Friday In House News...

 Weekend Hailings!!!!

FRIDAY MEMO

I Hope that we are all OK? I am fine and doing great.......

I will pick ten names randomly from the comment section at the end of today and gift them 10k each.......

Have a nice weekend and stay hydrated.

Dont forget to drop your advert in the comment section....

My Madam Sandra please sorry for the late posting too many phone calls today abeg...

Hugs to all...

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MEMO TO BV XP

I wanna drop this memo here to you BV XP,please dont drop the kind of comment you dropped for me again yesterday...Dont ever think i fear you like you implied..I dont fear you but i know when to stop...I know the boundaries between respect and disrespect and i know when to apply both......

When i am not talking DO NOT think i fear you....Please drop messages for me respectfully and i will reply with same....Thank you for the tips you dropped yesterday but the shades were not necessary at all....And you implied someone is after me to bring down my blog...let me laugh.......If it you or anyone else, let them try, the day you succeed is the day God will show you that i am the apple of his eyes, I dont boast, I know WHO i am and I know WHAT i am........I am sure that you also have your spiritual gifts, DONT MESS WITH MINE or undermine it OK?.........

I needed to put this out here cos i could not send you a private email since you are yet to publish the ones you threatened to publish and I am still waiting....

Lastly can you refer me to your ID card where it is written that you name is Nne Internet rat? So anytime i use the word Nne must it be you? Come on please!

OK i change the name to Nne Cyberrat...You are no longer the mum of IR.

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 INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD 

I have always been vocal about bullying, how I want to raise my kids to not be bullies and stand up for themselves against bullying. Recently, in the rare moments, I could hear my own thoughts without being drowned out by the non-stop chippings of my little cuties.

I realised that my first bullying and that of so many people I have come in contact with was right there in our homes, our parents. Now I love my parents a lot and appreciate all they have done for me. But they were my first bullies, and I share similar experience with a lot of people. 

Its almost a cultural thing for the average Nigerian parent to bully their kids before you come for me, think back a little, and try to remember your childhood . See if we have shared experiences. For example, I was beating for being too slow, and then when I tried to be too fast, I was beating for that too. I walked on eggshells around my parents and quickly learnt to read their mood once they were in the house so I could avoid doing anything that could warrant being hit or berated. 

I am not talking of being disciplined for bad behaviour but knowing at a young age that nothing could really please the adults in your life, so you had to be quick thinking  or get the short end of the stick. 

The constant  comparison to other people’s children. “ The why can’t you be like so and so” she is so calm and poise, but you hmnn” was something I heard constantly. 

Compliments were hardly dished out, but criticism was flowing freely like a river.

 I never felt beautiful because I constantly heard things like your nose is too big for your face, your lips are just too wide, and your ears are too small .Your sisters are the pretty ones. You talk too much and many more.

When I share this topic with my friends, it saddens my heart to know that I even had it way way easier with my parents. Some of them were told by their parents from early in life that they would never be successful or even amount to anything meaningful in life over little disagreement where their rights were being trampled on and any attempt to be vocal about it was seen as disrespect or defiance. 

The physical, emotional, verbal, and mental abuse meted out all in the name of discipline has left many of us grappling with our self-esteem and trying to build and heal the inner child. If you didn’t experience this lucky you, to those who did a huge hug to you. 

I pray you find healing and wholesomeness and break the cycle. Please let’s watch the words we speak over these little ones, we are so blessed to be guardians over and let watch our actions, too. Being compassionate, kind, sensitive, and empathetic towards our children is not a sign of weakness. Its love.

Mine was not verbal abuse,it was worse, ..... it was CANE!.....I am a very stubborn person and the more i was flogged the more i disobeyed.....I told my dad he would get tired of flogging me and oh boy did i get flogged? Hmmmmmm my dad even used to flog me with cutlass and i would be using my hand to block it so that it doesnt cut me...To him that was discipline...One day he flogged me so much that in that instant moment i felt nothing again,my back was bloodied and my eyes at him in a way that frightened him.....My eyes were dry and my shoulders were high.....That was the last day he used his cane on me or anyone else.....

