infact just do you, it's not easy my sister
Ehugs
You have time to hug her.. If she had sought for opinion, she won't be in this dilemma..
DeleteI'm happy for you. That is why communication is very important in marriages..
Lovelace
But she stated it there that she wanted to test her fertility. Why then will she use condom?
DeleteDo not be surprised he knows he's impotent. He might know you're pregnant and playing along. Stay calm, stay cool and watch as days go by. That's the case sometimes, just step out once and disgrace awaits yet all the time and wait seem as if you never tried. Do not abort.
ReplyDeleteUncle might have secretly wished you did this. All I wrote above, I know a lady that passed through same road.
You guys did not explore other options in ten years like IVF and surrogacy other than trying outside? I hope there could be an amicable solution to this.
Good luck.
Assumption! So they never went for any test in 10years to find that out with all the wealth? If we assume that he refused to go with her and she wanted kids then now she is pregnant for another man she should leave the marriage.
DeleteHoly sh*t
ReplyDeleteKeep the child and be prepared to face whatever consequences that may follow. From your narrative, it means that you both didn't know who was with the infertility problem or you both know and decided to stick together but you got tired and decided to have a child before time runs out for you?
ReplyDeleteI am not for what this poster has just done. No way. But pls cut the insults out of your posts.
ReplyDeleteIt is men who have other families or other women who have children for them until they die. Some women only find out after the men passed. She has done something wrong why call her bitch etc. Address the issue and leave insults out.
Dear poster, why? If you were going to test your fertility then you should have left. Oh but I'm sure the medical people would have told you that there was no issue with you.
I use to be married. And before I got married my now ex-wife told me that anyone in her family who gets married before taking in will never have children.
ReplyDeleteHer mum's siblings ensure their children or children's spouses get pregnant before marriage.
We are Christians so I could not agree to such neither did she.
After marriage no child, naso wahala start ooo.. her parents was on her neck while mine was very supportive.
I was not pressuring her for children coz I knew it is a spiritual battle. Also I started seeing her spiritual husband every night in my dreams.
Her parents started saying things about me to people that I am the one with the problem.. and yes she went out got pregnant, brought back to my house and lost the baby with Soo many complications.
What I am trying to say is, I hope this is not a spiritual issue.. and also I will advise you leave his house immediately.
Please do not bring curse to that family.
Kai na wa ooo. This one na ashewo work you do so. You have broken the vow. You have allowed the edge to be broken and the snake will come in and bite. You be real adulterous woman.
ReplyDeleteOwn up to your husband and let him know but you know you cannot stay in his house except he is another kind of man.
After 10years you decided to test outside.. Tell him the truth that's what matters.. From your post, you can take care of yourself.. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteThis story will now give some people upper hand to further pummel the women folk. Rubbish...
Lovelace
Follow Stella's advice. The best way to go about it.
ReplyDeleteserious dilemma... the deed has been done so let me not dwell on that much...you owe your husband the truth because if the tables were turned you will not be happy to hear he impregnated someone outside. let him decide what he wants to do. as for his family people should learn to stop punishing and judging women when a couple is yet to have a child. some men are wicked and will never go for test. poster be ready for the backlash from people because even now that the family knows you are not the problem, they will still harass you. I had a friend who suffered for years doing test and going everywhere till a doctor said she should not bother coming to him if the husband does not follow her for test. he reluctantly went only to find out he was the one with the problem.
ReplyDeleteI don't see any dilemma here. She has cheated, got pregnant and at peace with herself. What's left for her to do is to leave that marriage. If the man refused to go for test and she wanted children, now that she is pregnant with another man's child she should leave the marriage.
DeleteIn this age? This man must have known that he is the problem and never informed you. And I am wondering if he will want the marriage to continue if you confess. And if he still want the marriage, if things will ever be ok. You know your husband and you know whats best for you. ciao
ReplyDeleteAnother BV making assumption that the man must have know when the poster didn't state that in her post.
DeleteEven if the man knows no,Marriage is for better for worse,He did not create himself if the lady knows then its better she tells him and go peacefully.
Deletehave you not been sleeping with your husband? how are you sure it is the other guy? pls be very sure before you just stir the hornets nest, except if you did not sleep with your husband at all within that period..
ReplyDelete15:54, you've raised a very valid point. Unless her husband has been away for a while and she's had free reign with her side cock that's a way she can be sure.
DeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteThis is totally wrong no matter how you tried to twist it.
According to you it over a decade you have been trying to conceive, you didn't tell us if you and your husband expore all other medical options.
Whatever you decide to do never abort that child, please inform your husband and face the consequences.
