Doctor Freaks Journal - Post Wedding Confession Gone Wrong

This life no Balance at all....

I ran into an old friend in Canterbury, Kent recently and we were both super-excited. Like men, we did some catch-ups. We "gisted" (did some aproko) because it is generally believed that "men don't gossip." 

"Ore" gisted me about a classmate of his whose marriage crashed as a result of a "post-wedding confession" which she made to her new groom.

I became more curious at that point and elected to dig further and My curiosity yielded positive fruits! "You sef, see as your ear don stand because of aproko!"

 Don't forget that I'm a lawyer and cross-examination is an integral part of my profession. 

The woman in question got married and two days into the marriage the husband encouraged parties to share all their dark secrets with each other, or forever keep mute. 

The smart dude encouraged madam to take the lead. The lover girl actually opened up that she had a fling with another man two weeks before the wedding. "Abomination!"

I asked Ore (real name withheld) to describe the girl and behold it was the same person I had in mind. Coincidentally, I was physically present at the scene where the "abomination" commenced from.

 I was out drinking with a good friend who informed me that he was expecting an old school mate with whom he had something intimate with in their school days and since they reconnected via a popular social media platform years after school, they've been trying to reignite the spark. Few minutes after our arrival, a beautiful lady walked in and it was the lady in question.


We all shared bottles and grilled fish. We gisted and laughed boisterously. It got dark and darker and we wound up for the day. My guy and the lady rode in the same vehicle and by the time we both reconverged the day after, we both shared details of the previous night. You think boys actually don't kiss and tell? "Siddon there oh.)


 I also found out that the husband pretended as if all was well until six months later when he chased her away from the matrimonial home and filed a divorce petition on some flimsy grounds but deep down, the woman knew it was motivated by that "mumuish" confession. She later had a child for him but that didn't change anything.


The take away for me is that as much as I preach love, truthfulness and honesty, I also implore my friends to apply wisdom in some circumstances. 

As a man, let me share a secret with my "other gender" here this day. 

When a man tells you how many women he has "slept with," just nod and call him a "bad boy" and laugh over it but when he invites you to follow suit, please if you're not a virgin, tell him he's the second man in your life, "we know say na lie but we like am laik dat." "This life no balance abi?" If you ask me, if you cherish your marriage some secrets are rather kept secret for life. That is why we have the word secret in the English dictionary.

Be Wise!

Its Kunle!