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I’m in a dilemma now.
My mother lived and died in the UK. Her wish was to be cremated and her remains should be poured into river Thames. She told us not to take her back to Nigeria or her hometown Asaba in Delta state.
Her family back home asked for a cow at the cost of N125k but we gave them N250k. After watching her burial videos and seeing the lavishness in sending her off well ,they came back and demanded for N1.5mil.
We’ve refused to give more and told them to share the one we gave earlier.
Are we wrong? I’m just tired of all this traditions. When we were broke and hungry their traditions didn’t feed us.....
What is all this? Please block all their numbers and face front....N1.5 million for what? You guys even made a mistake of giving them 250k... And how did they see the videos of the burial if they were not there? You loaded it on the social media? I hope you guys learned from this, that not everything should put be out for public consumption.....Please dont give them a dime cos they will come back for more...
What is all this? Please block all their numbers and face front....N1.5 million for what? You guys even made a mistake of giving them 250k... And how did they see the videos of the burial if they were not there? You loaded it on the social media? I hope you guys learned from this, that not everything should put be out for public consumption.....Please dont give them a dime cos they will come back for more...
Social media show off will be the undoing of some people
ReplyDeleteThank God for the successful burial and may Mama soul rest in peace Amen. Ignore them please.
DeleteIt’s not always show off
DeleteSometimes you’re just sharing with your friends and they share till it gets to idiots
Actually if her family members are in Nigeria a people have a zoom link for them to partake.
DeletePlease face front poster, ignore them and block them but join prayers too oh. In case they plan to go diabolical. God keep you guys
DeleteNa wa.
DeleteFace front
Please face front and mind your business. As long as you have fulfilled your mum wish every other things does not matter.
ReplyDeletePls send the money to them if you people are fools I thought people abroad are better exposed than those in Africa to write this kind text not knowing people everywhere are the same,very soon they will demand 100 million for remembrance celebration..
ReplyDeleteHahaha 🤣.
ReplyDeleteUmuada and umunna!
What is good for the goose.....(complete it)
Is it by force to give the millions? How much did they contribute to you people as children of the deceased? Ye atleast sent them 250k, but greed won't let them rest. They will fleece you guys if you continue giving in to their greedy demands.
ReplyDeleteBLOCK THEM. Your mistake was giving them 250k, when they asked for 125k. So in their minds, y'all have money you are not using.
ReplyDeleteBlock and bind them in Jesus Christ name
DeleteBlock and bind them in Jesus Christ name
DeleteI'm with you on this Stella. Heck!! She wasn't even buried in 9ja, so what more money are they requesting?? And even if she was, what is the extra money for?
ReplyDeletePoster, call their bluff and face front. I hate nonsense🙄🙄
Though you guys caused it,by giving them extra and uploading it,to your social media,stop entertaining them and block them. You guys owes them nothing.
ReplyDeleteTradition sha.
ReplyDeleteIf it's my place that you obeyed your mother's wish. I don't know what they will do but I am sure it will not be easy to appease them. We don't bury our own outside. Even when the corpse cannot be found, they will request something be put inside the casket and be buried in the land observing all burial ceremony.
You have obeyed your mother's wish and she is happy wherever she is. .
Stop all communications with them for now. Maybe in few years time do a memorial service for your mother in the village.. Cook and buy drinks for people. Let them eat.
Don't do any memorial in any village, stop trying to remind them of your existence
DeleteDon’t you guys have the common sense to say no to their demands? You guys have buried her, what again are y’all looking for??
ReplyDeleteWhat's the extra money for?, Your mom have being buried properly like she requested, just block them. ..
ReplyDeleteGreedy people.
*had been
Delete**HAS been
DeleteGood you people already know what to do, stop updating them on what's going on.
ReplyDeleteOmo see greedy people oo May your mums soul RIP.
ReplyDeleteThank God you follow your mama instruction to bury her in UK, she knew her family people and assuming you tried to bury her for naija they would have so much frustrate you with different demands going into several millions. Greedy set of people. Just face front and forget about them.
ReplyDeletePoster please don't give them any shishi. Ignore or block them and intensify in prayers cos it looks like you people have open doors for village people
ReplyDeleteWell, we now know why your mother didn’t want her body to be returned and interred there, she knew her ppl better than anyone else. Please activate ignore mode at the highest power. No need for any communication or long talking, just ignore.
