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Sunday, April 24, 2022

Sunday In House Gists - Living With A Jobless And Broke Spouse

 Some men and women live with spouses who have no Job and have no money in the Bank...





Are you on this Table? Or are you the one who is Jobless and broke?

How do you cope living with someone who loafs around all day and brings nothing to the table? It may not be their fault that they are Jobless but it is what it is...

Are you happy living like this? How do you manage? How do you feel being in this condition of having to do everything in the home?

Are you the Jobless one? How does it feel knowing you depend 100 percent on your spouse?

Has this situation affected the Marriage or made you both closer?

Lets gist!

117 comments:

  1. FireeeeeπŸ”₯πŸ”₯πŸ”₯πŸ”₯
    Let the comments roll in
    We r ready

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    1. My marriage is near perfect but I must admit I have my fears. My husband says the high point of his day is when I dress up so impeccably for work and gets picked up by my driver. One time he was called up for an award but he called me up the stage and started telling everyone of my achievements. I handle all the money in my family so it's not about how much I even make, he makes more. Now we are about to relocate to a country in the middle east where women don't really work that much...God abeg. I can't discourage him from taking up this appointment because I got the revelation last year that our family will excel in the Middle-East (of all places πŸ™†) even b4 he got the offer. Anyway...God that has started this should better have a plan for me where I can still work, be relevant, dress to kill and totori my husband daily.😜

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    2. Sapphire you dey give God warning?? Imagine.

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    3. Listen...some people may NOT be loafing all day at home, they may be trying to get a job or business but no luck yet. I kept throwing in my Resume' for years and had been married for 4yrs and my husband was in to contracts but he never complained and I kept throwing in my Resume until I jokingly threw in to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs when a friend told me that I should try there because they will like me, lol, I was shocked there was a test
      coming up, I went for the tests and then BOOM, selected for the interview and guess what? At the interview the female Ambassador spoke to me in French and while I was throwing in CVs I went to the French School just to keep my mind and hope alive, I broke out in the little French I could speak and the way I spoke it was so beautiful I guess, I was selected as a foreign service officer and of course I have a fantastic diction and looks. Today 6yrs on, I have been to 3 different countries on postings with my family and have excelled tremendously And my husband is over the moon, his business skyrocketed ofcourse with my job title My mother inlaw was so good to me in my jobless days and even gave me money from her pension and ones she got from her kids. My husband is the last child. That is why she lives with me all over the world wherever the Ministry throws me to and she is 82yrs now and looks 60yrs. Once you have a good spouse, they would not male it an issue so long as you do not spend the day being untidy at it with the whole house stinking. There are even jobs that are worse than staying at home. All my friends who got in to the banks are all redundant now. I refused then and kept pushing for the Civil Service or international NGOS like the Red Cross, CRS and all

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  2. I nearly married one last year, love was shacking me my eyes cleared when he said I should get pregnant by June that December he come and see my people Omo I run leave am for the relationship

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    1. Lolzzz at run πŸƒ‍♀️ leave am for the relationship 🀣🀣🀣

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    2. I can't fit laugh😁😁😁😁😁

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  3. I don't have a problem living with a partner who doesn't contribute to the family but she shouldn't be lazy and just idling around doing nothing. As a man, I always have this intention to be responsible for us even when I don't have enough. If there's a need for her to work, she should and if she refuses, she will have to find a way to meet up half of her personal needs.

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    1. You are a man? Never knew.

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    2. which babe go dey answer olomo olomo except nwata nwanyi eji obara goof muo

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    3. @SluttyChic... who doesn't use deodorant

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    4. @sluttychic.. oh yes, I'm a man.
      @Anon 15:33, You say what?

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    5. @15:33. Just passing πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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    6. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜­15:33 🀣🀣🀣

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  4. For more than a decade of our peaceful marriage, my husband has no secular job. To me he isn't broke. What I earn is for us and it is enough. He doesn't need to bring things to the table, he is the table; peaceful, loving, kind, gentle, content and a great lover of God and me. He looked after all our kids as babies while I worked, he shops, cooks and helps to feed them, drives them to clinics or amusements when there is need. He works on his great talent while at home and is being sought after already (by multinationals that have seen his works, they bang our phone from time to time) but he is yet to make a commitment.
    I believe in him and all I am doing is helping him achieve his vision. That is a whole lot of fulfilment for me. That is my God-assigned duty; to be his helper.
    We have same account and have equal rights to sign and withdraw from them. Our investments are in both our names. There is no country on earth we cannot visit if we want to. Our lives are heavenly minded and not in earthly vanities.

