This is a Chronicle dealing with the drama of living with a positive status....
This will be posted same time every Saturday until further notice...
Reading THIS CHRONICLE made me decide to start this hiv chronicle, I'm glad alot of people also shared their experiences but we still have some people with archaic mindset about the virus. God bless the woman who shared her experience in the comment section about positive living for 30 years
The day I found out I was positive was a bad day, devil take water. The only thing on my mind that day was suicide, looking back now, I couldn't be more grateful to God for not allowing the evil thoughts to materialize.
I went to register for antenatal that day and I was tested, hubby and I did court wedding only so we didn't check status before marriage and besides we had been dating for 5 years .
I called my husband to come over immediately, he came and he was also tested, his own came out negative, where did I get this? I was disturbed but he kept assuring me, 16 years later he never changed his promises and nobody in both families knew what we are passing through, even when I show my bad character, he will never use it against me.
And he's still negative same with the children, oh yes we have beautiful and healthy children , I breastfed them all, and they are brilliant and always at top of their classes, so you see, hiv didn't end me.
I don't like the way the hospital handled it because the way and manners I was being summoned immediately I did the test, everyone present that day will definitely know what's going on, they kept calling me at every interval and I was the only one being called like that but I was well counseled, some of their staff even shared their status with me because at this time I was already being taken to hiv care unit outside the ante natal, where most of their staff there are also positive
I'm just giving you people head up about the beginning of my journey.
there are several ways one can get hiv but s#x is one of the easiest ways to contact it.
You can ask any question you wish to know about hiv, I'll be replying
Know your status today.
Till I come your way again, stay safe, stay alive!
Thanks to SDK for this platform
I don't like the way the hospital handled it because the way and manners I was being summoned immediately I did the test, everyone present that day will definitely know what's going on, they kept calling me at every interval and I was the only one being called like that but I was well counseled, some of their staff even shared their status with me because at this time I was already being taken to hiv care unit outside the ante natal, where most of their staff there are also positive
I'm just giving you people head up about the beginning of my journey.
there are several ways one can get hiv but s#x is one of the easiest ways to contact it.
You can ask any question you wish to know about hiv, I'll be replying
Know your status today.
Till I come your way again, stay safe, stay alive!
Thanks to SDK for this platform
Kudos to your husband, that's a good man there!
ReplyDeleteYou breast fed your children and the hiv wasn't transferred to them?
How??
The comment section on that post was terribly disappointing! I couldn’t believe in 2025, after all the jingles and awareness on hiv, in this information age that everyone has an smartphone and easy access to google, educated people still came here to type that kind of ignorance.
DeleteThank you OP and Stella for this column. I hope they follow and read to understand.
Any HIV positive women reading this should avoid bwesstfeeding if you can afford formula for your child. Dont endanger your kids. I believe if your were given the option to suck bwest from a positive person . You no go try am.
DeleteI was a member of the HIV/AIDs club back in secondary school. It's shocking to see the misconception a lot of educated people still have about the virus.
ReplyDeleteExactly 💯 because they love wallowing in ignorance...Poster you married a good man...His type is rare...Congratulations
DeleteThank God for your great support system and the love your family shared. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteLooking forward to learn more from you.
Cheers 🥂 🥂 to healthy lifestyle
How did you get it?
ReplyDeleteHow will she know. Na wah o
DeleteYou married one of the best.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of story is this ? How come your husband and kids didn’t get it. Kindly educate us
ReplyDeleteHer case is not isolated. Goggle. There are many people living with spouses and children who are negative. It’s not new. There are even some positive people whose viral load can’t infect anyone. Read up please 🙏 .
DeleteI know a very popular family figure whose wife is positive but they have kids and have been married for yearsssss,
DeleteMake Una try dey read na
Also please peeps don't be scared to run the test, a lot of people are just afraid to take the test
It's so sad that a lot of people do not no how HIV can be contacted, and being positive dose not mean having positive children. Read educative materials, not only gossip.
DeleteYea, gifty, you're right.
DeleteI walked into the hospital and asked to be tested because my ex was advised by three different hospitals to go for the test and he refused. I even encouraged him to go for it which he still refused and me being a person that hates being ignorant or living in the dark, I took the initiative to go for it with the excuse that I'm sick(otherwise he wouldn't let me go anywhere).
