Friday In House NEWS

 Weekend hailings!!!

FRIDAY IN HOUSE MEMO

I Hail you all......
How is everyone doing? I hope you are calm? stay calm!!!

As for you (You know yourself) mentioning you will be giving you too much important but just know that your format doesn't work anymore with me,If i can stop watching Zeeone, know that i can ignore your nonentity status... LMAO!!!

I am making spag jollof with lotsa shrimps and minced beef but will take porridge cos i cant really chew until the stitches on my gum comes off next week....I feel like ordering for pomo and chicken wings peppered stew but that will be next week......

Teejay and shootergal, there is no need to fight OK? If you both cant comment in peace here then ignore and avoid each other...And to those who tried hard to put more kerosene in the burning brouhaha yesterday, stop wasting your time cos the comment wont fly.....Where is OshodiDSS sef? person no dey see you when e need you.......

 Please comment and let others comment.......

Enjoy the rest of the day and stay loving and loved......

See ya in the night post...

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD

When I was in primary two, my parents changed my school to a new school. I remember my first day in the new school. I was ushered in the proprietor's office. I was nervous and standing so close to my dad. The owner/ proprietor was a woman in her fifties.

The first thing that struck me about her was her hair. It was full of white, grey, and gold mix.
The colours just blended together in a beautiful way. She was wearing a gold coloured gown, and her skin glowed. Plus, she just had this very strong and confident aura that I wasn’t used to. Or it was just my first time noticing a strong and confident woman.
That encounter sparked my love for white/ grey hair. As a child, I will put white powder in a portion of my hair like the Late Onyeka Onwenu. In my twenties, when I started having friends with white/ grey hair that they hated for greying prematurely and would dye it. I prayed for it to be me and couldn’t understand why they hated it.
Given how long it took my parents' hair to go grey/ white, I knew I might not have mine come in early, but I was still hopeful. I love how Mrs Ibukun Awosika rocks her grey hair.
Anyway recently, I was combing my hair, and I noticed two grey/ white strands at the front. I squealed in delight and announced to all and sundry that my grey/white hair was growing in at last.
Though I suspect that mine is stress induced but it’s still a win for me. I am protecting my white/ grey hair because it’s right around my edges and can easily break off due to strain. I am looking into the mirror more these days just to check if it’s still there, and I pray it grows in more rapidly.

Hahahahahahahahah enjoy your grey hair ooooooooooooo....My real hair color is actually brown cos i have albino genes that are in the closet...Howver the first time i saw golden brown hiar eh i nearly fainted.....Thinking back now, it was so beautiful but abeg i color am comot ......Enjoy yours abeg...LOL

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THE TABLE 

I used to wonder why some ladies get so annoyed when a man asks, “What do you bring to the table?”

But the truth is… most men aren’t looking for a debate or a list of achievements. What they really mean is this:

---“Can you bring peace into my life?”
---- “Can you help build a peaceful, loving home?”

Because no matter how strong or successful a man is, when he comes home, he’s not looking for war—he’s looking for rest. 
So instead of being offended by the question, let’s understand the heart behind it. Sometimes, the real table a man is asking about is filled with peace, support, and genuine companionship.

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17 HABITS THAT SHOWS YOUR MARRIAGE IS NOT GREAT

Sometimes, we do have a fake assessment of our marriage. Some think their marriages are doing very great, but the truth is their marriages are very poor and not progressive.
Here let us examine some habits in your marriage that show it's not great.

1. YOU GO TO BED AT DIFFERENT TIMES
One simple thing, but very important, is the couple lying down to sleep together. You may have different work schedules and studies, but it is worth struggling to maintain this habit.
Sometimes the day is so tumultuous, that the only time the couple has to stay together, to know how each other’s day was, to hug and caress each other is bedtime. And it’s so good to sleep together with the loved one!

