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I have this guy friend who reconnected with me. We used to gist, talk and laugh a lot years back. So one time we were talking on WhatsApp call and a call came in on his regular line, he just picked up the call without my knowledge or let me know to hold on.
I kept saying hello hello but no response. He later told me he was on the other line.
Another scenario, when we chat, he never really responds to previous messages and just starts a new conversation like we were not previously gisting. Or he’ll take 2 to 3 days to respond. I feel like he avoids the conversation if he doesn’t want to respond to it.
It honestly kills the gist mood for me and I’m losing interest. He wasn’t like this in the past. Told him about it and he said he’s a busy guy and I shouldnt take it personal(he runs his own company now).
My question is, should I continue to entertain his chat or cut it off completely and let him know my mind? Or also chat with him whenever I feel like. Ps: I’m also a busy person but I think there’s also friendship rules right? Need your opinion BVS
Is he your guy friend or boyfriend? if he is not your boyfriend i think you are being stressful about it....
You can also be busy and let him chat you up first abeg ,leave any drama to catch his attention and also be busy with your own man if possible.
If you've complained incessantly and it's not working, give him the same vibe he's steadily dishing out and see if he'll get the drift.🤷
ReplyDeleteComplain incessantly about what kwanu, the guy has seen she’s falling for him and he’s trying to avoid her.
DeletePoster you obviously want this guy, I won’t be surprise if you’ve sewed ashebi dress in your head.
A guy takes days to respond to your conversation and you’re writing chronicle are you a baby. Shouldn’t he be the one running after you? Thank God he’s not a bad boi if not he for don chop clean mouth.
The question is are you both in a relationship? If it's just friendship, my dear it's not by force abeg.
DeletePoster, don’t force it. Let him go. He is only stringing you along. No one is ever THAT busy to sacrifice a bit of their time.
DeleteIf a guy takes hours to respond to my chat, I am definitely archiving him and moving forward. I don't have time for silly games.
DeleteThe guy is avoiding her but she no wan catch the phrase.
DeleteWoman, stop chatting him, allow him to do so. Stop being desperate. Form busy and face front.
Dear poster,
ReplyDeleteJust follow Stella's advice.
When you are busy, politely tell him too to avoid you feeling taken for granted or see finish syndrome
You've started catching feelings and he's not there yet that's why he's been distant. He's emotionally unavailable too. Don't cut him off but stop initiating the chats. If he wants you let him keep the chats alive. If you step back a bit and you guys go weeks without any chat then there lies your answer. No one is too busy for someone they really care about and value.
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DeleteGive him space. Respond when he wants to chat with you. Get too busy that he takes notice and seek your attention.
DeleteNo one is too busy for someone they really care about and value..
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DeleteExactly @ Rhapsody. I'll keep saying it, nobody is too busy for people they care about. I sometimes use the busy excuse to push people away.
DeleteFirst of,real call automatically interrupts whatsap call,Don't judge him for that.
ReplyDeleteThis guy might have good intentions but if he doesn't meet up with your love Language...Poster,let it rest.You will find the man that would sweep you off your feet.
Do the mirror thingy. What you give, is what you get. If he creates time to talk to you, do the same. If he doesn't, do the same. Friendship/relationship is not by force. You can't be the one giving, and the person keeps collecting. It has to be a 100/100.
ReplyDeleteHe runs his own company? Do you know if he stressed with business or distracted by business issues? When i am stressed or distracted,i act the same way. Sometimes, think about what the other person is passing through.
ReplyDeleteWhen you are 'stressed and distracted' do you automatically lose your manners?
DeleteIf a call comes in on a different line, how difficult is it to tell the person you are currently discussing with to hold on or that you will call back? So you will just leave them hanging in space while you continue your conversation with someone else? Because you are 'stressed and distracted'. How incredibly funny.🙂
If you are discussing with your boss and a call comes in, will you leave your boss hanging and pick up the other call? Will you?
Let's say things the way they are and employ basic courtesy and common sense in our dealings with others, no matter how challenging or rocket scientish that may be.
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DeletePoster, don't waste your time with that guy, even if na friend una be, should he not communicate with you properly. Pls don't disrespect yourself of this guy, l hate nonsense. I can't even keep such a person as a friend.
DeleteYou don't have any issue my sister your problem are as follows🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDelete*You actually want him to pick up from where you guys ended
*You are on love with him but he seems to be cold about it.
*You feel sad because he is not active whenever you chat him up.
Note the following:
*Allow home to reignite the friendship
*Give him space and allow him breath.
*Focus on your life and the right man will come forth and if he is the one then surely he will come forth.
Don't forget, this guy in questions might be married or into a serious relationship with someone.
So, don't feel bad abeg
Good one pinky
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DeleteYour last paragraph Pinky said it all.
DeleteI dislike people who do not reciprocate respect.since he his just a guy friend,don't stress yourself over him.Be busy with your business too.I am very sure he wouldn't do all this to someone he cares and have respect for.
ReplyDeletePoster kindly get entangled with something meaningful, because the guy might not be into you for now... Something is taking his soft spot for now...
ReplyDeleteStop talking to him and see if you will die. Just try it. And if he sends a message, respond the next day and keep it very simple.