    You have to choose one; God (and his marital institution) or money, you cannot serve both.
    Seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness and every other thing will be added to you. Go to proverbs 31 and learn the ways of the virtuous woman; she is a great investor and her household is well provided for.
    Thank you Jesus.

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    1. Anaakogheri

      Same thing Osinachi did trying to be a virtuous wife.

      Companies are calling on him and he is yet to make a commitment???

      I am sure that man hits you too but you will ride this proverbs 31 until you are tired.

      KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    2. I don't believe you joor, am even sure u are a guy living in ur fantasy of a rich wife. See yaa mouth yen yen yen

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    3. Reverse gender roles. This isn't a big deal as long as you too are playing your reversed roles well.

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    4. 14.16 I am so happy for you. Your personality comes through so sweet and God bless your home.

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    5. @14:52
      You are "sure he beats her," how?" So you all would have been happy and hilarious if she wrote that her husband beats and starves her.
      Here is a woman thanking Jesus for more than a decade of peaceful marriage and these are all you spew. How about the fact that this works for her and she is happy?

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    6. Thank God for your happy marriage and kids. Please enjoy the Grace of God in your marriage.

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    7. Na so raise to power 2😎

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    8. At least he's taking care of the children and does domestic work. That's considered work. You need to put him on monthly allowance

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    9. The Proverbs 31 woman wasn't married to a jobless man #respectfully

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    10. See them talking crap under someone's testimony. If it was negativity, they'll all be Saint John but as it's something positive, all the Thomas's are out as well as the Mysterious nothing. When their expected reality hits them, they'll be hiding under anonymous to post chronicles of their frustrations.
      @Anonymous14:16.. Your recipe is working for you and I encourage you to carry on. God Bless your home.

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    11. For more than 10 years he's still "working on his talent" and refusing work commitments?
      Daughter of Zion, it is well.

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    12. Yet to make a commitment to multinationals? Your man is lazy, a leech !

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    13. @16:06
      So what was the husband's job #Respectfully

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    14. Abeg this story is a LIE!!!!! Single ladies, don't be deceived! A true Christian man will never be comfortable sitting down and making his wife be the sole provider. Don't be deceived.

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    15. Me I see nothing wrong with this set up you bring home the bacon, he cooks it. He takes care of the kids whilst you go out to work. He is playing his part.

      What I hate is men who don't work and still do nothing in the home😱

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    16. Epistle ontop lazy man? Please, that is not his real character. Come back and tell us his real xter when he starts making money

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    17. @16:28
      Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other CIVIC LEADERS
      Proverbs 31:23 NLT.

      There you have it! He was a leader not a leech #respectfully

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    18. 16:06,another interpretation for a civic leader is a Mayor 😎

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    19. God bless you tremendously. He's a good man but I guess you are the blessed one here. God will reward you for being a good and tolerant wife. I wudnt mind too if I were in your shoes

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    20. Where in Proverbs should we read about the quintessential husband material? A community property belonging to over a thousand women wrote a fantasy about a woman his mother never was and women have been using it to frustrate themselves since.

      How many men know that the same bible says that a man who cannot provide for his family is worse than an unbeliever?

      You described a house husband which is completely fine: it's a job women get praised for and someone has to be around to watch and raise the children but as the kids get older, which of these multinationals is he going to work for with zero years of experience or is a consultant-type job? He had better start now. What exactly was he doing when he was younger that he is now just in training?

      Women whose husbands just breathe in and out then breed, this version of marriage is not what you have o. Tell your man to carry his weight at home or go to work.

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    21. @17:39
      You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures nor the power of God. Solomon you referenced did not write Proverbs 31.
      It is THE SAYINGS OF KING LEMUEL; the oracle that his mother taught him.
      Kind Lemuel was not Solomon, was he?
      Again the Bible said a man who "does not" provide, not "cannot" The man this woman presented to us is not "an unbeliever." I want such a man as a husband too.
      This woman that posted this is happy in her marriage and you are there fidgeting and sulking?

