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Monday, January 30, 2023

Memo To Married Men And Women..

 


from Princess Akporaro on facebook

38 comments:

  1. This is just the bitter truth but it's easier said than done.

    Make God help us

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  2. Who has time to wait for an explanation? Why should i expect a cheating partner to explain herself? That kind of situation demands only one thing. That is to call it quits without looking back.

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    1. you still need to speak to that cheating partner, is possible that very day nothing happened or the person could be their relative. Please do not shut the door of listening to that cheating partner no matter what.

      I am not saying you should forgive them or take them back if you don't want to. But please allow them to speak to you first before you can make your conclusions.

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    2. Call it quit? To go and marry who? Another woman who is also likely to cheat?
      What is the assurance that the next woman will not do the same to you or even worse than cheating? Or will you keep calling it quit? If it is a one-off thing and aside from the cheating she is submissive, and you don't suffer domestic violence or she isn't mentally abusive you should forgive as long as she is remorseful rather than move away from a woman because she cheated just once or twice only to end up with a chronic cheat.

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    3. If you don't forgive will you remain single and not marry? What if the next one cheats

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    4. Excited courtesy, does one 'do the do' with a relative?

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    5. Excited I don't understand this your write up o.
      Do you mean that if one is caught cheating with ones relative, it's no longer cheating abi my eye dey pain me?
      Or maybe if they've been doing before but didn't do the very day they were caught it's not also cheating? Nne biko make it make sense maka na ayam not understanding.

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    6. At anon 12:26 不不不不不. Me.....Please, DJ play me "Alone" by Alan Walker.

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  3. so correct.

    I hope my gender will read, digest, and stop fooling theirselves in public. Once they see their husbands with another lady, then boom is fight, disgrace, and disrespect you. Not asking their dog of a husband any questions. Some will even cover their dog of a husband and bring the lady out. You should confront your husband cos is possible he told that lady you are dead, and you guys are divorced.

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    1. Same thing happened to a colleague, she even hot pregnant and found out his wife was still with him and not divorced and in the UK. Baby gal sued his ass to court one time!

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  4. Some things are easier said than done.

    As a man, you have no right to woo another man's wife. So also a woman another woman's husband let alone sleeping with them. A good number of people who do this knew these persons are married but greed and sexual fantasies often damage their sense of reasoning.

    When we start saying things like the poster above or giving excuses for people's bad behaviours who sleeps with other people's spouse, believe me, even those that knew the person is married will intentionally do it and claim ignorance of their martial status.

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    1. Teejay understands perfectly and is making all the sense in the world. Neither party should be excused.

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    2. Yea Eka, trust me I understand the post very well. Should we keep blaming our spouse or seek explanation from them and allow intruders into our matrimonial home to get away with their acts? Do you know the circumstances a partner did what they did? What if they were blackmailed into it? This is why I said, it's easier said than done from the poster.

      It's not your duty to exonerate someone you caught with your spouse. Let them defend their action before the police and law. So in such moment you know exactly what really led to it.

      Okay, what would you say if these persons knows the woman or man is married and still go ahead to sleep with them? As a tenant you caught your spouse with your landlord and you think your landlord have no case to answer right?

      This is the reason people get away with nasty acts like this cos we give them the coverage that our spouse is the guilty one here. This is why the Arab countries are more disciplined in martial issues. You dare not look or woo someone's spouse in an Arab nations and go free without a fine or punishment. How much more sleeping with them.

      In Saudi Arabia, you don't cohabit unless you're married. These are nations with strong marital values and discipline. You don't get away with an act like the poster above is justifying.

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    3. I support eka joy. Except you were raped by the outsider and you weren't cheating out of your own free will then the outsider didn't disrespect your marriage you did! You alone are responsible to uphold the sanctity of your marriage. If you were blackmailed why can't you tell your spouse? married women/men should start suing in court or punishing single ladies/men for sleeping with their men/women. How many single ladies will you punish or take to court? After a while, you will just start looking like a joke. When all you could have done was deal with the huge disgrace you have in your house which is your cheating spouse.

      They had your partner's number because he/she gave them.
      They met to commit adultery because he/she gave them the address where the tryst would take place.
      They encouraged it when they could have blocked or sued the person for sexual harassment.
      The person your partner cheats with doesn't know you and can never care about your feelings in the slightest. It is ludicrous to expect them to care when your partner who is hurting you doesn't give two cents about you. Expecting loyalty from a stranger you have no business with?

      You are quick to type that Saudi Arabians do not cohabit before marriage (and that is because they don't support premarital sex. It is a criminal offence) like it is something you agree with, just to win an argument. But that is not needed when you teejay already said on this blog that you don't believe in waiting till marriage to have sex and you can't date a woman without test-driving her, so if that law you used to buttress your point was passed in Nigeria would you find it reasonable? Do you support Lashing and flogging? Obviously no! And that nullifies your every other point. Simply because it is done in Saudi Arabia does not mean it applies to the rest of the world.

