Do you want them to go to school or you want them to get married early? Are you already building confidence in them or you always tear them down with words?
I think parents with girl children have a lot of Job to do with them.....Remember it is not what you tell them that they do, it is what they see you doing....
Yeah I'm Mama girls😍😁
ReplyDeleteI tell them oh, but it's not easy because of peer pressure. I do encourage them to have both male and female friends and also to know when to draw the line, I just pray they turn out right. I want them to go to school and also to marry early, but they must have at least a degree.
I do hope they learn from me too🥰
I have a daughter as first child and she is super brilliant and inquisitive. My own Mom birthed four girls but her result, if I wanted to rate her, was far below expectation as far as raising us was concerned.
ReplyDeleteThere is no journal for raising my girl except two things, I teach her seriously about God, and I hand her books with sexual purity with ample biblical proofs and examples. I also INTENTIONALLY, remove adult materials from home and replace them with story books.
I do not have a girl child, but if I eventually do have one, I don't know how, I'm going to cope with it mentally, because of my bad experience as a girl child, But I know that, I will start teaching her self defense against abusers. She is going to be very ready.
ReplyDeleteEducation is very vital, So yea, she must be educated like me, and build on her career, I will teach her, never to leave her career or live her life on the terms of any man. Love isn't enough, for some people it continues to flourish, while some people's expires.
Her voice is going to count for me everyday, cause I would love for her to tell me everything, I may not allow her go for sleepovers,I'm that paranoid, Causal outing with supervision is cool. Lastly, I will let her know, that I cannot succeed with her co- operation, She needs to trust me as her mother and guardian, And everything would be fine.
I'm a proud girls' mum. 2 teenagers and a preteen. And so far, so good, it's been an interesting experience. I would say I'm blessed with very calm children like myself, so that has made things much easier. Then, of course, we have a very good relationship. I'm very open with them, same as their dad. We have tried our best to instil good values in them. They are very free with us, they know what they are supposed to know and it's funny that I've never had that apprehension some people have about having girl children. I didn't have a traumatic childhood, I turned out well, so I believe they'll turn out well too, even better.
ReplyDeleteAs for marrying early or not, well, i pray for God's will to be done in their lives, but as a mum, I'd love my children to be well grounded, especially emotionally and financially as an individual before marriage.
I have a daughter. Whom my husband and I painstakingly play our roles jointly and individually. And honestly, raising her feels like walking through a world that keeps testing your values - especially as she grows into a teenager.
ReplyDeleteYou want her to be bold, kind, and wise - but you also know the world can be cruel to women who are all three at once - I am a testament to that. My husband insisted we start early. From when she was a toddler, we told her no one has the right to touch or shame her body - not even her father, her brothers, or her cousins.
Now that she's older, we teach more by example than words - how her father treats me as her mother and wife, how he speaks to women, how we apologise when we're wrong. And how well I reciprocate and react to other human interactions within family and outside family. That’s where confidence is built: not in many words, but in what she sees you live - the small, simple daily habits.
As for school or marriage - education first, always. Financial independence, and no one is worth her giving up her dreams, except it's in alignment with ambition and goal. A girl who knows herself won’t rush into what will cage her. Marriage should meet her when she’s whole, not searching.
Parenting the girl child is sacred work. You’re not just raising children - you’re shaping a woman who will either repeat the world’s mistakes or rebuild it.
"Parenting the girl child is sacred work. You’re not just raising children - you’re shaping a woman who will either repeat the world’s mistakes or rebuild it."
DeleteThis 👆 is simply the truth. God bless you for your wisdom
Whatever our teaching and advice, prayer should be the key.
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