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Greetings to you Stella and bvs....
Please i need your advice ..
My parents found out that my elder sister can not conceive when she was a teenager so they asked her to forget anything about getting married but my sister refused and kept looking for a man that will marry her and she will be the one spending on them and when they find out about her health issue they will break up with her ...
So we advised her to go for adoption and she agreed and adopted a sweet baby boy. After the adoption she Continued with her dating style and met one jobless guy that lives with her.
She is the one feeding him and paying all the bills.
Note there was a time she brought him to my parents house that has he wants to pay for her bride price and my family refused because she wanted to use her money to pay for it .
Do you believe that every night this guy will chase my sister and her son out they will sleep outside till the next day and sometimes he will beat her and injure her, i have asked my sister to leave that house for him and look for another one but she refused that he said if she leaves him he will come to her business place and expose her secret and kill her .
I asked her severely to tell me about the secret but she refused Stella and bvs please how can i find out what the secret is before my sister ends up dead..
WOW, what secret could be making your sister allow this rubbish? why dont you become friends with the guy and take him to a drinking joint? This might work....
Please if you find out what the secret is, let us know oooo
Believe me poster there's no secret anywhere. She's just desperate to marry at all cost. Pls take her out of that situationship before she leaves in body bag.
ReplyDeleteI don't think there's any secret as well, maybe the man has threatened to expose her problem if she leaves the relationship but the mindset she has is really a problem among females. What is the big deal about having a fertility problem? Isn't it like any other health challenge? Why is she behaving as if it's leprosy or a physical handicap?
DeleteWe need to do better with our parenting techniques, stop making females feel their life is incomplete without marriage and children, that's the problem she has, I can swear that if she was contentedly and happily pursuing her career, living her life to the fullest, she will get married, probably to a man that already has children and wants companionship. Poster, talk to your sister, work on changing her orientation, it's difficult but worth it, in the long run.
My mind is even telling me the abusive guy has jazzed her sister,secret ko...
DeleteSo sad. Your sister's life is in danger. I really wish she could borrow sense and leave. She needs counselling to know that she is enough in and of herself. She should also put her son's wellbeing into consideration, as that environment is unhealthy for them. Hopefully you can can convince and help her. She needs an intervention.
DeleteEven lepers and physically handicapped get married, poster, you and your family need to reorient your sister, except there's something else your parents know that you don't know or didn't tell us and please, get that broke idiot arrested immediately. Everybody is taking domestic violence more seriously since Osinachi's death, if your sister die, na una lose oh.
DeleteTake him to a drinking joint and do what? Buy him beer and have him spill or what?? 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteExactly🤞 spill
DeleteNaeem nau
DeleteYou cannot do do my h than your sister should be doing,if your sister cannot trust you or anyone of your family to share her secret then you should advise her from far.
ReplyDeleteIf possible the guy is responsible why she cannot bear children but again I will say has your sister try going for medical check-up to be sure that she cannot get pregnant.
Well, getting pregnant is not the main deal but the abusive and lazy guy she is with is her main problem. I guess you should involve your parents into this issue and see how things will go.
Lastly, you can set the guy up with someone you know well and see if they can find out why he has decided to black mail the your sister. I don't think there is any secret that is too mu h except she has killed before or used someone for money ritual else no need to be afraid with all he has to say . I don't think she sticking to the abusive idiot is better than walking away from this ship that will soon kill her and make that her son an orphan for the second time.
Please tell your sister to free from that fool before she die before her time. The guy is using her to buga and he will dump her when he has milked her completely. Your sister need to be smart please.
Go find someone with the gift of “ seeing”
ReplyDeleteAlso let your sister doublecheck her fertility because there have been lots of improvements in fertility care and not everything from before should be taken as true
Next time he beats her irbid you have proof now, call the police on him . Nothing says it’s the victim that should call them
Hmm Poster Oriegwu This one I no know wetin to talk Allah!!! My goodness why will she be taking uppercuts becos of wetin...I agree with Stella here...
ReplyDeleteWhat secret will she be keeping that'll make her to be living under such condition? Please find a way to make her talk,it's there no family member that's close to her?
ReplyDeleteAbi you Sista dey steal company (employer) moni take feed men?
ReplyDeleteAbi your Sista dey sleep with employer/ oga for office?
