Do you agree with what he said? Well.........I dont!
Sunday, May 25, 2025
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Okay nice thought
ReplyDeletePower hungry powerless in real life insecure inferior weak promiscuous characterless zero personality kangs desperate for control don’t deserve a family as they are emotional black holes that spread trauma
DeletePower hungry powerless in real life insecure inferior weak promiscuous characterless zero personality kangs desperate for control don’t deserve a family as they are emotional black holes that spread trauma
DeleteChauvinist can't really understand,that submissions comes naturally,when loved rightly. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteBloggy..
DeleteI'm sorry, but I don't think this your stance is right.
Loving rightly and submission should come naturally when you accept to be in a relationship with someone. Not waiting for one person to do something first,. This your stance is not sustainable, cos the equal of it is for a man to also say loving rightly comes naturally when a lady submits.. so who go come do first?🤔
Hope you understand what I'm saying..
Happy Sunday
Gbam
DeleteNothing to add!
DeleteHusband man no be leader so I no gree follow
DeleteWife woman no be follower so In gree lead again
And the circle goes on.
Unfortunately for men, only they have a name for not leading well - Deadbeat.
Every woman should know that submission is in marriage, that word "submission " shouldn't be strange for any woman.
Delete@Dante, the man go do first. The Bible says husbands love your wives before saying wives submit to your husbands. If Kingsley Okonkwo says the husband is first a leader, then he should lead in all things including loving the wife first. If women are the weaker vessels, the stronger vessels should lead by example while the weaker vessels emulate. When you set the pace, love your wife right, submission won't be a topic of discussion.
DeleteUngodly men without fear of GOD also claim this for their worthless selfish parasitic purposes
DeleteLoving sacrificially as Christ loved the church , means nothing to empty unqualified men who don’t know what true leadership is but only parasitically want the benefits but not the responsibilities of leadership.
Do the so called men behave like leaders? If they behave like leaders they will be seen as leaders. So when they behave like loser's should they be automatically called leaders?
ReplyDeleteand she is what oooo?
ReplyDeletesee autocratic husband...This is why some men go astray cuz the see themselves as the all in all not knowing that, God who created them as our help mate knew we can go astray due to our ego, so, he created them and every man has a woman who will help shape him to a better person, father and role model except for few women who tend to be a knife and a devil
For men na 'some' you use, meaning like 50/50 ratio..
DeleteBut for woman na 'few' you use meaning like 20/70 ratio..
Using this blog alone to judge, is it 'few' or 'most' that are knife and devils ehn madam Pink.. may God help you ma, cos I'm still trying to understand the reason behind these your moves and I never really know yet
Calling him madam pinky doesn’t make you seem more masculine, you are actually a petty and emotionally unintelligent man
DeleteI agree with him 100%
ReplyDeleteTotally, but I will rather follow a leader who is intentional, kind, purposeful and has learnt how to serve...one who is ready to love me to the point of laying down his life for me..now that is a leader!
Deletelike you and how you say your mind.👍
DeleteGbam Gbamest
DeleteI like you eh.
DeleteThis pastor made his name and fame by "capturing female audience".
ReplyDeleteNdi otu Solomon buchi and co
DeleteNa wetin woman want.
DeleteAs she never liked to hear truth since from Eden.
The other day one post say she immediately fall in love as the man tell same na woman him family dislike he want as wife.
Why?
She say that means the man go keep him family away from their marital home?
When u are married to a man that wants to be your partner and not ur leader, you don’t know what God has done for you!
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this comment, even the bible said two shall become one
DeleteAwww,😘 Nekky Nwannem happy Sunday 🥰
DeleteYou are blessed jaree
I believe the partnership is leading in love
DeleteEven in partnerships there is a leader. That leader partner is usually called the "Managing Partner".
DeleteAnd there are different types of partnerships - Limited partners, equal powers and profit sharing partners, unequal powers partners, equal power but unequal profit sharing partners, etc.
