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Monday, December 12, 2022

Pastor Ibiyeomie Gives Advice To Wives Concerning Who Should Cook For Their Husbands





 
He says....

"Almost all the men that scattered their homes; who cooked the food matters a lot. If it's Ekaette.. *laughs* she will dress well when you are not around. She will call him daddy when you are not around.. She'll say " Daddy, mummy say you like egusi soup. The man will say "don't mind my wife she doesn't know how to cook, na you Sabi cook."

"Take your time!! If you want to employ a chef, employ one young boy or if you want to employ a woman, it should be a mama like his (husband) mother's age . Tell her " mama be cooking for my husband". There's no way he will chase his mother except he's a mad man." 

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    1. I for one cook for my husband. I love cooking so it's not a big deal for me. Even though my children can cook,i still live cooking for the house when everyone is around. I stopped having helps,we my last turned 6,and started teaching them hou to run the house. He has spoken well.

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    2. How about you simply teach men how to have an atom of self control so that they are not diving into every available a.nus and vagin.na?
      Hmmm? How about that?????
      Women will be dancing around grown ass men as if they are dealing with toddlers (and most of them are). Ehn, dont wear this, his nyash will scratch, ehn dont employ a young girl, his oenis will erect, ehn dont deny him sex, even if you're bleeding and dying, ehn women do this, ehn women do thatyou know he has needs ' abeg get lost with your empty, bottom barrel, misogynistic men.
      T.rash.com

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    3. Me i cook for my husband. Then weekendhe has the kitchen. I have 3 boys and a girl. Funny enough,my boys cook better than my girl. She's the last,so they hardly allow cook.

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    4. Anony 14:04. Every bitter leaf in you, die in Jesus name. Kai. See as bitterness wear u like cloth.

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    5. Anon 14:04 thank u. I am weak with everyone claiming to cook for their hubby as if that’s the real problem. The real problem is men with no self control!! How come we don’t see women sleeping with gatemen and drivers??? Hian. All these people giving advice that are looking for more ways to blame wives for grown mens uselessness!!

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  2. I always tell people to apply wisdom, if you must hire a domestic worker..
    I personally cook and serve my husband even though the kids are around.
    πŸ’―πŸ’―

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    1. Jos shopper, so the man does not come in contact with other young females outside the home? He is a goat that cannot control his thing?

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    2. Asia I beg help me ask them o. I weak. All these men looking for how to blame women for mens nonsense behavior

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  4. Polygamy solves all these,. Since cooking for ones husband has become a big deal now..

    Before you come and say the wife is working too, unless she's sharing bills of running the home with her husband, park that yeye talk one side..

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    1. I’m glad you excluded those who share bills. I pay half of every single household expense so I expect domestic chores to also be shared.

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    2. Yes some of us share the bills of running the home

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    3. Your comments are mostly fair. That's why it sometimes grate female Bvs who don't want their husbands to hear it hear or from a third-party.

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  5. It is what it is though...it has been established that most men have no self control, oh well,after all Esau, sold his birth right for a morsel...

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  6. Na wa o. Women don suffer,I'm tired abeg

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    1. Nothing here. It is just the backside of any man who does not provide for his family is an infidel. Women gladly do this for husbands who do their part.

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  7. Are you telling us that you nigeria men are he goat

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    1. He-goats with very bad smell ooo.

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    2. 8:56 no oooo just ezi bida...
      Abionah 🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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  8. God's General I hear you Papa! Very funny somethingπŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
    I support hiring a male chef.
    Or we order food whenever I'm unable to cook.

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    1. If my husband will fall for a female help, allow me fall for a male help. We moveeee.

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    2. Be careful if you have girls

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  9. The young boy can molest your children,the mama can snatch him for her own daughter,na God dey safe o . better still order pot of soup from those that cook, get cleaners that will come like once or twice a week when you are around

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    1. Gbam, πŸ‘Œ
      I support this your comment.

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    2. I said the same thing below about old women. H
      She can snatch you for her daughter

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  10. When you coddle grown men, you end up with men who behave like children- who lack self-control, are easily enticed, and are more focused on the temporary pleasures than the future pains and havoc which may be looming.
    Continue.

    Jesus preached that whoever looks upon a woman lustfully has committed adultery, and that if ones eye causes them to sin, to pluck it out. Jesus was very intentional with his message. Today's pastors are focusing on the wrong person and justifying sin because someone else served the husband food.

    There is also a power imbalance between ogas and their house-helps which leads to coercion and oppression but no, it is food that it is the problem.

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    1. Thank you my dear Mystique. Instead iof focusing and educating men to learn and practice self control. They practice wife control. Why can’t they even teach a man that he can go to the kitchen to take his own food after it’s been cooked. Abi they don’t have hands as well.