Useless guy. Ask your sister what he knows about her that is making him treat her this way. Good afternoon
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm, human being sef, what right does this jobless guy have that ll make him treat your sister like trash, i blame her for what she is passing through, she has handed her life to a man as her source of Joy and happiness even it ll cost her sanity and life. You must stop at nothing to get to the bottom of this deep secret. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteWhat a wawu. Get a spy to know what is going on. How old is the boy that he cannot see or hear any discussion. Buy gifts for the boy, he will talk except he is 2 years
ReplyDeletePoster tell your sister that her life is at stake with the constant bating from tybag guy
ReplyDeletePoster tell your sister that her life is at stake from constant beating from that guy. She need to trust and need to set herself free.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm it might be the secret you already that the guy want to expose her to the work place...the secret of not being able to give birth, the secret of wanting to be the one to pay for her bride price.... then is it not better the secret be exposed than she dies in abusive relationship.
ReplyDeleteHope your sister did not buy those day old baby and that what he is currently using against her.
ReplyDeletesee the impact of terrible upbringing.... see the way negative thinking has so warped your dear sister's life that she doesnt know it is possible for someone to love her and take care of her even though she cannot physically give birth. i find this really heart breaking. if you really love your sister, begin to encourage her about her value and her worth. i pray the Lord will open her eyes to see that she is valuable and that her worth is not based on the condition of her womb. once she sees her value she will stop giving her pearls to swine and dogs.
ReplyDeleteThat’s silly
DeleteWhere did you see the terrible upbringing
You see that your first paragraph ehn? Spot on!
DeleteHow can your parent decide she is unworthy of any man's love because she can't birth a child? That's the foundation of her low self esteem.
That is what she needs to work on, else she will keep going back to her abuser(s).
Anon 17:09
DeleteThe terrible, shameful upbringing is telling ur daughter to forget about love and marriage because of infertility. Her parents destroyed her self esteem by telling her that. The worst thing u can do to a child is destroy their confidence and sense of worth. This is the repercussion they are facing now. The sister's self esteem is beyond ground level. The best thing u can give a child is not riches and education. It is the development of self confidence. You give that to your child, you will watch that child soar beyond any challenge life throws at them. They will be strong and unstoppable and will never tolerate bullshit.
I maintain my stance; not every man/woman is a parent. Some of them are curses to younger generations. Many of the common vices in our society today are caused by very poor upbringing like this. From the irresponsible husbands, to shameless side chics, to shameless women who fight over men, to women who sleep with men for money, to those who remain with the shameless, irresponsible men, to those who rape, commit rituals/fraud/ etc for money simply to show off, to the degenerates who seek validation from social media, all their problems can be traced to poor self confidence and the need to prove to the world that they are adequate because they've been told that they are not worthy without money, marriage, children, etc..
Even though she has any health condition as a secret like HIV that is still not a reason to stay in an abusive relationship
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ReplyDeleteHow can she even raise the poor boy in such an environment?
Could the secret be related to ritual things? Could the secret be the reason why she cannot have a child?
Pls tell her to move out, report the guy to the police, let them make him sign an undertaking to stay away from her. Involve your parents cos I you already said she refused to listen to you.
In my opinion, the way your parents presented her problem and their perceived solution affected her esteem. Why did they tell her to forget marriage as if childbearing is the sole reason a true lover should get married, she was not given a chance to taste what love means, and dejection was laid in her without given attempt to love.
ReplyDeleteThere's no other secret anywhere than what you people know of, you need a family member to confront that guy with the secret and let him it's not a secret to anyone, he should go ahead and blow the trumpet.
Secondly, she needs to see a therapist.
Exactly! I feel sad seeing how her parents already canceled marriage for her as if childbearing is the only purpose of a female child. It's sad to see a parent think so little of their child. Now she's trying to buy love because they taught her that she's not worth any man loving.
DeleteI agree with this comment. 👍
DeleteAlso the police should be involved, and the guy must sign an undertaking to keep away from her.
It's so so so sad anon 18:00. I'm sure she grew up as a very unhappy child.
DeleteThank you Felicity. You said it all
DeleteDid she kill anybody, abi she stole from someone.
ReplyDeleteHmm this is not looking good.