Result came out positive and the nurse attending to me was encouraging me, saying it's not the end of the world and that there are far worse diseases that doesn't give one the chance of living,I said yes I know that I'm well informed on it.
Since the pharmacy was closed for the day I had to go back the following day for my medications.. that was when I broke down.. I saw my world come crashing before me.
Nurse was like, hey but you're a strong woman why this.
After that day, I just accept it and live life without the fear of it.
6 months on my result came out less than 20 copies which means I cannot infect anyone.
During that time, the mofo of a guy was calling me HIV carrier but I didn't mind him.
We parted before my 6 months test and no, that's not the reason for our parting.
2 years later guy man said he went to hospital since he wasn't feeling fine and was told it's mandatory for him to run the test, and it came out positive.
And those of you asking how and when she got infected, there is no such answers anywhere.
Tests don't show you when or how you got infected.
September will make it 7 years since I discovered I'm positive.
Sometimes I feel bad about it because there are some things I cannot do due to my status.
I cannot go into cooked food business even though I cannot transmit it I still have to apply caution.
I cannot join the military which I love with all my might.
There are limitations to it even though we live a normal life like every other person.
Bless you. Lots of ignorant stigmatizing folks out there. Stop the stigma
ReplyDeleteThank God for your wonderful husband. God will continue to strengthen you. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteYour husband is a good man. God bless him for standing by you. People assume it is wayward people that contract that, and that is sooo not true. We need to create an awareness where people are not stigmatized because of that.
ReplyDeleteCANDY
See you, you no dey shame, you had to hide to post the comment so you can deny that it wasn't you that made it. But in your comment few days ago, you were not this understanding, in fact you even agreed that the man is lying by saying he got it from clippers, but see you making excuses for the woman here even though she didn't specify how she got it. Hypocrite..
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Candy8 May 2025 at 14:06
I read a story on IG, a woman found out her husband has HIV. Said he got it through his personal clipper (hooow). Good thing is she is negative. Now he doesn't want anyone to know. She said if he can tell his brorher that she wanted to kill him, he should go ahead and tell his brother his status. She has given him a week to do so. If it was the woman that had HIV, will he stand by her? Will he be quiet about it??
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Candy8 May 2025 at 16:02
Big Mama, that is what he's saying o.
MercyBee, things dey happen.
Adaoluchi, he doesn't o.
Mom Ella, and they still have unprotected xes. I think she should tell his brother, and a trusted member from her own side.
HF, exactly.
BB darling, vey wicked act.
Anon 15:01, yea he is lying. His own clipper, not another person's own o.
Adunni darl, we already know the answer.
Anon 15:02, and probably embarrass and throw her out.
Anon 15:31, cry because of you, don't be silly. Now fcuk off!
And that was you agreeing with 15.07 that the man is lying..
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Yes, I know you don't like me, for obvious reasons,. I don't like you too for obvious reason.. fake and real, pretender and real, hypocrisy and real, light and darkness,.. so you should know I don't like you as you don't like me, you have said it various time discreetly and I dey always wonder whether you think say anything dey to like about you before or whether you just dey overrate yourself..
You and your likes disgust me.. yea, I disgust you too.. so it's equal .. rubbish hypocrite Quacks everywhere..
Dante, has the man been faithful? If not he is probably lying.
DeleteGod bless your husband for standing by you. His type is rare.
ReplyDeleteI remember when I went for antenatal for the very first time, the lady that did her test before me was summoned back after some time. And the way the nurses started being cautious, I am very sure it's because of her status.
How did you get it? Maybe a past boyfriend that probably didn’t know they had it or are you a medical Personrl? It’s a miracle your husband and child didn’t get it since you were pregnant and not receiving treatment.
ReplyDeleteWell, to answer your question, my husband has never bothered himself about how I got it. That question never came up. Maybe an ex gave me or I got exposed through other means but I have stopped disturbing myself on how I got it but focused on my well being. The child I had that year is about to enter university and we did another test for her when she changed school in her sss 2, so she's hiv free so you are all her siblings
DeleteYou married a good man. Pls share how your kids didn't contract it even though you breastfed them.
ReplyDeleteYour huzzy is a good man.
ReplyDeleteU have an angel in human form as a husband
ReplyDeleteWhere is that Quack that was trying to demonise men the other day because he was positive, and the wife is saying he should tell his family (wicked women).. shey you see how men are always matured in things..
