HEARTBROKEN OVER SHOCKING TEST RESULT
I haven't been myself these days.....Stella I need urgent advice, it's more like a chronicle thou but it isn't about me, it's about my sister.
She's my cousin actually....
She's my cousin actually....
She has been courting for like a year+ and they decided to tie the knot this year but something tragic happened.
Her genotype has always been AA no doubt and the husband to be is AS, which is actually a match but the last test they did didn't sit well at all.
How does one go from AA to AS all of a sudden, and the wedding preparations and planning are on hold right now because of this genotype ish, and the husband is already backing out of the situation already.
My sister on the other hand still believes her wedding will still hold this month, isn't the devil playing pranks on them...
Pls BVs I need advice, I don't know how to explain this, my sister is really devastated right now.
The first two tests proves okay and perfect but the third is now saying something different, what should one do in this kind of situation, should they go ahead and get married and allow fate to decide or they should just go their separate ways instead.
GO AHEAD AND GET MARRIED THAT WHAT? Please they should go their separate ways fast!!!..love is not enough when the ish comes at all... I know someone who is in the hospital at least three weeks of every month because of a sickle cell child who is still a teenager and already so so sick.
They can use the wedding things already bought to just do owambe party and move on please...
Explain to her even if it hurts her, tell her that she cannot marry him cos another test might show AA which may be inaccurate..... abeg let the man back out, this is serious issue that love will not solve...
No wedding till further notice. If they are both AS it's the end.
ReplyDeleteOr they can marry but they should stick to adopting children till modern technology, genetic mapping, etc, sorts out this ish
DeleteThey should do the test one more time, if it still turns out to be AS, they should cancel the wedding please, that SS is not a child's play oo I know what I am talking about.
DeletePeople are still breaking up cause of genotype?
DeleteYou sound like you guys have money...don’t ask how I know.I just do
They should marry and do IVF na. This is not hard like that at all
This one dude is backing out fast like this, I no too trust this him love
If two say AA and one test says AS why not repeat the test in a very repeatable hospital to be sure
They can marry and do IVF IF they can afford the cost. On another note, Nigerian labs need to do better.
DeleteThis is not the first case, nor will it be the last, that people get AA results and then AS or vice versa. It happened to my sister, she did it multiple times and it was either she was AA or AS. It wasn't until she got to the States and did the test that she finally finally accepted that her genotype is AA. Some people have AC or SC genotypes, I don't even know if all Nigerian labs detect them.
The should do another text in another hospital, it could be an error but if the result is AS they should abort mission.
ReplyDeleteJoan like you said they should abort mission I repeat they should abort mission..this mission is impossible..
DeleteNa WA oh. It is so distressing that one cannot trust nigerian labs with something as simple and important as genotype test.
ReplyDeleteIt's a pity for your sister. She should go to a very reputable laboratory or hospital and run the test again, if she is AS indeed, may God help her through it. I can't imagine the pain she'll go through having to call of a wedding. However, it will be for a greater good even though it may not seem like it now.
You see this your first paragraph, I personally know marriages that broke down because SC were told they were AA. Very painful.
DeletePoster and her cousin should jump ship, God will bring the right match for her
If that is the only test that says she is AS then let her repeat the test again it might be error from the lab. However,if repeated scan after that still say AS then please let them go their separate ways
ReplyDeleteDon't follow "dem say dem say," go to more than one hospital to check. First hospital said this another said that...Ike gwuru !!!
DeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteE hard o.
But either they move on or believe in a miracle
What's all this change of result for ?
ReplyDeleteAnd please, nobody should come and talk about IVF and embryonic screening or amniocentesis and pregnancy termination. Any woman who has gone through any of these things knows that it isn't an easy road. Apart from the financial aspect, the emotional, mental and physical toll it takes on your body is unexplainable. So if one can avoid going that route, it is better.
ReplyDeletePls it’s not hard like that
DeleteI know people that have not done it. Everyone’s body is different
Most young people have zero reaction. My only fear with the thing was the needles but those didn’t even hurt like that
Anonymous 16:49, you know people that have done it. Let me ask, have you done it?
