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CRUSH ON OLDER MEN
Please, I am curious, I am 28 years old and I have a crush on my Oga.
CRUSH ON OLDER MEN
Please, I am curious, I am 28 years old and I have a crush on my Oga.
I work in a government agency and my Oga is 65 years old. (So my crush for him cannot be because of promotion, since nah exam them dey use promote us):
I don't understand why I have a crush on a man this old (even though he looks really young). This is not the first time this is happening. I have found that I am always attracted to older men. If a man is older, then that means he is mostly likely married. What can I do? This crush does not want to die.
Some men are users, if he sees that you have a crush on him, he might want to eat from your cookie Jar and then move on...Is this how you want older men to keep tasting you?
I was like this years back but i ended up with a young man that understands how life works.... There is nothing cool about spending time with someone with a wide age gap, it always leads to issues, forget what you see on the social media.. some have this mentality of small god and if you dnt worship them there will be trouble...
Remove your eyes from your Boss and focus on work!
My dear pray to God to help you kill everything making you to crush on old men. I remember those days. Outside being a believer the next thing that makes me run away from old men is the thought of the man dieing ontop of my enemy and my enemy will be posted on national dailies and social media. God no go shame us
ReplyDeletePray dear
Dear poster
DeleteYou sound like someone with daddy issues, you either crave that protection and assurance that comes from having a father or you are also used to being pampered… whatever it is, it may be daddy issues. Please pray against it
Push up (original)
Some people are also attracted people in authority, you may not even have anything to gain. An example is people who sleep with men of God or lecturers
DeleteThey are attractive to the position
Push up (original)
Most likely daddy issues. Had the same issues growing up but not with older men. In fact, a lot of us went through this growing up. Lack of affection, love and positive affirmations. Lord help us. Poster, he’s most likely married. Let this man be!
DeleteDear poster, are the old men you've been falling for usually very intelligent, including emotional intelligence? Do they show a high level of maturity and open mindedness? If yes, you might be sapiosexual. There are young people who posses these characteristics as well.
DeleteSerious deliverance u need.
DeleteSugar daddy vibes thing...
ReplyDeleteNor be she wan give older men her cookie chop?
DeleteYanka dey sleep, trouble wan wake am up. Poster, abort mission ooo. The road you want to enter, go carry you go where you no know.
ReplyDeletePoster,it seems you don't have enough work at the office to keep you busy. Please demand for more duties. Na lazy youth syndrome dey worry you.
ReplyDeleteSince you love them old, then search for a widower or divorcee who is advanced in age. If you don't mind being married to a Muslim, you can also search for an advanced Muslim man and become one of his wives. All the best dear.
ReplyDeleteYou like him, periodt! Crush kor. knack him and your body go calm. Until person wife disgrace you.
ReplyDeleteLol..
DeleteI'm happy about the gray hairs growing in my beards, can't wait to spread my tentacles on Preeti girls that wanna crush on cute 'old' sexy men..
Sugar daddy vibes loading ☺️😌
Dante, u bad gan ooooooo
DeleteStella, biko your advice is very funny, Nne concentrate on your job and let sleeping dogs lie
ReplyDeleteThe crush might be because he acts matured in the office;and that could be your major attraction to a man..
ReplyDeleteDon’t know your history but maybe it’s your mindset or you have had relationship issues where “maturity” from your man was missing;so now you see a matured man in age and character plus good looks and that triggers the crush you have for him..
If that’s the case,there are young men with the maturity of a 65 years,you just have to act in that manner so as to attract someone like that to yourself ..
Try to kill the crush,most kinda maturity like that comes with discipline and he “might” not appreciate you making any sort of advances towards him;also to avoid “see finish” incase he agrees..#Cheers
@MARTINS
Well said👍👍
DeleteLol..
DeleteBobo na sexual imprint..
Thats why I always say with women, the past is not always in the past..
The kind of people she have her early sexual experiences matters alot. They begin to look out for the traces of these men in others.
Even if they date other people, they'll end up still cheating with someone who have these imprint traits..
