STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
INHERITANCE BROUHAHA
My hubby and I share two kids and have been splitting bills equally since we got married and relocated to the state where he works, while my online business continues to thrive.
The problem now is that I received a few millions recently after my late dad’s inheritance was shared, and suddenly my husband became irresponsible, even though I have always faithfully done my part of the bills.
I already have plans for this money, yet he wants me to take on other responsibilities because he feels the inheritance money is free money. Honestly, I don’t know how to navigate this. It’s eating me up.
I already have plans for this money, yet he wants me to take on other responsibilities because he feels the inheritance money is free money. Honestly, I don’t know how to navigate this. It’s eating me up.
Hmmmmmm, i dont know what to say on this but i have a problem with how you are suddenly seeing everything wrong with your husband cos you received some inheritance money......You have plans for the money? fine but please dont forget your household......
Why did you even let him know about the inheritance money you received. Why didn't you tell him your own share was just 500k because you're a woman. Lover girl you opened up to him about everything's and now he's acting up. I'm sure there are his other money that you know nothing about. Please think we'll next time and don't allow him know how much your money is
ReplyDeleteTell him you are investing the money for your children and actually do so.
ReplyDeleteI can relate with your dilemma because I experienced same recently in my marriage.
I simply made some investment even though it feels insignificant. It's a form of pettiness and you must handle it with care. My own husband started making his own investment supposedly for our family without carrying me along. While putting eyes on financial gifts that I received for my birthday. Birthday that was even a surprise by others o. It opened my eyes in a new way because this is a man who has always been selfless and we both carry family expenses equally.
Invest that money wisely please. If you weren't splitting bills equally, I would have suggested otherwise.
ReplyDeleteWho even came up with this 50/50 thing?
You do 50/50 in your marriage? Why ? On top childcare , being a mother and carrying a bulk of the household labor? Women who do 50/50 in marriage are Gods strongest soldiers, yo!
ReplyDeleteAlso your husband is irresponsible! Reject the idea of him trying to make you the breadwinner , he’s a leach .
And why can’t you say no to his demands?
I didn't even see your comment before typing and I have a similar opinion. This chronicle annoyed me to the core, she's married to a selfish, evil 😈, devilish man. Imagine he seeing money from her father as a free money. Money the man worked for all his life to leave inheritance for his children. The evil human wants her to waste it instead of him encouraging her to invest it to keep her Dad's legacy alive. May we not marry our enemies.
DeleteYou should talk to him about this.
ReplyDeleteLet him know your plans,he should perform his own duties, carry him along on your plans too
She’s suddenly seeing things wrong because he’s suddenly acting up
ReplyDeleteSome poeple can’t see your money and remove eye. They must finish it
He doesn’t want to bring money again till your own finishes
ReplyDeleteGo and put it in fixed deposit
Don’t do any risky business ohh
If you do business, at least set some apart in fixed deposit so you won’t join once upon a time I had millions
In all this God bless your father and your family for giving inheritance to the daughter
Make your father proud by using this money well
Don’t use it to buy love
You see why it's good to understand who you are dealing with??
ReplyDeleteSince you know who you are dealing with, how come he found out about this inheritance? Moving forward be wise, be very wise, their is nothing you can do o, cuz he won't rest till that money is finished.
How do you women marry these types? Where do you find them? How on earth would you be doing 50/50 with a man you bore children for? Children that carry his name. Did he carry the children with you 50/50? The day he requested for 50/50 is the day you should have walked out and demand child support.
ReplyDeleteYou better don't use your inheritance money for housekeeping money
My husband is a very responsible man, he takes care of the bills without holding back buy immediately he knows i have few changes in my account, hell borrow it till it finishes. I normally lie that my mum keeps money with me that's the only way I could save without him borrowing and not pay. But he takes care of the bill 1000 percent
ReplyDeleteAre you me? Am I you? Hmmm. It seems some men are the same
DeleteYou're right to be concerned. The inheritance from your late father is not an excuse for your husband to become less responsible financially. If you've both been sharing bills equally and that arrangement has worked, receiving an inheritance shouldn't automatically shift more responsibilities onto you. Have a calm conversation with him and make it clear that you already have plans for the money.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a partnership, not a situation where one person's blessing becomes the other person's reason to contribute less.
I would do anything for my family and lovedones. BUT you see where a man wants to force or emotionally blackmail me financially because he feels i have more and should take full responsibilities of the home when it's not a case of financial/business downtime. sincerely that day, the man just lost me being transparent, open and free with him. Not to brag but he would lose big time. Not even capping
ReplyDeleteLORD in Jesus name i beg you, Please a man with the mentality of 50%-50%, lack of oneness, individuality in marriage, my own; your own, prayerlessness, lack of vision etc characters not in your sole purpose of marriage and family should not cross part nor come near me, let fire keep them away from me in Jesus name i pray Amen and Amen.
GOD in heaven you know my dreams and heart desires in marriage, family, finances, business is sure and confirmed SUCCESS because i am your daughter and the apple of your eyes, He who finds me obtains favour from you. i don't want and can never tolerate less abeg.
So sorry to digress abeg. Is it even Marriage when you do only this for your other half and she does the remaining. This is colleague not marriage abeg. Poster, It's your situationship and you know how you have done/managed it thus far. Thank you for this. With all due respect it is a prayer point of what i don't want.
Just carry him along with whatever plans you are about to make .
ReplyDeleteInvest wisely maka echi!!
Follow him wisely why making decisions on your plans...
Have your own little secret concerning money.