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    4. Anon, you're entitled to your opinion. I have said it the way I feel it's right to my conscience. It doesn't matter what you say or attempt in twisting it will change my stand on my comment above. Do whatever works for you. In my own opinion I've rightly stated both party should be accountable.

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    5. Ronaldo, Saudi Arabia knows he is cohabiting with his girlfriend but the law is only for the poor

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    6. 12:44
      People get other people number now very easy. Just say make I clear dat.

      Every man and woman has the duty to do due diligence on who they want to give their heart and body to.

      And only few people can hide in today's world. Even the basic of typing the person's name in any net search engine tells enough to generate serious question for the person.

      People employ after due diligence and interview.
      But when they want to gbensh and reap from another (wo)man's field, they have plenty stories of finger alibis to cover their greed and lust.

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  5. She said the right thing to do.

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  6. Actually, majority know they are sleeping with married men/women but are advocating messages like this because they don't want to be held accountable. In my opinion, both the married cheat and his/her companion should be held accountable.

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    1. U dey mind dem?

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    2. God bless you. I would've felt bad if I didn't come across a comment like this in this post.

      When you justify or exonerate bad acts like this, trust me perpetrators of it will hide under ignorance to keep wrecking homes and goes free. When you make them face the law, they will run away from people's spouse.

      We should encourage punishment for people sleeping with married people and not exonerate them by putting the blames on our spouse.

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    3. I agree with you. What is wrong is wrong, as soon as you know he or she is married, stay off

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    4. Don’t mind them
      They very well know the individual is married
      Some even follow them to their homes
      Wo, anything you see carry it
      You don’t know how people will react until they are placed in a certain situation.
      Just don’t go and follow a mad woman’s husband cus she won’t even have time to ask you questions
      Before you close your eye and open it na hell fire straight.
      Even if the person goes to jail na you still lose.


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  7. Especially if you catch them in your home cause if nit lies what could give the babe the audacity to come to your matrimonial home.

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    1. Like!!! Such audacity oo
      Is it not the cheating husband that will give them the audacity and the house address to come and defile his matrimonial bed?

      I saw a trending video of a side chick trying to jump down from the building. The married man brought her to his house but the wife caught them. Such a shameful sight

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  8. Teejay, thanks for your comments and explanations.

    Some of these social media visible people just abuse their media exposure and mislead some of their followers.

    Adultery is a crime under the Penal Code (applicable in Northern Nigeria); a crime under most native laws and customs in Southern Nigeria; can be punished for indirectly under some sections of the Criminal Code (applicable in Southern Nigeria).

    A married person seeking divorce on adultery has the statutory right to sue the marital partner and the co-adulterer, and to claim damages from the co- adulterer.

    A man is calling another man's wife midnight and 5am for "friendship". We say the husband should face his wife only? What if she refuses to tell the man she is married or she did but the man didn't not believe her and refuses to believe her. A sensible husband should answer the call to politely tell the caller the facts. And then do the needful if the calls persist or is encouraged by the wife. As it is for the husband so it should be for the wife.

    Only a wicked person will continue in a relationship after being informed that his/her chaser or lover is married. All such wicked persons deserve what they get after if they continue.

    #TheLegalTrainee

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    1. Thank you @TheLegalTrainee for citing those reference about the law.

      I've learned never to go with the crowd when a notion doesn't sit well rightly even if it means me standing alone on it.

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  9. If wives know how their men denied the existence of them and their children they will understand this message. One told my good friend that him and his wife lived in the same house for financial reasons but were not involved. He even brought his young son who was about 2 or 3 to the park where they had planned to meet late, when the child should be home, she had to tell him the child should be home. He tried everything to get my friend to come to their home, she declined. It was not six months later we saw them at an event and the woman he claimed that they only were sharing space for financial reasons was high with pregnancy. I guess he had an elastic dick that could stretch from his room to hers when they were sleeping unbeknownst to them.

    No woman should swear for any man, some only didn't get opportunity to cheat. If not for the women who rejected them, but had they gotten the green light they would have gladly cheated.

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    1. Your friend must also be dense to believe a man and his wife only live together for financial reasons
      Your friend is also not as innocent cus her greed and selfishness also blinded her
      If she really wanted to date him, why dint she wait for him to formally get divorced and make him provide evidence of such.
      Out of 100 percent. 80percent are very aware that the individuals are married


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    2. Like the clown who said all sorts only him to come to an event with his wife and I was there

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    3. Don't be so quick to reply that you type crap. How the haell you are going to sit wherever you are and come up with all of that tripe you typed up. You don't know under what conditions they met, she never slept with him, she never entered his house and he didn't have anything for her to be greedy about.

      It was the man's own cousin who introduced my friend to him. And when my friend confronted the cousin who we thought were our friend she gave some lame excuse that she thought they were no longer together. If my friend did not have self-respect and morals she would have been another casuality of a lying azz man who does not respect himself or his family.

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  10. Madam, your friend knew he was a married man. It doesn't matter whether he and his wife live in different houses or even different countries. So no excuses.

    That's how some deceive themselves by saying the man is awaiting divorce verdict. As long as he is not divorced, he is not for you. Shekina

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