Team virgin 😌
Make them no go imprint my wives for me..
@Dante
Well said
Deletemature oo martins. Where do you guys get the D from? I cring whenever I see adults misuse this mature word. Na wa o. Good comment though.
DeleteCant you crush on your age mate? Leave ancestors alone and the fact that he is your boss makes it more complicated.
ReplyDeleteGirl,it will not end well.
Psychologically, girls have crushes on older men because the lacked/lack something in their father/father figure growing up. It could be that you didn't get the attention you needed from your dad or something. Anyway sha trace your childhood and look for hints of daddy issues. It isn't something you can just ignore unless you can fix the underlying problem or find a younger man closer to your age with an old soul.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong with crushing over older men. Simply ask yourself if you really love him, if he's married and if you're willing to be a second wife or sidechic. Be true to yourself
You've got daddy issues, simple. You're looking for a father figure, perhaps you were deprived of fatherly love. There are always older men looking for young blood, so if your body carry am, my dear kwantinu.
ReplyDeleteDady issues
ReplyDeletePlease get a grip on yourself. Reality is different from fiction.
ReplyDeleteExactly Blogbrity. I also concur with Stella. Poster put yourself in mind. Guard your heart. Protect yourself. Above all love yourself.
DeleteMaybe you have Daddy issues.
ReplyDeleteListen to Stella’s advice before he ends up dead on top of you one day.
There's absolutely nothing wrong to have a crush on someone.but you have to be able to control these feelings and more on to more meaningful things in life.pls avoid your boss,it's wrong.pray poster, you will overcome.goodluck.
ReplyDeleteJust kill the crush before it's leads to see finish Office romance can be so draining
ReplyDeleteI am
ReplyDeleteFascinating!
ReplyDeleteAbort mission, he is married and that makes him unavailable for you. Ask God to send your own man that is single.
ReplyDeletePoster, It might be that you find older men mature and secure or,
ReplyDeleteYou're attracted to maturity or,
You like the sexual experience or,
The crush comes naturally.
Start looking at the qualities that attracts you to younger men. Give one that catches your fancy a chance and see where it leads to.
Abort mission biko
ReplyDeleteHe is your boss so you should not be crushing on him. There is a power dynamic situation there that is complicated. What would you have in common? You were born in separate decades that are vastly different. I like older men too, but not old enough to be my father or grandfather. But if these men are truly who you are attracted to then date one and see if you like it, see if you can handle the stares and whispers from ppl out in public. See if you are sexually attracted to them, if you can stand to let them touch you intimately. Because your fantasies may not fit the reality. Many a young woman thought they could handle an old man until the clothes came off or he tried to kiss her, then they realized it grossed them out and they couldn't do it. However, if love, respect and mutual attraction are the foundation, no problem for them.
ReplyDeleteI haven't even touched on the control issues that can pop up in these connections. But like I said, if it is not just a fetish or novelty it can work, especially if the man is kind and not a cruel person.
Poster abeg all these holier than thous sebi some of us crush on RMB and co. See if u like him get closer and seduce him. If knack happen,good and it's also good for ur job too unto say you'll be getting prefrencial treatment as per oga sidechick.
ReplyDeleteAHH
DeleteTake e-slap with back hand .
ReplyDeleteMy dear, this thing called love ehhh...
ReplyDeleteI am married with two kids but in love with someone I met online, single and three years younger. And I have been seeing him in my dreams before our meeting.
The issues is, I was linked to my hubby by his late mum who he can't say no to, even do his heart belongs somewhere else.
He really suffered me initially claiming he loves once in a life time and has given all his love to his ex. Did practically everything I read to get his attention but never succeed. He's always frowning his face and avoiding me except he wants to sleep with me.
It took him more than five years to released that I am his wife and decided to value me a little. Recently, I told myself that I will do anything to make myself happy, I dress well, make my hair( he does not give me kobo to make hair or buy anything), take care of my skin etc. Guess what? he started professing love after 10years of boldly telling me he can't love again, that once his kids are teenagers there would be no need living with a woman.