Your sister is in trouble , she needs to be rescued. Or is it that your sister doesn't have any will to enjoy life again that shes allowing an idot to maltreat her all in the name of secret .na wa.
Let your family treat her nicely, show her more love they might be able to find out this secret.
Your sister is taking things into her hands and think she can solve her own problems. Let her stop being desperate for once and give God a chance then she will experience his acts. The man is taking advantage of her, she is the only to stop that.
ReplyDeletePoster there is no difference between you and this guy. See the way your naration about her went in the negative. That girl can disown all your family members because of that guy if you don't handle this with wisdom. She is ready to die there. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. Every woman that wants to marry should be allowed to experience marriage. Why force her to adopt when she can get married and adopt in her husbands house or do ivf if she desperately needs a child. Have you ever wondered why disabled people do things to the extreme?. They want to prove a point.
ReplyDeleteThere is no secret anywhere. The only secret is the lie your parents and their doctor have told her about her fertility and she has lived all her life with this negative insecurity about her womanhood. She wants to prove everyone wrong that she can get married despite what everyone thinks..
It's time to change the negative. Start by calling her daily or sending her WhatsApp massages telling her how much you love and adore her. Build her confidence back. Softly and constantly say negative things about the guy. Start telling her why she deserves someone better than her current guy . When the communication is mutual. Your dad or any member of your family should send police/solider or able men to threaten or warn the guy to stay off the lady or face the consequences. She might react but don't let that stop you. The guy will personally leave her if his intentions towards her is not geniniue.
Ivf won’t work for the situation they are describing na
DeleteUnless it’s better than they think
Which mumu secret will someone risk her life and that of her son for Goodness sake🙄...Try get close to her and pretend to share her view of wanting a man by fire by force, maybe she will spill the bean.
ReplyDeleteProbably the guy doesn't know that you all know her condition. It is not a life sentence. She can enjoy life. That guy is manipulating her. She has given him so much power. She can live without him. And so what if people know she can't have children? So what??
ReplyDeleteSo many questions that I want to ask but... Continue to help your sister to get out of that situation,I mean they are not even married.
ReplyDeleteYou parents killed her self esteem, making her feel her think being with a man is something very important in life. I feel so bad for your sister and wonder how someone will decide to be with such a man. Keep asking her what it is. Keep talking to her about leaving that guy too. Being with such a guy is bad for her son
ReplyDeleteAre you sure the child was adopted through legal means?
ReplyDeleteYour sister probably physically stole him from his birth mother, or had someone kidnap him for her. I won't be surprised if she connived with a doctor or nurse to tell an unsuspecting mother than her child had died, only for then to hand the child over to your sis. Maybe she got him from a baby factory??
All these are crimes, so the fear of prison is what is keeping her attached to the guy!
This👍 Poster.
DeleteIf. Your family knows how she adopted, then there is no secret anywhere. Next time he beats her up, get evidence and arrest him. Make him sign an undertaken.
Too many people have been decived all in the name of marriage. That's why it's good to marry properly. Go to the church and register for your marriage, you will undergo some training together with medical check-up.
ReplyDeleteMy beloved poster, there is no secret anywhere and the only thing the guy can call a secret might be that, your sister has told her m about her inability to conceive when the love was sharkin her. To me, there is no single reason for that act.
ReplyDeleteThe guy is just stupid and your sister is acting too desperate to have a man under her roof.
But you don’t know for sure that there’s no secret
DeleteThere's no secret anywhere . Your sister is just using that guy as an anchor, shying away from her insecurities. I pray God gives her the boldness to walk away from the monster and have the boldness to understand that she is enough with or without a man.
ReplyDeleteReport that man to the police and evacuate him from that house as soon as possible. He should be made to sign undertaking and also restrained legally from coming close to her. Rich folks should mostly meddle with their type because environment and poverty have damaged many mentally.
ReplyDeleteDid you adopt the child going through the proper channel? If no, this might be the secret and she might have told him about it. Just talk to her, promise her you will keep it between the two of you and honor the promise pls.
ReplyDeleteGood luck, may you find wisdom to figure it out
Your parents are wicked, infact ya'll...Are u God to say she can't have kids...Don't people marry for reasons other than kids...My mother told me I will never have a child. My IVF miracle is sleeping on my chest...after 7yrs of marriage. You better try to communicate with your sister and get her out of this prison abi relationship.
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