      But they keep babying these men who end up accusing their wives of hiring Ekaette. Exactly the same thing Adam did when we was asked to be accountable by God in the garden of Eden. He said it was the woman you gave me made me lose my self control.
      Men that God have taken from being Adam to becoming like Jesus. Yet you still preach messages that keep them slaves to their sexual desires
      It is well with the church in Nigeria

      Zendaya

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    2. LOUDER PLEASE

      WE MUST NOT SUPPORT FOOLISHNESS

      MEN GET SELF CONTROL, STOP BEING ESAU WHO SOLD HIS INHERITANCE FOR A PLATE OF FOOD

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    3. @zendaya,u are so right and truthfully it is well with the church in Nigeria.so wat he is trying to say is we are to blame for our husbands philandering ways.i laugh in Yoruba.

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    4. All this that you are saying these men will never listen. They don't care about all that. All they care about is what serves them and favours them.

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    5. @mystique, don’t mind the god of men. Steady picking the gospel of convenience for his followers. He won’t want to preach the one that would challenge them to a life of holiness because they might leave his enterprise.
      So it’s ok for husbands to look upon househelps lustfully?, so the problem here is most likely the wives that employed them?. They don’t meet women in their work place? They don’t have secretaries?
      When The problem that should be tackled is lust, the flesh, but no it’s Ekaetta, it’s the wife. Steady shifting the blame and responsibility. Joseph didn’t leave his robe to run for his life. Even Bible says “flee!!!” Adultery and sexual immorality is no joke. Even God says no one involved in such sins shall see His kingdom But these men of God will continue to pamper their fellow men, beating around the truth.
      They should continue deceiving themselves.
      That’s why it’s important to read your Bible and pursue a personal relationship with God and know God for yourself as a man or a woman. Because on that day no pastor that deceived you on the pulpit will be there to defend you.

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    6. 9:33,
      What was Eve's response when God asked her @ Genesis 3:13 what she had done? Did Eve take responsibility for her actions or shifted the blame too?

      This man was preaching about the roles of wives in marriage. Challenge his message by the Bible not by your own views, otherwise he is entitled to his views just as you are entitled to yours.

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  11. Well done Mystique. Tell them how not to pamper their men. Most especially the ones who pamper their wives. What's the big deal in cooking? Why wahala come dey follow to cook for your family like this?

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  12. Woman don suffer lowo everybody (singing this in Simi's voice) 😏

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  13. Husband and wife matter no dey finish

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  14. Just negodu what's this baba is saying. So the husband is an animal they lacks self control? O ga ooo.

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    1. I dey tell you. The human man doesn't have self control

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  15. ashawo man will always be, an ashawo, whether nah old woman , he will still chase her, and small boy get disadvantage too, is either madam dey like am, or e go dey molest your gals children.. Nah God.. Okiroyalty

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    1. A young boy is even more dangerous. He may be molesting the girls in the house

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  16. πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ˜’

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  17. Men if you want to employ a gateman, don't employ a young guy to avoid your wife sleeping with him, employ a woman or an old man(a very old aboki) tell him 'papa be opening gate for my wife' there is no way she will chase her grandpa unless she is a mad woman.

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  18. I no fit come dey baby sit one man o. If you say na house help you wan fuck that's your business

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  19. They will never preach the many chapters of proverbs that consistently warned men about strange women, about the dangers of adultery, how her tongue is sweet but her ways drag men strong men to hell, they never preach about the importance of self control for men, hardly will you hear such preaching in these churches. Everyday is women this, wives that. As if men are not on the same heavenly race with women.

    They should continue deceiving themselves. And treating Nigerian men as if they are dogs that don’t have control so everyone around them has to adjust to make their life and race easier.

    Anyway The husband that wants to sleep with househelp because of cheap food should go ahead and condemn his soul. Thank God the race is a very personal one and everyone will answer for their own deeds when the time comes.

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    1. I tire too my sister.
      They have turned men to animals that don't have self control, women should always do this and that to keep them in check, who keeps the women in check? So if they employ a young guy as cook, madam cannot sleep with him? Ok, women have self control but men don't? Mtcheeeeeeew

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    2. "They will never ..."

      Is it not possible your statement is too general and absolute? Have you listened to all of this Pastor's messages (not even the other popular Pastors)?

      There's a popular Pastor in this Nigeria who rarely bother himself with matters outside prayers and spiritual warfare.

      The media highlights some preaching of Pastors to generate discourse and traffic.
      Generally, but not always, topics emphasizing societal rules for women and wives generate more attention and discourse than statements on societal rules for men. Example if a Pastor preaches that husbands and fathers should provide for their wives and children, the response from you will be "before nko". But a plain statement that wives should cook for their husbands without all the added by this Pastor usually elicit "wives not cooks" from married and single women.