He talks about old age with me by his side now, but why now I love someone else? I don't even like sleeping with him again or including him in my future plans.
Guys, it has nothing to do with sex or money because I haven't gotten anything from the new guy. Its just the attention and care he gives me. He profess love first and always jealous whenever I talk about hubby.
I need tips on how to get him off my head and my life entirely. I want to continue managing my marriage until God says otherwise. Sincerely speaking, I didn't say an inch of the emotional trauma this my hubby made me go through, all thanks to my inability to get a good job and help in off setting family bills.
Beware lest the jealous nwoke decides to destroy your marriage
DeleteBeware
You didn't grow up with a father that's why you're attracted to older men. Now that you're older you're looking for who to fill the gap of a father in you.
ReplyDeleteShe didn't really give us anything about her background...........
DeleteHmmmmmmm, this issue get as e be ooooo, aunty, get busy with work and kill that feelings because it won't end well, trust me.
ReplyDeleteIt's either you loose your job sooner or later or madam kill you cuz people dey para oooo
Poster
ReplyDeleteI dey this category, but the age gap for my own no big like your own, generally I am attracted to older men.
ReplyDeleteWith 13-20yrs age gap. I love and admire them like that, the sex is alwylay great. Being with younger boys is always like child's play to me and it doesn't give me the thrills and vibes.
Stella said forget how the social media paint such relationships you see, most of them act like small God's and it will take one who loves you to pieces ,like someone who loves you like a soul mate at that much older age to treat you well and love you unconditionally. That is very true.
So poster take your mind iff your boss, maybe try someone younger like 50something, 40something. Try 30something too, you never can tell how it will turn out.
Some of them can be single with kids.
What is a 65years old man still doing in service?
ReplyDeleteSo no be only me notice that kweshion? Maybe na the board chairman or MD
DeleteYour Oga understands this game very well. He is playing it and you aren't seeing it. You are thinking it's your heart ♥ but it's actually your mind that he is working on.
ReplyDeleteStay away from him and stay safe 🙏
Is your boss a widower or divorcee them you can put eyes but if not please comot body joor.
ReplyDeleteIs possible you love older men cos you want to be pampered,spend on and you are lusting after your Oga cos he can spend on you. Please make sure he is not married or seeing anyone before you will become toy for chopping everyday.
Dear poster, I used to crush on my former elderly boss then, cos he was good looking, a good boss and well polished. Omo I had to snap out of that thought and gave myself brain. It’s normal to crush on the elderly matured ones but it shouldn’t linger. I guess cos I didn’t have a father figure growing up and I saw him as a responsible man that was why I was crushing on him. I wished I had a Dad like him. He was so good to me and helped me grow in my educational and career goals.
ReplyDeleteYour crush no reach to retire?
ReplyDelete(Na wetin concern me be that)
A 65yrs old man in service ! He needs to be arrested and get him refund the salary he receives for 5yrs extra as against 60yrs. Madam, na long throat dey worry you!! I'm sure the man is very fresh and it's giving you the zaddy vibe so he can take you on one of thoes official trips abroad. Rebuke the devil and concentrate on your work. Love my foot!!!
ReplyDeleteWhy is crushing on an older man seen as such a negative thing? Aren't they humans deserving of love and affection as well? I don't see the big deal, except he is married and there is some form of boss - subordinate relationship, as seen in this chronicle. Not everyone has mummy or daddy issues, some people just like what they like.
ReplyDeleteYoung or old though, you should not have anything romantic to do with your boss or even colleague. It very very rarely ends well, especially for the person in the more junior position at work.
At your age, you should be focused enough to not allow something as fickle as a crush jeopardize your job, career growth and your finances. Everyone has crushes, what matters is how you choose to act or not act on it.
When we crush, we romanticize the other person and make them perfect in our minds. Nobody is perfect and I bet if they dashed you that your boss for 1 month at a stretch, you will start seeing his flaws.
What you feed grows and what you starve dies. If you make a conscious effort to give your boss a respectable distance, stop yourself from thinking about him, and make an effort towards meeting men that are more "attainable", gradually the crush will fade.