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Thursday, March 31, 2022

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PROUD NEIGHBOUR OR NOT?


There is this older neighbour of ours who's 60 years old while my Husband is 50yrs of age. Both of them work at the same place, in a remote place. 


This man isn't mobile while my husband is mobile but few times my husband is in the car going to work, this man will just pass by in the compound without telling or asking him that he wants to join him. 

This our neighbour will walk with pride and be trekking to look for motorbike.


 When my husband takes his car and hes going to the office, of course, he meets this our neighbour on the road, and stops and picks him, like he will be the one to be telling this our neighbour to enter our car before he enters.

 Isn't this pride?

 My husband is the cool and calm type. I told him not to do that again that anytime he sees him trying to move out, he should just come inside the car. My husbands says he will continue that way while I disagree with him that it isn't right because to me, he's taking us for granted or like mumu. 

We have never fought this our neighbour ,in fact we are friendly but this his behaviour shocks me. Any matured advice, please?





*Your neighbour has not done anything wrong but only respecting himself....... if he starts to enter your husbands car every day, it is still you or your hubby that might look for fault or say he should contribute money for fuel...... 

Madam leave the old man to do as he wants, it is not pride, it is self respect.
 I wonder what kind of mindset you have.... Ah ah.....

98 comments:

  1. Madam.... be calming down. This man is just respecting himself and doesn't want to border your husband with giving him a lift. You women knows how to make an issue out of nothing, this is how you will turn your husband into a bad person because you feel someone has pride. Please leave your husband to continue to give him a ride without the man asking for it.

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    1. Awwwww...Madam i pray you never know what it feels like to be left behind by your peers when it comes to prosperity. He is 60. Life must have dealt him some blows that has made him the way he is. Please when you think, speak to or about this man, please apply love. Even that 60 may be "football age" and he is feeling under-accomplished.

      Please allow your husband be nice to him. Encourage him to be nice to him. You can never be mumu. What does it cost you or your husband?

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    2. Madam, you are not a good person, I think you are a fault finder. This man is only doing what people should do respectfully, he simply feels he might be disrespecting or disturbing your husband by joining him all the time. You are not a good wife too for giving your husband ill advice, you even called the old man proud. Leave your husband to satisfy his conscience, leave to do what is right and keep your Ill advice to yourself. Se the car is his, when you buy yours practice your wickedness with it.

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    3. Madam poster. I am the definition of stay on your lane and mind your business, it not pride, it is Self Respect, tomorrow you MAY throw it to his face that if it were not for you, he wouldn't have been able to go to work and I detest such. Please allow your husband give him a ride by telling him and His will bless your hubby or let him be. Not everyone has the power to be begging up and down.

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    4. Gboromidelerun, it will still be you after a while who will start complaining that ehnn why is this man always following your husband, ehn Cant he afford to buy a car, nyen nyen nyen nyen.
      NOT EVERY NIGERIAN IS A BEGGAR OR AN OPPORTUNIST.

      Some very few people still have pride, before una still turn nose bend mouth behind their back be gossiping jack shit about them.

      Before I bought my own car, I only entered my neighbours car once. And that once, was only because he and his wife were about to make an issue of it. For years, if we jam on the road I make sure I tell him I'm going to a different direction that I'm certain he is not going to, to avoid stepping into his car. Then continue my waka till I get a cab.

      I really didnt care what impression he or his wife had. I don't owe anyone and nobody owes me.

      Make everyone just maintain their lane. Honestly it's not hard.

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    5. You are so troublesome
      This can only be joblessness, or else why do you care so much
      Your husband is t complaining so what if your own? Nawa o
      The man is not proud, he hates disturbing people

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  2. There are people like that, they just don’t like to bother anyone.
    It is not pride, he is simply minding his business and staying in his lane.
    If he makes it your husband’s responsibility to pick him always, you’ll still complain.
    Let the man be.

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    1. Your right slutty. The man dey avoid see finish.

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    2. I'm one. My neighbor goes out almost thesame time I do in the morning. I don't want to border him, so I'll quietly find my way jeje, except he sees me by the road(whuch is rare) side and offers to help. I'm not proud, just don't want to intrude, let him be pls. Besides if he goes with your hubby each morning, you might fault or see him as a pest. He's a reasonable man and not everyone will act like him.

