He disrespected his mum and her reaction spoilt everything......
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Then she started yelling “is it cos you want to go abroad now that you are hissing at me?, come and go now let me see you” I have to tame you, before you become untamable” she stormed my room and took my travel documents, my Jerseys and boots I had bought in Nigeria and my boxes
She took kerosene and matches , went to the backyard and set everything ablaze. Immediately she lit the fire and threw it in her eyes cleared. I was only able to recover my International passport. Idk if she regrets it but my life could have changed for good if not for her anger.
I’m not saying this to pile on my Ma or anything but it changed the trajectory of my life, she has apologized and still apologizing and I don’t think I love her any less. I just hope I win big with something else cos the suffering that act has put me through can’t be explained."
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Anger has done so much harm. We need to take control of it.
ReplyDeleteHe may be saying he doesn’t love her any less. But I know it is a memory stuck in his brain. Hope he doesn’t turn into one of those pathetic males on lib or instablog comments section that sing praises of white women while insulting Nigerian women. We wonder y some naija men insist on bringing home only oyinbo when it’s time to marry
DeleteHe couldn't apply for a new passport and try to get replacements for the lost documents?
DeleteBut he could have gotten a fresh visa nah. All he had to do was get affidavit for missing documents, get a new passport and then reapply.
DeleteAnger! It has a spirit of its own.
ReplyDeleteI've been to prisons a couple of times to see clients and when you listen to some stories, you just know that your life (and that of your family) can change in a split second all because of anger. People brag and say 'my anger is this and that', 'when I get angry ehen, I'm like an earthquake' blah blah blah and I just shake my head. You better calm down and find a solution to that madness before you end up living in regret for the rest of your life.
You said the absolute truth, anger is a disease.
DeleteYou are right. Anger lies in the bossom of fools.
DeleteI fear prison too much to hold on to anger. I always tell myself that whatever it is that's making me angry is not worth spending even a split second in prison over or permanently losing my freedom, God forbids.
DeleteYou self, why you hiss for your mama? Ha! Me I can relate ooo, my parents hate any form of disrespect to anyone in respective of your achievements.
ReplyDeleteWhy was she yelling at him??
DeleteAfrican parents display toxic traits at their children but can’t stand it when those same children mirror it back to them.
Why did you yourself hiss at your mum? Very bad of you, though your mum also went too far with the way she handled the situation. That's why anything done in anger mostly leads to regrets.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to say.
ReplyDeleteToo extreme.
ReplyDeleteOh no! It's necessary we control our anger so that it doesn't control us and cause damage beyond what we can handle. The spirit of anger is a very terrible one. More God give us the spirit of self control when we are pushed to act irrationally.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of anger? 😒😒😒
ReplyDeleteAnger is bad
ReplyDeleteSome mothers the way they treat their children ehn.Bible says don’t provoke your children to anger. This is something that can lead to very grave consequences if the guy is not the mild mannered type. Children are humans too
ReplyDeleteEvil projection, they saw the greatness in you and decided to use your mum as the weapon fashioned against you. Of all things why did she burn your passport? Why did she not hit you instead? That's some manipulation of the highest order only those highly spiritual can understand what happened. Children of God please pray, the world is so wicked.
ReplyDeleteYou nailed it. Evil people at work.
DeleteOh no see what anger has caused, may our anger not cause us to ruin our lives.
ReplyDeleteMost African Parent exhibit Toxic Traits to their children…
ReplyDeleteThey are the cause of most children woes.
It’s either their way or the high way.
They don’t understand communication and they always wonder why their children prefer to be on their own
The mother is bat shit crazy. One thing that is interesting is that she behaved like this after coming from church. So the going to church was a complete waste of time because it did not even have effect on her an hour after she left.
ReplyDeleteNot ordinary 😌 😏..
ReplyDeleteThis is Spiritual
I think so too
DeleteUsing the mother to destroy the son important documents
Oh Boy abeg make you go for deliverances..
Which kind anger go dey make human destroy things..
Who no dey vex..
May The Grace Of the Lord be with You..
And again try and much as possible to move out
Be praying for her at afar🙏🙏🙏
That's bad
ReplyDeleteOne of sons did something that I never expected from any of my children ( non of my children have ever done that to me ) I was so bitter Bcos what I did is for everyone interest . I CLD not sleep for 3 days , so many thoughts came to my mind . I sat down on the floor at and the Holy Spirit whisper to my hear that I should pray that the devil is at work. I started to pray for him and my other children and also prayed for God interventions. And it works , gradually that anger disappear from my heart. The devil is so crafty , he can used your children against you or you against your children. In fact he can even used your daughter in law against you. God is really in control .
ReplyDeleteI agree, at times, all one needs is to take some steps back. Even the bible warms us to be slow to anger for a reason
DeleteThis is too painful to hear
ReplyDeleteAm sure she is regretting her actions
I wish he apologized sharply. The matter wouldn't have escalated further
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