DeleteYes everybody is different. Fertility journey is not for the faint hearted. Let the commenter be.
Pls do another test.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, let them not let wedding preparations or what people will say blind them from facing reality o.it is better the call off the wedding. No emotional sentiments should be brought into this matter because in the long run if they marry and start having children and they happen to have SS among the children( whose probability is high,),the woman and the child will suffer the trouble and consequence because the man will say he had wanted to back out before wedding o. when SS crisis start , love will disappear o, even money that will be spent no go be small thing o as well as the frustration. No mother will want to see her child in pain, so its better make she no enter at all. It is better to be heart broken for a good reason for a short period than live in perpetual pain o.
ReplyDeleteAnother test please...if still AS separate or if still AS, very rich, ready for ivf, put etc marry.
ReplyDeleteMarry him and do ivf with egg donor or sperm donor.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha... Because it's stress free and cheap abi...
DeleteIVF with donor egg is expensive oh. Be ready to cough out like 2million naira for something that may not even work. The emotional and physical stress of IVF nko? Pls just abort mission if your genotypes are not compatible.
DeleteSince they are AS marry him and they’ll do ivf to pick AS or AA embryos. Simple
DeleteMove on the man is AS but your sister maybe hiding something perhaps she doesn't want to loose the màn ,it happens to a man of God on Abuja and at long last they parted
ReplyDeleteLet her go to another hospital/laboratory both government and private for another test..
ReplyDeleteWhen the results are out,she can now decide whether to go ahead with the marriage 💑 or not.
Assuming the guy isn't backing out so soon,I would suggest you repeat the test and if it's AS,you both can for genetic counseling at Luth before ending the relationship.
ReplyDeleteJump ship. Not worth it. Forget about IVF or other stuff, save yourself future heartaches. Even people with cool cash would opt out coz those treatments ain't 100%.
ReplyDeleteThis is a major problem in relationship and most people do shy away and are ready to face the consequences.Although, there is a chance for her having a healthy child with the partner because if we do the math, genetically, (AS AS), we will have a child with AA , 2 children with AS and 1 with SS.
ReplyDeleteYour sister can still have a healthy child but it's a risk,cos one can't be sure if the first might be the healthy one or the one with the sickle cell.
Is she ready to bring a sick child into the world and live the rest of her life taking him/her to the hospital?
How will she feel when she sees her child in pain daily and most times skip school due to illnesses?
Genetically you may end up with all SS
DeleteThis maths has put lots of people into trouble thinking they might end up with just one SS.
DeleteThe probability of AS couple to have a sickle cell anaemia/completely unaffected child is 25%.
Which simply means for each pregnancy,they should aspect either AA,AS or SS.
In some cases,some are lucky that non are SS while some are unlucky that they have more or all of their children were SS .
I pray scientist find a cure some day!
The cure is extremely expensive and nerve wracking. A friend’s SS daughter had a bone marrow transplant here, is completely cured, she had a beautiful wedding and is a mother herself now. The bone marrow transplant itself is not easy I don’t know if their insurance covered it & what their out of pocket cost was. “ Bone marrow transplantation (BMT) is currently the only known cure for sickle cell disease. It involves replacing the abnormal stem cells residing in bone marrow with healthy cells from an eligible brother or sister. This procedure is also sometimes called a stem cell transplant”
Delete“ It's usually considered only for children younger than 16 who have severe complications from the disease”. Young couples should ask themselves if love is enough for the extreme stress involved even for a few years of taking care of an SS child or the huge cost of the only known cure which isn’t widely available except in the US (it’s very expensive here)!
Hi Miriam. In response to your comment, I know a family of 7 kids and 3 of them were SS. How do you explain that? It is not a funny thing. The pain and suffering if it can be avoided, is the best course of action.
DeleteYou know, God may have other plans for her. As hard as it is only God knows what it’s right for us.