Let everybody choose the type of partnership that works the best for each and both in marriage.
Exactly!
DeleteOh yes they 'ought' to be, but the men these days are nothing short of leaders, I want to follow a leader who knows how to serve, because the same book you use to emphasize your words, also says that a leader is one who has learnt how to serve and how to lay down their lives for others..show me one such man in the Nigerian society and I will show you how possible it is for a camel to go through the eye of a needle!
ReplyDeleteYou have highlighted the kingdom of God prescription of leadership. Unfortunately, despite the high percentage of Christianty in Nigeria, the society still falls below God’s standard. This is because majority of us only worship God with our lips but our heart is far from God.
DeleteThe men these days are baby's not leaders. Simple.
Delete12:49
DeleteThey are not babies, babies are not malicious, manipulative , destructive and evil
Well, he's first my friend before any other thing.
ReplyDeleteI don't agree with him abeg.
Cynthia isi gini 🙄
DeleteOkoo your thought though 😘
Why won't I be able to hear it? I'll tell you. You think I wouldn't because it appears you don't have the slightest inkling of what being a leader entails, and if most of you men knew, you would not keep drumming it into women's ears every seven market days.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how it's garnished, at the end of the day, a leader is just a servant in disguise. Drawing from the example of Jesus Christ, he was a leader, but look at what he did: washing his disciples' feet. He fasted and prayed more than all of them, leading by example and showing great strength and resilience, thereby earning respect and admiration without even trying, enforcing it, or demanding it, or having to remind them who he was. As if that wasn't enough, then he gave the ultimate sacrifice and laid down his life so they could live.
From his actions, they instantly knew he is no ordinary king worthy of adoration, admiration, and never ending worship.
Judging from how the pastor said it, you can tell he perceives leadership as a display of power, and he is speaking from an angle of autocratic leadership. Otherwise, he would know it is a huge responsibility, a life of service, humility, and sacrifice, and nothing so alluring to remind anyone about because even you, as a man, do not want to be reminded of that position, and a woman does not need to be told because you exemplify what can never be ignored.
I am not saying a man isn't a leader in his home, he is alright, but a democratic leader only and not an autocratic one. A true leader, deep down, knows that beyond the feel-good feeling being called a leader brings, the foundation of a beautiful union thrives on collaboration, a joint decision-making process that involves utmost consideration for both parties involved and enough room for the expression of opinions, because a wife is a partner and not a follower with a sheep mentality.
Judging from your comment, you are the person importing into what he said in plain words.
Delete@Gaby, a leader is truly a servant in disguise! Those who clamor for leadership positions and want to lead by all means are doing it for selfish purposes. After being appointed to lead in an organization sometime ago, it opened my eyes to the true realities of being a leader. I made so much sacrifices and realized I was actually the servant. I sometimes envied the people I was leading because of the workload. I did all the strategizing, while they went about their personal activities.
DeleteSame way, being the leader as a husband is a lot of responsibility. It's not enough to feel powerful. The true responsibilities of being the leader in the home is a lot. Even Jesus Christ Said "If it is possible, let this cup pass from me" signifying the huge responsibility of leading the Church.
12:35 I inferred all that from his comment, "I want to tell you women something you might not like..."
Deletepray tell, why does he believe calling a husband what he simply is would bother anyone? Why does he think any woman would find the term 'leader' displeasing, if not because he feels the usage of that term would make them feel subservient?
I doubt he would say "Men, I am sorry to tell you something you may not like, but your wife is your helper before she is your lover..." I doubt he would reason along those lines, that men would find such a truthful comment offensive.
I honestly feel he expects women to be upset only because he believes the word 'leader' is so nerve-racking for women, and to me, it is due to the fact that he subconsciously associates it with unbridled power, unquestioned authority, and a sense of control, hence the reason he expects women to be displeased.
I seldom feel a lot of men feel the same way too. Else, why do I see many men recite the uncontested phrase, "A man is the head of a home," like a canary in a coal mine?
