Chronicle Of A Happily Divorced Woman -Part 2

What!!!!...Dead?

Before that week was over, I began to get calls from my long time friends. People I have long not seen or spoken to, extended families, school friends. What was happening?

I didn’t know this man was messaging my friends on Facebook and WhatsApp to narrate our failed marriage. 

My God! 

He was telling them I was a bad wife and badly trained from home and he needed to teach me a lesson. That I left our marriage to go after other men, because I could not stay in one place. 

I was shocked!

 I then realized why he quickly sent friend requests to some of my friends when we newly got engaged and they were now his friends on Facebook. Some were asking if I was fine, some asked who so so and so is? My very close friends asked me why he was disgracing me that way. 

I just told them to ignore him. 

He saw a brother in my former church and told him I was a wh#re going after men for money and sleeping with my bosses at work. The brother said he completely ‘washed’ him, called him a big liar that all the years he has known me I was the opposite of all his lies.

Then, I sent him ‘Federal’ warning that if he doesn’t desist from slandering my name, he will be arrested. Look at me badly bruised and still licking my badly scarred wounds, trying to cater for our young kids without a father and having to deal with these embarrassments?

That was not enough for him, he started another barrage of insults to my family members. He would use different unknown numbers to call and curse them. Told my brothers that none of them could stand where he is. 

He Sent them evil messages and called them in the middle of the night. I trust my sisters to give him woto woto everytime but we later advised ourselves that it was best to ignore him. Na me all of dem dey ask where I for see this kind person. Lol.

I can laugh now, what I went through? Those years were torture.

He refused sending money for the kid’s care. And when the older one started school, I told him, he did not respond.

 So I took him to court. With the help of a Sister group, I got pro bono legal services from one of my sister’s law firm. We were going to court for almost 7 months pre and post Covid 19 before the Magistrate court finally mandated him to pay monthly upkeep for the kids. 

Still he still wasn’t paying. 

And we went back to court, many times he refused to show up. When he got court orders, he finally did and pleaded that he does not have a job anymore. Then they told him to pay me some amount of money non-negotiable for all the troubles I have been going through.

We were still filing for care of the kids when this man went about reporting me to my uncles and god parents that I took him to court and they put him in jail. I was not surprised anymore and neither were my uncles.

Pro bono cases are not free forever. I still needed to pay for one or two things and the court sessions were draining me physically and mentally. Since I couldn’t keep up financially and he was still claiming jobless (he does contract work), I later filed for custody of the kids.

Since then till date there has been no upkeep from him for the kids. His mum visits us occasionally and brings the little she has for the kids. His sisters and some of his friends still call to check up on us once in awhile.

The last message I sent him was at the beginning of a new school session. Expenses were choking me, kids needed new uniforms, bags, books, shoes etc those were aside school fees, medicals, food name them.

So I called him.

And he told me to stop calling him that he was dead! Jesus! What am I hearing?.