The beloved singer, who passed away on January 1,2026 was finally laid to rest, but her burial was anything but quiet.
What should have been a solemn moment of closure quickly spiralled into a graveside drama.
Bunmi’s estranged husband, who resides in the U.S, requested to speak with their children right there at the cemetery but his plea was met with stiff resistance from Bunmi’s family, who argued that he had long been absent from the children’s lives and that the graveside was no place to reopen old wounds.
The tension escalated when one of the husband’s sisters confronted Bunmi’s son, passionately declaring: “We are your family and we love you. Your father loved you, your father loves you, and I love you”
But the grieving son, overwhelmed and distraught, pushed back with heart breaking defiance: “I am not. I am not”
The clash left mourners shaken, as family members rushed to calm the young man while the atmosphere brimmed with sorrow and unresolved pain.
What should have been a solemn moment of closure quickly spiralled into a graveside drama.
Bunmi’s estranged husband, who resides in the U.S, requested to speak with their children right there at the cemetery but his plea was met with stiff resistance from Bunmi’s family, who argued that he had long been absent from the children’s lives and that the graveside was no place to reopen old wounds.
The tension escalated when one of the husband’s sisters confronted Bunmi’s son, passionately declaring: “We are your family and we love you. Your father loved you, your father loves you, and I love you”
But the grieving son, overwhelmed and distraught, pushed back with heart breaking defiance: “I am not. I am not”
The clash left mourners shaken, as family members rushed to calm the young man while the atmosphere brimmed with sorrow and unresolved pain.
Funerals can bring up such strong emotions
ReplyDeleteDoing the right thing at the wrong time.
ReplyDeleteThe father chose the wrong time to speak with them. Why hadn't he called before then, or plan to call after the Internment?
As it is he is going to be in their lives, approach matter.
But timing matters in everything.
This how you confirm the husband and his oloriburuku family were the problem; they create drama at the funeral of the woman that did everything alone for the kids!
ReplyDeleteThank you Eka...just imagine the impetuosity.
DeleteYou dey mind dem? After they will say "the child will look for his father after all said and done!"
DeleteE no dey happen like that again.
This is bad. My heart is broken.
ReplyDeleteI get the heartache on all sides. I m a doting aunt too.
ReplyDeleteOnly way forward is to bury the hatchet for all parties. Forget the past.
On another note,so she de fight like dis come dey sing for church. Na waa o
I pray no one comes to the graveside of your only present parent to make a scene in the name of"love". They have proven their love with the w1c. Ked. And phulish act.
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ReplyDeleteI'm So Emotional Right Now
Chaiiiiiiii
Hello iya Boys
A gospel singer who died with so much unforgiveness in her heart against her husband. She frustrated every attempt by the man to be in the lives of his children. Some quarters have it that she even had the teachers in the school the kids attend arrested for simply facilitating a call from the father.
ReplyDeleteNo one is worth it enough to carry unforgiveness in our hearts against.
So the best time to speak with them was at the mothers funeral when emotions were still raw and with the shouting of the Aunty, how is that from a place of love from a man who claims to love them. I don’t know what happened btw the man and his late wife but it will take God for those children to open their hearts to him after this drama
DeleteImagine typing this with your whole chest!!! So the graveside is the best time to speak to the children?? And that useless harridan screeching at a child is ok abi?? This why I say men are the most illogical species.
DeleteHow did you know she died with so much unforgiveness in her heart Judge Jude? You decide to overlook the fact that the estranged husband had not had a good relationship as a father with his kids, abi you think children don't know what goes on around their parents even without being told anything? And of all places to connect with the kids, it has to be at the cementry where their mother is being laid? I clap for him in American style, father of the year.
DeleteWhy would a teacher facilitate a call between the child and father, when it is the mother who brought the child to school and paid schoolfees. If the father really wanted to reach his kids he xould have got aleast visitation rights from a court and enforced that. Will the father get away with trying to reach his kids via their teacher in the America he is living?
DeleteWhy call your children's at that place. Very wrong timing
ReplyDeleteIt was really sad to watch
ReplyDeleteMay God console her children
Children so distraught and grieving 😔
ReplyDeleteCan't you pick a better time & place other than the graveside? This is the height of insensitivity to me.
I don't know the details of their issues, but he chose a very wrong time to speak to them.
ReplyDeleteVery useless family. Can you imagine the lady shouting and causing trouble came with soldiers, so it's obvious they knew they came for fight. Trust Nigerians, dey don mount for her Facebook page. They said if not that she came with soldiers she for collect oraimo cord for neck
ReplyDeleteI don’t know what happened between the couple, but that call came at the wrong time.
ReplyDeleteMay God continue to rest her soul.
Wrong timing.
ReplyDeleteThe man was wrong for trying to call them on that day but it seemed the mother's family blocked him and his family from speaking to the children. Those children have been brought up with so much hurt and bitterness. No one knew what went on between the deceased and her estranged husband, but it seemed she was a difficult person. About 3 different people have come out and spoken about her arresting them for saying things about her- cursing people -calling them oloriburuku. But all the same the family should have just been represented and kept quiet instead of the crazy aunty shouting your father loves you. If he loved them so much he would not be abroad while his family is miles apart. He possibly has another family abroad and that is why the boy was so angry and screaming. Those kids need support
ReplyDeleteEven if she were Satan's sister we don't know what her husband did to her. That man choosing that moment to call is proof that he is very unwise and insensitive. His screeching sister came with soldiers and came to fight at a graveside!! She wouldn't even let those kids say their final goodbyes in peace. I cant imagine what the poor woman had to deal with when she was alive with inlaws like this. No wonder the woman was difficult. I hope she continues to watch and protect her kids from beyond the grave.
DeleteOnly you is saying no one knows what transpired between them, and you are also saying it seems she must have been a difficult person! Na wa for una.
DeleteWhy wait till death? Why did she not let go before leaving? Hurt, pain and deep grieve is part of life's lessons in our journey on earth as humans. And it is more painful when it comes from the last person we expect to hurt us. He sees it all and carefully watch to see how we are able to handle this. The Book says offence will come. But woe to him..." I do not know the reason for decision to keep him away from their children. All I know is that she should have made peace for the sake of her spiritual journey and her children. This life, this life, this life is so deep that it will take only God for us to understand so many things and to learn to let go and release ANYONE who mistakenly or erroneously hurt us even if they do it repeatedly. Just forgive genuinely and cut that person. In this case, the man is just seeking closure and to reconnect back. Respectfully permit him to pay his last respect, listen to what he has to say and thank him because at the end of the day, he is and will be their father and grandfather of their offspring. Then choose to detach or attach without attachment. No who them never hurt no go understand. And na who never forgive wicked and evil offender go continue to fight heartless person. So much is happening around us worldwide for us not to pause and ask very deep personal questions. I never see that human being or pain wey go make me miss heaven for this world.
ReplyDeleteHe could have waited for them to come around
ReplyDeleteThe father and his family were highly insensitive! Even if Omije oju mi was evil to him, why speak against her to the children who are going through a lot? The children that you don't have relationship with? Does he think they would listen to anything from his side? He had unresolved issues with the mother, not the children! He is supposed to prove himself to his children, despite all odds and make them his friends. But he blew the opportunity.
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