ReplyDeleteYou've become emotionally entangled with him and it's not healthy cause he doesn't feel that way.
😂😂😂😂😂😃😃😅 Poster come and read something here ( stop taking to him and see if you will die)😃😃😃😃😂😅🤣🤣🤣 laugh wan kill me here.
DeleteGuy friend and boyfriend are 2 different things, if it's a guy friend y bothering yourself over nothing but if it's otherwise, I suggest you tell him how you feel straight up to avoid giving us chronicle
ReplyDeleteReign in your feelings. Don't be faster than your shadow. He ain't your boyfriend.
ReplyDelete*Rein*
DeleteThanks anon...💋
DeleteWhy don't u treat him the same way he treats u, he will understand the handwriting on the wall and either change if he loves u or become more distant if he doesn't care
ReplyDeleteThis one sounds like my horse band side chick,he responds to her messages after a day or two,and that's because he works in my company but gave her the impression he owns the company...lol.moreso I am available at the office 90% of the working hours,
ReplyDeleteAbeg no time for nonsense.
Please I am fine and in charge,so don't worry about me.
@poster looks like you are a side chick oooo..
You are not fine.
DeleteCheating is not ok, stop deceiving yourself.
Call your husband out on his infidelity. It is not your fault but his.
I pray all is well.
Madam why not take the Chronicle just as poster narrated it; she says her friend. Stop looking for your husband's side chick in every woman. Why not confront your husband about it than lying to yourself it's not getting to you because it's clearly giving you mental stress.
DeleteIn charge his Ma'am?
DeleteWill you fling that useless man away?
Is it until he gifts you a disease that has no cure and that of your children?
The side chick do you know who else she sleeps with? Or you think your husband is her only maga?
What if she's sleeping with all these ndi pastors who are ritualists at night, drinking human blood?
He will still bring that diseased prick to you and you say you are in charge.
In charge of what exactly?
Though of tolerating Nigerian men who set the bar so low, you have dig 5ft into the ground to even view it.
Except you guys are dating or working towards a relationship otherwise know you are catching feelings my dear😍,if you feel you are not try to get busy with work, your other friends, or with your own man.Stop being too needy, you will be looking like an attention seeker soon.
ReplyDeleteYou’re catching feelings but he’s not into you. Please face your front and stop chatting with him because your constant communication is only strengthening the way you feel about him.
ReplyDeleteAre you 23? I ask because what’s happening to you is as clear as day but you don’t seem to realise it.
I remember once upon a time on this blog when 23 yr old girls would send in the most silly, stupid and naive chronicles… lol.
Seems like he isn't into you. You know this but don't want to accept it. Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteJust on a friendship level your there stressing yourself,abegi i don't have strength for idle people.
ReplyDeleteGuessmeey
Poster is actually tripping.
ReplyDeleteChill girl!
Get busy too
If he misses you, he'll reach out
Obviously to you, you see what you share as a friendship with a likely propensity to become a relationship but to him it could just be friends and nothing more.
ReplyDeleteAlso, could be he doesn't put much value to your conversations, perhaps it lacks topics that sways interest.
Again, not everyone has the humility to respect shared interest. Especially when it comes to chats. If it was calls I would have excused him, because I have to understand that not everyone likes calls. But to habitually not reply messages for days, looks as if it intentional or his way - which is even worrisome.
Dear poster, I'll suggest you take your emotions and enjoy the plain unfriendly friendship. Otherwise, close the door.
Good grammar!
DeleteMadam poster if someone is too busy for you, either boyfriend or not. You self busy for the person . haba una too like wahala
ReplyDeleteI disagree with many of the comments
ReplyDeleteMany people treat chats the way he’s doing
They reply at the end of the day or two three days later. You reply fast. It’s annoying to you. Just stop prioritizing his texts
But the WhatsApp call us different
A regular call will knock off a WhatsApp call. Instead of handing up the phone call, he may talk to the person real quick and come back to you
Poster I guess you are not busy that is why you are disturbing him, you seems to like the guy more that is why it is paining you. Face front and pretend he doesn’t exit
ReplyDelete...first find out if he is in a relationship. If he is in one, back out, don't even stay friends, you're already catching feelings for him. On the other hand if he is not seeing anyone and you have time and again discussed this attitude with him...if he has made no effort to improve on it, then he is playing mind games with you, he will string you along with the barest minimum, which you will chase and be addicted/crave for (e.g respect, attention, communication)...& in all of these you would have shown that you have no healthy standards or boundaries. It is your call! NOBODY is ever too busy to make out time for a person or thing they are drawn to, value or love, be it relationship or just friendship. Cheers!
ReplyDeletePoster, he's not that into you. Face front
ReplyDeleteStella just told you what I want to tell you.maybe her girlfriend does not like your friendship with him,just give him space,don't chat him anymore,allow him to do the chatting first ,even if you see him on line,don't chat,busy yourself too............ Josaria
ReplyDeleteMy dear you’re not that busy because if you are he’ll be the one complaining. Forget about his thriving company, it may cloud responsible reasoning. Do the same to him
ReplyDeleteDon't push it don't force it let it happen naturally, love will surely happen if love was meant to be
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