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    22. Wow! some ladies are actually hyperventilating because of some innocuous comment? Someone is happily married for more than ten years and has birthed her kids and you are drinking panadol for no headache of yours?

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    23. Xoxo easy abeg.

      To Encourage a sis is not bad.

      God bless your union

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    24. I see they have started providing "city mayor" jobs for the virtuous woman's husband. Hahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!
      Elders in Israel are not payed. Go and study the Scriptures.

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  5. My husband is very rich and I earn salary. All he does is pay rent and school fees. I take care of every other expenses. I'm not saying I don't want to contribute just that my responsibilities is way above my salary and oga doesn't want to understand. It weighs me down a lot. I do any kind of side hustle to be able to meet up. Honestly it's very unfair to me. I can't even dress well or even give anyone anything even my younger ones because all the money goes to feeding and day to day activities in the house. I have 4 kids.

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    1. @14:36
      I always say it, being "rich" is different from being "generous and responsible"
      The problem is that a lot of ladies overlook character and focus only on financial status. That is a gargantuan tragedy!
      Learn from the comment above yours and live in peace.

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    2. A "very rich man" should own his own house and not be paying rent.

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    3. Till tomorrow I can never chose feeding bills over school fees and rent.
      School fees and rent is static and once you are done with it,you have relief
      But you see food, everyday it's rising

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    4. Can't u talk? Tell him your salary is not enough for all the house expenses!

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    5. Every other expenses (feeding, fuelling, miscellaneous, everyday home rubbish) can be more than school fees& accomodation combined.

      Most women know this hence their refusal to this kind of arrangement you and your hubby has.

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    6. You are right anon. A very rich man should own his house or at worst be paying mortgage. Either way, your husband is not a kind man.

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    7. Anonymous 14:36, your husband is very Rich, to use your words and you STILL PAY RENT? Really? So many of you back home in Nigeria misuse the word Rich and Wealthy.

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    8. I'm sorry to say this, but your husband is very stingy, hian, you better speak up oo, before you kee yourself.

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    9. @15:15 & 15:26. It depends on the amounts of fees and rent.

      Some "very rich" people want to live in an area and in the type of building they cannot build/own.

      And "very rich" is very subjective.

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    10. Rich is relative. Are you sure he is really rich abi him dey whine you nii? Food alone for a family of 6 maybe plus house help and visitors in Buhari econony is above N500K monthly. You better speak up. He is not doing enough. Not to talk of food, outing for the children. Mummy, l want this, l want that plus clothes. Your Oga nor dey try at all. Stingy man. Begin cook beans and ice fish and at times indomie. Everybody maximum two slices of bread. No eggs. If you dey cook orishirishi, him go think say you capable. Cook wetin your salary carry and manage to save. Save, Save.

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    11. Yes anons , my husband is very rich, he owns houses that he put up for rent, most Igbo men build houses but still live in rented apartment. He owns landed properties in 3 states just to mention a few of his investments. I know these because I stumbled on his documents once. I didn't choose to have this arrangement. He just wouldn't bring money for them after paying school fees and house rent.

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    12. @18:01
      What should actually concern you is the fact that if that man dies, you and your kids do not have a dime of those investments.
      That is what you should be reasoning with him; that at least his kids should be his heir.
      How about the ones you have not "stumbled upon?"

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    13. Until u start giving him food without meat, may be he will understand that you are broke.

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    14. I hate this kind of situation. 50/50 cannot work if one salary far exceeds the other.

      You better make sure that your name is on the insurance and property title documents cause you could end up doing all that and if this man dies before you, find yourself homeless and penniless and can't even secure a good lawyer to fight for you and the children. You are playing a very risky game. Sometimes women do this shit to make it look like they are dutiful wives and not after the man's money. Knowing the country you live in and the way some cultures treat widows you need to be securing yourself. Worst if everyone knows he is a wealthy man and you end up with no ability to care for yourself and the children you will be a laughing stock. Folks will mock that you married a wealthy man and ended up no better off than even those who never got married. Please wise up, Madam. Wise up!!!

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  6. It's not easy living with a jobless spouse,while you are not doing well too,it takes only the grace of God for the marriage to stand the test of time.

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  7. I am a feminist. My future wife must contribute her quota to the welfare and well-being of the family. Bills will be split 50/50. My motto in marriage will be: no contribution, no consumption

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    1. no contribution, no consumption

      🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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    2. Are you guy or lady?

