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UPDATE AFTER LEAVING MY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE.
I Left my ex husband house with nothing, A friend accommodated me for a while, I got a loan and started my clothing business.
I started going to lagos Island Market to get those clothes. I bumped into an old schoolmate in Eko Market one day and she told me about my secondary school crush that has been searching for my number to reach me desperately.
Mind you, After I got married, my ex husband destroyed my both sims and got me a new Sim, he deactivated my Facebook account too, so old friends couldn't get in contact with me again.
We exchanged numbers and she gave me my secondary school crush contact and send my contact to him too.
He,(my crush) reach out to me immediately and told me he has been trying to connect with me for years, he asked if I was married and I told him all that happened in my former marriage.
We kept communicating and he told me he would like to get married to me immediately.
Let me tell you guys a little info about my crush, who is now my husband.
He was about getting married in 2020, just 2months to his wedding, he lost his job, the lady he was about to marry cancelled the wedding , Aunty said she can't get married to a jobless man and left him.
So when he told me about his intentions, I refused.
I didn't want to get into a relationship or marriage because of what my ex husband made me went through. I saw shege banza in that marriage.
After about a month, I agreed to go on a date with him. Immediately I saw him ,all the old feelings I had for him came back.
We started dating and we did all the necessary medical tests to know if we were compatible.
The first s** we had turned to pregnancy. I couldn't believed it .
I was married to my ex husband for 3yrs and I couldn't got pregnant.
2months into my pregnancy, we got married and I had my baby girl in march this year.
All this happened within 3months of leaving an abusive marriage
Although my husband is still struggling financially Unlike my ex husband but
He love and respect me and
He's a lovely husband and a good father to our daughter.
I have peace, joy and rest of mind in my new home.
My ex husband reached out to me when I was pregnant to ask for forgiveness.
Thank you for all prayers during those difficult times for me and truly God answered all your prayers.
Thank you Stella for your encouragements
Lastly, if you're in an ABUSIVE MARRIAGE, please LEAVE. I know it won't be easy because it was really hard for me when I left but God will see you through..
If I haven't left maybe I would have been dead or still be childless.
Wow, congratulations 🎉
ReplyDeleteMay the Lord continue to keep your home.
Wow! This is beautiful, I am happy you left when you did. Congratulations 🎉
DeleteCongratulations! We thank God for your life.
DeleteCongratulations
ReplyDeleteRest of mind is better than any amount of money..
Happy ending. Congratulations 🎊
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ReplyDeleteWow😍
ReplyDeleteCongratulations🎉
I'm really happy for you. Money is not everything. As someone who has seen many things, virtues such as love, respect, good communication, self control, and understanding are more important in a marriage than money.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations
ReplyDeleteWait ooo, I thought gatekeepers of patriarchy said divorce women in Nigeria don't remarry. Married men will use her as side chic bla bla. Abusive men likes to remind their wives, their wives will remind other women.
ReplyDeleteThank God you got out and you are alive and well. A lot of women were not that fortunate. You were bold and courageous. Thank you to your friend that housed you.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Na scare tactic. People need to stay away from people that don’t want them. My cousin doesn’t want to marry a divorced lady and that’s his right but divorced ladies are getting married in his very eyes. That’s choice. He doesn’t diminish them. Just not what he wants
DeleteBeautiful story, God bless your marriage with continuous peace and financial blessings in Jesus name Amen
DeleteYou too like wahala..
DeleteEveryone has their choice, moreover, if she had kids, Baba MIGHT have not been interested in marriage
Happy for you
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you met the man whom God has destined for you.Congrats.
ReplyDeleteWithin 3 months, you reconnected with an old flame, ran medical tests, had sekz, got pregnant and then got married .
ReplyDeleteWow!!
Yes oh
DeleteI thought of this too then I figured maybe just maybe she met him while still married and he gave her the courage to leave. I am thinking she omitted that part so people won't say that she was cheating while still married. As long as they didn't have sex and the husband was beastly towards her, to me she did nothing wrong.
DeleteI think she meant 3 years, she reconnected with the current husband in 2020, 3 years ago.
DeleteAmbulance aye🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteProbably, most women don't leave a relationship until they're in another. I have said that here before
DeleteWas she meant to stay mourning for an ended abusive marriage indefinitely? Are you pained that she picked up the pieces of her life fast, and not chose to stay down?
DeleteLies Dante
DeleteThat is what men do
Stop projecting
Congratulations
ReplyDeleteCongratulations. What God can not do does not exist.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you. May doors open for your husband.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster.
ReplyDeleteThis will end I many thanksgiving
Peace of mind is everything.
ReplyDeleteThis is a wow.
ReplyDeleteCongrats and may God bless your union.
Nkea atom uto.
ReplyDeletei love that you left an abusive marriage and enjoying right now. Congratulations to you.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster happy for you
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteI’d like to highlight I our friends in this. One housed you and another gave good information about the guy looking for you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Congratulations on your new baby and marriage.
ReplyDeleteMarigold.
Congratulations, i am happy for you. May the Lord continue to bless your home in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteYou moved on too fast in my opinion .
ReplyDeleteFinally,i hope he doesnt YUL EDOCHIE you.
She should have stayed put and mourned a dead marriage? Una like misery sha... Hopeless romantics. Don't envy y'all... Happy mourning.
DeleteBB anon means she shouldn’t dated new guy longer
DeleteShould have*
DeleteSome things happen fast for some people. Besides when there is little time to waste, why waste time?
DeleteCongratulations
ReplyDeleteThank God for you
ReplyDeleteAwww, congratulations to you, very beautiful story 😘😘
ReplyDeleteCongratulations
ReplyDeleteGod knows the end from every beginning..... I wish you the best.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you. What God cannot do does not exist.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations 🎉🎉 kisses to your lovely angel.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, God really favour you and I pray He bless your husband in every area especially financially.
ReplyDeleteI also have a distant cousin that always maltreated his wife and always threw his wife's loads outside with three kids, the last one he did, wife had moved on with another man, before the family and church members could beg the wife to return again as usual, the wife was already pregnant for another man, the man had to be removed as pastor because he was a co-pastor in a CAC church.
To cut the long story shot, the woman is still happily married to the man since almost fifteen years ago, the man is even richer and more connected than her ex husband, he opened a big pharmacy for her and love her kids from her previous marriage like his own and the kids love him back because he's the one responsible for their upkeeps.
We the ex inlaws still love the woman because she didn't wrong us or her ex husband. She always relate with us as if she's still married to us.
I pray that May's case will be even better than this your story.
ReplyDeleteCongrats dear, May God bless your marriage
ReplyDeleteThanks for the update.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless your new home.
I have a question though, did you and your ex husband go for fertility tests? You left out that part. It would have helped TTC couples.
Congratulations. So happy for you. I was just smiling as I was reading.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you, may God bless your new home.
ReplyDeleteI guess, this is the update you all were asking for. For the ones that prayed for her during the TTC journey,una rejoice ooo God did it. My own assumptions sha.
ReplyDeleteStella said the other day that women should not wait any long time after a breakup, but should moved on quick. By your story, maybe she is right.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, it's now you actually got married to your God ordained husband, God that did it for you will do it for May-Edochie(that's if she's seeking to be remarried) and other women genuinely praying for a life-partner.
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