ReplyDeleteBut how testing being done so late in the game and results change from one state to another and guy rushing to get out so quick. You sure it’s not a setup? Let me go rest my spooky mind🙃
Who lied in the first instance? Will they choose ss over mere marriage? Wicked people.
ReplyDeleteThe devil is not playing pranks. When situations go according to how we desire, we ascribe it to God but when some things happen that doesn't go as we like or envisioned we blame the devil. What if the fiance is not her ordained husband? Have you thought about that? Sometimes people pray for signs concerning these things and they only focus on character, compatibility etc as proves that the person they are with is the one forgetting that there are million ways God can reveal things to you. If I was the guy or your sister, I will just see ut as a sign that we were not meant to be and that my own partner is still in front praying to cross path with me. Anyone who leaves you for one reason or the other - be intentionally or due to situation beyond their control - is honestly not the one for you.
ReplyDeleteThey can go for another test but if it still stays the same please tell your cousin not to sweat over things she can't change. They will both eventually meet the right ones and she will look back and remember how she was worried over nothing and smile.
Tell your cousin to run for her life. When the wahala start, love will flee
ReplyDeleteTwo out of three tests listed her as AA, so the probability is in her favour! Why not perform a fourth test at a different medical establishment, to get a better understanding of the situation?
ReplyDeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteSo sad, sickler is not something love can overcome, let her move on to avoid long suffering.
ReplyDeletePoster let them repeat the test at least twice again at different hospitals to be sure before going their separate way
ReplyDeleteI work in paediatics unit in a teaching hospital
ReplyDeletePoster please don't do it
Vaso occlusive crisis is not a joke
Ebt and constant transfusions is not a joke
Hydroxyl urea is now expensive
Please don't do this.
First, I hope these tests were performed at duly registered laboratories? For a further decision, try the FMC laboratories, they have qualified personnel there. And if the result still comes out AS, your cousin should abort mission unless she can afford bone marrow transplant which is not a 100% guarantee. But with your statement that the fiancé is already backing out, isn't it obvious he is not ready to embark on the stressful and uncertain journey of having an SS free child (ren) with her peradventure she is AS? Also, his looking for an exit at the sign of danger without even taking her into consideration, by discussing an amicable way to tackle the dilemma, isn't that an ominous sign that if your cousin God forbid is afflicted with a body altering disease or accident, he wouldn't stand by her?
ReplyDeleteThis genotype issh, that was how I was bragging say I be AA,cos we did compulsory genotype test when I was doing my ND registration. But to my suprise I was told to be AS during ante natal, thank God my baby came as AS, cos I almost had an heartattack during pregnancy, the baby's daddy refused to do genotype. But I thank God.
ReplyDeletePlease tell your cousin, the fear and anxiety of if isn't worth it,then what if it doesn't turns out well,can age afford to live in regret? A friend is presently hypertensive because she found out her only boy is SS
O wedding for now till they get the right result which is to go for more test to be sure no mistake. Let your sister prayer and be sure no one is playing games with her head. If more test proves same result, please they should go their separate ways cos love is not enough for such crisis.
ReplyDeleteYour sister will be fine cos in the long run she will not be alive if the crisis start. I love that the man is ready to pull out, my gender will never learn. Tomorrow she will be crying he left me and the children, mtcheww mtcheww mtcheww
Tell your sister to abort mission after she does the test again and it still reads AS.
ReplyDeleteTaking care of a sickle cell child/ren for the rest of her life isn't something she would want to trade her peace of mind for.
It's better everyone cries now, lick their wounds and face front than start an everlasting battle.
I have a relative whose 2 kids are ss and they ain't finding it funny.
When the whole wahala starts, love will turn to hatred in a jiffy.
Haaaaa, seek God in this one and re-do the test, alot of error in today's Lab.... Like in 5 different places to be sure of your stand and pls if the result still shows otherwise DO NOT GO AHEAD with the WEDDING.
ReplyDeleteToday's weather looks like it's weekend already.Harmattan around the corner.