And I am thinking to myself "Okay, what's so special about that?" Except they have an entirely different understanding or an unspoken version of leadership we women have no idea about. I just don't see a husband being a leader first, as something worthy of eliciting displeasure from women, still, some of these 'leaders' won't fail to recite these unnecessary reminders with so much bravado and gusto.
Thank you, Deheroine! I hold exactly the same feelings regarding the entire leadership matter. You understood me perfectly.
DeleteI hope you have been doing great. 💛
Leadership is by example, isnt it?If he leads me well, why not🤷
ReplyDeleteLeader leader leader leader leader leader leader leader leader leader leader
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You ehn!
DeleteIf you cannot allow yourself to be led by a man then do not enter the relationship.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes.. leading is done in love by standard.
"If you cannot allow yourself to be led by a man then do not enter the relationship."
DeleteCase closed.
Just these N.B.:
Marriage is largely no longer by compulsion/force, especially for the caliber of the women who who visit this blog. So, why do they always cry over posts like this one?
Well, maybe the caliber is all faux and pretense hence all the back and forth over this well settled matter.
You guys generally are clear on not marrying poor or poorer men. So why is it hard to say no to a man who lacks your standard of husband leadership?
Anyways, we all know the answer.
Hmmm!
ReplyDeleteThat’s true. The man is supposed to be the leader and spiritual head of the family. But sadly women are the ones doing it now.
ReplyDeleteI’m indifferent tbh
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I believe friendship is the foundation on which emotional attachment connects. So, I slightly disagree with the statement. We often get caught up in the question of who should lead and who should follow in a relationship, forgetting that some are natural-born leaders while others don’t even have a trait of leadership in them.
ReplyDeleteWhere there’s genuine connection and intention, these are things that naturally sit themselves out and mutually interplayed and managed as life throws her curve balls. And as if power is a prize to be won in a walk that was defined to evoke the neutrality of love in all its ramifications. Leadership is more about serving and less about authority and coercion.
Perhaps we’re asking the wrong question. Because real strength doesn’t come from the guise of control; it comes from care. It’s not about who takes charge of what and at what point - it’s about how we treat each other when no one’s watching. Respect, emotional safety, and honesty are the things that quietly hold everything together.
So instead of fixating on roles or hierarchies, maybe we should focus on connection. On listening deeply. On understanding the other person's perspectives and the instruments that informed it. On creating a space where both people feel safe to be soft and strong at the same time, interchangeably. That’s where the real magic happens - not in the structure, but in the substance.
In the end, the healthiest dynamic isn’t about who’s ahead or behind - it’s about walking side by side. With grace. With direction. With clarity. With a common goal. And with the kind of respect that doesn’t need a title to stand tall, or make demands to be present. A health union is built on empathy and kindness, where the man's strength complements the woman’s weakness, and her strength holds up the man's weakness.
I guess women are incomplete beings who cannot guide themselves in life and need men to be their leaders. Imagine giving birth and nourishing the being who will one day look at you and tell you that they are your leader and superior😂
ReplyDeleteI strongly agree if we are saying we are all Christians and following the Bible
ReplyDeleteThen the man should be responsible for your sins too. On judgment day will your leader be answering for you? Imagine having a leader who knows he doesn’t have to do any training to be an effective leader nor will he ever have to answer for his leadership neither on earth nor in heaven, all he has to do is to be born a certain way, that is not freedom but bondage.
DeleteGod is about freedom. Look around, everything is free and has a consciousness that is designed to be free and thrive in freedom. If you need a leader it means you lack the capacity to govern yourself, it means you are lesser than that man spiritually, and in all other ways. Yet, God’s decree that you must answer for your own sins is God telling you that He sees you as being 100% equal to the man and will be judged as an equal to him. Follow God!
Sorry I do not submit. Whoever has the most knowledge on a particular issue leads on it. This marriage is a partnership QED
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