THURSDAY IN HOUSE NEWS...

 Hailings!

IN HOUSE MEMO

How the go they go?

Please send me PA a mail if you are interested in Data for your phone......

I am only gifting those with the Yellow Network so please dont send if it is not. i no fit do pass my 'pawa'.....

Some of you Ladies are going through menopause and think its village people doing you or that someone poisoned you.. please if you are a lady going through some kind f health challenges, read up on the internet and meet your doctor to help you manage the symptoms with medication... 

Someone who lives in America told me she menopaused a year ago and has been going through hell...So someone will through all these period ish and still go through something worse when the bleeding stops? A Woman's life is not easy, please men cherish them!

Men also go through midlife crisis, please check well so that your partner understand what you are going through and supports you...

I got a mail from a male BV who comments under anon telling me to tell Teejay that he is also depressed and going thru a lot of woman stuff that broke him down and wants Teejay to know that he is not alone....

Anyone else going through mental health challenges, please do not just sit down and wait until you become suicidal, please get help!!!

Kisses to everyone.

Enjoy the rest of the day, its raining here!

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD


I was having a discussion with my sister few weeks ago and we had a debate about abortion in Nigeria and Africa as a whole .

Currently abortion is illegal in Nigeria, a lot of hospitals actually perform abortions for people but because it's illegal we have more quacks running the abortion business and a lot of wrong use of drugs to abort which has led to more side effects and damages to the women’s reproductive system.

As much as one preaches abstinence or celibacy, abortion is still a very common and prevailing issue in our society.

I remember the day two girls fought in my hostel in school and accused each other in public of having done up to twenty abortions each and none of their other friends batted an eyelid.

I have also found out that a lot of married people have abortions done.

My sister is of the opinion that abortion should be made legal in Nigeria. She feels that if it is legal and the average person can walk into a good general or private hospital and get abortion done without stigmatization there would be a reduction in complications and mortality rate caused by abortion done by quacks or drug use.

She witnessed a lot of avoidable deaths and complications at the hospital she did her internship. She also read up on previous research work done in this area and statistics shows that countries where abortion is illegal have higher mortality rate from procuring abortion.

I argued against abortion being made legal. As much as I understand her points, I am of the opinion that once it is legal, abortion rate is going to increase at an alarming rate. A lot of people have kept their babies as a result of fear of dying or complications from abortion imagine that is removed and one can even pay for the best medical care to get it done.

As a Christian I am pro life and feel abortion should only be done if there are health issues involved, she says it is just like homos#xuality. Despite its being illegal, it is still rampant in the society and looks like it’s on the increase.

They have found better ways of hiding it and deceiving people into marriage to hide their identities.

We couldn’t reach a conclusion and my arguments that day were mainly from a religious point of view but truly it’s an issue, our country is deeply religious and we would rather pretend all is well than talk about or address topics that are considered to be taboos.





I am also pro life but seeing that it is what it is what will one do?

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IN PURSUIT OF THE FUTURE


I am able to wake up everyday to go at what I do because for me, it is not about chasing glam, fame and awards but if it comes good.

 It is a life I live.

 It is impossible to detach me from it. I go hard at what I do without looking back if anyone is clapping, liking, sharing or not because for me, it is beyond that. The pressure to catch up with the future will always be in your life to till you go to your grave.

 This is achieved and on to the next there is a part of you that constantly whispers that you are not doing enough. Sometimes I am bleak of the future we are all preparing for because it seems there is actually no future but moments here and there that arrives.


This once the future you wanted to be in. You wanted to get into school so desperately, then you wanted to graduate, then you wanted to be independent and the list goes on and you wonder all this arrived as the future but there is a deep seated confusion in you as to where it is all heading. Since life is the way is the way it is, take this piece from me.

 There is no moment that will come on this earth that you would have figured everything out. That time will never come. We all spend our days preparing for a future that we are already living in. Take life as one day at a time, live in the NOW. We are not going to be all equally successful. It is the fact of life.


I advice you to live like the flowers, a flower is focused on its growth not whether one next one to it is doing better. You will be better than some and some will be better than you and that word better is relative.

 If your focus is on chasing life, you will never catch up because you will chase and death will come then life continues. 

 Easy does it.


By BV Adebanji

Nice one Banji.....







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