Drama King Teejay's CORNER

There's this lady I wouldn't want to call an ex in the real sense we never met in person while the relationship lasted.

I got to know her in 2021 through a friend who gave her number to me. We're from the same state of origin and neighbouring town but different state of residence. I made a quick search of her on Facebook and we got connected as friends. We'll chat often and sometimes lengthy calls. Even though we didn't meet each other, our communications were so strong, lovely and romantic.

When I love someone, I do that with every fiber of me. I'll show commitment and responsibility. This is who I am. When it comes to giving, I had also spent on women I loved and dated. Even without meeting her in person, I built that trust. I was sending money to her. She subtly began talking marriage which I told her to wait until we see. Pictures can be deceptive I said to myself. She requested for us to see. I did promise to visit her but couldn't make it.

Along the line, I noticed communications from her dropped. I had enquired if there's something I have done wrong. She said not really just that she's confused. I asked over what? She said her former guy showed up and pleaded for a second chance that's he's a changed man and ready for marriage. She asked me what is she to do?

When it comes to things like this, I'll quickly take a walk. When someone you truly love has to choose between you and someone else, you’re definitely not the choice.

If you're truly loved and valued, and someone is truly for you, there won’t be a competition or comparison in the first place. They don't have to weigh you against another. When they do that, you’ve already been answered, you’re not the choice.

Asking me what is she to do, made me to understand better. I told her to forgive him and accept him back. She got angry and said I don't truly love her. I replied ''maybe you're right.'' She tried to pacify me but I wasn't ready for all that. I stopped every communication with her from that point.

In 2023, I stumbled on her wedding pictures on Facebook. Congratulating her on the wedding post made her to start communicating with me again. A mistake on my part that was avoidable. During her child dedication, she invited me knowing fully well I won't come. She disturbed me so much for a gift even after the occasion till I sent an 'envelope'

Last year towards Christmas, she began sending messages to me asking for a loan to stock goods for Christmas sales. I asked after her husband if he can't source money for her. She said he's fine just that he's having some business challenges. Unfortunately, I told her my hands are tied and I can't do anything at the time. She never communicated again after that

Earlier last week, I missed an unknown caller twice when I was working. When I returned the call, surprisingly, it was her asking if I'll be coming to the village during the festive period that she'll like us to see.

I asked, I hope all is well? She said somehow. I told her I'm not too sure for now. I asked after the husband. She said I should stop asking of him whenever we're talking. I quickly rushed the call and got back to work.

At night I called the lady who had initially gave me her contact and told her about it. She said I should thank my star we didn't end up together. The story I heard about her shocked me but I wasn't surprised. Though I felt bad about it and was wondering what could have made her chose that path. Eventually, I blocked her line and on Facebook. She can't rope me into a dirty lifestyle. I don't even do married women if that's what she's up to.
May what will ruin us in life not see or come into our lives.