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    3. I have a neighbour like this man too who don't bother to enter my hubby car when going to work and I on the other hand, I am very happy because my hubby usually carry people at the bus-stop to help support his fueling and we are cool. so its win win

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    4. Anon 16:30, I know times are hard but you can encourage your husband to give him a free lift from time to time. Kindness goes round you know.

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    5. This poster is prideful ,troublesome and has a gutter attitude .

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    6. Damn Jewel never seen you this blunt. I agree with you ...

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  3. When I was working in VI I had a roommate that works same place. I used to go with her like one or twice a week tops. We never had any issue. No disrespect. We’re still friends

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    1. 15.06, please why weren't you going with her daily since you worked in the same place? Why did you ration the number of times you went with her?

      Just curious.

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    2. I will never allow my room mate enter public transportation to the same office I work in. Like how??? So I’ll just drive an empty car to the office?
      Nawa o

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    3. If na me, we'll go together everyday, then I'd fuel the car from time to time as my own way of contributing and saying thank you.

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    4. She had her friends that she usually Carrie’s before we became roomies. I didn’t want to intrude or displace someone.

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    5. Plus she’s super early, and I’m super late.

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  4. Why bother yourself with such trivial issue. Let your husband continue with the way he's doing. The neighbor likes it that way

    But the neighbor is somehow sha, what if they close from work, he'll still stand on the roadside looking for whatever too...hmmmm

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  5. Women tufiakwa!! You people's brain is upside down i swear thank God your husband diddn't listen to you if that man enters your husband's car without permission you will still complain just say you don't want your husband giving him lift because wickedness is imbibed in some of you. Mtchew

    Stella pls post my comment

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    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    2. Anyone 15: 09 why so much bitterness in your post as if all women are the same. Ungrateful man. You are the type that emotionally drains his wife

      Stella pls post

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  6. Calm down. That man is respecting himself. Leave your hubby to do as it pleases

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  7. It's not pride but self respect......

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  8. Why’re you looking for issues where they are none? You seem like a troublesome person, I don’t blame the old man for doing what he does because Nigerians like to look for any little opportunity to disrespect you. If he constantly asks for a ride now, you’d still be the same person to complain that he’s always mooching off your husband without contributing for fuel or that he’s spoiling your husband’s car’s shock absorber.

    If you’re that concerned, the least you could do is to offer the man a ride whenever you can or expressly get your husband to tell him that he can join him to work everyday instead of this your annoying pepper body reaction.

    Someone is just staying on their lane, minding their gotdamn business and avoiding unnecessary disrespect, not wanting to be a bother to your hubby and you’re here chanting pride smh. Can never win with you lots.

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    1. She really is a troublesome person.

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    2. Snarker, it is some Nigerians not Nigerians o.

      You don't like generalization like me πŸ˜‹.

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    3. Gbam, Snarker you catch am, very wicked sombori

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    4. See ehn, I read this Chronicle twice to make sure I understood it well.
      First of all poster, this is NOT a Chronicle! This is NOT a problem at all! You are a very wicked, clearly jobless person who finds issues where there are none! Like wtf is this even?? An elderly man is busy minding his business and retaining his dignity by not being dependent on people and you actually have a problem with that??? Are you okay at all?? Like, your problem in life is, a man not begging to enter your husband's car?? Are you mentally okay? Are you not a witch like this??
      You are a rubbish person and may God forbid I meet anyone like u in this life. How can minding my business trigger someone so much to the point of sending a Chronicle??? I will ask again, ARE YOU MAD?!! You are absolute filth I swear

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    5. Madam it was good you asked
      Leave both of them alone and mind your business

      It is none of your emotional concern how an elder decided to respect himself and avoid see finish

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  9. Madam please change this your rubbish mentality! So you can't differentiate between self respect and pride??
    You sound like a bad woman because I don't see why you're poisoning your husband's mind. Please change abeg and leave the old man alone!
    I'm 100% sure if he was always entering your husband's car, you'll be the one complaining. Now he's respecting himself you're still complaining. Bad woman!

