STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE SUCCESSFUL FRIEND.
This is my story....
After NYSC, i decided to learn make-up, a girl joined us 2 weeks after i started, she was 30, ssce holder and a low-key runs girl at that time. We became friends, really close friends.
Some months after we met, she asked that i lend her 50k. I told her i didn't have, she pleaded i ask anyone i know that can lend me the money for her, she promised she'll pay back in 2 weeks. I asked a friend, he said the money he has saved up was for rent, i promised i was going to pay back in 2 weeks because my friend promised she was going to pay back in 2 weeks.
He gave me the money so i gave it to her, 1 week later i reminded her, she asked me not to worry that she will pay up before the week runs out.
Brethren 2 days before the deadline this girl stopped picking me calls, i know her house but i refused going there because i was hurt and disappointed in her. I had to lie to my parents to get that 50k, i returned the money to my friend and moved on.
She started calling me 2 months after the whole incident, i never picked, returned her calls or replied her messages. She never stopped calling. At that point she enrolled in another makeup school and upgraded seriously. I knew all this because i could view her status. I was proud of her but still angry she did what she did to me.
She opened her studio last year, she is one of the best MUA's in the state where i reside. she is doing so so well now, she single handedly sponsored her brother to Canada last year . she is so comfortable as i type this, she is about buying a car sef, and she has enrolled in one of the polytechnics here .
I picked her call last month, she apologized for everything and then said she wants us to be friends again if i am willing.
I want to be friends again but i think i am low-key jealous of her, i am jealous she has everything going for her. I've refused to meet up with her since we made peace for that reason. And she didn't say anything about the 50k, she just said "i am sorry for everything i did to you" that's all.
Should i still ask for my money or just let it go and start on a clean slate.
If she does not offer to pay you back the 50k then ask for it... She needs to pay back.
Should i still ask for my money or just let it go and start on a clean slate.
If she does not offer to pay you back the 50k then ask for it... She needs to pay back.
You are jealous of her? what happened to the Make up course you studied? So you would have preferred that she did not succeed? You want to be friends again because she turned out successful? hehehehehehehehe.
Curb the jealousy ot staay asway from her...
Dont be jealous of her because you don't know what she did to be successful.. or can you do the runs business she did?
ReplyDeleteAs for being friends again, don't think of it because your jealousy will grow much more than what it is now.. Just be friends from afar and purge yourself of every seed of jealousy because it might still happen with another successful person close to you. Please ask for your money too.
Don't burn bridges. I may just recategorise you on my scalp of friendship but cut you off? Nah. Because you never can tell what tomorrow holds and people make mistakes, people change. So I always leave that window open if an old friend wants to come back.
DeleteAs for the money; yes, ask. It's a debt. I guess the jealousy you feel is not on the level where you look to pull her down. If it's a healthy envy where you take mental notes that challenges you to not get laid back and be on your toes, then that's good. See if there is one or two good things you can learn from her.
Go ahead and collect your money from her; a loan is a loan and should be paid back.
DeleteMind you that being her friend might also entail you working with her for free since she knows you're not doing any better unless you spell out conditions. She might be a user.
If she really wanted to make peace, her first action should have been to pay up her debt before any other thing.
You sef get your own for body, so if you didn't see from her status that she was doing absolutely well you won't pick her call? Odiegwu.
Purge yourself of all resentment for her, be happy for her and pray for your own blessings. The race isn't for the swift...
Lastly, you must not be all that friends with her like being in each others face all the time. You can be in good terms and still help each other from afar till you're sure about her and what you want.
DeleteFirst, she leaves you in a bind then comes back later and still doesn’t offer to repay the loan or even bother to ask how you sorted it out. She will do it to you again. Forget friendship.
Ps/ do you know that not everything that glitters is gold 🤔? Seriously, envy no one. I promise you, if you get closer, you won’t be so impressed. Set your own goals and review them monthly and steadily you will attain your dreams too. Good luck 🍀.
Girl, that friendship has run its course. I don't see how you can be genuine friends with someone that you're jealous of. I don't even think she genuinely wants to be your friend either, it's probably just guilt that drove her to reach out to you like that.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you're honest with your feelings of jealousy towards your ex-friend, you don't need to bring that energy to her. Just stay on your lane and work on your jealousy. Everyone has their own time.