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    3. Please if you earn more than her , don't split the bills 50/50, that will be wickedness.

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    4. Hope say you fit cook, sweep, wash plate and baff pikin too.
      No be by bills 50 50. Chores are also there for her to do.

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    5. I hope you split the pregnancy changes to her body, labour pain, breast feeding with her as well.

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    6. OK oo Mr Feminist spliter. Don't come and complain of her being stubborn or not being submissive o. Some stubborn women will take 50/50 split personal.

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    7. Lol

      You just wan find trouble and wetin dey inside Feminists' mouths.

      Naija feminisim nor reach dat level o.

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    8. @15:31, there are men who bear 100% of the financials in their family who still do all chores you listed plus more (e.g wash clothes by hand) which you did not list. And there are men who do most listed better than their wives. Women in such marriages dont comment in posts like this.

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    9. I hope the children bear both your names as their surnmane..

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    10. You are not a northerner then. The Northerners I know can't even tell their wives to contribute.
      Unless, you were brought up in the North. So calm down.

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    11. Anon 17:42, Present Ma/Sir. I'm here o

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  8. My hubby is not jobless but he is broke (I pray the situation changes soonest).
    Am the one that provides for basically everything at home. The only annoying thing is that people think my hubby is the one providing all my needs because I don't have a paid job. I do some good businesses online. When my hubby was doing well, we never lacked any thing at home, so am not complaining cos I know things we still change

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    1. You are a good woman.

      KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    2. Please come and teach us (Jobless house wives), how to make money online.

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    3. Yes oni want you to teach me too

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  9. My wife is not working. Though I'm not complaining or bothered, I even go out to even get her pads. I have tried my best to make her learn a skill but she isn't helping matters. I did love she makes the house neater, at least mend her torn clothes since we have sewing machines here.

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    1. what about setting up a small online business for her since she can't learn any skill.she can be running it from the house.

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    2. Pls hope you give her money

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    3. God bless you for loving her unconditionally

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  10. The only time I may tolerate this is if life happened after we already got married.

    To open eyes agree to marry a jobless man, naaaaa. Haba. I have a boss lady personality and if care is not taken, I will expect the man to be submissive to me the same way he would expect me to be submissive if he was the one running things.

    If I wan show myself more, I fit tell am to go do change of name sef, to my father's name.

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    1. hahahaha
      you no well

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    2. Abeg leave me this blessed afternoon 🀣🀣🀣

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    3. Boss lady?? Abionah. You?! Even Keke lady you no be.

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    4. Pinky, relax.

      Anonymous, do you know why I always pity those of you who go under anonymous to abuse? I can imagine how stressful it will be for you to check 100 times before posting to be sure you are anonymous so as not to be caught with your blog ID. That one alone is enough stress. Pele oo.

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    5. You na clown,πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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    6. 🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣chai. Abeg leave me o.

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  11. A lady in my Ministry, she wedded last year. I discovered she was no longer looking fresh, especially as a new wife. I just minded my business. Last week, she was gisting some of her close friends the stress she is facing at home. This lady brought the guy from Lagos to Abuja. She no even allow the guy get job before them marry (not that she was pregnant oo). Now she is stressed up. She buys everything in the house. Guy chops everything in the house, even carrys out to meet his friends. She said she buys alcohol in the house so as to encourage him to stay home. Husband man go pack all the drinks go drink with his friends outside come come house dey purge. Stress is written all over the lady's face and body. I just dey pity her.

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    1. This life no balance. Learnt my lesson in a taxi. Never carry every load in marriage as a woman. Na express you dey go.

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  12. I am the one who is jobless and broke😭😭😭😭😭.
    It's not what I desire.
    I feel like a failure 😭😭😭😭😭
    I am female πŸ˜”

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    1. You are not a failure dear. Just put your hands on something no matter how small. You can try selling nylon bags. The once used by market women to package goods. It comes in various sizes and types. Trust me if you stay in a good location. You will smile.

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    2. May God come through for you

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    3. Thanks Zaram.
      AmenπŸ™πŸ½ @ anon

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  13. I have been in this situation before but we held onto God,it wasn't easy,but God made a way for us,we manage the little we had( happened during the lockdown) we became closer to God and depend on him alone,God answered us after some months,the lockdown was lifted and my hubby returned back to base,we bounced back,someosome the people we had helped when we had money came to our rescue and made sure we never lacked during that hard time.