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  10. See the poster of yesterday despite being in charge of the man's finances she can't even give account on how they spend mllion always wanting to control a man give them a chance they will ruin everything and chase your family away while hers and her entire village people have every access to your home. I pity simp men

    Note: I am a woman but i hate weak men with passion

    She has started poisoning her husbands good heart very soon she will ask him to stop carrying him. Wicked creatures

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    1. You are funny
      Can the man give account
      If it’s easy why is he not doing it

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  11. See the poster of yesterday despite being in charge of the man's finances she can't even give account on how they spend mllions always wanting to control a man give them a chance they will ruin everything and chase your family away while hers and her entire village people have every access to your home. I pity simp men

    Note: I am a woman but i hate weak men with passion

    See how she has started poisoning her husbands good heart very soon she will ask him to stop carrying him. Wicked creatures

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    1. And I am sure it's the part of yesterday's poster being in charge of the man's finance that pained you the most, bah? You can't get over it🀣🀣🀣🀣

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    2. At Sapphire she is really pained

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  12. I'm sorry but you're the one that needs to change the way you think.

    The man is only respecting himself before 'see finish' will enter the whole thing.

    Do you expect him to just open your husband's car and sit inside, waiting for your husband to come and drive the car that he didn't buy or contribute money for fuel for? If you want to help, it's your husband that will suggest to him that he should wait for him so they can be leaving the house together at a certain time and then the man can also offer to contribute to buying fuel with his own supposed fair.

    Please don't say things that will change your husband's mind towards this man.

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  13. Correct old man. Yeye wife.

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  14. Madam, stop searching for what is not troubling you.. Leave your husband to help him if he so please. Why are you trying to control him? 🀷‍♀️

    Nawaooo, be mindful lest you are committing sin unknowly.

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  15. Madam abeg it is not crime it is self respect biko. The man is respecting himself now u are looking for trouble. when he start pestering you people don't come here complaining ooo

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  16. Woman, you are your own problem, save yourself from thyself oh woman!

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  17. Please you are the one with a problem, look at the wrong counsel you're giving your husband. The man doesn't have a dime to contribute to fuel, let him be.

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  18. πŸ˜‚ madame you are the one with the issues. How is he taking you for granted? He didn’t reach out to you? You offered to assist and he didn’t decline. Just like Stella said, he is respecting himself because it could just be YOU, MADAME, that will start disrespecting him in the long run. Going by your claims, he just might have perceived you to be the wahala person not even your hubby. Omo, taking you for granted 🀣🀣🀣 please just erase any negative thoughts you might have harbored against him because MAN IS INNOCENT of everything you just claimed.

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  19. Oh, what a noble and nice neighbor. Thank God for neighbors like this. If this man was always coming to wait for your husband,
    you will call him
    "entitled"
    "Narcisistic"
    etc.
    So please, spare this man and treat your queer and vain mentality.

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    1. Very queer mentality.
      Maybe it's this wife the man is avoiding because he has seen she is a wahala somebody.

      If I'm the man, I will time it so that I leave before or after the man. I no wan jam anybody for road.

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  20. Leave the men alone. I believe you have other more pressing issues

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    1. heya!poor soul,he no no say im mata don reach SDK blog cos of a cynic wey call her self wife.as in "my husband and i yen yen yen.Very annoying chronicle.

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  21. Well I don't see pride, I only see a matured minded man dat dosent want issues with anybody

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  22. Nothing here. Just let the men be

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  23. What really do some women want? If this man were coming and asking for a lift,
    You will hear; "stop carrying him, are you his driver?" He stays jeje on his lane,
    you hear "he is proud, he takes us for granted..."

    Luke 7:31Jesus went on to say, “To what, then, can I compare the people of this generation? What are they like? 32They are like children sitting in the marketplace and calling out to each other:
    “ ‘We played the pipe for you,
    and you did not dance;
    we sang a dirge,
    and you did not cry.’
    33For John the Baptist came neither eating bread nor drinking wine, and you say, ‘He has a demon.’ 34The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and you say, ‘Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners.’ 35But wisdom is proved right by all her children.”

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  24. Women!
    Women!
    Women!
    How many times did I call us?
    🀣🀣🀣🀣

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    1. You are calling women because of this one woman? Why are you like this? Better call your own name and answer because you are obviously this wahala poster.

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  25. The old man is doing the right thing before you people call him 'entitlement mentality' Baba is jejely respecting himself and his old age. If na me I'll do same.

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  26. Minding your business and not taking advantage of people is not pride

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  27. If he enters his car from house, u will still find one thing to say. Your neighbour has sense, this way he preserves his self respect.

    You dunno what he must have faced previously for doing the same thing u want him to do.

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  28. Madam, you have just set up a factory and you know what you are manufacturing?
    Problems!
    You see as you are already quarreling with your husband when there is nothing to quarrel about? Hiaaaa

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  29. Madam you get problem walahi big problem, if the man start to enter your husband car everyday you go complain.

