MY HUSBAND'S SIDE PIECE CAME TO CONFRONT ME.
BACKGROUND
My husband suddenly started misbehaving (cheating) after 12 years of marriage. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. He knows this but he didn't care. The day I found out he was seeing another woman, that was the day the marriage ended for me. I didn't pray or cry or report to anybody. I just focused on myself and acted like he didn't exist.
We live in our 3bbedroom flat we built TOGETHER. We both work and I run a business alongside my job. We have two boys who are in junior secondary school.
Remember I said the marriage ended for me when I found out about the cheating... Well, i didn't move out cos it is my house.
I didn't file for divorce cos I dont have strength for court back and forth. I just simply stopped having sex with him. I asked him to move to another room he refused so I started sleeping in the sitting room. In the morning, I get ready for work and leave. I stopped cooking (our kids are in boarding school). I buy what I eat. I tell my maid to cook and eat whatever she likes.
When he complains about me not performing wifely duties ( sex and cooking and home management) I simply tell him to go and meet his babe as he cannot eat his cake and have it.
He got fed up and moved out to rent an apartment with her. She got pregnant and had a baby. He went to see her family. So basially they are living like husband and wife.
"Our" husband was mad cos I didn't care that he left, so after a few months he decided to withdraw from being financially responsible for our children. What did I do?
I called him and told him that anything that'll make me raise my kids alone will mean that the children will belong to me alone. They are still minors, I will change their surname to mine and make sure he never sees them again.
That term the kids were suppose to resume and were a week late when I called them and told them the whole truth about why their dad left. They were so mad. They called him to Express their displeasure. Immediately after they called him, I got an alert of 600k for their fees and back to school items..
To cut the long story short, he has been financially responsible for our kids, I support as always. We are cordial. We speak always. Our conversation surrounds the welfare and discipline of our kids. I live alone. He lives with her. We are good.
Apparently, that he fact he is still financially responsible in his first home makes him fall short in his second home. He has been trying to build a house for them and open a business for her but he cannot meet up because of all his financial responsibilities.
And that is why she came to warn me . She said i have left him to be a single mother. That single mothers are single handedly responsible for their kids. I should face my kids and stop bothering her husband for school fees and money for my kids welfare.
Now that I think about it, I feel like something took over my body. Because I cannot explain how I slapped her with my left and right hand severally, tore her dress, grabbed her neck and was choking her before my office security ran to her rescue.
The father of my kids have been calling and begging me since he heard what happened. it's been days but my hands are still shaking. I am not a violent person. I don't know what came over me.
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Let me read people's comments cos I feel the slap was rightly deserved
ReplyDeleteGbamsolutely. Stupid chicken got what she deserved.
DeleteExtreme measures requires extremely actions..... you've not done wrong my Darling, sometimes the violence is allowed especially when the troubler is the one troubling.... remember Bianca vs Mrs Obiano.
ReplyDeleteWell said✌
DeleteSupported
DeleteWell said😘😘
DeleteSometimes stories like this I'm beginning not to believe them. I no even get strength to type anything.
ReplyDeleteLife is misery and things happen. What's so deep about this story that makes it unbelievable?
DeleteAs in discussions generators.
DeleteLol.
He doesn't believe because it's a guy who messed up here.
DeleteThree gbosaa for you!!!
ReplyDeleteNa you bikooooo!!!
I like people who stand by their words. Cheating is a deal breaker for me and I always spell it out in the beginning of any relationship. My friends said that I should stop telling them that it would scare them away. This is enough go ahead for me abeg. I can't do with a cheating spouse.
You did the absolute right thing but next time, resist the urge to hit anyone. You can call the security to throw her out to the bin where she belongs.
She doesn't know how painful it was for you. She thinks she can eat her cake and have it.
The audacity of saying she should not receive support of his sons and confronting their mother
DeleteI like the fact that she regrets going physical,but gurl! I would do the exact same thing and maybe a lil more🤣🤣
ReplyDeletePent-up anger is dangerous tho.
It's the audacity of the chicken for me, u got some foolish nerves to come to confront u, she is even lucky to be alive, some heartless wives would have arranged acid or have her murdered gruesomely, the bitch deserves what she got.
ReplyDeleteMadam pls comfort urself, u did the right thing by being urself all these while. I'm just so vessed by this act of the horseband and tasteless chicken
🤣🤣🤣🤣u did well, thank God u didn't kill her,all the pain, emotions,time and resources,love u put in to make him the man he is that she took came to fight..
ReplyDeleteShe is mad...the audacity!
Wow..I love you already.good one,imagine the audacity going to warn her.na wah!