You went out of your way to borrow money on behalf of a mere acquittance because you wanted her friendship and she can read your energy towards her.
ReplyDeleteLeave her where she is and keep it moving. You don't need that friendship especially now that you are jealous of her cos she gon lead you astray. I would forget that money too if I'm in your position, you have been okay without it.
Be cordial, wish her well from afar and ask for the spirit of jealousy to be removed from your life.
Acquaintance** I guess autocorrect did you dirty..👁🧐
DeleteThank you, Prudent Genius. 😁
DeleteShe should at least ask for her money o before anything. That money dey her mind to the extent that she wrote a chronicle about it! Collect your money and move on. She betrayed you. That friendship is over by the way. It’s been over. You don’t need that type of friend in your life.
Delete😂😂😂@Prudent Genius
DeleteThe friendship is dead, ask for your money, if she gives you, fine, if she doesn't move on
ReplyDeleteCall her and ask her to pay back ur money then let her go cuz ur jealousy can destroy so many things
ReplyDeletePoster, ask for your money and keep a distance. If she was a good person, she wouldn't have avoided u after collecting the money plus she should be trying to pay back now if she is truly remorseful for her wrongs.
ReplyDeleteAnother reason to stay away is the envy you feel towards her. It will never be a real friendship if you harbour such feelings.
You better run for your life. Making peace with her is good but please don't ever be jealous of anybody's success. Ask her for your money if you want her still pay.
ReplyDeleteShe’s a bad friend. Ask for your money and stay away. Or keep her as a friend on the side just cos who know me tomorrow. You get?
ReplyDeleteBe yourself. Envy no one just be happy and friendly
ReplyDeleteWhy is anyone not talking about the part where she didn't even mention the money
ReplyDeleteI don't have much to say because the situation is somewhat complicated. I like that you are being sincere with yourself though. I think you can still ask for your money and see her reaction. If you don't it will keep biting at you, as she continues to keep quiet about it and face front. Which kind of friendship would that be?
ReplyDeleteI can't tell you what to do, but trust is stellar to me in ANY relationship. I won't be able to trust her again and will completely leave her alone. Also your envy of her is not going to add anything positive to the relationship. It may even affect your ability to move forward and make progress in life. I think in your shoes I would also cut her off my social media to clear my mind and get over the whole thing and live my life.
Please if you know in your heart that you are still jealous of her, meet up with her to ask for your money, if she's willing to pay back, collect your money and stay away from her, I beg you.
ReplyDeleteThis one that you started with, "she's a low key runs girl". You are definitely jealous and I don't think she needs a jealous friend.
Thank you! The girl should pay up and RUN AWAY from the poster!!
DeleteNaso one person call me today to borrow am money. For the first time in my life I said NO!!!
ReplyDeleteThe kind shame wey I don face bcoz I pity people borrow them money ehnnnn. Worst of all is they will never come to your aid
Love yourself first because if you do, this nonsense won’t happen in the first place. A lot of Nigerians are very selfish. Maybe na the harsh economy I don’t know. Protect your sanity and mental health because these folks don’t give a damn at the end of the day!
DeleteJealous of "runs (blood) money?"
ReplyDeleteYes, a runs girl; who can sell her body can do anything else to make money.
You may as well be walking into a ritual set up.
Hmm! 🤔🤔
Wow!
DeleteI no get friend and I been dey think say na me no well, well well.
But why person go do this kain thing in the name of friendship?
This girl is not the problem here, you are! You are the problem. . .
ReplyDeleteProverbs 27:4 Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood, but jealousy is even more dangerous.
Read your Bible people, there you find answers to all of life questions.
All she sha want is her money. She’ll get over any anger or envy when she gets her money abeg. 🙄
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DeleteStop that deceit; she wants what that girl has and that is what is causing the envy in the first place.
Stop justifying jealousy, it is not a virtue.
Somebody that you said is a low key runs girl. You think it's makeup that she used to sponsor her brother to Canada? Or that's where her success is from? Lol maybe you want her to show you the way sha.
ReplyDeleteFor starters tell her to pay you the money and see if she does before even thinking of being her friend again
Spot on.
