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Saturday, July 19, 2025

‎Actor IK Ogbonna Explains Why There Are Problems In African Marriages

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 "Many African men are raised to lead but not always taught how to lead with a woman who can lead too.‎
‎Many women especially those who have built their own are taught to protect their independence but not always taught how to be vulnerable without feeling small.

‎So what starts as love becomes a power struggle not because they don't love each other but because no one taught them how to love each other's strength without feeling threatened.

‎This is the root of so many unspoken fights, resentment, distance, ego wars and sadly many never talk about it they just drift.

‎One of the most untalked about issues in modern marriages especially among African men and powerful issues is the silent battle for identity and control.

‎It doesn't always start as conflict infact it begins with admiration. He is drawn to her strength she is attracted to his confidence.

‎But somewhere along the line unconsciously ego meets ego
‎Pride meets independence ‎Culture meets ambition"




25 comments:

  1. Very deep observed word.πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

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  2. Word on marble πŸ‘

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  3. I agree with him πŸ’―
    African men especially naija men are threatened by successfully women. Even when married, some of them are envious of the success of their wives and the wife on the other hand won't want to be a pushover.

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    1. It’s a global phenomenon.

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    2. Nigerian men at all levels are DEEPLY INSECURE

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  4. Mehn!!! You are so on point IkπŸ™Œ

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  5. They jonse.
    God's instructions is simple.
    The women are the one defaulting because they lack understanding.

    Men should always try to end up with women that are genuinely their help meet.
    Every man has a woman who is genuinely interested in him to see him attain that kinship status and is willing to honor him.
    That's the kinda women men should go after.
    Men you have no business marrying a lady you know is not of a help meet to you genuinely.

    All these ladies complaining they all have one man in their life time they genuinely sincerely love and would gladly be a help meet too...what's then the issue ?

    When you wana see someone succeed you help ...support be a source of strength and pillar to the person.wihtiut grumbling and all.
    God created women to be a help meet and to nature until they understand this I all humility problems go dey

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    1. All nonsense. Everything you said is rubbish πŸ—‘

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    2. Is it possible, that I can help man, whilst holding my own too, without making him feel small?

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    3. That term help meet has been used to vilify women from the dawn of time. The unrealistic expectations some men have of their wife, may as well they just marry their mother.

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    4. Submitting one to another
      Leading sacrificially
      Clapping and being supportive of her wins

      ARE BIBLE BASED
      Oppressive and sabotaging men are not following the Bible

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    5. @13:10
      "Is it possible, that I can help man, whilst holding my own too, without making him feel small?"

      Yes!
      The key is in your both hands even from your question.
      It is the woman holding her own and helping a man who can make the man small if the man wants to be made small.

      However, marriage generally appears to be mostly a sacrifice or more of a sacrifice by one of the partners. Hence we see on this blog and most places that those who praise their partners the most cannot or do not say what they do or did to make their partners so good. They only talk about getting, receiving or freedoms given by their spouses

      Unless treated and done as a hard cold nose business arrangement, marriage is mostly a funny and very nearly phony arrangement. Unfortunately, there is not much of the so called "fun" in it when it is done in cold blood.

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    6. Well said @11:15

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  6. The guy is intelligent sha. Forget. He writes so well. This is the 2nd time i am reading his write up here. The first was a little over a month ago.

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    1. That's if he's not copying from somewhere not known.

      Carefully observed but that Holy Bible verses about submission and love, no matter how we coin marriage issue to be, those verses summarised it all.

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  7. lol. His wife is as submissive as they come. So wetin happen

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  8. When you hear stories of spouses jealous of each other, competing with each other it just boggles the mind. Unfortunately, for many such wisdom only come after they made their own marriage mistakes. Marriage classes don’t go so deep.

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  9. Honestly, I agree with him.
    It's all about being insecure on both sides.

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  10. πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘πŸ‘ nice write up



    WE MOVE!!

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  11. Coming from someone that has treated women very poorly plus abandoned his first child. No child supports

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  12. I agree with him

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