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Someone is coming from the US to marry me this December...Coded things have began and both families have met..How do i break up with this man? I need to make him do something that will make me break up with him and i will take a walk...
I need help and dont care what anyone say...If its a man now, they dont waste time in dumping Ladies....
Please if insult is all you have swallow it, good things are about to happen to me,The US is not a land of milk and honey but it is better than my wretched situation, my beauty has opened way for me and i will not miss this opportunity....
love should forget me for now.
Ermmmmm. go and visit him and pretend your money is missing, call am thief,he go beat crase comot for your head....
So you have been managing your relationship for 4years. Ok. If this US guy was not in the picture, will you still refer to your condition as wretched?
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DeleteDon't mind her. Now I know why dating women from poor family is very dangerous.
The truth is, most women are just managing a man's brokeness because they don't have a better option yet. The moment a better option present itself, she will abandon you and forget all your sacrifices and all her words. Women know nothing like loyalty.
This is why as a young man, you don't have to spend all your time focusing and chasing women up and down. Women are big distraction to a man who is not purpose driven.
They will drain you and leave you.
Hustle for yourself, take your life more serious, read books, learn skills, develop and harness your masculine power, be more focus on becoming a better man, invest in your mind at the end of this. It's the only thing that will never leave you through thick and thin.
© TEEJAY
Na now day break reach for men... Oga rest
DeleteShe was not managing him. She was 'mama-naging' him. So she was playing a motherly role in his life and biding her time. Poster, no need for drama. You have finished, say so. Be kind, not nice, and tell him you decided to move on. Yes, it is a hard decision to make, but you just had to. Wish him well and go. No need to lie or set someone up for something out of their responsibility.
DeleteHe has village people problem because he his still struggling to find his feet? It's the idiot that's thinking he has find a wife in you that I blame. You are the embodiment of village problems. It is evident that you are going to wreck the new guy coming to marry you.
DeleteHope you ready to study well, because you may end up being the one to feed the US guy, your type plenty well well for yankee wey dey regret. You better dont do proper marriage with the US guy until you fully investigate him.
DeleteTell him that you have repented and want to think about your life as you are not getting younger.
DeleteMao Akuh
Why not sit him down and explain things, it's better you guys separate in peace than looking for a bad way to leave him..this is my own opinion ooo
ReplyDeleteIf I sit you down and explain same thing to you will you accept it? You talk as if Nigerians get brain
DeleteYes ...Always sit down n tell d truth.
DeleteLOVE is not by Force.. U dont know where u will meet 2morrow.....Separate in truth..Good luck.
Tommiwa yes it's better I know the truth and accept it with a broken heart, than finding out that I was lied to just to push me away..
DeleteDORIS DAY that is the best way to separate In peace..
Marriage now is transactional, if you as a guy want to be stupid in your life, continue looking for one girl you will upgrade, don't go and look for the one that will either upgrade your life or both of you are at least at the same frequency. Came from America to come and marry one wretched girl and you think you have done well....
DeleteI don't even understand this poster. If you don't care about what people will say, why all the drama in breaking up with your man? Is there something we are missing? You are very contradictory. Tell your man that you no dey do again. Nothing will happen and you said you don't even care 🤷♀️
ReplyDeleteShe cares about what the guy will feel
DeleteThank you o. It is not a do or die affair. If you are no longer interested, just let him know so both of you can move on amicably.
DeleteI wonder too, she wants to sound like a bad bitch but cares too😁
DeleteVery contradictory chronicle.
Do what you like abeg!!
She does not care about him.
DeleteShe cares only about herself and about avoiding damage to her public persona in the eyes of those who know her and the man.
So, she wants to put the blame of the breakup on the man.
She is avoiding being tagged a "user and dumper".
She wants the man to be tagged ungrateful - that he dropped a woman who has been with him for 4 years.
Here is why not all testimonies of: "My ex did me bad. Then I met my husband... Now when my ex and his people see me, they wow owo wow like siren" should be believed.
This is the second chronicle in 30 or lesser days from women wanting out of a long beneficial relationship, but wanting their boyfriends to acrimoniously cause the breakup ostensibly so that the men would carry the blame can for the breakup and be publicly stigmatised.