2. YOU LOVE YOUR JOBS MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE

This is a bad habit. Your job comes first in your heart and you don't care whatever happens to your spouse. You never remember that you will leave that office one day, no matter how good you are on the job.

3. YOU HAVE TWO FACES
You are your best when at work laughing, jesting, and making everybody happy. However, you are something else at home. If your children take cover whenever you arrive at your home, it’s a sign that your marriage is not great.

4. YOU FEEL AT HOME AT WORK BUT FEEL AT WORK AT HOME
You never wish to go home after work; you do feel at home at work, but your home is like a war zone to you; you detest it. If nothing makes you rush back home after work then something is wrong with your marriage.

5. YOU SLEEP IN DIFFERENT ROOMS
You have Daddy's and Mummy's room. You don't sleep in the same room. No matter your reasons for it something is just not right in your marriage.

6. YOU LOVE YOUR SIBLINGS AND PARENTS MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE
Your siblings and parents come first in your heart. To you, they are more valuable than your spouse. It's a sign that you are getting something wrong in that marriage.

7. YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE
It is common to see parents putting their children first in all situations, and loving them more than their spouse. This behaviour does not seem wrong, does it? But the truth is that this weakens marriage in a gigantic way.
At first, it was just the both of you. You both courted and married each other eventually. You were the most important people to each other. Then came the children, they grew up, and then started their own families too. This is how it shall be from generation to generation
The most important union we make in this life is in marriage. Your spouse should be the most important person to you. Your children are the fruits of your love, and in order for the fruits to grow and remain good, love must be nourished. When your children get married, it will be you and your spouse again, just as it was in the beginning.

8. YOU TALK, BUT YOU DON'T DISCUSS
Everything is resolved through dialogue. At work, in the family, in social life and especially in marriage, everything is resolved through discussion and dialogue. When dialogue is missing, the discoveries will end, the misunderstandings will come and you will not be able to resolve issues because you simply did not talk.
You will have different goals and you will make different plans for the future because you do not dialogue anymore. Listen, speak, solve, meet the person who shares your life with you, this is indispensable for a successful marriage.

9. YOU TALK AT EACH OTHER, YOU DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER
Talking at each other involves blame game, accusation, counter-accusation, finger-pointing, shouting, abusive words, name-calling, slander, curses, etc. If you do any of these, then you have a poor marriage.
Talking to each other involves dialogue, discussion, listening, clarifications, effective communications, praise and appreciation. If this is what you are doing you have a great marriage.

10. THERE ARE HIDDEN PURCHASES
You may not realize it, but doing “hidden shopping” weakens your marriage. And you know the name of this attitude? Financial infidelity. That’s right, you’re cheating on your spouse. When you keep hiding money and shop without the other knowing, you demonstrate that you do not trust your spouse and that your spouse is not worthy of your trust.
I know this is very strong, but it’s real. A relationship is made of trust, of delivery, and of truth. If you hide, it’s because you know it’s wrong, and if it’s wrong, why keep doing it? ...Please go and sit down there!!!...I do hidden purshcases well well and not today!

11. YOU ARE CARELESS WITH YOUR APPEARANCE
Years of marriage may pass, but your care of appearance should not pass. At the time of the courtship, there was preparation for the meeting, wasn't it? Bathing, fingernails and clean clothes, hair combed … and now, have you done it? The conquest continues, it does not stop.
Our exterior demonstrates what is inside us. If the hair is unkempt, surely something is messed up inside as well.

12. YOU DON'T TRUST EACH OTHER

I cannot imagine how a person can marry someone he/she does not trust. This seems to be out of the question. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. As long as you do not trust your spouse, he will not trust you as you will never feel secure in each other; and you will always be fighting over the causes of this evil.