ReplyDeleteExtra cash isn't necessary. Ignore them. They are passing their boundary.
ReplyDeleteMost of these uncles and aunties are diabolic.refusing to pay the money might make them want to harm you.pls do not be afraid.put on the armour of Christ.Pray and cover your family with the blood of Jesus which was shed on the cross for our redemption.
ReplyDeleteI was coming to type this. She and her family should be prayerful to avoid attacks, especially the type that would get them in trouble with the authorities or at workplace.
DeleteIf you ever have a ₦1.5m you need to give out. Kindly give it to a charity organisation.
ReplyDeleteYou have done your part, face your front abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster pay them the money if you have it! Don’t ever play with village people. They will never forget this. Negotiate and pay what you have. Because of tomorrow o
ReplyDeleteRepresentative of the village people, tomorrow ko, yesterday ni. You people just give unmerited power and authority to these people.
Delete17:30
DeleteThank you.
Negotiate and pay. Tell them you spent Abroad thinking you have done all needed at home.
It clears your conscience. You would not attribute tomorrow issues to them. It is good to make peace.
Just pray for God's guidance and support in the whole matter.
Some of them are very wicked. Infact the demand is a sign of the wickedness.
But if you guys know assuredly your spiritual standing, you can ignore the demand.
Even Oyibo dey call am paranormal tins. Right?
But wait o. Sebi Dem talk say Oyibo land burial dey simple and low budget?
See say we be who we be Home or Abroad?
Please, do not give them a dime again, block all of them on social media, and from contacting you, and do not ever make the greatest mistake of your lives by going to the village to do remembrance.
ReplyDeleteAlways cover you and all your family and siblings with the blood of Jesus.
Na you dey bother with village people.
ReplyDeleteDo not give them any 1.5m naira for anything, they should enjoy the 250k already given to them. Tell them you people have heard them and they should give you guys some times to discuss and get back to them. All of you should hold a family meeting where you will all block them with their generations.
ReplyDeleteIf you give them , they'll still come back once it's finished, and may even start using JuJu to collect more, block them all
ReplyDeleteWahala
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why in the 21 century we still entertain cultures or traditions that encourages fleecing people.
ReplyDeleteI can't begin to describe what I went through before I could bury my dad. It's too sad.
Na wa for some family members, den wan reap for where den no sow.
ReplyDeleteBlock anybody blockable
Block all of them jare
Una do show off come post for where dem fit see am, now dem wan build upstairs for una head.
ReplyDeleteBetter block them everywhere and get ready for battle, hold God tight cos these village people na small thing like this dey make dem vex.
Make una no give them shish!
Make una report them to Baba God wey dey heaven male He for fight una battle
Don't give them anything. They're greedy people
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
Chai some people and wahala they still want to be making money on top person wey don die. Greedy family members block them and never look back.
ReplyDeleteMy issue with them is they demanded you double the amount so why come back, it's not good naw it's like giving a man everything in a dowry list after paying you now come with another demand it's not food .
ReplyDeletePoster why you ll do is tell them antie or uncle that is the union or committe your mum belong to that threw that lavish party that una no too contribute , antie shebi you asked for 150 we have 250 pls it's your mum's club that threw that lavish party negotiate and face front , pray and tell God to remove their mind from una , a woman that was not brought back to naija they want to chop million on top, some families no get conscience at all
Don't give them anything. Ndi oshi
ReplyDeleteThey asked for 125k to buy cow with golden horn, you wan prove unasef con give 250k.
ReplyDeleteSince you wanted to show that money o port what were you expecting from hungry people?
All these traditions in my opinions are completely meaningless and have zero weight. They are just yo feed a few hungry bellies and to prove that 'culture' or whatever or you wanna call it, is still strong.
Culture/Traditions that do not make sense, that are offer no benefits to the recipients, that one culture?
I don't know if 125k they initially requested for can buy a cow in today's Nigeria. However, 1.5mil is way too much. And even if it can't, they shouldn't have demanded for more money because it was their fault not doing due diligence on it. Plus you were generous enough to double it.
ReplyDeleteHow many cows they wan ontop her head? Even if the funeral was in Nigeria, I doubt they would be entitled to more than one cow irrespective of the extravagance. Only additional things could be foods and drinks for refreshment (and life goat for pepper soupon the eve by umuada if in my place). The expenses might not exceed 500k.