Managing for 4 years indeed!
Callous and Care only have "C" in common.
Hahaha omo I like you poster ....carry go 😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteStella you are totally funny 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteJust break up or ghost him the f**k out.
Poster I don't like your tone and your need to put up a defense with aggressiveness...It is your life decision and if you think you are good with your decision then make it....Mentioning how guys dump girls and talking about good things happening to you blah! blah!! is not necessary and it is giving guilty conscience......Madam chill nobody is gonna beat you....
ReplyDeleteI don't know why you guys always want to be dramatic about break off a relationship with a guy......Pastor Kingsley posted a quote on this blog today about not managing to marry.....Since you have found someone else; simply tell him you don't want to continue with the relationship and you wish him all the best....Since you knew about his baggage; you were still with him till this new guy happened....
Do it with simplicity, emotional intelligence, assertiveness and in a mature manner...Don't gloat about this US guy....Just go about it respectfully and keep praying about your upcoming marriage....
All the best...
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DeleteGreat advice. Phoenix I love this . 💗💗
DeleteI agree with you. As painful as it may sound, as long as marriage has not happened, either party in a relationship can pull out. Infact, even after introduction & engagement, families can still pull out of moving forward with a marriage ceremony after iju ase (background check). Some churches announce bans of marriage asking the public to come forward if they have any objections. In other words, pulling out is a thing before the marriage is sealed. I personally wouldn't want anyone managing to marry me. You have to be present and willing. Come excitedly to the altar, don't drag yourself. But yes, be very kind in breaking up with people. And don't stay too long when you know he or she is not the one...
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ReplyDeleteJust tell him u are not interested again simple and avoid him
I don't know how old you are but asking for what to do as to justify your dumping him sound so childish. Why not walk up to him and boldly tell him you have a suitor and wants to follow your heart?
ReplyDeleteEvery relationship doesn't end in marriage. So there's no crime walking out on this one but should be done without deceit.
You sounded so wicked from the tone of your writing. Imagine saying village people are on his case. You that village people aren't on your case, why haven't you made it yet in life? Why depend on abroad suitor for your happiness and survival? I'm sure that guy must have sacrificed so many things on you, the reason you don't know how to dump him easily. Else you would have walked away since if he hasn't done anything for you.
Simply put, you're wicked. May I never meet your type in life.
Why the manipulation to justify your action?
Leave him if you want which I won't fault you but doing it manipulatively is my grouse with you.
Lastly, what goes around, comes around.
© TEEJAY
Why are u pained @Teejay
Delete"I'm sure that guy must have sacrificed so many things on you, the reason you don't know how to dump him easily. Else you would have walked away since if he hasn't done anything for you."
DeleteQED. Case Closed.
You know it all now so why bring your chronicle here?
ReplyDeleteThis and that..
You think because the guy is based in US then automatically You will join him there.
Since you knew he has "village problem" you could have broken up with him since and focused on your suitors.
Hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis poster has made up her mind..nothing you preach to her will make any sense again. But remember that all that glitters is not gold. Hope you know this US based prospective suitor very well. As you need a comfortable marriage, know you also need love o. At a point in marriage, you go see money , you would also wish for true love.
ReplyDeleteTo break up with your present guy, let him know that you can't continue with him as he seem not to be ready and you wouldn't want to waste time because you are a lady and biological clock dey tick, separate on a good note no lie say he steal your money ooo.That's not nice. All the best.
Stella, 😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeletePoster, as it is now ehn, America compared to Nigeria is a Land flowing with MILK and HONEY!
Infact, America is the Canaan Land! No slack o. Learn to love him, love grows.
Tell your unserious boyfriend that you can no longer be with him since he's not ready for marriage. Don't call or visit him, don't pick his calls.
Don't play with anything that will better your life o.
Be serious and hold on tight to anything or anyone that is willing to take you higher.
poster no need to look for a way to break up with your man to have a discussion with him and tell him you want to end things with him. You have been dating this guy for years yet not married to him, you said he has village people you both did not fight the village people. You have seen obodo oyibo guy and want to settle down so quicky. Talk things over with him and do not let him know you are seeing someone else.