Good luck.
@Candix, I like your sincere comment on this Chronicle.
DeleteGood luck yo your just be readyfor whatever comes out of it.
ReplyDeleteYou have a wonderful husband and For years he refused to take another wife because he understood what marriage is about. Even had to turn his back on family just to stand with you.
ReplyDeleteWell, Enjoy your new found peace madam. Your betrayal will hurt him so bad but I pray God comes through for him.
You had one night stand with a fellow you don’t know according to you without protection thereby exposing your husband to a myriad of infections all for your selfish reason, you want to test your fertility.
Congratulations ma, you are fertile !!!🥳. Enjoy the remaining 6months ride. Wish you safe birth.
It wasn't a one-night-stand she said they met twice, which I think is a lie. I think they've been gbenshing for a while as she wanted to test her fertility. Good for her. I wish her the best.
Delete6 and a half months :-)
DeleteThis is blessing in disguise
ReplyDeleteIf it was a man who posted this, I'm sure you would have commented differently.
DeleteDontremove it just tell him you did Ivf with anonymous sperm donor out of fear of not having a child. Go and see an IVF doctor and pay him, then make sure you try the second pregnancy with your husband’s sperm. Twice is no longer one night stand though, you are a mad woman, you had been sleeping with other people for you to have boldness for one night stand.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her...the fact that she is even saying she doesn't have the person's number after digging twice..if u like pay IVF doctor and lie to ur hubby..U wil be exposed.
DeleteLies, lies, lies. It is funny how some female BVs here will advice a lady to tell a lie that will last a life time when it involves a female, but still come on here to denounce men that lie.
Delete17:38 👌👌
DeletePoster take anon’s advice about donor sperm and IVF.
DeleteShalom
Poster thou shalt not lie!! The world is a very small world, you will be shocked where and when matter go turn yam Pepper scatter scatter in the nearest future with your sperm donor.
DeleteCome clean once and for all.
Honestly, you messed up big time. The deed is done. Just confess to your husband. He deserves to know the truth. But don't abort that innocent baby biko.
ReplyDeleteOne night stand without condom, God punish hiv
ReplyDeletePoster claims it was a one night stand on two occasions with same person, lol. That's no one night stand.
DeleteWell I can't judge you because I am not in your position. Maybe you should follow Stella advice.
ReplyDeleteMy dear i can not judge you because is when anyone can wear that sheo that they will be able to judge.Just follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteMadam, Stella has advised you well. DO NOT KILL THAT BABY.
ReplyDeleteWhat I will address here from experiences that has to do with my work is the source of the riches.
What does this man do and what is his ideology, his beliefs. Sometimes, people give up their fecundities to
get wealth. Biologically, physiologically, nothing will be found wrong with them in medical science. The man might
know this himself. So brace up and face God the creator, in repentance and please do not go into adultery again.
Please allow this baby to live.
ReplyDeleteI also wonder why you and your husband haven't adopted for a decade. Or let's say you kept that information like yo wrote up there.
People who are without kids should take adoptions seriously.
This is messed up. So many things couple go through to have a child. Poster, tell your husband
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, now that you've twisted things how do we know the exact advise to give? Anyway, if this is the basic story, then I think you should confess to your husband, please oh, don't forget to tell him it's only once you met your one night stand impregnater! Tell him you were really suicidal and just wanted to know if you were the problem.... (by the way, if you guys are rich like that, 1) didn't you guys go to hospital to investigate your infertility issues in 10 years? 2) What was the result? 3) I am hoping your hubby is not a cultist that has sacrificed his unborn children for riches?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, pls tell him, you've lived with him all these years so you know best of he will be violent or not. If he will be, pls go far away and then tell him via phone call.... Whatsapp call preferably.....
All the best
I don't know for some cultures but in my place, a woman can decide to test her fertility if conceiving is becoming difficult.
ReplyDeleteWhat happens is that she will first leave her marriage and get a boyfriend. If she gets pregnant, the ex-husband will decide to bring her back as his wife or not to.
A man can test his by marrying another wife. And then trying to get her pregnant.
If a man already knows he is incapable, the husband will delegate such duty to someone else but with the wife's full consent. The delegatee has no claims whatsoever on the child(ren).
That was before the advancement in medical field though. Now, people can go for fertility test and treat any underlining issues if possible. Those who can afford do IVF, surrogacy, etc.
Outright cheating in the name of testing fertility is despicable and nauseating. Male or female.
Did you and your husband undergo any fertility test or treatment? Why did you choose to remain in the marriage while testing your fertility? Because of money?
