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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE BREAK UP





Hello Stella.


I and my boyfriend broke up 7 weeks ago after we had a very big misunderstanding that led to exchange of words.


 After the issue, I called a week later to apologize and possibly fix things but he was giving me the hot and cold treatment (Wants to talk this minute and the next minute, he's not taking my calls) I sent him a goodwill message after he ignored my call and cut off ties with him.


I was surprised to see his text, "hello" when I woke up 4 days ago. I didn't bother replying, next thing he calls telling me he misses me and was surprised I wasn't sounding angry but rather jovial. I promised to call back as I was quite busy then but totally forgot. 

He followed me on social media again and I followed back. The next day, he sent me a message again telling me he misses me and asked if I'm in a relationship, I said no. He said okay and DIDN'T CONTACT ME FOR 5 DAYS. 


It's crazy!

 Why would he reach out and go off like that? I gently unfollowed him and removed him from following me out of annoyance.

YESTERDAY, HE SENT ME A MESSAGE AGAIN ASKING HOW I WAS DOING. WE CHATTED A LITTLE AND THAT WAS IT.


What do I do? because i genuinely love this guy and I WANT US BACK TOGETHER but i don't want to do the chasing.



Hmmm, he probably noticed you were giving him attitude and decided to do same... You know some men can be really petty.....

You should have remained calm and not unfollowed him and removed him from following you..... You both cannot just settle by saying you miss each other until you discuss what happened and the way forward.... 

Dont return yourself to a situation or relationship that you should not be in because you think that you are in love...

Leave things the way they are until he is ready to talk and if he reaches out to you, be accommodating.... Also note that it may take time to patch things up...

What is wrong with you chasing him? is it a crime?

42 comments:

  1. Story of my life till I shocked him and ghosted!

    He is now permanently on my blocked list and will die there!

    Poster he is playing mind and emotional games with you so don’t bother yourself.

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    1. Love is a strong word. If you fancy him then you both can be paying the mind games you both are playing now and wasting time. If it were LOVE; you will give it your best at every point.

      You sound quite young. Please go and have fun.

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    2. Please just focus on getting a good JAMB score.
      That should be your focus.
      This is someone who sounds just as immature as you, how can the blind lead the blind.
      Both of you will end up in gutter.
      Read your book mai dia.

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  2. Beautiful comments from Stella

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  3. Don’t chase him o, if u do, that’s the attitude he will always be putting up. Give him space to miss u, if he’s yours he will come back and if nothing a better person will come.

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    1. Poster he isn't yours! He will continue playing you and dump you when he is tired. You don't really need these emotional stress and his imaturity. Better gather yourself and move on! Wishing you all the best!

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  4. Poster come to the comment section and state what caused the misunderstanding.
    It can give a better perspective of the problem.
    Eg finding out he is a ritualist vs he didn't flush the toilet weigh differently.

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  5. This una play na childish one ohhh.

    Anyway, you have been with him for some time to know that he's what you really want in a man. You said you still love him and want him back... Why not make the move? He might be acting childish.

    Again, maybe he's probably trying to woo someone else but still want you to fill the void. Give him a call, ask him what he wants, if he says he wants you back for real, take him back, if he drags his feet while responding, take a walk. Good luck to you.

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    1. Poster from my experience the whole situation will mess with your head, heart and self esteem and you will feel horrible. The off and on thing will not make sense because las las, you are both likely to still break up finally. And you will be heartbroken all over again. You are on a loooooonnnnnnggg thing my dear. My advice? Get out now while you can.

      Unless of course you have faith that all will be well with the relationship.

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  6. If you guys continue with this back and forth peddling, and no real resolution, you are both headed for a real breakup. You both are getting use to not talking to each other for days and weeks which is not a good thing. The love will just fizzle away or get cold. If you love him as u claim and don't want to loose him, make a move to resolve the issue cos as it is it's lingering. One person must always be the peace maker in a relationship.There is an unhealthy competition going on for who will squash things first.

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  8. Valentine is OVER,Babe use your head.guyman wanted to be free as to celebrate with the one he loves and it clicked...
    I might be wrong sha.

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  9. The guy has another, turned out she doesnt have some of your qualities and he doesnt want to miss out on both. If he asks if you are dating, say you have gone out on a few dates so dt he doesnt feel he is your world.

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  10. He has commitment phobia. That explains the hot and cold treatment..if you are looking for long term relationship with him, I suggest you move on now.

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  11. All this back and forth..why can't you just talk to him about what broke the camel's back and then you'll know if you're still in a relationship or if you're now a singleton. I don't understand how you miss him and can't discuss the past. If your relationship starts off on rocky land, pls expect a rock-bottom marriage waiting to happen. I don't understand the subliminal attitude though 🙄😒😕

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    1. Abi, they both lack communication

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  12. He is testing the ground.. Either to leave or stay. He knows you will always take him back.

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    1. Gbam. He know say she no get self worth

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  13. Only you knows what you argued about and if the pieces can be picked up+mended or NOT,there's nothing wrong with saying "hey can we talk"...!

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  14. Poster please don't chase him because he is playing mind games with you.
    If he reaches out again, be accommodating and nothing more.
    Don't entertain him a lot until he is really ready to talk and trash the problem.
    If he doesn't then ghost him.

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    1. No when he calls back, that’s when she should be ready to talk and ask the man what he wants! She shdnt wait for him to talk because he won’t talk and he’ll continue to play mind games. Who has time for nonsense like this?!?

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  15. Poster if you love him & he was a good boyfriend I'm that past relationship you both had, then you both need to quit this childish play and sit down amd talk like serious minded adults.
    If you don't talk you can know what his intention really is. And all these I miss you no be am o.

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  16. please pray for him if you love him, he really needs it, temptation are too much out there

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    1. ���������������� How many men pray for their girlfriend/wives.

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    2. Poster don't waste your prayers, you will regret it! Pray for him indeed!

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    3. Has she finished praying for herself???
      Everytime, everytime pray for your men, pray for your men.
      The so called men, do they have epilepsy of the lips???

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  17. I can tell you for a fact that ur ex boyfriend doesn’t know what he wants yet.

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  18. Sounds like your boyfriend may have other options (partners) he is considering. I suggest you both have a face-to-face discussion like adults so that you can understand each other better. Tell him what he did wrong and how it hurt you; then see how everything goes from there.
    All the best.

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  19. Poster..
    Does this guy see a future with you? If not then the guy has moved on.

    He is just playing games and laughing at your emotions from a distance.
    If he wants you back, he will not play hide and seek.
    You didn't say how long you have been dating.

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  20. CUT HIM OFF COMPLETELY. This is a very popular game played by guys with commitment issues and an inflated ego. It may hurt but he is not that into you. Girls listen!!! If a guy likes you he will bring down every obstacle to be with you. If you chest is ache and pain proof then go ahead . Otherwise face front.

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    1. This is the comment I was looking for.
      Should be pinned at the top.
      Na so many guys they run am.
      He don put you for layaway.

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  21. Time wasting...
    7 weeks? No valentine, no Christmas gift. My dear think and ghost him for 7 wks too....

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  22. I am very suspicious of that 5 days break. He is probably involved with another chic. Trend wisely.

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