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteTake it from me its not ordinary!
ReplyDeleteIt has been tampered with in the spiritual realm
Gbam!
DeleteCommon Everyone! This is just too much overhype! What century are we in now again??? SCIENCE has been helping with this stuff for years! Ok...let me break it down....I am AS....my husband of more than 10 years now is also AS (for along time, he was fully confident he was AA...but we don marry, and pregnancy don enter before we realised he was actually AS. As we no get choice na...we put our matter to God...the first pikin na AS, thank God! For years, because of our genotype situation (AS + AS ), we say make we no get pregnant...for 5 years plus, my pikin no get brother or sister..chei! We then decided to get pregnant again, and opted for CVS TEST (where one can check the genotype of the fetus before 4 months) and thank God the result shows we could continue with the pregnancy without any fear of SS. This test, used to be like N350k in 2019...and it gave us peace of mind. My baby boy came in 2019 too and his was truly AS. My point is....don't because you just found out that your cousin's hubby and your cousin are both AS...they can't get married, they very much can and can always choose to do the CVS test for each pregnancy. Its money to do it naija..but i am sure is very very free in the western world. Your cousin and her future husband can actually overcome this stumbling block because God plus science don provide solution for this a very long time ago! KNOW THIS AND KNOW PEACE!
ReplyDeleteno mind them my Sister...these naija people wey no gree to explore their capabilities. The only exploration they know na party and aso ebi. Save money for CVS test na wahala! I also paid for CVS test in 2021 done in lekki (I was 2 months gone then) and the result of the test gave me the go ahead to continue with my pregnancy till delivery. My baby girl is AS. I dey enjoy my husband and I dey chop life.
DeleteYou are talking of CVS test. So, peradventure your baby in your womb at 4 months old was SS, you would have aborted? At that stage, you essentially take the life of the baby in the womb with drugs and then go through Labour and give birth to a tiny fully formed baby. Is it beans? I have lost a baby at that stage of pregnancy and that is one of the most traumatic things I have gone through, if not the most traumatic. Have you spoken to people who have hd to terminate for medical reasons? Do you know the emotional and mental strain?
DeleteJust go and thank your God that he saved you from all that instead of encouraging others to tow your path. If it turns out different for them, you will be nowhere to be found to cry with them.
Pls this CVS if it turns out that the baby is ss genotype what then happen, hnhnh as far as they never enter the marriage it's safer to go separy ways 350k as at 2019 what about now with this economy,pampers baby food, school I can't try what I can prevent simple
DeleteSo if the test shows the fetus to be SS you commit evitable murder by aborting the baby?
DeleteThanks for this information. Never knew all this.
DeleteThe main thing here is why are Nigerian labs failing in such basic tests? This situation is actually very widespread. These kind of things don't happen outside. It displays a basic lack of proper training in all Nigerian universities that these kind of things happen.
ReplyDeleteI suggest that the test should be done again and again. Preferably in a standardized facility if she can afford it. This is embarrassing actually.
Shebi we have big general hospitals why all these quack places with different multiple results. Fit the last time tell your cousin to run it in a big general hospital if it's the same she should cancel the marriage it's not easy but that's the best she can do, the man is already backing out this type of man will and can never have that patience to go CVS test amniocentesis or Ivf when he can easily cancel and marry another person. It's not easy in the long run even him it's not easy to come this far and this happens so goe me he is facing reality already,tell your sis to move on, she will meet her missing rib soon . a man is wired differently there is a series I watched stateless the officer said in the marriage the man said he sont want kids when she was now 40 the man suddenly wanted kids ,the marriage packed up cos he married another lady. My dear even if this man decide to stick around and hope for all these procedure make he no bail out in the future na that one go pain pass let them cancel and go their separate ways emotions, time and love is involved but na posterity we dey talk about here they should face reality and so the needful she will be fine laslas
ReplyDeletePlease advice her to forget about the marriage bc raising an ss is not for anyone.
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