ReplyDeleteTell him you're not interested in the relationship anymore, it'll hurt him but he'll be fine. I wish you the best.
ReplyDeleteWhat if you get to US and you find out things are not as expected? Will you look for another man and dump the US bobo too? I am not saying you shouldn't leave but leave on a good term. Do it the right way.
ReplyDeleteIf your story is true because commas plenty,you don't need any drama,stop picking his calls,block his lines and move on smoothly.
ReplyDeleteJust call off the relationship. Pop and plain...
ReplyDeleteWhat is our business with your management abi na Stella forced you to enter 😃😃😃,no be mouth you take accept the broken guy ?na the same mouth you go take talk oh but pls before you talk make sure the door is open oh otherwise beaten can follow
ReplyDeleteAhhhhhhhh for four years and heading nowhere, tell him the truth that someone else is on the line, he isn't ready naaa.
ReplyDeleteDo not waste time this time.
Tell him you are no longer interested. He will be hurt, but he will get over it with time. This is likely not his first heartbreak, and may not even be his last until he finally meets his destined woman. You were just a placeholder in each other's lives; otherwise, you would end up together.
ReplyDeleteWho knows, the breakup may even be the push he needs to work harder and excel in life. Having you around may have made him complacent, and your absence may trigger something beautiful that would eventually make him a better man. When he eventually makes it, who knows, maybe even better than your new man, please be content in your marriage and have no regrets or start despising your husband.
Make sure you love the man you are planning to marry and stop all communication with your ex because it will be unfair to your future husband to realize that he is just a means to an end and you secretly pine for your ex . The thing with people in your shoes is that when they finally get their desired success, they start looking for love and reminisce about the past. I don't see anywhere where you expressed love for this new man you have in your life, which is not surprising considering you are marrying for survival. Just make sure you grow to love him; you owe him that. Do not turn against him when you have finally achieved your aim. He is bold to want to come home to pick a wife despite everything he has heard or read about online. Don't dash his hope and end up reinforcing the long-held negative belief associated with men coming home to pick a wife.
P.S. When next you seek an advice, please try to keep your emotions in check. Don't be defensive and peevish.
I wish you your ex and your new man , well.
Great advice 👏👏
DeleteYou’ve been managing him because even though he has issues he is a stroke king and you couldn’t let go of that. You used him for his body and to fulfill your physical needs. So you plan to just walk out of one man’s bed into another and start your marriage? Carrying this man’s old sperm in you and his energy anll over you, and some of you wonder why marriages are so lopsided these days.
ReplyDeleteAfter four whole entire years of knowing him you must know how to break up. There are only 4 months to the December, so whatever mode you choose, do it quickly. Also remember to go for a cleansing spiritually and physically before you start that marriage, pray for forgiveness and that God uplifts the one you are leaving behind.
Na wa o. You have been with him for 4yrs and leading him on knowing fully well you don't want to be his wife/partner for Life. You have been looking to find fault in him yet you haven't found any. You are despicable, May God forgive you Amen.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster follow who no road.
ReplyDeletePoverty isn't a crime but accepting it is by choice.
Pls pick wisely. And above all things make sure the person you're marrying has the fear of God in him and he's kind as well. I wish you all the best.
Tell him you're not interested anymore. No need for unnecessary drama. Block him and be assertive with your decision.
ReplyDeleteIt's better than leading him on. He will find his own person.
You don't care but actually care.
ReplyDeleteYou sound as guilty as...
What does us guy do
ReplyDeleteThis ya bf sef doesn’t seem serious
4 years dating a marriage minded Naija babe without proposing is not the way
The only thing I would tell you is to do your due diligence on the new man. Will he take you back with him or make you his Nigerian wife? Is he transparent about what he does abroad? Do your research, check LinkedIn, Facebook, etc. Make sure una go im village go make inquiry o. Whatever you do, do not get pregnant for him while in Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteYou have been with him for four whole years suddenly because of an Abroad guy you suddenly realise he is no longer good for you.
ReplyDeleteOk oh,no need to be afraid of him,face him with your full chest and tell him you want to break up.
Also,hope you know beauty does not keep a man or marriage?
Why not opened up to him?,if reverse is the case hope you won't call him a wicked man? How well do you know the US hubby to be?
