The following conversations ensued between them
Toyosi: sometimes the men just need to be told what to do. Sometimes the women just take all these roles. 'i am responsible for the kids, groceries, ensuring that everything is running well'.
They forget that you are partners, working together so these as well is equally responsible. Let the person know maybe the person doesn't know. I think that is what happens with us.
Etim: so when a woman is pregnant who is responsible for the child?
Toyosi: the woman
Etim: why?
Toyosi: she is the one carrying the baby
Etim: nature decides to put first care in the hands of a woman. Why do you think that?
Toyosi: because the woman has the capacity ,that is how we were built.
Etim: thank you thank you. So a woman is better equipped at that stage in the child's life to cater to the needs of that child. Does the father play a role? Yes.
But primarily, the primary caregiver to that child is the mother. I Don't think that role changes much even when the child is born. Why? Because after the child is born who is giving the breast milk? the mother. If nature knew the man was equipped he would give the woman pregnancy and the man breast milk.
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ReplyDeleteHer dress is beautifullllll.
ReplyDeleteVery beautiful. She should try to dress more like this instead of all those boubou like dress she always wears making her look fatter and older than she actually is.
DeleteI haven’t seen her look this good in years.
The problem is that - women don't want the work assigned to them by biology. They want to struggle with men on what mens role are.
ReplyDeleteTruth is - in a relationship, there is always core responsibilities for each party to that ship.
As a father, I find that - The wife is the primary care giver. As the husband, I am the provider and guiding the kids on the right path and grooming them with skills, guidance, life experience - and grow them into a well put together human boy or girl.
But that thing is changing where women drag fatherhood role with men. Funny enough, they can't even survive that role if men decide to give it to them.
When providing, they can't do it in silent without shouting that they are the provider. If you let them be baby mama, they will drag the men. Yet, wwhen a man wants to do manly thing, they don't want to understand it.
I totally understand your pov. Just that a woman has many needs, which the man might not be covering or might not see or understand, especially when he gets to provide for all the major glaring bills in d family. So d woman in her understanding nature, tries to start either working or biz, just so as to augment financially.
DeleteIn a case where the man wants the woman at home as full time housewife, Odogwu wife, he should simply put her on a good salary.
No be all of us like stress. Some of us wan be Odogwu wives and raise good kids and care for the home. But the man must do as Odogwu run am for achalugo for that movie
Love her outfit.
ReplyDeleteSame Here
DeleteVery Beautiful Outfit 💋
Cute couple.
ReplyDeleteLovely couple. Even if the mother is the primary caregiver. Her ever supportive husband is the ginger.
ReplyDeleteI love this couple. In my opinion, though, Etim’s response has some truth to it but his logic limps on one leg. Biology may birth a role, but partnership sustains it. Nature gave women wombs, not workloads or resilient sufferance.
ReplyDeleteParenting isn't a game of gendered chess where the queen moves alone while the king guards "our" culture and tradition. Mutual understanding, not default assignment, should guide caregiving. Marriage thrives not on roles passed down, but responsibilities shared and willingly embraced by the couple involved from the position of the realities in their union.
She looks so pretty in that dress..Toyosi be dressing like this often abeg❤️
ReplyDeleteToyosi looking beautiful. This is her best look I've seen.
ReplyDeleteI started liking Daniel after watching that his Hallelujah movie with Bimbo and the one he did with Ruth, he's such a good actor.
What’s the name of the ine he acted with Ruth? Abeg I wan watch am
DeleteDaniel Keeps telling this woman his mind
ReplyDeleteHe has never lied to her
Does she see
Does she know
She’s using the show to give him hints but he get coconut head literally and implied
DeleteBeautiful outfit Mrs Etim
ReplyDeleteThey look good together
ReplyDeleteThis woman needs to get a life
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