Hmmmm......
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIED BUT SAD.
I dont know if something is wrong with me but i got married sometime this year and i am tired already and want out...No, i dont fell like wanting things out...I want out and i want to relocate back to Europe where i was living before i got married...
I fell choked and hate everything that marriage stands for...I hate the same clothe thing that husband and wives do...I dont like to be branded by any man......I dont like the name change and its causing a problem already cos i refused to change or add....
I do not like that i have to stop whatever i am doing to attend to a man when he cannot do same for me..
Marriage tries to mould one into what one does not want.... Or maybe it is Nigerian men that do this?I have dated men from other Countries and i did not feel this way.
And I also dont like the expectations from the other family..I dont like the total respect they want without giving it back and one not being able to talk to avoid issues..
From all what i have listed up there, am i the problem? ..... I am already pregnant but have not told my husband yet but i am travelling to Europe for Christmas and dont intend to return on the date i told him i would...He can visit if he wants but i dont want to live together as a couple.....I still have my small flat in Europe, its my property and i rented it out...
I will tell him whatever i need to say over the phone...
And oh....I read chats on his phone with his sisters and the sisters have a horrible code name for me and they all laugh about it.......Seriously? You laugh about me with your sisters and come crying for my cookie jar at night?
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So sorry for your situationship.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. Some like it hot some like it cold. Baby girl that's somehow marriage for you. It can be draining but just hold on a bit. There's still light at the end of the tunnel.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you get married?
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, you are simply a woman who entered a marriage that doesn’t match the life she’s used to. You were living independently in Europe, then suddenly you found yourself in a Nigerian-style marriage where matching clothes, name change, extended family committee, and “wife duties” are the default settings. Anyone would feel suffocated.
ReplyDeleteBeing pregnant changes everything, though. My sister, don’t run off to Europe without telling your husband. No matter what is happening between you two, he deserves to know about his child. You are carrying a whole baby, not a hand luggage you can just travel with quietly.
As for the chats you saw between him and his sisters, that one is deep betrayal. A man who allows his family to mock his wife and even joins in the laughter has already failed you emotionally. Your hurt is valid. But don’t let that push you into acting out of anger. Make your decisions with a clear head.
If your heart is already out of the marriage, it’s not a crime. Marriage is not by force. Some unions are just not meant to be, especially when your values and lifestyle are different from what the marriage demands. Choose yourself. Choose peace. But do it properly, talk to him, explain how you feel, set your boundaries, and then go. Don’t ghost him or disappear like someone evading loans. You deserve a clean, dignified exit.
You are not the issue here. You are just someone who needs space, respect, and individuality, and you’re not getting it where you are. Go where your mind can breathe. Just leave with honesty and maturity.
Oh dear.
ReplyDeleteSeems you didn't marry a good man.
But wait? Have you checked yourself? To see if you are the problem?
Anyways, like you said, you want out of the marriage.
My mother said that marriage is not meant for everyone.
So, do whatever makes you happy darling.
All the best
Do not give him the cookie jar for now. Go to Europe and see if your feeling will change. A lot of ladies I know feel horrible in their marriage. I think men enjoy marriage more than women.
ReplyDeleteGood luck.
Thank God you’ve prepared your mind fully to opt out of the yeye marriage
ReplyDeleteIt will shock him. And make sure you let him know if the name they call you
But you left Europe to come and marry a naija man after having been with people from other countries? Well, different strokes for different folks
Best of luck honey
You can't have a conservation with him as your husband, so how can this marriage even work?
ReplyDeleteVery stupid man .
ReplyDeleteHow can he be discussing his wife with his sisters and making jest if her?
Person wey never mature go just go collect person daughter keep for house .
My sister do what suits you but make sure you keep your baby
Hi Poster… please follow your heart. Don’t worry you’ll be fine. A lot of women stay and end up betraying themselves and hating their partner. It alright.. 🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteImmature man and foolish sisters.
ReplyDeleteThe freedom of being a single woman is awesome.
ReplyDeleteRegina Daniels doesn’t know what she lost.
Ned gave her so much freedom even as a married woman.