13. YOU COMPLAIN OR NAG
It’s so much easier to complain than to act, isn't it? Everything seems bad, unsatisfactory, and insufficient; everything seems to have defects and so on. You miss great opportunities to be happy because you have been taking the time to complain about what is not good. This behaviour becomes a habit, an addiction, and it is not at all easy to abandon this custom.
You complain that your husband does not help with household chores, but when he helps you, you find faults in what he did. You complain that your wife is not looking after her appearance, but when she goes to the beauty salon, you complain about the time she spent there and the money you spent.
Try to see the positive things. In everything there is opposition, even in bad situations, there is something good.

14. YOU REPORT YOUR SPOUSE TO OUTSIDERS
You have this bad attitude of reporting your spouse to every dick and harry that cares to listen. While it's a sign of immaturity, it's also a sign that something is wrong with your marriage.

15. YOU LUST AFTER OTHER MEN OR WOMEN
To you, other women or men are better than your spouse. Some even imagine sleeping with other people out there thinking they are by far better than their spouses.

16. YOU ARE NOT LOYAL TO EACH OTHER
Many husbands and wives are not loyal to each other. They talk ills of each other when their spouses are not there, but pretend all is well when they see each other. They do many things at the back of each other that are really bad but cover it up with fake care and love.

17. YOU DON'T GIVE S-_X A PRIORITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE
When s--x is not given its rightful place in marriage, it is a sign something terrible is happening in that home. S--x is the lubricant of marriage; s--x is the cement of matrimony. When it becomes a chore or source of discord in a marriage, it’s a sign that something is really wrong.

Remember: One of our missions as a couple is to become our marriage so great. These are the best tips for us to eliminate those unnecessary things and let us learn and make our marriage so great. God bless us all.

I dont agree with some of these, like numbers 1, 7 et al

Do you agree with all?


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TEARY STORY

She Adopted 5 Boys Nobody Wanted — 27 Years Later, They Did Something She Never Expected
Gloria Adebayo was 35 when life tested her strength. After five years of marriage and multiple failed fertility treatments, her husband walked away — no explanation, just a short note on the kitchen table:
“I can’t do this anymore. I’m sorry.”

The silence that followed was deafening. Gloria battled loneliness, shame, and the heavy weight of dreams unfulfilled. But she wasn’t the kind of woman to stay down for long.

In 1997, during a volunteer shift at a local child welfare center in Lagos, she met a set of brothers — five boys, all under the age of 10, abandoned by their relatives after the death of their parents. No one wanted to adopt them because they came as a group. And so, they stayed… waiting.
Something in Gloria’s heart stirred.

She didn’t have the resources. She didn’t have a husband. But she had love — so much love, and she knew it wasn’t meant to stay locked up in her heart.

One by one, she brought them home. First Segun, then Tunde, then the twins, Ikenna and Ifeanyi, and finally, baby Chuka. Raising them wasn’t easy — there were hospital visits, school fees, tears, and teenage drama. But there was also laughter, dancing in the rain, and Sunday mornings filled with jollof rice and gospel music.

Years passed. The boys grew. 

One became a civil engineer. Another started a non-profit. One moved abroad and became a teacher. Two others joined the police force. But they all remained close to home… and close to Mama Gloria.

In December 2024, on her 62nd birthday, they gathered in her small compound — and surprised her with a key.
A brand-new house....built by all five of them.
“We know you never had much,” Segun said, holding her trembling hands. “But you gave us everything. You gave us a home when we were forgotten. And now, it’s our turn.”
Gloria couldn’t speak. The woman who once cried herself to sleep wondering if she’d ever be called “Mama” now sat surrounded by five grown men calling her “The greatest mother in the world.”
She didn’t just adopt five boys.
She raised five kings.
Written by Rosyworld CRN

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WEIRDFACTS

-----Convincing yourself you slept well can trick your brain into thinking it did, giving you more energy
It's known as "placebo sleep"

-----You’re not truly comfortable with someone until you can sit with them in silence, and it’s not awkward.

-----People are more likely to focus and pay attention when soft music is playing in the background.

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