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    3. Asia, as in ehn, awon vagina police. How many pastors preach holiness and sanctification for BOTH genders.
      Just be using pulpit to cap rubbish.
      Na una dey give them face.
      I pray at home and build my spirituality with my Bible and the world.
      I'm not here to build anybody's business enterprise.

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  20. Self-Control!!! Self-Control.... Should be taught more.
    Does it mean that it is impossible for me to control their urge???

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    1. I wonder o.
      They are always dishing advice to the wives, instead of them to teach the men to control their third legs.
      So if my niece comes to visit me, he will sleep with her and blame me for allowing her?

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    2. Men of substance and of high moral standing are rare. Most men cannot have a woman under their roof that they don't have sexual contact with, or attempt to have contact with. Because there is a natural urge towards selfishness and serving their own interest, the idea of self regulation is alien.

      The pastor knows what men are, he is one. Many married pastors have intimate contact with their church members. Men are men.

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  21. In summary,if I as a wife employs a young female chef in my home and hubby sleeps with her,it's my FAULT.
    OK DaddyπŸ™ƒ

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  22. This is why I’m training my 8 year old son already. He vacuums the whole house every Saturday morning and washing all the plates in the house mow. I will start teaching him to cook when he hits 9 years old!

    I refuse to raise a child that will be usele$$ to himself and the society!

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    1. Most men know how to cook and clean but delegate the duty to their wives after marriage.
      Who was cooking and cleaning for them before marriage?
      They leave everything for their wives after marriage.

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    2. Thank you and well- done ma.

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    3. If you have daughter(s), hope you are also training her/them to be financially independent adult single(s) and financially co-dependent (equal financial contributing) wife/wives.

      More men do not want or respect women who are wholly dependent on them as friends or wives. Men, however, do not treat such women as usel3$$.

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    4. 15:18 you want women to be financially co dependent at home.
      That is good.
      So after from bringing half of your money, that is for those of you that can even afford to bring half, what else do you offer?
      Do you take care of the home? No.
      Bathe the kids? No.
      School Runs? No.
      Cook, clean, wash family clothes, No.
      Market runs? No.
      Wake up at night to breastfeed, administer drugs, take them to toilet to pee, vomit etc? No.
      What do you bring to the table Sierra from shrivelled penis and forever whining about sex or demanding for "equal financial contributing) wife/wives."
      What exactly do you offer?
      Because romance zero.
      Bed skills, wack. You dont even know how to spell female orgasm talk less of knowing what it is.
      Emotional intelligence. Zero
      Basic intelligence, severely lacking.
      Sexual self control, Minus minus zero.
      Of what value are you men,? Because honestly I can't see it.

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    5. Some men do all or most of the above and still cover the financial base. Some raised their young men to cook, clean etc. Generalizations are not always accurate. I can count how many times I have ever opened the hood of my car or put washer fluid in decades, I don’t know how to change a tire, take my car to the dealer for servicing, do a lot of “masculine stuff” too. There is division of labor in every relationship and that may be why nurturing roles like cooking are “delegated” to the women. Naija men know how to do all these and they do it abroad. I do agree though that self control is key. “If your right hand causes you to sin cut it off”…. We don’t know if Lazarus the brother of Mary & Martha was into chores like the ladies especially Martha as he wasn’t mentioned in those texts though he may be. Everyone needs self control. It’s the reason for looting government funds. There is the power imbalance of employer-employee in master-maid relationship. It’s the reason it’s illegal in western societies if reported. We really need self control as a society and people need to take responsibility for their actions.

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  23. Just pray for your marriage.
    I have seen where mama who is the cook, scattered the home and brought in her daughter as wife for the man of the house.

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  24. Context is key.

    These statements were taken from a full message.

    Oftentimes, the portions not quoted balance out the message.

    Despite the criticisms of the quoted portions, the message is clear. Wives should not abdicate caring for their families to hired helps. But wives who choose to should heed practical advice given.

    Wisdom is profitable to direct.

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  25. Men are slowly been reduced and treated as He-goats! They are been presented like animals with no self control, no discipline. Just keep everything "enticing" away from them because they can't help it. Poor men. I remember when my inlaw had 8 Abled body men as apprentices living in his house, the same house as his newly wedded wife, nobody ever advice him to be careful ooo because his wife might "chop" one of them. She is naturally expected to behave and have self control but men!!!!! Better keep your sister away from. Even down to their daughters!
    Men you are not He goats, you are not imbeciles. You have a functioning brain.

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    1. Your last 2 sentences. Pesin has shown you in every way possible that e no get, you say e get.
      Na by force.
      Na you wan give am?

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  26. Wisdom is needed, some women have given almost all their roles as a wife to their maid

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  27. If only people know that what keeps a marriage are the simple things. Not the Benz. Not big ass. Not big breast. Let love flow naturally. The Chinese mastered this art and their lives are more stable. These people that go into relationship thinking it is a competition, they end up wearing themselves out.

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