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  30. Poster I'm like this your neighbor o,I don't think there's anything wrong in what he's doing.Hes respecting himself before same you will say he's behaving like he bought the car for your hubby.
    So if your hubby really wants him to be following him to work,he should tell him.

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    1. Poster start fasting about your unknown to you attitude and negative perspective problem

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  31. Some women like to look for trouble where there is none. Please let the old man be.

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  32. The same way I respected myself towards my landlady. It's not pride but self respect. Please how will a landlady be in her car at the horning for us to come open gate? Like wtf is wrong with her legs? I never tried that nonsense. I even talk to my help on self esteem. I taught her to carry herself the way she wants to be seen and she got the message. Everyone thinks she's proud but she's actually a very person who respects herself

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    1. The low self esteem folks will think she’s proud.. that’s one thing I noticed. Poster with her low thinking stupid mind.

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    1. ,🀣🀣🀣🀣 eweeeeeehhh, this is one post I can support your hiss with a full crate of Martel.

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    2. Come back here, Dante! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    3. Lmao
      Very aggravating Chronicle πŸ™„ πŸ˜’

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  34. Women have been joining heads since 1845. She is trying to create enmity where there is none.

    Some people hate begging for help and it has nothing to do with pride. They just hate inconveniencing other people. This chronicle goes to show that whatever you do in life, people must talk. Just do you.

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    1. Omo! Indeed whatever you do, people must talk. I can't wrap my head around this rubbish I just read. Imagine someone being pissed with you because you don't disturb them for their help. Na wa o. Wetin I no go hear

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  35. Smh
    You're a very troublesome woman. Repent!

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  36. Which kind wicked people full this Nigeria ?see how a woman want to cause problem ,the man is on his own and you are looking for trouble ....you are a wicked woman and a trouble makers ,,,you type will never enter heaven

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    1. I’m sure her husband is thinking why the f*ck did I marry this nonsense troublesome woman?!?! If na man I be, I won’t even associate with poster talkless of friendship that leads to marriage. Oshi sha

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  37. Which kind wicked people full this Nigeria ?see how a woman want to cause problem ,the man is on his own and you are looking for trouble ....you are a wicked woman and a trouble makers ,,,you type will never enter heaven, you better change or else prepare for hell fire

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  38. Madam you're a very troublesome person. I thank God your husband isn't bad like you.

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  39. If he had joined your husband at the garage you would have still come here to complain. Oya face ya front e no concern you.

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  40. I think this man is trying to respect himself and not to be a burden to someone,I applaud his self worth 100% + poster is a tremble person.

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  41. Some people do not like to impose, they prefer not to be a bother to anyone around them. Some people have a healthy sense of pride and would not want to constitute nuisance or irritants.

    It is not too easy for him to come to your house daily, to wait for your husband to give him a LIFT. What if your husband is not ready when he is ready? What if he feels your husband may consider him to be an unnecessary bother when he would rather go to work at his own pace?

    You Neighbour has done nothing wrong.

    You and your husband can make him feel comfortable by saying 'Sir, whenever you are ready, you can call me and if I am ready I can pick you up'.

    You can also tell him whether or not you need him to make contributions towards fuel. That way, you would have made him feel comfortable. Let your husband do the talking, not you, please.

    I stay in someone's house, the people are really very kind, but shame kills me sometimes. If they don't offer me food, I never ask for it, meanwhile, they expect that I am free to go to the kitchen and help myself to food when I am hungry. But shame no dey gree me. Am I proud? Noooooooo. I just feel a little uncomfortable about it.
    Even when I travel, I always call to stylishly find out if they still want me in their house, if not I will not feel comfortable returning.

    Sometimes just make a little excuse for people, you may not truly understand how their minds work.

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  42. Madam don’t mind them, I agree with you
    This is like the guy that comes by just when he smells the soup and acts like you simply offered him food and he accepted when he targeted the food and keeps doing so
    Dude targets when husband is ready to move then he moves too and that is a bit monitoring spirit like
    Nobod likes to feel monitored

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    1. See them ooo. Daft mentality just like poster. You do know they work at the same company and most likely same time schedule right?? You’re so irritating just like poster.

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    2. Ha! Did you read the part where she wrote they both work in a remote area. Using the Lagos area experience, people who work in areas far from their home all usually leave to work about the same time.