ReplyDeleteWoman, I really admire your guts. But that your co-wife get liver oo. Imagine coming to warn you to leave your 'husband' who you married long before she came into the picture. I like the fact that you gave her woto woto kind of slap. WTH!
ReplyDeleteThis story dey sweet my belle. I love it.
ReplyDeleteShe has to pray very hard going forward, that level of desperation that drove the audacity of that one to come over and demand is illogical
DeleteThat lady deserved what she got, she should have stayed in the shadow,Cos that's where she belongs,she's just a side chick as you're still legally married. The man is just confused but still cared about his family, but he can't turn back the hands of clock.
ReplyDeleteHe is not confused, he is a greedy and selfish and mean man
DeleteThe Truth is you are Human Simple , no need Pretending . U were on your own and she came to warn u HABA!!!!! u did something to me , and still came to rub it in on my face ,. Like SERIOUSLY ? Forgive yourself .U just reacted to the Insult being too much . It's well sis
ReplyDeleteUka.
If you ask me, you defended yourself. Some second wives and side chicks are moving tiger always ready to tear their senior to pieces.
ReplyDeleteWhat was her motive of coming to your office if not to fight you, let her face her 'home' and mind her husband.
If you want to apologize for slapping her, you can because that's not who you are and your conscience won't let you rest but do so with stern warning to her and her husband.
Felicity
Abeg, she should not apologise oh
DeleteApologize to who?.. Your apologies should go to God only please.. With him you will find peace and move on easily.
DeleteApologize 🔥
DeleteIsi Apology? Madam, you don't owe her nada, Infact, she and your horseband owe you sincere apologies.
DeleteApologize for what exactly. This is the true definition of anokwam bem ijelu bia..
DeleteShe got what she deserved
Well deserved slap
ReplyDeletePoster, honestly I love women like you. I do. Women that don’t let a man define them. Gosh! I love you. If many women were like u, I bet the rate of cheating by married men will greatly reduce.
ReplyDeleteI can’t even fault you for beating that thing blue and black. I know we don’t preach violence but u see this one ehn, e sweet my belle. E sweet me.
why u nor talk set dis one na fabu.
DeleteI believe this story cos something similar happened to my aunt. The only difference is that they still live in same compound cos it's a big house. Oga moved to the bq and my aunt warned him never to bring any of his dirty pigchicks near their home.
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't cook for him nor sleep with him anymore. Before she got wind of his cheating ass, she had got infection from him. She informed him and he feigned ignorance, they both went for treatment but uncle kept reinfecting her. She could vouch for her hubby so she didn't suspect he was cheating. This continued for a while till she saw several chats of her hubby asking his many side piece to also treat infection cause he noticed that his infection wasn't going after several treatments. She also saw chats where he's still making advances to some random street girls. He had more than ten side vultures. Because of this man, I now hardly visit or sleep over in my fav aunt's house even when she would beg me like a baby begging for candy. He husband once tickled me in one of my previous visits and the next thing he was telling me that he likes my shape and wouldn't mind spending on me. I warned him strictly but couldn't tell my aunt cos of how happy she is with him and she won't believe me which might put a strain in our relationship.
She almost died of shock cos she couldn't believe it. She was hospitalised for almost 3 months and when she came back, she looked completely opposite of her attractive self. She looked so pale and gray. Looked 100* her age.
This is the man she set up financially and has loved wholeheartedly. He was struggling badly when they met but had potentials. This woman trusted and believed so much in him that she paid deaf ear to anyone advising her against him. She was supposed to relocate abroad permanently but stayed back cos of him.
Story long sha but oga is begging for things to come back to normal now but no way. I wish she will even kick him out sef.
God bless you nnem
ReplyDeleteHere to read comments
ReplyDeleteI don't blame you 😂, you gave her wotowoto
ReplyDeleteI so love this. It is the audacity for me
ReplyDeleteThose of us wey our mama na second wives, wetin we wan talk for this matter abeg?
ReplyDeleteWe know what it feels like to be like second class children, while the first wife's children attend all the best schools. Our only offence being that our mothers fell in love with our fathers, whether rightly or wrongly. We know what it is to be disinherited from our father's properties, though our mothers were the ones beside him till death.
We know how our step mothers who were the first wives maltreated our fathers till he found love again with our mothers...but the first wife is always correct on social media right? And the second wife is always the demon
Let me be reading comments biko. I don't want to cry.
Taaa. Keep justifying rubbish. You nova see anything. Second class children my foot. Your mother deserve all she got. Nothing stop her from falling in love with a single man. So let her carry her cross n you too carry yours n cry if you want.