DeleteThe proverb that says 'don't use someone else's wristwatch to determine your own timing' was not for props. Speaking of friendship. I once knew a young girl who automatically makes you her friend once she sees you have slaying items. The sad part is, she has no mind of her own. Whatever she sees anybody doing, she would follow and copy. She started Youtube something to show off, until resources hang. She left that one. Then her new behaviour now is to snatch people's friend o. The moment she sees two people sharing something genuine, she would get close to one of the ladies and cut off the other person. When she gets bored, she moves on again. Very loud and uncouth girl. Beware of people that like to tag 'friend mi!, friendship mi! Lori Iro ni o! Friendship wey get expiry date!.
ReplyDeletePls jealousy has never helped anyone in this life. My dear ask of your money, am sure she can pay now. Collect your money and move on with life. You don't need her friendship . Be wise be Wise. The grass is not always greener at the other side.
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to be jealous of her. Be contented with what you have. Ask for the money and don't get that close to her to avoid being used again. I am always very careful about people who suggests I borrow on their behalf. Compliment any thing good you see around her and face your front. Work hard in your lane and be happy.
ReplyDeleteShe has to pay you back the 50k please. Ordinarily, she is supposed to bring it up first herself sef.
ReplyDeleteYou can be her friend if you want, but maybe not too close this time around.
Get closer to her. Ask for your money. There is no harm in being friends with her again. You might learn one or two things you don't know in your profession. Blessing comes from God. As God to remove the spirit of jealousy. Be open minded and yours will come.
ReplyDeletePoster your own is even better your debtor is calling you on phone, my so called friend I lent 500,000 without interest to start business since 2009 have refused to pay me back the money up to this day, always promising to pay back when I call her but have not paid any Kobo up to this day, she has even turned me to her enemy
ReplyDeleteI blamed my self for everything, had it been I ignored her tears that year of how her children are starving and how her husband abandoned them, I won't be in this mess today. I just handed her over to God
Well I blame you for not dragging her ass to court or get soldier on her so she knows you’re serious! Na you fcuk up. Since 2009, that money is long gone. Just forget about it and count it as charity money. It’s painful yes but since you’ve handed everything to God, you have most likely made that money back plus more self.
DeletePoster your own is even better your debtor is calling you on phone, my so called friend I lent 500,000 without interest to start business since 2009 have refused to pay me back the money up to this day, always promising to pay back when I call her but have not paid any Kobo up to this day, she has even turned me to her enemy
ReplyDeleteI blamed my self for everything, had it been I ignored her tears that year of how her children are starving and how her husband abandoned them, I won't be in this mess today. I just handed her over to God
Madam ask her to pay back.
ReplyDeleteHeat what she has to say.
E.N.V.Y is something you should not give room in your heart bcz it will ruin you
Why you envious? The end justifies the means, stat true to your hustle.
Ask her what she did differently (which you aren't doing yet) to get to where she is.
Learn from her and apply it to your hustle so long it is legit else don't indulge in anything illicit to get ahead.
Ask for your money. Collect and donate to charity if you don't need it.
ReplyDeleteKeep her as fair weather friend. You won't be able to maintain a good relationship with her after everything.
Forgive her and move on mentally. You can't remain closed friend as before.
I hope calling her Runs girl justifies why you are not as successful as ger
ReplyDeleteI think it’s more of resentment towards this so called friend hence saying this.
DeleteThat was how someone came all the way from lagos to visit me... according to him...we stayed at his cousin's.i didn't see him more that twice only for him to tell me to borrow him 50k he will pay the third day...since Oct I haven't heard anything from him...the painful part is that i borrowed the money from a colleague...I just handed him over to God...
ReplyDeleteSweetie, let me correct one thing. You are not jealous of her. You are envious of what she has. There’s a big difference. You wish you were the successful one. But, you are not wishing are ill-luck. So you are not jealous. Jealousy is a bad thing. Envy while still somewhat negative is a more natural feeling we all get.
ReplyDeleteMost people in your position would have feelings similar to yours so don’t feel bad.
But, as far as friendship, forget it. She’s already proved to you what kind of person she is not once but twice.
First, she leaves you in a bind then comes back later and still doesn’t offer to repay the loan or even bother to ask how you sorted it out. She will do it to you again. Forget friendship.
