My instincts were right after all
I’m the one who posted about my boyfriend giving his ex-wife 200k for her birthday saying he was only being nice.
This man after avoiding me for a while has ended our relationship.
Relationship of almost a year, and now I’m pregnant and 34 years old. What am I supposed to do.
He said he and his wife have decided to reconcile and he wants to do the right thing for her and his family.
This was a man that told me he wasn’t happy in their marriage, that her leaving him was the best thing. What will happen to my own child now? Yes I know he was separated, but he assured me they were moving forward with the divorce.
What is wrong with you? You fell for his lies hook, line and sinker!...Even some married men return to their wives talkless of the ones estranged...why did you not protect yourself? Did you discuss getting pregnant with him? You have no right to get pregnant without a mans consent.....
Imagine him ending the relationship....
Looks like it was the woman who walked away and now he is trying to make it right?
Well, you have no choice but to keep the preggy.....
You got pregnant for a man who had not yet divorced his wife?
ReplyDeleteAt your age I expected you to be more careful.
Well, you are now a single mum .
Have your baby and take care of him or her
Just accept full responsibility for your action and take accountability for once. Congratulations to the man and his wife for putting their children first and savaging their marriage. Your child is your own blessing. Congratulations too.
DeleteWho has the link to the former story?
ReplyDeletePls someone should paste the link to the first chronicle
ReplyDeletePlease KEEP that baby. Count your loss and move on. I hope you have a job/business?
ReplyDeleteBeat yourself up if you want, cry as much as you want and pick yourself One thing you should not do is regret that pregnancy.... that's your blessing right there.
That man lied and decieved you, that's not your fault.
Tell him you are pregnant and move on. Do not touch that pregnancy, inugo?
Separation is not divorce. I wouldn’t even support any woman to marry a divorced man cos all of them are bad. No African woman will leave a good man.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was single I met one and he told me his ex wife said in court that he starves her financially , as he was telling me this, I was in the market buying Christmas things and this man couldn’t ask to give me shishi to add to what I was buying, a student o, someone living in America omo I just advised myself make my trap no go catch mouse for me.
Widowers are better than divorced men but before you marry widower ask wetin kpai the wife cos e fit be high bp
You weren't right kankan!! You were blinded by what he could offer you.
ReplyDeleteYou created this mess and to think from your narration, it was glaring it won't end well.
How do you all go about bringing children into your drama. You aren't even young, I thought the story was sent by someone below 30.
Please, add some value to yourself and accept your fate.
Felicity
He has eaten his cake and still has it...smooooth.
ReplyDeleteLet's look at the bright side here shall we? It takes three to tango and by God tango you will! We know you will not remove that child and the wife will not go anywhere once she knows you are in the picture.
We tried to warn you when you posted your first chronicle but you didn't listen. I guess you wanted to tie him down but it didn't go according to plan. For your sake I hope he doesn't deny that pregnancy.
Girl, as women we must protect our fertility and give children to those deserving of that honour. Now that you are pregnant then you have to settle your mind to being a single mother and learning this hard lesson. A man’s heart knows where it belongs and they never love anyone easily. A man being around may not mean anything special, just that you may simply be a diversion while he waits for what he truly desires, in this case, his wife.
ReplyDeleteYou paid a high price to learn a simple lesson. A separated man is still a married man and nobody makes plans for the future with a married man. A divorced man is free a separated man is 100% married.
''you have no right to get pregnant without a man's consent''
ReplyDeleteThis is me thinking out loud about the man doing it without protection and expecting what as the result? Gold??? when it comes to pregnancy women will always be blamed but my fellow women have refused to receive sense, getting pregnant for every tom, dick and harry that aren't even worth being parents
So stella now that she's pregnant what should she do? remember it takes two to tango
I think the issue is the wife left maybe due to his fault or hers but one thing is sure, he never got over his wife and now that she has taken him back, he's not letting go. This is my worry about divorced men, there are a lot of sentiments that can rekindle the marriage talk more of a separated but not divorced man.
ReplyDeletePlease no matter what
ReplyDeletekeep the pregnancy. Not because of him but you...
You'll be glad you did...
No woman should ever beleve any married man that says he is having issues with his wife. They will always come back together after testing the waters.
ReplyDeleteBam! Some lie intentionally on their wife so they can cheat.
DeleteYou have a choice
ReplyDeleteRemove the pregnancy and move on with your life
Don’t be tied to him for life
Lies men tell, you just fell a victim. Most men go back to their wives, he was only using you to while away the time
ReplyDeleteThe did has already been done. Keep your baby and move on. Do everything possible to protect that child. You might have made a mistake but that child is not a mistake. You will understand later why the child came at the time it came.
ReplyDeleteAvoid drama, work and look after your child. May God protect you, Comfort you and help you.
And that's how she'll end up a bitter single mother calling the man unprintable names
ReplyDeleteYou are a fool for this comment
DeleteIf she calls him unprintable names, he deserves that and more. Who wouldn't be bitter after being treated this way?
DeleteSome of you talk recklessly and the only time you manage to talk naturally is when it happens to someone close to you.
How do you have sex raw with a man to the extent of getting pregnant for him without marriage? It's a wonder to me .
ReplyDeleteSorry about your predicament.
ReplyDeleteHave you informed him about the pregnancy?
What exactly is his position with regards the pregnancy.
This is seriously serious, they were only estranged and separated, not divorced, the man just used you pending the time he would reconcile with his wife, I don't even know how to advise you, may God see you through and direct you because this is not easy.
ReplyDeletePeople especially women that are dating the kind of men I'm about to mention should know this and know peace that most married men( separated or divorced) and baby daddies always go back to their ex, especially if the woman is the one that walks away if he's at fault, they don't usually let their ex go.
O chim! how I wish you would just transfer that pregnancy to me God I need this type of testimony
ReplyDeleteKeep your baby.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you get pregnant knowing fully well he's not divorced? If you are capable, keep the baby but do not expect the woman to be so accepting of it
ReplyDeleteIf the pregnancy can be removed safely,my advice is that you do that.It is better than signing up for a lifetime of bitterness and loneliness which often come with single parenting.If you now add the financial burden of raising a child alone, then,your situation becomes even more dire.When the shit hits the fan in this potential journey of single parenting,you will not find any of us here to support you.I have seen enough in this lifetime to encourage you to sign up to this,except of course,you have the emotional and mental "tough skin",the right support system and the financial wherewithal to run this challenging course.In all you do,think and rethink.
ReplyDeletePls the child or living foetus didn't ask to be created. The child is innocent.
DeleteDon't murder that child. Because it is indeed a murder. You are denying the child the right to live.
Live with the consequence of premarital sex.
When we post, say no to premarital sex, you won't hear.
It is well.