DeleteYimu
DeleteYour mum loved and took care of daddy dearest yen yen yen, still sweet daddy couldn't send y'all to a better school or include y'all in the will.
Sha avoid another person husband so history will not repeat itself.
But why did your mum go to become second wife when she would have waited for the ‘maltreated’ man to leave the marriage?
DeleteSince he’s been so maltreated, let him leave and be free to marry.
Your mama become saviour now abi?
And unfortunately it didn’t work out well for you guys
Sorry oh
Mma Nwachukwu
So you want to justify the action of your mum coming to steal another person husband. So your mother was that good therapist he couldn't find his own man to practice her therapy with, it was another person husband. You children from second wicked wives continue to justify your mother's atrocities of breaking homes. So you wanted your mum to reap where she never sow. She left all the struggling young men to come and play therapist to a married. man and you expect Gods blessing. Whether you are a Christian or not, who'sver married an already married man commits adultery period. So don't come here to sugar coat anything. I hate rubbish talk
DeleteThis is totally different from the story up there. Its totally wrong If your father disinherited you people because its his responsibility to take care of children no matter the circumstance.
DeleteWhy wouldn't your mother be beside him still their dying days oh you wanted the first wife to come and do the job after your mother have finished enjoying what the first wife had contributed to build right from the beginning. Better don't repeat what your mother did and expect God's blessing. Leave a married man alone whether maltreated or not. Go and find yours to maltreat. Look at yul edochie, shey the first side maltreated him to you. When a man want to be wicked to the wife by cheating, you people will cover it up with first wife maltreating the man because the man is a baby. Cheating men deserves the second wife they have too. Wicked set of people.
DeleteThis says so much the kinda father you have, a ri55ra55 one. A public gbola. And your mum? If she thinks she can save the world, why didn't she join the army? But no! She went to put disunity in another woman's marriage. I bet she hardened the heart of the first wife. Why didn't your side vulture of a mum insist on a divorce before going to scatter and break another woman's heart.
DeleteNow, look at a proceed of a philandering parents coming here to rant and justify rubbish. It's the audacity for me.
Choi! Una wucked
DeletePoster see nah you even know it is wrong. See ya out writing whether she married rightly or wrongly. My dear say it with your full chest, your mum married wrongly. Better don't try this at home. Don't go and marry husband to pamper oo. Marry your own.
DeleteShe came to your space, she definitely deserved the slaps.
ReplyDeleteThis is my type of woman. Though I'd divorce him first. If I ever have to single handedly raise my kids while their father is alive and well, I do the same.
ReplyDeleteWow
ReplyDeleteYou did well ma'am. Like what insolence? The gut she had coming to your workplace for that matter to warn you gave her the beatings she deserved. It's a well deserved igbaju and I can tell you your conscience is very clean. Let her second hand husband go take care of any red face she might have gotten from left and right slap. E SWEET ME
ReplyDeleteLol! Side hen collect better wotowoto, I like women like this.
ReplyDeleteIf you have built up anger, if triggered, it will explode beyond your imagination. Please watch your back. She might come back for revenge. Guide your children seriously. God will keep protecting you and your children.
ReplyDeleteExactly, she might come for revenge and it may not be physical because the way I see this story I perceive desperation from the side hen's side. You need to commit yourself and kids to the hands of God. This is the time to activate your prayer life If you are not a praying type. Ask God to send forh his Angels to always watch over you and your kids .
DeleteLol.. Bianca induced brain-resetting slap.
ReplyDeleteShe begins hear nwiiiiii
I like the wotowoto e sweet me
ReplyDeleteEhn? What did I just read? When I got to the part where the side chick went to the first wife, I said to myself that she crossed boundary. Ikoja aye.
ReplyDeleteInteresting post
ReplyDeleteMe I like what came over you. I like the fact that it was targeted at the right person and at the right time. God bless you and your kids.
ReplyDeleteNothing do you madam. You are good to go.👍
ReplyDeleteMadam, whatever thing you did to her, she deserved it. Be prayerful. Be happy, be focus. You are blessed.
ReplyDeleteThis poster simply poured out all the hate and resentment on the sidechick. I don't know how to keep things in, it kills me.
ReplyDeleteplease dont feel sorry for hitting her, we are in Nigeria, this babes no get sense at all, most of them need to be properly trained on the street. trouble sleep yanga go wake am. what u see is what u ll get o even if na hot water.
ReplyDeleteHnmm poster, just be careful and be very prayerful because second wives are evils and vindictive. I pray for protection over you and your children.
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