      Following your comment, Poster should advise her husband to delay his timing by 30 minutes. That will solve all issues. Both men will not meet in the compound or on the road.

      Poster was on track when she wrote that she suggested her husband should tell the man to ride with him from the compound. But her statements after that went off tangent.

      There are plenty people who do not ride with neighbours. They do not offer rides or do not accept offers. That is why Bvs do not see this post a chronicle.

      Anyways, it served its purpose. A break from the generally usual. I had a good laugh reading the comments.

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  43. Poster,

    You are a WICKED woman! Kilodè! You mean, your problem in life now is, a man that chooses to retain his dignity by not begging or relying on you?? That's your problem? You have a problem with a man minding his business & carrying his cross on his head? Ahhh!

    I must ask o, are you sure you are okay? To the point you even sent this as a Chronicle? You now want to influence your husband against him? Has this man ever offended you? Or you're really offended because he doesn't want to depend on you? What is your problem with him exactly? Whether it's pride or what not, how does it affect you?
    Maybe the man has noticed your character and that's why he's avoiding rubbish sef. Who knows? Because if you are capable of creating issues out of nothing like this, I wonder what living with you would be like. I wonder what you'd be like when someone depends on you.
    May God forbid

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  44. Poster you lack wisdom
    DO YOU KNOW YOUR TOMORROW?
    I found it difficult getting into unilag many years ago....guess what? It was a cleaner, i repeat a cleaner working in the Senate building that spotted my parents and i and asked us what we were there for...long story short he took us to one oga like dat and it clicked. This was all because my parents share food to every house on our street during Christmas, Easter and New Year.
    Today, i do same cos i dont know what tomorrow may bring

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  45. This really is not an issue. NO matter who a person is it is better to not depend on anyone if you can avoid it. Dependency opens the door to disappointment and ill-treatment from others. The man has standards so let him live to his standards in peace. See, he is not bothering your husband for a ride and you have problem, imagine if he was bothering him for a ride daily, what would you say then? That man understands life and people, he probably have gone through some things why he keeps to himself and depend only on himself.

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  46. Prov 25:17...
    Poster, dont fault your neighbour, he is just trying to respect himself so see finish won't set in.

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  47. Poster, you are not a bad woman as some Bvs would want you to believe. Apparently you have not met this type of neighbour before. You appear to be a sociable person and one who likes being asked for a favour.

    Consider these -

    The man is 60. Your husband is 50. In most Nigerian societies (I assume you are Nigerian as per your use of Mumu), 10 years are wide age gap that requires the man to comport himself and dey his lane while still being friendly with your husband until you guys invite him to your lane

    Some people do not like being forward with requests and demands. If you give them, they are grateful. If you dont, life goes on.

    Some people do not like to incovenience or encroach on the privacy of other people. In today's world, a car can be a lecture room (played back lectures), a worship place in motion, family meeting place for husband and wife in motion, etc.

    There are religious beliefs that say to let the giver offer free minded than to demand.

    Just let your husband to do what is okay with his heart on this matter.

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  48. I hope you don't have a maid at home because it is women like you that ends up in kirikiri for ma is grand assault.


    Wickedness resides in your soul.
    May God bless your husband for his good heart and rewards his offspring for his goodness and not exert your wickedness on those innocent kids

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  49. This is between two grown men for goodness sake. Seems you’re so idle and need to be entertained. Mind your damn business and don’t creat animosity as it’s not necessary at all. Wicked troublesome somebody. Mtscheww

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  50. Poster I think you may need to get a psychiatric evaluation honestly. Maybe get on meds to help balance your brain. On a serious note, you might need to get checked which is not a bad thing. Because There’s something wrong somewhere. Ridiculous chronicle

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  51. Wish I know this your neighbor so I can send him money to buy a car so that way, people like you poster will shut the fcuk up and mind your business!!! Stella, I’m ready to help please.

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  52. Madam na wa oh, be calming down and encourage your husband to help him. The man is very right. It is called respecting yourself. Let him continue to respect himself

    Abi you will like it if he comes and be waiting in your sitting room for your husband every morning.

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  53. The man might not want to take your husband’s lift cos he prefers to trek in order to exercise daily as regards his age. You haven’t thought of the health factor of trekking and his age. Besides, poster, what your neighbour chooses to do is non of your business. He owes you nothing. Get a job and get busy. You’re not a good person at all. Repent.

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