May everyone who is carrying a hurt or a scar from being disciplined find closure.....I have found my closure long before my Dad passed, i brought up a convo with him and he apologised and told him me what a wonderful person i am and how blessed he is to have me as his child.......Words can heal....

If you are a parent who has hurt your child, apologise and help them heal

Or if you are a child who was hurt, bring up the convo with them.

Stop bleeding on others with your hurt...

Pheeeeew!....Emotional topic!

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15 REASONS WHY A WOMAN WITH A HIGH BODY COUNT IS A DANGEROUS CHOICE FOR MARRIAGE

This isn’t about political correctness. It’s about reality. A woman’s past matters. You’re not here to marry headaches, emotional baggage, and future liabilities. You’re building a legacy — and you need to be ruthless about who qualifies to stand beside you.

Let’s get into it:

1• SHE WILL ALWAYS COMPARE YOU TO OTHER MEN

No matter how good you are, she’ll stack you up against ghosts from her past. And the more men she’s been with, the worse it gets.

2• SHE’S CONFUSED AND DOESN’T KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS

Every partner leaves a mark. Too many marks? She’s emotionally scattered, directionless, and unstable for commitment.

3• SHE CAN’T BE S*XUALLY SATISFIED

Variety breeds appetite. And appetite breeds dissatisfaction. You’ll never be enough — and that frustration breeds infidelity.

4• LIKELY TO HAVE HAD MULTIPLE AB*RTIONS
Emotional baggage isn’t just stories — it’s trauma. Silent guilt or indifference to life is a landmine for any marriage.

5• SHE’S PROBABLY STILL IN TOUCH WITH HER EXES

Whether for closure, validation, or options — those invisible competitors keep your relationship in a permanent warzone.

6• SHE CAN’T PAIR BOND PROPERLY

The ability to emotionally attach wears down with each partner. By the time she gets to you, it’s often gone.

7• SHE CARRIES BROKENNESS AND BAGGAGE

Multiple failed relationships stack up emotional debris. Guess who’ll clean up the mess? You.

8• SHE’S CONDITIONED TO BOUNCE

When things get hard, she runs. It’s her default setting. Stability feels foreign to her.

9• SHE THINKS YOU’RE REPLACEABLE

A woman spoiled by options and attention won’t see value in loyalty. She believes there’s always better around the corner.

10• SHE’S ENTITLED AND UNGRATEFUL

Too much validation from random men makes her think the world owes her everything. Your genuine effort won’t impress her.

11• SHE HAS NO SHAME IN STARTING OVER

Leaving a good man to chase fleeting thrills is second nature. Reset buttons mean nothing to her.

12• SHE CAN’T SUBMIT TO ORDER OR STRUCTURE

Feminine chaos thrives in instability. Too many past partners build rebellious, defiant habits.

13• SHE SEES MARRIAGE AS A PRIZE, NOT A RESPONSIBILITY

She’s more interested in the wedding, photos, and title — not the work.

14• HIGH RISK OF S*XUAL DEVIANCY OR ADDICTION

Too many past sēxual experiences warp desires. She’ll either crave what you can’t give or get bored too fast.

15• SHE’S LIKELY TO DIVORCE YOU

Facts don’t lie. Study after study proves high body count = higher divorce rates. It’s not shaming, it’s survival intelligence.

FINAL WARNING:
Marriage isn’t charity work. It’s a legacy move. You’re not here to rescue someone from their past. You’re here to build a dynasty. Vet ruthlessly. Ignore society’s lies. A woman’s past is a blueprint for your future with her. Read it well — or pay for it later.
Same applies to men too. Character counts on both sides. But you as a man carry the burden of leadership, provision, and legacy. Choose who qualifies wisely.

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In Nigeria must write ups are unbalanced and not fair on women at all.....I read the other day a writeup talking about women being olosho's and forgetting that nowadays men are more oloshos than women and they are also transactional...

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WEIRDFACTS

----The constant fear of death or losing someone you love is called Thantophobia.

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