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    1. You need to save for the rainy day

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  14. If your spouse/partner is broke and you're living or in a relationship with them (your choice) and are here running them down, Then YOU ARE WRONG!!
    #nuffsaid

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    1. Thumbs up ��

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    2. They are pouring out their minds anonymously and there’s nothing wrong with that, nobody has mentioned any names here. My hubby wasn’t entirely truthful with me when we got together, that first year was very difficult, I bore everything financially and sometimes lashed out in frustration.

      I strongly believed things will improve immediately he does all marital rites officially and they did. I feel bad when I remember some of my reactions that time but he kept saying “you are a good woman, don’t let this current situation change who you are”. It’s much better now. Hardship is terrible sha...God forbid!!!

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  15. Maybe after marriage things got bad but before marriage Nwanne gbago agbago.

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  16. I'm going to 5years in marriage this year and my husband have not given me N200 to buy panties for myself. Thank God I work, I take care of the children clothing, 79% rent, every of my personal need and little misseleneous. I'm tired 😴 I need more source of income. Can someone enlighten me more on other side hustle? I work 8-6 actually πŸ˜”

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    1. So what does your horseband bring to the table about from sperm??

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  17. Am one!!
    And am willing to do any job to support myself.
    I did an internship that ends by Friday , It was 20k monthly for 3mnths.
    I used sum funds to support my husband to get a car for uber( We agrees to repair the Car then pay the owner gradually)
    And the other change to buy baby clothes.
    Am 7mnthd pregnant and would appreciate any job I can get.
    I don't mind getting one month as maternity leave when my baby arrives

    Location is Asaba

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    1. Feeding expenses eh no be hia. But if you are in Abuja n your rent is up to millions,my dear choose feeding o. Let oga carry school fees n feedings o.

      Try get a side hustles to cover up.

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  18. I'm the jobless and broke spouse😭😭😭, I've tried all I could,but job isn't forth coming,is it my fault?? I was doing small business before marriage,hubby borrowed all my money when we relocated to another town, up till now ,he hasn't refunded me, though he has never allowed me to suffer,he supplied all the necessities,but joblessness is killing me, this is the 12the year, no job ,no life,just marriage n kids.I feel empty most of the time, and hubby is not bothered,he will say ,at least he's not complaining,he doesn't feel my pain😭😭😭😭. I'm a graduate,no job,

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  19. I am a Proud Homemaker.
    I Only Worked wen i was newly married.i have been married for 21 years with 4 Children.
    My job is to take care of the Children's Needs.
    I am the Mummy,the Driver,The Doctor,the Teacher,The Judge and jury,the Buyer,
    While my Husband is the Sole provider.
    Working towards relocating. Maybe i will start Working there

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    1. Get your own stream of income.
      A woman should have her own money.
      You did not use your husband's head to come to earth.

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    2. Anon 00:39 obviously you are not married or a mother because if you are, you'll know through experience that all she listed is more stressful than being a banker or an accountant.
      If she were to get paid for all these, she would earn more than your most 9-5ivers.

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    3. Married 26 years and I agree with anonymous.
      Woman, get a sources of income!

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  20. At @14:16 stirred the hornets' nests.

    Hear! the typical Nigerian woman, no matter how well she earns, is never happy or feel lesser if she is not collecting money from a man's hands in whatever ship they both are. That is why some of them buy clothes, etc with their hard earned money and yet show off to friends that the items were bought for them by men.

    The story of @14:16 may be true or not. But years ago, a similar verified story was told in a Nigerian national newspaper about a Nigerian couple in the UK. A female Doctor and her Nigerian husband. The man cared for the home front, the woman earned and provided. The arrangement worked so well for them and gave the woman wings in her career progress. Seeing the couple's success, some Nigerians in their social circle gave it a try with varying degree of success and failure.

    In marriage who works and who provides does not matter so long as there is overall benefit for the family as a unit. This why it is better to marry on the bases of shred values, shred beliefs and agreement.

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  21. Very interesting and enlightening topic, I have learnt a lot from this

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  22. I know alot of women, that really want to do something, but there is no jobs or even money to start up something. Not everybody wishes to be jobless.

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