Ps/ do you know that not everything that glitters is gold 🤔? Seriously, envy no one. I promise you, if you get closer, you won’t be so impressed. Set your own goals and review them monthly and steadily you will attain your dreams too. Good luck 🍀.
Envy is a bad thing too o. Don't sugar coat it.
DeleteKill that Jealousy before it kills you. You should have asked for the 50k since it's disturbing you, but if you chose not to then forget about it!
ReplyDeleteIt’s obviously at the back of her mind. In that damn naija economy. 50k will really help. Poster get your money asap
DeleteLET ME WRITE IT BOLDLY FOR YOU, DONT GO INTO THAT FRIENSSHIO. BE CONTENTED WITH WHAT YOU HAVE WORK HARDER TO SUCCEED FOR YOURSELF. DONT BE HOSTILE TO HER BUT DONT START ENVYING WHAT YOU DONT KNOW THE SOURCE.
ReplyDeleteTell her to give you back your money period. You were not smart. I would have sent her my account number immediately she started calling. Please demand for your money and friend zone her. If common sense didn't minister to her to pay you back then DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WITH HER. She might just want you to see all she has accomplished and walk. Be wise and be on your lane.
ReplyDeleteshe has used your star, go into midnight prayers for Gods revelation. she will never pay you back that money
ReplyDeleteWow this is scary! Poster if she doesn’t pay back after you ask her then anon might be right o even though I hardly believe things like this. That our naija country has so many desperate people in it to make money. Pray pray pray
DeleteScary. How do they do that shit?
DeleteI've never heard this before.
pls hw can one know her star is used cuz am suspecting a friend of mine.
DeleteBe very friendly with her just to collect your money. So yes ask for your money. That should have been the first thing you ask when you reconnected with her. It’ll always be at the back of your mind if you don’t get your money back. once you get the money, quietly cut her off or stay friends but keep your distance. That friendship can never be the same. You’re a loyal person, she’s not. Also start hustling as well. Develop your skills and hustle well and you’ll also make it. It doesn’t necessarily have to be makeup. There are so many other skills you can acquire and do to make good money. Step out of your comfort zone. You shall make it in Jesus name. Good luck
ReplyDeleteHmmmnn, dem don use jazz collect yaa 🌟 star oo. 🔥🔥 fire prayers oo, I no dey truss any hooker, dem too do jazz
ReplyDeleteMaybe that’s why she didn’t talk about the money who knows… crazyyyy. I hardly believe things like this though.
DeleteIt's a good thing you are sincere with your feelings cos most times when we are jealous, we lie to ourselves. According to nna anyi Shakespeare, To thy own self be true... The trick to overcome jealousy is prayer. If you are jealous of someone, pray for them. At first, it will be difficult to say such prayers, but keep doing it till you sincerely wish them well. Most of us think prayer is for God to change God, but God is unchangeable. Prayer exists for us, it changes us and makes us better. It's for our own good. Trust me, you can never be jealous of someone you pray for...
ReplyDeleteI think it is ok to be friends again. I have said this before. Women will forgive men over and again for cheating, deceiving them, stealing from them, even domestic violence to them, but will never forgive their fellow woman for something so small. Borrowing without paying when due is wrong, but it is pardonable. She was probably desperate for success or intended to pay but couldn't. Boyfriends come and go, but you need a network of good female friends for social support. If you admire her success, ask her for tips and learn from her. Of course pray for humility, cos what holds us back from reaching out to successful friends, is pride...
BUT If you know for sure that her source of income is not pure, then stay away.
How can she know for sure about the lady's source of income? Why now that the lady is successful does she not attempt to pay back the money but simply apologising. Something doesn't sit well about her, but I don't really know, just assuming based on poster's chronicle.
DeleteFor someone that u say is really doing well,let’s say things were tight for her when she borrowed the money back then,the first thing she would have done now after reaching out to u is to ask for ur account details and pay u the exact 50k or even add some extra on it as a means of showing remorse for her past actions and showing appreciation for covering up for her.She is not a good person,tho u are jealous of her but I’ll advise u to ask for ur money collect it back and leave her alone..Ur jealousy is not healthy for ur friendship with her.Next time don’t go out of ur way to do stuff for people u can’t vouch for.
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