ReplyDeleteIyalicious iya boys 🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDelete@Poster if The Table were Turn How will You Feel?
You Knew From The Onset That You not gonna Marry Him, You Still Proceed To 4years Come on Nahhhh..
Now You Have Someone You wanna Marry And You Want To dump him Like Trash
Things Are not done That Way..
Is Not My Business oo
But Abeg just kindly Tell him you are no more interested in him
I dnt know how you will do it
But please Do it ...
Good luck ooo
Hello iya Boys
When I see some comments here, I feel like also being wicked but I just tell myself that the ladies that have sense here no pass 10 and they are different from the women I have around me..
ReplyDeleteYou think it's only you that have people abroad that want marriage, you think we men don't have them too,. I personally faced this not once but I didn't choose to be wicked to who did me no wrong..
If we decide to be wicked and selfish to you people the way you girls do, you think say Una go survive am, shebi it's the same men you always call for favours and assistance every time..
Okay, you have decided to go, but you want to push him to hurt you so you can spoil his reputation before you leave.. and your colleagues here are supporting you because you're all the same..
Wicked useless people..
You go cry for that US
Stella ,I didn't know you had it in you to be this funny. Hahaha
ReplyDeletePoster na wa for you o.
He is heading nowhere? That's harsh.
Do whatever you want to do,na you sabi.
As Teejay said you that village people are not on your case why are you still wretched?
That’s how my friend went home one weekend in school and got married to man from the US. She didn’t even tell me cos she had a serious boyfriend who is also our classmate. Someone posted their union on Facebook and another classmate saw it and asked the BF why he allowed his girl get married. Na so kata kata everywhere.
ReplyDeleteThe bf couldn’t eat for week.
It’s been 12 years.
All three of us are in the US lmao.
All married and doing well. Life is funny sha
Stella this your advice gets as e be😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteAbeg what about those boys that end up in Ikoyi Registry with the grandmas? Abi una no know say dem get babes too? How did they break up with those chics, it takes two to tango my dia.
ReplyDeleteWhen e reach man turn, una go come here dey cry like bush babies up and down.
Poster, not all relationship will end in marriage, however, please end things with this guy in a civil manner, with empathy. Reverse the situation now, do it in a way that both parties will leave amicably.
On the flip side, do your due deligence with this new guy, tell your family to do certain findings about him and his family, it will be bad if you end up with a guy in the US who doesn't mean well for you.
Aside from this US guy, it is not ideal to remain in a relationship with someone who is not ambitious, I didn't say poor, be it a man or woman, if you stay with someone who is not a go-getter, you are on a long thing.
Choose your path wisely.
You miss the point big time.
DeleteA woman is free to leave a man even after marriage.
That is why it is advised that no man should not carry a woman on his head or inside his heart.
More importantly, this woman has already left the man.
Why does she want the man to take responsibility for her act of leaving which has already been completed.
That is why she is tagged wick. ed.
And no! Not everybody jump from one relationship to another holding both at the same time like monkeys jumping between branches of trees. There are men and women who end a relationship civilly and fully, review themselves/ ended relationship, and rest before starting another relationship.
Life is not a battle between men and women. It is a battle between good and bad.
So, poster, this your US bobo is a meal ticket like this ba. I hope you don't come back crying sha
ReplyDeleteThere is no easy way to go about it. Just sit him down and be honest about everything. Separate amicably..be matured abeg
ReplyDeleteYour soon-to-be husband needs to tear race as you can't be trusted. You are only in love with what has has and can provide for you and not him as a person. Your type will typically frame a spouse when you have milked him to dryness.
ReplyDeleteYes, I can encourage my daughter to do likewise. I won't allowed my babe girl to go for a man wiho has no ambitious, and lazy . How can I struggle in the sun , rain for my daughter to get education and I will open my eye wide and allowed her marry a man who will kill her dream and also make all her education and her future plans go down the drains. I rejected it on her behalf , some men are dream destroyer. Poster you are wicked. If you are man don't you your hard earned money to sponsor a girl to school Bcos no be you born am. Used your money to build up your life Bcos tomorrow the girl may dump you and go for a man who has a good potential
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