The deed is done but let your husband know what has happened. He will decide whether to raise the child(ren) as his or not to. Don't commit paternity fraud.
Interesting!
DeleteBut thats on agreement not deceit
DeleteYes, the cases I stated are based on term. No deception.
DeleteHer case was outright cheating. That's why I said she should not commit paternity fraud.
This is deep.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are: Maybe your hubby knows he is the problem and decided not.to disturb you. I understand the emotional torture of being married for years without a child. It will tore your life apart and make you take irrational decisions.
Some men who knew they have problem do not categorically ask their wife to try outside but they will do that with body language and side talks. You will have done IVF with donor sperm when you became desperate but the deed has been done. You have gone far. This is not the time for blame.
My conscience will not allow me suggest you abort this baby. Not after all the pain and tears of infertility.
Take a deep breath. Go on vacation. Before you leave, Do a pregnancy scan. Put down the details of what happened and how far you have gone and keep in your house. At your vacation location, send your husband a text massage or voice note. Tell him where you kept the scan and details of what happened. Please be truthful about it. He might not be able.to take it initially but l promise you. If the problem is from him. He will work through this path peacefully with you. Please don't tell him face to face because you never can tell his reactions. Tell him now before the pregnancy progress further. As Stella said please don't tell anyone about this issue for now. Not even your mum till you inform your husband and get his reaction.
I don't have any right to judge you. God loves you.
If he was Rich like you Mentioned, shouldn't you have opted for IVF? Instead of this kind of thing, it's really bad.if he was the one that did that to you How would you have felt?
ReplyDeleteDon't remove the baby
ReplyDeleteTell your husband and only him.
Don't tell anyone else
He may accept the baby and it's a secret between you both.
Nobody needs to know
Keep that baby, confess from a safe distance to your husband, live with the consequences of your action.
ReplyDeleteGood luck
Your advice is sooOo matured. I'll advise her to do same.keep the baby. Try and get some hidden finance from the relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf she is your wife would you accept what you suggested? To keep the baby and wangle money from you to leave to go take care of the child before leaving you.
DeleteMister Architect, na wa o.
Mister Architect 😂😂
Deleteyou are a married ashawo, you decided to test your fertility blablabla, better open up and tell your husband let him decide for himself, wicked woman.
ReplyDeleteWhen you walk a quater in her shoes, then you can talk. Every woman na ashawo. Or did you marry a virgin?
DeleteUntil you wear some shoes never you throw stones at anyone @ Kidjo. She has to try elsewhere to be sure she is not the main reason, you cannot tell the humiliation women go through when they are in the waiting room.
DeleteSo you guys actually want to turn it around and act like Kidjo is the wrong one? 😏 A married woman sleeping around is def no different from an ashawo.
DeleteWhat happened to our morals in this country FGS?!!!
Scroll ☝️ and read Her Majesty's comment which I have copied for you anon and EC. Read and digest inugo?
Delete--> Outright cheating in the name of testing fertility is despicable and nauseating. Male or female.
Huh!! Wait ooo, What shoe you people are talking about here, I'm surprised with the kind of comments i'm reading here, what is wrong with this generation bikonu, a woman went outside fuck another man and got pregnant and all of you are talking about been in her shoes, which stupid shoes, this is how she will pay her husband back for everything he did for her, for all the insults she received from his family, all of you are wicked. Nobi this blog we dey. No wahala
DeleteBut if na man una go judge without being in his shoes, ba? Una dey really try for dis blog.
DeleteLast born, tell them ooo. No be only shoe, na pyjamas 😏
DeleteScroll up and see one of the ashawo telling her to lie that she did IVF.. Some people's heart is truly deep.
DeleteLovelace
Y'all shameless for supporting this prostitute. So it's okay to cheat cos she's ttcing? Fuck ya'll 😡😡
DeleteStella pls post my comments 🙏
A woman committed adultery and you talking about walking in her whoring shoes? Da fuq is wrong with you females on here?!! Just know y'all supporting the poster are going straight to hell alongside the adulterer. Ugh I'm so livid rn!
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Deletey'all supporting her should keep this same energy when the tables turn. y'all bash the poster of "the chronicles of a marriedman" for cheating but support this adulterous being simply because she's a woman, is this how you feminists roll?
Delete@ShootGyal : my dear the hypocrisy is baffling.
Some of You women are so embarassingly irritating! Once it comes to issues of fertility,you become stupid and justify every form of wickedness. Look at the useless comments about "walking in shoes". The question is "is adultery wrong or not?"