ReplyDeleteThis is why I don't have any regards for you men haters..
Mtcheew ..
If this post was from a man, you would have seen their horns come and with evil comments everywhere, asking the man how he got it if it's not from fvckin around.. but as na woman, they'll all be mature, and if anyone wants to be stupid, they'll go anonymous..
Awon werey..
Infarct, Madam tell us how you got it since you were dating your husband for 5 years.. no whine yourself sha as Una too dey lie, na only to lie Una dey always advise Unaself here, so no worry, 'we' know how you got it, and we know you won't have handled this with maturity the way your husband did and is doing, if it was you, in fact, if he had tested positive, you would have claimed he was the one that gave you..
May God help men for Una hand
Grow up you small man
DeleteIf she shares how she contracted it does it change anything? .always whining and moaning like a pig 🐖
So she should come and explain to you how she contracted HIV because you're her husband or you're feeding her?
DeleteThe way you think so high of yourself like you have the right to tell another person's wife what to do
Please can you tell us how you got it and how your husband and especially kids didn't get it from breastfeeding and S&×. Also didn't you notice any symptoms before being diagnosed?
ReplyDeleteHers was detected on time and her CD4 count is high...Her viral load is low so she can't pass on the virus to another person....however she will be on her retrovirus medication...
DeleteHIV no dey show for face so it's not like your regular symptoms for illness
Akuna Akuna
ReplyDeleteYou married a good man
ReplyDeleteGod bless your man
ReplyDeleteSee this comment section is full of evil women yes they are the anonymouses. May God forgive you all . @poster on behalf of all this ekwensus I apologize. Tueh for you witches.
ReplyDeleteThank you poster. My younger sister is positive. She hid if from us for more than 10 years. The God factor is that her husband and children are negative. I went to get drugs for her one day through a doctor friend because she was in the village. He asked me to meet someone at the HIV unit. I could not believe what I saw. The place was jam packed with people, young and old. It was later he told me 90% of the people I saw their are positive . I look forward to thus columns.
ReplyDeleteDante o, abeg no vex, inugo.
ReplyDeleteBack to the chronicle: dear, your story isn’t just words on a screen - it’s the beating heart of what it means to survive, to be loved, and to keep going even when life tries to knock you off balance - raw, unfiltered truth. You didn’t just live through that diagnosis after you were handed a bitter fruit and turned it into living proof that HIV is not a death sentence but a different kind of syllabus - one of resilience, truth, and quiet triumph.
Your journey, as stigmatising as it may seem, exposes the gaps in medical discretion, the holes in public education, and the glaring ignorance still festering behind keyboards. And that husband of yours? That’s a human with an humane love in motion, not the fairytale kind, but the kind that holds steady when storms hit hard. He exemplifies a loyalty that isn’t just rare - it’s revolutionary in a world quick to blame, shame, condemn, and abandon.
Left to me, you owe no one an explanation for how it happened other than your loved one, except there's a lesson to it. Otherwise, ignore the mental junkyard in the comments. You're not obligated to justify your past - your present already teaches louder than speculation. What matters is the narration on how you’ve handled it: with strength, grace, and grit. Keep speaking. Keep telling the truth; it’s rewriting ignorance in real time - you’re not just educating - you’re healing the parts of others they’re too scared to show.
I smiled reading all your comments. Infact I will turn my replies into another post. check next weekend for another episode 😉
ReplyDeleteNa witches and scammers full this blog.
ReplyDeleteYour hubby is one in a million.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand. How did you get it then?
ReplyDeleteWhat's your business with how she got it?
DeleteWhat would you do with the information?
I wish I could send in my own story. Mine was filled with betrayal, I'm still healing . God bless you for sharing, I promise to share my story too one day
ReplyDeleteYou are healed in Jesus name Amen. You have a good husband, cherish him. May God continue to protect you.
ReplyDeleteYou will live a long and fulfilled life.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Why do I feel like your husband gave you this HIV. I mean, someone that tested negative can infact have hiv but due to their viral load is so low hence the -ve result. I hope he’s not been taking medications all these years without you knowing. My two cents tho.
ReplyDeleteI’m happy you’re happy dearest poster. ❤️ and 💡
Lol. Even when the man is completely innocent, you people will still find a way to rope him inside.
DeleteHow can a HIV negative person transmit the disease to someone?
What is your problem, my dear Anon 4:19?