DeleteThe same idiots who throw huge stones at side chicks, cheating men etc will suddenly remember to that "there are shoes". They will suddenly remember "do not judge". They will suddenly remember that no one is above sin. You show wickedness to your fellow man everyday but when it comes to fertility issues, you become saints. You all like to talk about humiliation that u face like u people dont mock others too. You mock others for being poor, unmarried, etc.. but pretend to be saints when it comes to your challenges. Now u are supporting your fellow whore & will still turn around and claim "hUmiLiAtIon". Get out!!
00:29 👌👌👌
DeleteI’m pretty sure if this man wasn’t rich,poster would’ve been long gone with her new baby.The things that money will cause in this life,money won’t be able to solve it
ReplyDeleteYou gerrit!
DeleteAnony 17:27 KIDJO is actually a female
DeleteYour case is quite similar to mine. In my case, I divorced my husband and married the man. We have 2 more children together now. Be very happy for your pregnancy. You are going to be a mama. Congratulations. No greater joy than that. Tell him about it from afar like Stella said.If he does not accept, move on with your life.Whatever you do, Do not abort that joy in your belly. Let people talk. TCC no be joke. I don't wish it on my enemy. It breaks you.
ReplyDeleteSo you were sleeping with the other man while married? Na wa!
Delete18:57,you don see am na. She use one hand hold her marriage come use another hand dey test outside. As outside click she come offload her husband. Na dis kain woman go come up with unnecessary quarrel and excuses to leave the husband. If na man do like dis dem go use abuses and causes finish am, but as na woman dem go ask you to put yourself in her shoes.
DeleteCongratulations and never you touch that baby.
ReplyDeleteDo as Stella has said cos if the table was to be turned the other way your husband will not think twice.
Go birth your baby and face front.
The best chronicle ever read here.
ReplyDeleteThe answers are in the chronicle.
She doesn't want to abort just to stay married. So she should not abort. And she should leave the marriage to go nurse her child.
The unasked questions is how to pass off the pregnancy or get Mr. Husband to fund the care for the pregnancy and child.
But is it fair to deprive the believed father the rights and privileges of fatherhood. All those talks of not knowing his whereabouts are confusing because you cannot have two "one night stand" with the same man. Or was two different one night stands done?
Tell him.
ReplyDeleteDon’t don what stella says it will blow back in your face because your family will suspect the truth. Tell your hubby you are pregnant and it’s not his. If he lives you he will stay. Both of you can raise the baby as his. But if you are so rich it’s 2022 why not do ivf since or sperm donor etc. Why will it come to this? Is it not better you went to a spent bank together with your husband than cheat? Which one is just to test in this era of technology.
ReplyDelete'test fertility' 😂 so funny. There are other options na. IVF, surrogate, etc if it's a child you really wanted after almost a decade. Hmmmm it is well. Open up though. The Truth has a way of coming out whether you like it or not. Control the narrative from now.
ReplyDeleteDon't trust men also. My Ex husband knew he had zero sperm count and did not tell me for years. He kept bringing fake fertility results to me. He and his family still called me barren and made me almost lose my mind. Thank God for saving me after I found an old original result he forgot to destroy. He is over 50 years now no pikin. I moved on and had 3 children in a space of 2 years. He remarried one gentle woman like that going to church to pray everyday for a child. Wetin concern me.Madam calm down no shaking.
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ReplyDeleteAll of you justifying this folly are shameless pieces of shit that deserve to remain spinsters for life. I pray no man makes the mistake of wifing your whoring asses. God forbid!
ReplyDeleteOne can make points without being uncouth!
DeleteYou get mind sha.. hmmmn
ReplyDeleteWell, abortion is definitely out of the question, this may be the only opportunity you have to be a mother. I am still shocked that with all the money at your disposal you and your husband never went for fertility testing, why would you need to test out anything in these modern times? Yes, I know that heavy stress can lead to irrational behaviour. Have you gone for Std testing?
ReplyDeleteYou still broke a covenant in your marriage. I don't know what to tell you to do because that would depend of the nature of the man you are married to. You will start showing soon so you have to decide quickly what to do. I don't like deception because it never pays, and sometimes things come back to bite you later in life when you least expect it. But you have brought up your husband's and his family's wealth so I assume you are not from money and may need his financial support. I don't know any man who will be thrilled to learn that his wife slept with someone else, even if there is a child at the other end of that. Stella's advice may be the best in that it puts you in a different country for a while, but eventually you would have to go back home, then what? If your husband is prone to acts of violence or is the vindictive and unforgiving type then you will have to be strategic on how you proceed. And you need to name a father for the birth certificate. This is a very messy situation.
I hope awon decoders will not decode who you are.
ReplyDeleteI love Stella's advice